"Happy Stuff" written by Mrmike on estrip.org

06/02/09 09:02 - 52ºF - ID#48822

Happy Stuff

It's funny how often you can read in these pages how somebody's getting old or feeling so old and invariably the writer isn't past 30. Well, I got one for you all and I don't mind. Today, I am the parent of an 18 year old. That statement is one of those that makes me worry. I can't remember much about last night's dinner, but the events of today 18 years ago are practically in high definition. She got her yearbook last week at a reception at the Pearl Street Brewery (My kid in a bar, one of my bars!!!) and the following picture was inside. I'm so proud, even at just a few months old, she could render a good evil eye.

Happy Birthday, Siobhan

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Location: Buffalo, NY

06/01/09 03:04 - 64ºF - ID#48815

Drama, Drama, Drama

Oy!

My older sister subletted her place and came back to Buffalo with our Dad yesterday afternoon. Wow, didn't like being there at all. Everybody knew it was coming and I think ultimately it will be a good thing. She has herself convinced that it is the end of the world. Anybody with a brain knows otherwise, but the economics of the times are her off her game.

It was a tough weekend, but she was dragging it out. By the tiime Sunday morning got here, my dad's patience was gone. He wanted to get her moving out of Chelsea to at least cap one end of the odyssey.

They made it to Buffalo in a decent amount of time, a little more than 7 hours. I made it out to Clarence to help with the minivan unload and get the valuable electronics up and running. As we're unloading, he venting to me about her. She's venting to me about him. Apparently, I'm switzerland (without the secret Nazi financing).

She was upset because they left without a friend coming by to pack her tv. Dad told the friend that they were aiming to be gone by 9AM on Sunday. She wanted the friend to pack her tv (and really to say goodbye for the summer). That didn't happen. My Dad thought standing around in Chelsea would only prolong the agony. I think he was right. My younger sister and I half joked it worh risking the wrath for the greater good.

I offered to go in my Dad's stead. He is off infusion therapy finally, but the last treatment was just a week ago. He declined. I got my brother-in-law to get there to do any heavy lifting. So, it worked. He got her into the car and fortunately had clear sailing all the way back this direction. The finality of the journey was a big monkey off their collective shoulders.

I do what you can: mix highballs, pickup food and hook up all of her valued electronics, which got everybody chilled appropriately. Never wanted to leave my folks place so badly before.

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Location: Buffalo, NY

Category: fatherman

05/28/09 10:32 - 63ºF - ID#48780

Representing...

Despite a couple of errors on the media's part, my former spouse and current son represented on Ch. 2 tonight about how we all just folks. She spoke well and he works a camera well.

metalpeter writes at 08:40:37 06/01/09 - Comment #48863: The other day Bill Maher said something on his show that I wish I had the " " to. It went something along the lines of why can't everyone just have civil unions and get rid of Marriage. He was talking about how does something the church do give people all these rights. I think what he was getting at is that there should be no such thing as it and that anyone should be able to have a civil union with anyone else. That isn't a bad idea really. If you think about the fact that the church and state are supposed to be separate then how can a marriage in a church give you legal rights to things. I'm not saying I completely agree but it is an interesting thought.

theecarey writes at 04:30:45 06/01/09 - Comment #48851: Awesome.

Damn you have a good looking family, btw. (no surprise there!)

Lets legalize same sex marriage already! Finding someone to share life with is challenge enough, let it not be complicated further based soley on which gender we choose. Looking forward to the day when we can look back on (recent) history and say, "remember when.."

metalpeter writes at 06:47:35 05/29/09 - Comment #48782: Yes they do represent well.

In terms of the moral beliefs the people who think that making it legal is saying it is ok, and they don't want there kids to think it ok do have a good point. The saying it will be taught in schools I don't agree with. I think one of the problems with this entire issue is that everyone has a public and private life. What you do in your private life is just that and unless people are good friends they don't want to know. What happens with this issue is that people now have to know about people being gay. I think that really gets lots of people rilled up. Personally I think Gay Marriage should be legal and everyone should be treated the same. But at the same time how does someone who thinks it is wrong deal with that at there Job? One example is what if two guys holding hands repulses you How do you take there picture at say ollan mills, what if you do weedding pictures can you legally turn down gays? See this is not a simple human rights issue. It is also an issue of what rights do the people who think gays are sinners and will burn in hell, and want nothing to do with them.

jason writes at 11:14:12 05/29/09 - Comment #48772: I don't particularly care if an advocacy group in fact advocates their position on a given issue. Obviously they're wrong on this, and it's an insult to everyone's intelligence when someone says that kids are a target. That is so goddamn wrong I don't know where to start.

What a government decides to be morally correct seems to me to be fickle and based upon the bought and paid for preferences of special interests. I would rather fall on the side of freedom and civil rights. This isn't the only decision in NYS that is based upon faulty logic assuming the government should be up your fucking ass for the good of society.

carolinian writes at 11:01:51 05/29/09 - Comment #48770: Let me guess, he's one of those conservative people who cares so much for children that he fought against the State Children's Health Insurance Program which would expand health insurance for poor children, and who tries to end school lunch programs?

tinypliny writes at 10:19:17 05/29/09 - Comment #48768: Some moron commented: "What becomes legal as far as same-sex marriage is concerned also becomes legal to teach our children. So, the children are really the target in all of this."

That comment is so bereft of logic, its hilarious. For starters, this issue is about respect, understanding and love and that always starts at home. And yeah, mr. moron, there are a contrallion things that are "legal". No doubt they were all specifically designed with the express purpose of harming your children. How do morons like this even lead a congregation? I shudder for those unfortunate souls.

twisted writes at 11:37:14 05/28/09 - Comment #48763: Right will prevail. Kudos for standing up and speeding the way.

uncutsaniflush writes at 11:10:46 05/28/09 - Comment #48761: Yes, they did represent. And you have much to be proud of. Including yourself as a father and co-parent.

Come to think of it, you represented as well. Kudos to you and yours.

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Location: Buffalo, NY

Category: random

05/26/09 10:32 - 58ºF - ID#48756

Don't Like Jon, Don't Like Kate...

And the 8 don't fill me with any glee either

The only TLC show I catch with any regularity is â€œAmerican Chopper.â€ It is essentially the same show everytime out, with different bikes, same arguments, people doing well financially but as Louis CK put it: â€œEverything is amazing, but nobody is happy.â€ The â€œJon & Kate plus 8â€³ show has been assaulting our collective senses for much the same reason as either â€œJonâ€ or â€œKateâ€ strayed and now their happy life that is underwritten by TLC is on the rocks. Iâ€m a little alarmed I know that much. The fact that it is so covered in all the tabloids, near tabloids and gossip.dot.coms probably has the marketing department at the former Learning Channel giggling with delight. They have an energy efficient house they didn't have to pay for, neither has to work thanks to funds coming in and they are winning about the attention from photographers. Wow, not sure where I left my tiny violins to better play the sad song for them. We should all have such intrusions. Sap that I am, I turned away briefly from "No Reservations" to see what all the hullaballo was about. Now that I know, I still don't care.

Preferring to learn more about food and exotic alcohol from French Polynesia, I went back to Bourdain. Now, that is education tv.

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Location: Buffalo, NY

Category: work

05/21/09 01:47 - 76ºF - ID#48713

Doughtnuts and Beer

You know itâ€™s an ominimous start. My employer is partially a union shop. Given the unionized population dwarfs the nonunion, what they say goes for everybody. Something about that doesnâ€™t seem right. My current health care provider is dropping said employer because of lack of volume. Employer responded by finding a decent solution and pitched it on Monday to the masses. Those types of presentations arenâ€™t exciting, but it did the job. The union workers just voted and just picked something else, for no foreseeable reason, because of a few intimidated everybody else. So, I lost healthcare for the second time this week and have to scramble yet again, this time without the virtue of any materials or prep or any foresight. Thatâ€™s great. Please note the dripping sarcasm from that last sentence. Largely just an unnecessary pain in the ass, but the union's need for pettiness might cost us a sponsor as well.

Knew the day was going to be an odd one. Had to run a meeting of volunteers who are so apathetic, they barely represent at the meeting, hence the donuts of the title.

Weâ€™re having an opening tonight, so we get the treat of staying at work another three hours. This is usually a grim prospect, but it was made a little better hearing my boss order extra beer.

I have a good boss.

libertad writes at 10:07:39 05/23/09 - Comment #48618: I like my fucking union. Sorry, I had to say it!

metalpeter writes at 06:35:58 05/21/09 - Comment #48572: Ok that makes no sense. You can Join or Not Join the union. So if you don't join you don't have to pay the fees but then you get no say in what goes on. The way that it should work is that the people who decide what goes on make up there mind and that effects all the non union people. Then the union people work with them and they might get a different deal. Some places the non union people get paid better and treated better. Having no union is better then having one sometimes. Some unions are bad and Power Hungry like some boses are, as an example look to the mess that happened at GM, both sides only cared about money instead of making the cars better then the Japanesse cars.

james writes at 03:46:36 05/21/09 - Comment #48567: Eh, it isn't a "fucking unions" thing. It is a "that fucking union" thing.

I am in the same situation at work as you Mike. A union I am not a member to dictates my pay rate, raises, health care, everything. But, they are not total ass hats. There is no sticking it to the man... which can't be said for a lot of other unions.

jenks writes at 03:20:03 05/21/09 - Comment #48566: all i can say to that is "fucking unions."

mrmike writes at 02:32:11 05/21/09 - Comment #48562: J-I think they wanted to stick it the hierarchy. I'm safely in middle-archy but get caught up in the foolishness. It's funny. They made a decision because the plans were rolled out hastily. That isn't the smarted decision making process. Like to think that eventually you get too old for acting like pissy 7th graders but apparently not.

Worst part is that a sponsorship I've been nursing for a few months is likely going to bye-bye.

jason writes at 02:01:55 05/21/09 - Comment #48560: Mike - the argument I've heard before goes something like this: "Our blood, sweat and tears make it possible for you to live like a King, so yes we get to make the rules."

Of course, that argument is also extended to the circumstances where non-union employees still have to pay the dues. Same argument. I find it curious.

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Location: Buffalo, NY

Category: random

05/20/09 01:27 - ID#48704

"That's a Dealbreaker"

I'm wondering if I'll need to start paying royalties to Tina Fey as that came up inadvertingly in two distinctly different conversations.

Came up during a sponsorship discussion at work when a potential vendor wanted too much for too little money. Stifling a smirk after realizing what I said and that I watch too much tv, I got our money.

Came up again last night. I'm trying to move a stubborn force (my older sister) into action. She is clinging to the 11th hour for just "the" miracle in terms of subletting her place and catching up on expenses and whatnot in Buffalo for the summer. She has a rent controlled two bed room spot in Chelsea and found great tenants. Her original mover bailed so she's spending way too much kvetching about another, trying out ideas as wacky as U-Haul's and bringing all her worldly goods to Buffalo only to ship them all back again in September. She was curious about this one moving firm in Chinatown, but has a guy who is willing to do the job already. I'm trying to get quit worrying about the Cantonese moving crew and just a committment made. My Dad is going to fly down there at the end of next week to drive a minivan back with actual valuables. My younger sister has people organized there so he is sidewalk supervising and not dragging his recently pronounced healthy (yet 72 year old self) up and down stairs. Not used to being this voice of reason crap. I've grown up accustomed to having to struggle to be heard.

So, trying to keep her off her ass has been a fulltime chore. It's easy to wallow. Anybody can do that, but the folks can't do everything for her. I can only imagine how it is messing with my folks, so my younger sister and I took on the roles of pushing her along as there will be plenty of time to feel sorry later.

Can't let that be a dealbreaker. Stuff is happening.

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Location: Buffalo, NY

Category: fatherman

05/13/09 11:50 - 66ºF - ID#48664

Breaking, Entering and then what

A couple of America's dumbest criminals broke into my former house on Anderson this morning. Aside from the icky feeling you get from somebody touching your stuff, I'm not sure what to make of it. I left work as soon as my ex called, to straighten, clean, batten down the hatches and prop the kids up. Number one son got cleaned out of Game Cube games, but we haven't been able to find out what else might be missing. Both of my daughters have I-Home stereos that went untouched. These geniuses ran room to room in search of well, I'm not sure what, bypassing computers, tvs, and the like.

I'm grateful everybody is safe, that nobody was home that may have had to deal with intruders of whatever variety. For my part, aside from watching my poor son's face melt when we told him about it, I along with an uncle and brother and law worked until about 9:30 tonight replacing the broken window that let them into the basement and battening down the other first floor windows so nobody can enter without a helluva lot of effort.

Building deterrants.

When my former spouse was returning from a pizza run, she saw two chuckleheads sauntering up a neighbors driveway and stopped them. A call to the gendarmes followed. A police detective showed up shortly thereafter. Given that he was followed by a uniformed gentleman in short order makes me think that this stuff is not exactly news in the neighborhood.

But again, I'm glad my merry band is safe and has pretty much everything they started the day with. So, watch out for anybody cruising through the hood folks.

They might be fixing to pull a heist.

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Location: Buffalo, NY

Category: random

05/11/09 10:12 - 52ºF - ID#48651

Got them old put upon customer blues

Oy!

Because I'm a good sort, I've been springing for the internet and cable at the house formerly known as mine. Makes me feel like I'm doing something for my fellow co-residents, part of the we are one big happy circle thing. Signed up for paperless billing. You'd think a big telecommunications conglomerate would be able to send an email. You'd think that wouldn't be an issue. You'd think that failing that, they could get something in the actual mail in a timely manner, you'd think they would find a way to get in touch with you. If only, there was some kind of telephonic device that I could carry with me, that would permit us to talk...whenever they friggen need to. You'd think being the shameless capitalistic pigs that they are, they would want to talk to make sure the flow of funds kept a rolling.

Oh no, gentle reader, you'd be incorrect. Without word one to anybody, the darling system at the communications giant deprovisioned my former spouse's modem. I arrive at my abode and discover a you will be disconnected on May 10th letter. Its arrival on the 11th makes it art. In their "defense,' they wrote it on the 5th, apparently sitting on it for gestational sake for a few days.

Foolish mortals, with a wave of the credit card, my mighty trio and their lovely mom were able to connect back with the latest "What kind of comic book villiain are you" poll that might have appeared in their 9 hour absence from cyber space.

Which I guess is the latter day equivalent of "making it all better."

It's not often you get a round of cheers from two blocks away.

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Location: Buffalo, NY

05/06/09 11:39 - ID#48602

"You gonna finish the hummus?"

Rounded up the youngins and we broke bread at Amy's place last night. It was the first time I had been there in ages and omigod it was so worth it. I don't what kept me away for so long, but I won't make that mistake again. I had a business lunch on Friday that left my digestive tract in a state and thanks to Amy's Place, my insides are speaking to me once more. Chicken Kabob breakfast nearly put me in a state of afterglow.

My lovely middle child wants to see Star Trek bad enough, that she is even willing to come to the Imax expedition on Saturday and be seen in-wait for it-in my company. So, I snagged another ticket at Fandango's stupidly marked up prices.

So, I can't be doing all that badly.

Should I be a little concerned that a tv show hostess went through a lot of time and effort to make really sure that I got an autographed picture? Probably reading too much into that. It just seemed like an unusual gesture, but again, I'm thinking too hard.

Hey (e:paul) , if there are 100 estrip bumper stickers left over, I can utilize them for some grassroots promotion if you like. My office is having a small intimate gathering of 2400 people at the Zoo in July. 100 of those will be VIPs who get goodie bags along with their larger admission fee. We can put the stickers in if you are interested in promotion.