05/11/10 06:38 - ID#51539

Good Move or Bad Move?

Good move or bad move?

Q: You've just left the stage and wow'd the crowd, but you're no rock star, it's just Karaoke. The bartender is a cutie and she's caught your eye. YOu go and chat her up a bit, and she's kinda receptive and you ask her out to:

a. lunch
b. dinner
c. have a drink

If you were the bartender what would you prefer, and which of these if any would be an insult?

tinypliny writes at 11:40:44 05/20/10 - Comment #56366: Well? what did you end up doing??

libertad writes at 12:38:17 05/12/10 - Comment #56191: I would say c, have a drink. If she pays for round 2 or 3 then I would say that is a good sign. A drink is a lot less pressure than a dinner or lunch.

theecarey writes at 11:25:00 05/11/10 - Comment #56190: None are an insult, but coffee or a relaxed drink atmosphere would be a good first get to know each other encounter. I often go for an outdoor stroll (or more intense hike when the guy is game) followed by coffee/tea to rehydrate and relax. Lunch and dinner would be better for the second encounter, in my opinion. Go get her, tiger!

heidi writes at 09:41:14 05/11/10 - Comment #56186: d. coffee

Less risk, more flexible.

but I also agree with (e:jbeatty).

jbeatty writes at 09:37:36 05/11/10 - Comment #56185: I don't think any are an insult. However more times than not the bartender isn't really into the patron. They are only making money and being nice. But if it seems like a real connection is being made I would go with drinks. Its cheaper than dinner and you will find out if she is a lush or not.

metalpeter writes at 07:59:01 05/11/10 - Comment #56181: If I was a bartender I don't know as I would want to be asked to go out for drinks, unless it was say drinks back at someone's place.

Dinner is nicer but also it might be tough to have dinner then go work at a bar , time wise it could be tough to find a day. But also though Dinner implies that after that if things go well there could be other stuff to do.

Lunch is more of causal thing, and there wouldn't be any conflict most likely. Unless the place you where singing has lunch.

I'm not a chick so I can't really say, I still think dinner is the best bet but it is hard to know really..........

tinypliny writes at 07:49:01 05/11/10 - Comment #56180: Hmm.. none of those would work if she is avoiding carbohydrates.

jason writes at 07:44:34 05/11/10 - Comment #56179: Did she give you any cues in terms of what she is into, etc? I try to avoid dinner for a first date. You know what is pretty fun is 2 for 1 martinis at Cecelia's on the patio. I also like Chow Chocolat. Chocolate is a friggin winner every time, thanks to God for chemistry. Get an ice cream cone at Fowler's. Go to Delish or Zillycakes or some other place to get something sweet.

tinypliny writes at 07:32:07 05/11/10 - Comment #56177: C is really giving her more business, no? :-)

I am not a bartender, neither am I American, but I think a or b or c would be fine really. It actually just depends on what she thinks - which you won't know till you see the reaction to a or b. heh

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