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Category: love

01/11/14 07:28 - ID#58567

goofy girls

having a romantic dinner at coco before the dead show at the tralf.

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Category: friends

01/10/14 11:07 - ID#58561

Bowling

great tits!

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Location: Buffalo, NY
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Category: love

01/08/14 01:20 - ID#58554

Monday looms

(e:Dianne)'s second shoulder surgery is scheduled for Monday. After a week of being sick and then a blizzard, we're rather behind in our prep work. the apartment is reasonably clean, but we need to do laundry, get the brakes fixed on the truck, go to bloss, go grocery shopping, hit up target, and still have as much fun as possible in the limited time left. if her recovery is like the first surgery, it'll be close to two months before D can drive again, a few weeks before she can shower on her own, and at least a month before she can sleep in bed with me. that's probably the hardest part of it, not sleeping together. I will miss her touch the most. I'm treasuring each time she wraps her arms around me.

the cold and snow will have a significant impact on her independence - she just can't risk falling- and shivering hurts tremendously. hopefully I've prepared her pretty well (new coat, boots, gloves, hats, layers).

it's been a hard month. my beautiful puppy Nisha died, we've had ongoing bad news about D's legal situation, she got into that fight, then a sweet but somewhat lonely Christmas, flu, cancelled new years, blizzard... the wedding was a real joy, as were our couple of game nights (never enough gaming). I cherish our friends and hope that we don't strain those relationships because of our neediness over the coming weeks and months. oh, and for really fun things to look forward to... tax season starts now!

I hope to make the most of the next five days by being present for each precious moment, holding D every chance I get, and dancing wildly Saturday night at the Tralf.

join us? :-)

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Category: friends

01/06/14 02:53 - ID#58543

Wedding @ the Garret Club

More pix from the wedding (e:paul,58511) wrote about. We had a great time and when I sent the bride & groom a thank you note for inviting us, they both said that we were a lot of fun.

It was my first formal event ever and (e:Dianne)'s first tux-wearing opportunity. She looked great, didn't she? The boys looked incredibly handsome. I swooned for all three of them.

Since this was new to all of us, I read up on the details of proper "black tie" attire and the rules are pretty simple: Men must all strictly conform and not stand out; women have a lot of flexibility in what they can wear but sparkly seems to be key. As (e:Terry) observed, "That's very sexist."

The gender role expectations are very strong and so we knew that it would be disruptive that she was wearing a tux... but it kinda wasn't because she completely passed. We weren't really intending that either - D's very happy to be a woman and to be understood as a woman. One young woman had to sit for a moment when she realized that D was a woman... an older man was insistent that she use the men's room and she finally had to explain her gender to him. While we were eating dinner, the man next to D referred to her as "he" a couple times, she got up to take a smoke break, and then someone asked how we knew the bride & groom and each other, so I explained "They are my & Terry's clients, this is Terry my business partner, DIANNE is my fiancee, and Paul is Terry's husband". He continued to refer to Dianne as "he". (Another case of "why did that man's parents name him 'Dianne'?" )

So my thinking for next time we have a black tie event... if women have flexibility in their formal wear, and D won't wear a dress/wants to wear a tux, and we don't want to her to pass as a man... then she can wear a tux and do all the flamboyant things that I wouldn't let (e:Paul) do. She'll have purple suspenders or a vest and lovely purple ascot

or whatever else her sweet heart desires to flag her as female while not violating her butchness.

All in all a very thought-provoking and fun event.

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Category: friends

12/28/13 07:00 - ID#58503

squeaky wheel holiday meltdown

we had a lot of fun!

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Location: Buffalo, NY
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Category: work

12/28/13 06:56 - ID#58502

preparing

two of my & (e:Terry)'s clients are getting married tomorrow in a formal ceremony at a fancy club. we've rented three tuxedos and I have a fancy dress and painted toenails. it will be interesting!

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Category: love

12/25/13 09:36 - ID#58491

Merry Christmas from Buffalo

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Category: love

12/24/13 10:08 - ID#58487

what would you do?

You are walking along Franklin and turn onto West Tupper. You almost run into a guy grabbing a woman by the hair, yelling at her that she shouldn't make him hit her. he hits her. what do you do?

I'll let (e:Dianne) tell her story...

pix are Sunday night, Monday morning, Tuesday morning.

tinypliny writes at 03:33:27 12/29/13 - Comment #71063: Glad you are safe, Dianne. It takes a lot of courage to step up to an ongoing fight. However, I always worry about things taking a turn for the worse and guns getting involved. Sending out good vibes to you!

joe writes at 12:09:11 12/26/13 - Comment #71042: ILU Dianne, you stepped in where a lot of people wouldn't. He only got a fraction of what's coming for him.

ExBuffalonian writes at 11:07:22 12/26/13 - Comment #71041: I admire your courage. That girl might be back with that loser, but your actions may have shown her that there are people who care about other people, and you might have made a difference, even if only in a small way.

uncutsaniflush writes at 10:45:55 12/24/13 - Comment #71034: (e:dianne) you are indeed brave.

YesThatCasey writes at 10:40:36 12/24/13 - Comment #71033: Dianne "Glitter Mace" Britain

iriesara writes at 11:52:29 12/24/13 - Comment #71029: Dianne, I don't know you that well, but you're pretty freaking awesome!

Dianne writes at 11:18:15 12/24/13 - Comment #71026: Okay so here's the story: I had gone for a walk and was walking up Tupper when I saw a guy with his hand wrapped around his girlfriend head with her hair and yelling at her "why do want to make me hit you in public" and then reached back and back handed her through the face, at this point I can't just walk by so i yelled at him"dude you can't do that man" he tells me to mind my own business and I tell him I'd like to but you can't be hitting on her man! At the same time his girlfriend is trying to walk off, he grabs her arm and I in turn grabbed his arm, he let go of her and turned and threw a punch at me, I pulled back as to miss this punch to the face and he just caught my right cheek bone (it would have been my left eye and probably a broken nose had I not tried to dodge it) it didn't knock me down but it sure pissed me off, I said mother fucker (because it hurt) I yelled "Hey!" He turned to look at me and I laid one to the dude in his face/head, knocked him on the ground! At the same time their friends were coming out and all I saw was two guys coming so I quickly yelled "girl, girl, I'm a girl!" The two girls and one guy were consoling the girl who was letting them know I came up because he had hit her, one guy tended to his friend on the ground and as they got up he told me we've got him, sorry about that! I walked off and came home where (e:) Heidi iced my eye! I know I should have called the police or fine inside for help, but I reacted to the situation instead! I know she's probably back with his sorry ass today, but at least she didn't die that night!
So there's the story and just for the record I hate fighting, I'm a lover not a fighter, I don't like to hit or be hit, but unfortunately it happens sometimes and I just can't walk by and do nothing! I haven't been in a fight since I was 18 and let me tell you my eye hurts like HELL, but I have no regrets!