(e:flacidness) I hope all of your birthday wishes come true! I'm right behind you, here's to three more decades. :)


These are from the after party... Classic gangxsta

With a guy who opens doors and treats me well... Plus not bad on the eyes. Oh yea!

I have a series of questions that I ask m on the first date:

Do you like seafood?

Do you like the beach?

Are you super religious?

Are you homophobic?

If they answer yea to the last two its just and go... And I pegged this guy to say yes. He has a gay brother and that makes me like him more. Two of my palest friends are gay and I think about whether or not they would like they guy on most dates. I also think about whether my mother or sister would like them... If I feel like one of these people would be strongly opposed, I cannot date that person. Not because I don't make my own decisions but because my family and friends are so important and there isn't any time to waste dating someone who won't fit right into the madness of my family and friends!


The seafood and beach questions are important because I just love seafood and think about it constantly... Beach as well.


Still moving to LA when I find a good job... Maybe this guy will last more than three dates. But it's kinda sad because I usually like one out of over 50 guys I go on dats with and I hate going on dates because men can be way more emotional and depressing than women, in a scary way.


I completed my brown mission... Now I'm addicted to being tan. Jersey shore Sarbear. :) Actually it would be like savage sarbear, my hair gets all crazy from being in the pool and I'm getting kinda dark so I look like a crazy island lady who spears her own fish.


I cracked the glass on my iPhone and I saw my uncle fixing one a few weeks ago. What he was doing was way more complicated, so I'm gonna get pink glass for the front and replace it myself. Cheers to DIY.

I haven't sunned in over a month... It's time to get brown. And maybe get noodles later...


Photos up from yesterday's adventure... I was hesitant to leave the house after a series of bad dates. This guy the other night proceeded to get drunk... And I wasn't monitoring his drinks because I'm not his mother. Anyway, he told he his life is terrible and lonely and this is as good as it gets.

Really???!! My life can be lonely in terms of a companion... But I think my life just keeps getting better. Not a fan of people who are complacent, but don't wanna change things for the better. This guy just went in on me, so I told him he's a downer and left.

I just can't with that... It was like the twilight zone. Second dates are for exchanging pleasantries and exchanging fun stories and letting your best show.

Now, I have moved on and deleted him because I can't deal with extremely sad people unless we have a family or friend bond in which case it's normal to disclose anything and everything!

Went to foodie spot Cowboy Chow, where they make cocktails that taste like flowers as bread that I want to eat and have with me all day. I also had buffalo carpaccio and duck sausage stew... I love food!

Oh and then I had a cupcake... So maybe today is a no food day. I do have another cupcake left... this is a problem! I also drank sparkling wine from a can and should have bought more because its the perfect mix of classy and tacky and a lil trashy and cute all in one and that's just maybe how I would describe myself... And smart too. It should be assumed sparkling wine in a can is smart.

Best show ever... Want to marry Jason Momoa. Sooooooo my type. Destination... Somoa.

Like now. I feel uncomfortable now that vacation is over. Too
Much free time can make the mind a scary place. Plus I'm creeping way too much... I should have been a detective. Can I say stalking is my hobby? Yea, I can. I'm stalking you... In the most polite way.


Mission: Move to Cali.





I will start tomorrow.


In San Fran solo... Random took my photo. Me with my uncle's Tesla... Pretty awesome ride. He likely has more in common with the car than me. Seriously... He is confused and upset by my girly-ness. I am confused and upset by his vegetarian ism and weird rich person high tech uppity- ness.

It's 2 am and I'm blogging about random crap. See? Must start working tons of hours and not have time to worry about how much extended family members like me. Zooey still loves me and that's what matters the most.


There are fruit flies in my house and they fly around me all the time and I swear I feel like a farm animal or something. It's a very disturbing feeling and its affecting my mental state.


I want to just play dress up all day and be a style blogger and get paid for it... I have a few cute new items and maybe if I decide to wear anything other than ts and shorts and leave the house I'll post.


I thought I couldn't stand my mom until I spent a week with someone else's mom and they annoyed me so much that I yearned for my mother's nagging.


And I still hate cats... And everyone has them. I will also never date or trust a man with a cat.


Ok... Gonna go back to reading the Cuba diaries because reading about people with nothing makes me feel very rich and well fed.

All the people there last night looked homeless... Like homeless chic... I don't understand.


I lost a hearing aid last night... RIP... At least I still have one. I hope whatever job I get has good health insurance because I will be marching myself back to the audiologist and getting new ones which I probably need anyway. I'm just so deaf...



I accidentally like a photo on Instagram of my cousins friend or something.... I feel like such a creep. Corrections, I am such a creep. This is why I dislike social networking and technology... Too much public sharing and creeping. I will just creep on people stuff all day long. Awkward.


San Francisco is the most expensive city to live in apparently but I don't get it... Maybe I was just in the homeless section and I need to see more because I'm convinced its a city of well to do hobos.


This place must be bad luck... I cracked my phone screen and lost a hearing aid in the course of two days. I feel like a major loser and I need to regroup.


On the upside... The weather in San Jose is so nice and sunny and mild.


My friend took this photo at Chinatown Summer nights in LA last week... It's cute minus the fact that I seem to be missing a knee...

I'm on the plane from phx to San Jose.... I was in LA the past 5 days. I think Cali might be my place. I'm gonna start looking for a job in LA when I get back home.


Phx is so hot I feel like I am just melting all the time. Plus I realized I really have no fiends there and I am either needing too be far away or out the country.


I seriously loved how nice the weather is in LA and how laid back people there seem. I'm so into the casual summer all the time look.


I'll really really miss my mama but she mostly in LA during the week and tickets are super cheap to AZ.


July has been my best month this year... Maybe in the past year. Cali got me feelin them good vibes ya'll!!!!!!!

My first time at a conveyor belt sushi place.... I believe it was called Teharu.....


So amazing.... I never used to like sushi much, but lately it is my obsession. This place doesn't have te best sushi I've ever had but the prices were awesome and Iove being able to pick things as they came along.


It ended up being $25 for my friend and I, plus we had beer and saki. We are a ton... Tuna sashimi, tuna and shrimp nigiri, spicy crab rolls, spicy tuna rolls, Las Vegas roll, seaweed salad, octopus... And a bunch of other stuff I can't remember.


I probably won't hang out with this friend again because they never have money and assumed I would be paying. I'm so tired of people pulling this crap on me... I'm not even working right now and I seem to have more money than a lot of people I know. I refuse to take any more money out of my savings and will probably just stop eating out after my San Fran trip altogether.


Here's a few pics... My phone died so I didn't get many. :(

I'm so scared of those nasty little beasts... They keep popping up all around the house. Just found one in the garage next to my bare foot and I nearly screamed from shear terror.

I took that mofo ad swept it right outa there and then used the broom to smash it into some rocks in the front yard.

I'm going to start taking photos... I want evidence of my bravery from now on.

So another employer tries to screw me over...

The golf club had a seasonal bartender shift with an 8/hr pay differential from what I make as a server. I was unaware during the busy season that when I was working 11-close as a server, I was supposed to be making that higher rate after 3.

The reason I was unaware of this was because everyone was doing different things and many other servers were unaware as well. There was no staff meeting(ever), and there was a memo posted once which was taken down not long after and no one seems to have this memo anymore. I was never given a copy of the memo. I made an inquiry with my boss after finding out from another employee that I had not been clocking in and out and marking my time card right. My boss never followed up with me.

Over two weeks ago, I approached HR and they said thy would look into it. I knew another employee has an adjustment on her check because of this and it was done promptly for her. HR told me that it was a long process since it had been months of work they had to look through and that they had found some errors.

This week I approached HR several more times and was given no valid information or any idea of how much the golf club owes me as it was "still being looked into". I requested to see my time cards and my files so that I could have proof that I was paid correctly. This request was denied.

Yesterday, I met with the owner who immediately expressed to me how "appalled" he is with me and that this whole situation is my fault. He then proceeded to tell me about other non-college educated employees who were capable of marking their time cards as they were supposed to. I told him that I had asked several different managers about this and nobody informed me that I was supposed to be clocking out and back in after 3pm to receive the bartender rate. I also told him several other servers were not even aware of this situation. He proceeded to tell me that they terrible records and they didn't have to pay me the money if he didn't want to, but that he would do what he feels is fair.

I marched my myself home(well, I actually drove) and began my research:

Employees are required to keep records of employee time, pay, and wages for at least three years. This is a mandatory federal law under the Fair Labor Standards Act.

I then looked at the employee handbook where it stated that employees were allowed access to their personnel file once a year, and that a request should be made(which I did), but was denied.

I also looked up the laws on back pay, and employers are required to pay any money owed to the employee for at least two years after the work is completed, and up to three years in some cases.

I can't believe these people are trying to blame me for this and then refuse to allow me to see evidence that I am being paid the right amount. I have no choice but to file a claim with the Department of Labor because I cannot file a wage claim. I can't file a wage claim because although I have my pay stubs and my schedules, it doesn't give clear record because I picked up so many shifts. The only way for me to clearly see what they owe me is to have access to me time cards so that I can compare them to my pay stubs and count the amount of hours which they owe me the higher rate.

I also can't believe a businessman would approach me in that manner and belittle me and attempt to scare me from getting what is owed to me. He actually told me he will make the final decision about what he is willing to pay me on Monday. Um no, you will pay me what you owe me, because that is the law. Do these people not realize that there are regulatory agencies who help people like me?

I already have needed information from the employee handbook, DOL website, and a copy of the missing memo which I never received or signed... hopefully this whole case doesn't take forever.