Posts from March 2008

where everybody knows your name. and they're always glad you came. you wanna be where you can see, your troubles are all the same.

this pretty much sums up how i feel right now. what i would give to be around great friends.

i was supposed to go out tonight, and then my friend cancels at the very very last minute. this is lame.

i did my hair and makeup. i look fly. so fly to sit at home.

i need to be constantly busy right now. i need need need to. otherwise i have time to be sad. my grandma past last week, and i don't think it has totally hit yet. she was/is so important to me, and now she is gone. i feel so lost, and sad, and really like i need to be busy. my mom is leaving for like 5 days to go to buffalo for the funeral, and i don't want to stay here alone. i don't want to cry, because when i do it is so hard to stop.

i miss her so damn much, and i wish i could tell her how i feel right now, she always knew the right thing to say and how to make me feel better. it was such a simple beautiful love. to know that the person you are looking at, is looking back at you, and accepts you completely, and loves you, and thinks you are the greatest. you don't get that very much.

it's hard not to think i keep losing people i love, and i need to start gaining. i am so tired of goodbyes, they are too hard. i am trying really hard to not let it make me want to close up. but, losing people you love is so hard.

i hate broken hearts. i don't want one anymore.

i don't want to deal with the difficulties of romance, or the disappointment friendship so often brings. sometimes i feel like the only one who will never ever let me down is my mother and sister. honestly, i know this. they have given me so much, it is like no one else is ever good enough. no one else can ever meet that expectation.

i want to tell my granny about it. i want to hug her, and make her laugh. she would make it better.

i know it will get better, but it's so hard right now. it's really just the hardest thing i've done. to say goodbye to her. i want to pick up the phone and call her, or stop by, and bring her a treat. i want to tell her i love her, but i can't.

i think i need to go pour myself a strong one. and cry and hug my mom.

maybe i should buy some new shoes this week. retail therapy is a good short term remedy.

and i get into the hospital today, and my manager and the CEO pull me in to their office to have a talk. i'm thinking, "why are you bothering to ask me about my grandma, when you are about to fire me?"

well, i was wrong.


they pulled me in to tell me i am getting a $6 raise. hot damn, i love this place so much right now. not only do i love it, but i am now oicking up all of the hours i possibly can here! yippeee!

now, if i switch agencies with my other job and get a $4 raise, i'll be so money.


i am finally feeling like i am past that whole minimum wage thing, by a lot. and it feels good.


go me!

nothing beats a sunny 85 degree day before march has even begun...



i think the sun is getting to me. maybe not though because i actually spend very little time in it, but a good amount outside, just in the shade.

i can't wait til my little lady wakes up and we can go have fun times outside!

I keep wanting to post, and then sometimes do, but always end up deleting it.

My trip to buffalo was very short, but very sweet. Almost regretted coming for such a short time, but I had a ton of fun.

When I got back here, i definitely regretted going. I had seen my grandma right before coming and she was fine, and then i got back, and she seemed a completely different person. since last sunday, she has slipped further and further away from the land of the living.

I just breaks my heart to see her this way. Most of the time she sleeps, and can't really talk much, she is too weak. We didn't think she would make it through the weekend, and I guess she was up this morning, and had a surge of energy. She wanted some coffee and sherbet, and milk. I fed her about a spoonful of sherbet yesterday afternoon, and all she has eaten in 8 days amounts to about 5 spoonfuls of sherbet/yogurt. She really can't drink, except to have it fed to her with a spoon, and a little sponge.

My family seems to be falling apart before my eyes, with constant crying and insanity. Everyone is drinking and self-medicating non-stop, and I fear the only sane one is my mother and perhaps my one aunt.
I knew it would be like this, but it is entriely another thing to watch it unfold.

I have been spending as much time with my grandma as possible, just sitting with her. I am not sure she recognizes me anymore, but when she wakes up, and looks over, I just tell her than I am here, and it is ok. I know she is waking and wants to know she is not alone; I would feel the same way.

I think at first I was in shock, and didn't really let myself cry. Then I broke out in hives and began to get sick to my stomach. After two days, I saw her and just let myself be upset, and I think it will be ok now.

My biggest concern is making sure my mother is ok. I know she will be, but my heart gopes out to her, because i cannot imagine being in a family of 10 and having the responsibiltiy she does of helping in a huge way to keep them all together.

I know all families are nuts, but if you know Tennessee Williams, and you have seen any of his plays, put my aunts and uncles and cousins in, and it would be his sorrowful, dramatic, story-telling to a T.

The funeral is in Buffalo, and I don't know if I will go. I have been here to see my Grandma and say my good-byes. I just don't know how much more of the crazyness I can take. but that will be decided when and then.

And i will end this post with a positive... I have been seeing someone for over a month now. Someone I actually have fun with. And he calls to see how I am, and listens when I talk. Aww.

seriously. why can't there be better technology, so cars are wya fast, and people can just go wherever in their cars. oh wait, you can just go wherever, if you are super rich and have a jet.

considering the fact that i am not fergie, i will be limited to common travel.

my flight was supposed to take off an hour ago, and it's now 12:37am. i'm fucking tired, and i will for sure not make my transfer in nyc. this means, my already short three days in blo, will be shortened to maybe 2 1/2.

if the plane is not taking off tonight, i am not sure i have it in me to only come for two days. fuck you jet blue. the last three time i have flown your shitty as airline, you make me wait. you made me wait for 4 hrs in the plane. now your computer system doesn't work. wow, i feel really safe getting on a plane with a faulty navigation system.

i am so done flying jet blue. i was willing to forgive a few times, but when they get a call from me, tomorrow, i am going to be really really pissed off. they will pretend to be all sorry and give me a voucher, so now i will have to fly there crappy airline again.

i didn't have time for dinner, and was at least looking forward ot a glass of wine on the plane, or three and some snacks. but now, i am stuck in this airport, where nothing is open, not even a bar, with no food, and no travel in sight.

at least they have free wifi.


in conclusion, i really feel like being a traveler by plane these days, is more like incarceration.

i don't want to view life as a series of disappointments, but sometimes it just seems that way.

funny how some things fall at exactly the right moment. i know this trip to buffalo will be insanely cold, but it will warm my heart.

i really like it here, but the saying, "there's no place like home", rings so true right now. i need to see my friends, and get hugs, and drink beer.

i don't even remember the last time i had a beer.

i think i need to take another break from dating. i need to acquire a tougher skin. but maybe not, maybe the fact that i am so sensitive is what makes me, me. the momma says it is a good thing. i really should just listen to her more. she said, "be careful sarah, you have a soft heart". why do moms have to be so spot on?

maybe i will try an experiment next time and just do what she says. i bet it will turn out the way she says. she has the magical mom knowledge. yea, i'm the biggest mommas girl ever. i don't care. she's amazing and the only one who has never let me down. she always knows the right thing to do, and she is such a great example of an amazing woman. she never acts in spite, and she learns from life and moves on. she truly lives everyday to its fullest and appreciates all that life had to offer. it can also be a double-edged sword. i am a child of privilege and have been given more or less everything i want and need from my mother. i am spoiled. i expect so much from people, and i think that i expect people to be so great like her, which is asking way too much. i have also been extremely spoiled by @hodown, who i refer to as mom #2. it is insane. who else has a mom and sister that pays for fancy dinners, lovely trips, and pretty jewelry. especially since living here; the term, "the good life", seems underrated. i get to live in one of the most beautiful places i have ever seen, rent free, along with all of the perks that come with it. so, when other areas of my life don't match up, i shouldn't be so alarmed. i don't think many things will be as good as the two leading ladies in my life. i will just have to accept it, because most people aren't nearly as lucky as i am. i can say, i have two people in my life, who i know will never let me down. i wish i could say the same for myself, but that i am working on!

now, if i could just learn a thing or two from her, i would be good to go. unfortunately, being young seems to be the endless trial and error period. it goes something like this:

• lead yourself into the unknown
  
• realize you should not have done that
  
• feel the burn
  
• probably do it again, unless you realize not to

so, with that said, i accept my role as a ignorant creature who will be tested for years to come. i just hope i don't come out on the other end with too many wrinkles, but i suppose there is always botox for that.

i currently like delicious looking men who wear nice clothes and shoes, and take me to swanky wine bars and talk about education.


i also like new dresses and shoes.


i love my car.



i also love to dance, and i expect to dance a lot this week.


yum is my new favorite word.

will ferrell is the answer. he really is. why can't he be my friend in real life?





it could be worse. at least im making like 20 bucks an hour to sit here and do nothing. it could be worse.

omg!


ok. i am working at the hospital today, and my manger just told me that my crush is working today in the ICU. i have no reason to go to the ICU, but to admire his fine man self.


i am looking alright today, so, what do i do?


he makes me so nervous, i can barely put together a sentence. maybe, i should pass by the ICU asm any times as possible. oh my. someone told he broke up with his lady, not that it matters. i will keep him as fantasy!


ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh man.


i think i'm just going to be a huge loser and stay in the office and avoid the situation alltogether.... or not. can i have a drink before? i mean, i'm at work, but it's ok, right????

i feel like i never post anymore. not that i don't post, just not as much. anyway, i'm so busy, by the time i get home, it's all i can do to wash my face and brush my teeth.

since i use this place to rant, these things are currently really bothering me:

• the people i work for constantly feed their kids mc donald's. now, i will admit to oreviously eating that shit a few times a year. but, i watched part of "supersize me", and i can honestly say i would rather go hungry than ever eat one of those fries again. something is not right when a french fry lasts a few months in a bell jar, looking the exact same after all that time. wtf is in those things? i will never allow my chldren to eat that. wendy's maybe and in n out burger, and some other crap food, but never mc donald's, ever.

• so many people seem to spend less time with their children than they do at work. i vow to never have children unless it is the other way around for me.

• i'm beginning to question the consumption of alcohol. now that i never drink, the thought of a hangover makes me not even want any. plus, so many of my relatives are messed up because of it. what would you consider an alcoholic? someone who has more than two drinks a night? or someone who only drinks heavily on the weekends? i definitely wont stop drinking totally (plus i know ill drink a lot when i'm in town next weekend(maybe)), but i've been dd recently and when i see all of the drunkies and i'm not drunk, it's kinda gross. plus, i feel a whole lot healthier.

• wells fargo can kiss my ass. i had my bank card stolen, they used it, and then i thought it was resolved. then they send my some dumb form and say i have ten days, don't even give me ten days, and then take the money out of my account again. seriously, i am so over their lame ass charges. it's like they are waiting to throw some fine at me every chance they get. i hate corporations.

anyway. i am supposed to work friday, but i think i am going to take at least most of the day off to see granny. i feel so guilty, but the only free time i have is before 7am and after 9pm, and she is def not up at those times.

i think i have been seeing someone for the longest amount of time in over a year. we are pretty different, but he is a pretty nice guy. i wonder if i am capable of dating right now, i mean anything more than a fling, and who knows what he is thinking, but im just gonna go with it. plus, valentine's day is next week, and thankfully i will be headed on a red-eye to blo, so we can just avoid that altogether.

i really, really hate dealing with the bank, and i am not looking forward to the yelling i will have to do tomorrow to get this straightened out.

have to go, boy calls!