📅 December 2007

I have 2 grandparents still alive -- my paternal grandmother and my maternal grandfather. Both have not been doing well lately, emotionally, mentally, and physically.

But the news i got today was the most disheartening.

I always thought my maternal grandfather was, at best, a grumpy old man and at worst, a misogynistic asswipe. Now, i find out he is a paranoid liar with sudden onset senile dementia.

Turns out that he has been lying to everyone for years about his age and his real first name (he's Ukranian, so he was saying that Larry was just the English version of his name, but even the Ukranian version isn't what his real name is).

He has been hiding money , sewed into his mattress, and writing himself little notes and stashing them around his place... reminding himself of things that don't make sense to anyone. Just my mom's name, written on a piece of paper, stashed among his bills. Or some words that no one can read. Or an insult to someone.

He also removed both my mom and my uncle from being the power of attorney for both his medical and financial needs. Seems they were out to get him.

He has been arguing with my mom on and off for a few years, but he picks fights... and thinks my mom is a slut. Then again, he thinks all women are sluts.

He had a fall recently. He was trying to change the lightbulb in the kitchen while standing on a rickety kitchen chair. Not wise for anyone, but for an old man (albeit not as old as he has been telling people he is). His wrist was broken... trying to not break a hip, i presume, but bracing his fall with his hand/arm.

I only found out about the fall when i was talking to my mom who was talking to her brother in Michigan. My mom lives in the same area (he lives in Stoney Creek, she lives in Hamilton), but he calls Michigan for help, because he was fighting, yet again, with my mom. He refused help from her... because she "knows why, damn it!"

Well, my uncle was in town for the holidays. As usual, he was going to stay with his dad, this same grandfather. Turns out the tv has been inoperable for quite some time. "Someone came in and broke it, stole some parts when i was sleeping", he claims. He also said my mom took parts to his blood pressure monitor because she wants him to die so she can get all his money that she has been stealing for years.

So, the old coot has been sitting alone in his apartment, unwilling to talk to anyone and having a broken tv and no radio. Just alone, staring at the walls. Going crazy, apparently.

At first, they thought this was all a mix up with meds. But the doc said the meds he is on could not cause the kind of confusion he is suffering from.

Doc said the confusion might have began around the time he fell and could actually be the onset of the most noticeable signs of dementia. That the moment of the fall when we all think "what the hell just happened" continues for the elderly patient sometimes.

No matter what the cause, he can no longer live by himself.

He is loosing his mind. He's a asshole. But he is my grandfather. Even when i hate him and he is making others suffer, i still love him and don't want him to suffer. Crazy old bastard...

My lovely spouse, @uncutsaniflush #42611 recently journaled about how incosiderate Canadians can be while here.

Working retail in this area, i have experienced the rudest people to serve have either been Canadians visiting for the purpose of shopping or suburban women, slumming it in the city. The later is an entirely different subject, best saved for another day i feel like kvetching...

There is an attitude of entitlement and expectation of superior service because "I am from CANADA"... like that is somehow going to impress me into giving them more than i could give 30 seconds ago.

Oh, if that's the case, you are Canadain, well, then, i will get out the special backstock we keep away from the Americans to save just in case a Canadian comes into the store!

Or maybe the Xmas season is getting to me more now than it ever did in the past.

See, unlike those that have office jobs and got off work on Friday to have a week or even a few days off work, us retail shlubs have to keep on keeping on... right, @fellyconnelly?!

At my place of employment, to top it off, we have been short staffed. The pox i wrote about, @leetee #42588 has given me more hours... more than i wanted or could handle. Normally, we get a delivery on Tuesday and by Wednesday, it is all tagged and put away. No such luck this week. The back alley wasn't dug out from the weekend's snow soon enough, so we trudged it all box by box through the front door (the trucking company only drops off at the door, the employees have to get it to the appropriate place in the shop), all 3 skids of it. And the mopping afterwards... *shudder* Thank goodness no one slipped.

Being 2 staff members short, we barely got the chance to get to tagging and stocking. Of course, the manager complains when she comes in that all of the work should have been done. This same manager who needed a week off to recoup from whatever it was that was keeping her from working (all i know is that she was in the hospital for a day or maybe 2 then was home the rest of the week), but managed to get in on Friday to look around. I was sick, throwing up in the garbage can beside the cash register, but she still needed her regularly scheduled day off. Nice...

The light at the end of the tunnel, for me, was that my holiday plans would not be ruined. I was actually going to get to see some of my family for a short time today. @uncutsaniflush has to work this morning, but has the afternoon free and i have an actual day off.

So, after he gets off work, we were going to hit the road to Hamilton, arrive early afternoon and hang out with my mom and dad, my brother, sister in law, their 2 kids and their new foster daughter, have dinner with them, open some gifts i have here for them....

But that was foiled. Seems someone forgot to tell someone else that someone else invited them somewhere. Would we be able to do lunch?

Nope. No can do. This afternoon is the only time i can see them this holiday.

Despite me being as clear as i could to my mom and to my sister in law via email that this is and will be the only chance for @uncutsaniflush and i to see them, they made other plans. These plans are to go to dinner elsewhere... and this morning, i found out that they will be having dinner at that same place the next day, too.

How is that for a "fuck you", huh? Not only will we not make space to see you, but we made double the space to see the other side of the family's sister... not my brother's side of the family's sister.. aka me.

Ah, and the "fuck you" extends to my mother... who, for the record, rarely cooks. This year, she not only bought food to cook, but baked deserts and treats. All in preparation for this afternoon and tonight when their household of 2 would swell to 9....

So, it's not just Canadian strangers that are rude... it's my family, too.

• sigh*

Or a jinx?

Since i have had my job in late September:

one employee had a panic and mild heart attack at work and was hospitalized for a week

another employee fainted and fell

another employee had a panic attack and was unable to breathe and was hospitalized

the employee that fainted slipped and fell on the ice

our district manager fell on the ice trying to dig out our back door because the mall hadn't done it and hadn't salted anything either

Someone suggested it might not be the store, but me. Who knew Lettuce could be dangerous?

Busy at Sally's yesterday... does everyone think that once the snow hits they will not be able to be out again until after xmas day?

I heard Weggies was a zoo...

Which made me think of this....

Yet, i am feeling beat down. How many times can my work schedule or weather get in the way of holiday plans?

My work and @uncutsaniflush's work schedules must have been planned... my boss and his got together and decided that every time i am working, he is not and every time he is working, i am not. Means we cannot do any holiday things together.

Ah, but just to give us false hope, we both have Sunday off, so we made plans. And now, we find out there might be a killer snow fall on Saturday night/Sunday morning, leaving us stuck for just enough time to not be able to make our plans a reality.

Then there's the times when there are parties that neither of us can attend because we are working.

It seems like the fates do not wish us to see anyone else this holiday season.

I will miss seeing my brother and sister in law and their kids, along with the new 6 year old foster child they recently took in. I will also miss seeing the extended family -- cousins and aunts and uncles. If those plans are still on... my mom hasn't mentioned them...

I am trying hard not to let this get to me, since really, in the grand sceme of things, it is just minor. Yet i am upset and frustrated.

Perhaps it is just getting used to working and having limited time again. I found it difficult enough to please everyone and be everywhere when i wasn't working, it's even more difficult now.

• sigh*

Happy Holidays, everyone! Hope there will be pictures of the pot luck posted soon.

That's the name of this month's colour. Last month, @leetee #42112 i used Red Hot. It was good, but a bit too much of a violet base for me, since my hair tends to pull blues easily. So, this month, i thought i would try Red Fire, since it has a copper base.

@uncutsaniflush and i heard from a ex-friend in our past. Interesting that she called my phone instead of his to speak to him. Result was the same, though. He did not wish to speak to her and neither did i. Funny that, huh? That we would not want to chit chat with someone who told us she did not want to be our friend?

For another friend we adore dearly, we ordered a holiday gift from Signals. The day after we ordered it, we found out it was back ordered, due to be in stock on the 4th... then the 7th... then the 9th... then the 11th... now, the 19th. Looks like we might need to find a new gift or have a New Years gift for her instead...

Still no ideas for my dad, @leetee #42453 for his birthday. Sadly, most stuff from Tarpin Station wouldn't be that great for shipping. Besides, he can get all that stuff there... and he is a roll your own kinda guy, not a bong kinda guy. And he has enough weed to last a few... well... most people, years, him months.

Other than some odds and sods (and my dad's birthday gift), we are mostly done with our holiday shopping. I think if i continue to work retail, i want to finish shopping by 1 December next year!

Well, i best get on with chores and enjoying my day off. As is typical, i am working the evening of the e:Strip Holiday Pot Luck....

Saw this film this afternoon.... fucking amazing. Even though i knew what would happen in the end, i still cried. Surprisingly, i also laughed at bits of it. I wasn't expecting that.



If you're interested, go see it before it goes away. Myself, @uncutsaniflush and 2 older people (the man said "that was shit" when the credits started rolling... i wonder what he was expecting?) were the only ones in the theatre. I don't expect it to be around for very long.

For anyone that is interested, Joy Division themselves...

Damn, that man is so hard to buy for....

It would be difficult enough if there was just the one holiday. But his birthday is January 7th, so i have always purchased 2 gifts during the holiday shopping season, since the shops are usually so picked over after x-mas.

Since i know he doesn't read this, i can say that we got him an x-mas gift already. A page a day calendar that counts down the day Bush leaves office... oh, how he will love love love that.

But what to get him for his birthday? We probably won't be able to see him because of mine and @uncutsaniflush's work schedules... so i need to be able to send it or have it delivered.

How can the internet have run out of ideas for him!! How??!!

What to buy for the man that spends the majority of his time working for his own business or parked in front of the t.v. smoking weed?

I have already done junk food baskets and t.v. guides for him for soOOoo many years. Besides, he has high cholesterol now... so no more cheesecake of the month idea....

Oh, Daddy... i love you... but... what to get you for your birthday can be such a challenge!!!!

I don't actually have my own mutt... so Ava will have to do. They posted the pics i sent in of her.. tee hee hee...

Poor @uncutsaniflush had to work on his birthday. The only good thing about it was that i have baked him a cake as a surprise when he gets home from work. Hope to hear from him soon letting me know he is on his way home...

Happy Birthday, my wonderful husband. I love you. You rock.

I changed my user sound. To my favie xmas song. It used to be Kate Bush's December Will Be Magic Again, but since i heard it for the first time last year, it is now the Hippo Song... i just LOVE it. Thanks, @uncutsaniflush for finding and downloading it for me!

While looking at stuff online, i came across a few things i thought were amusing, but not for anyone on my list. Thought i would share....