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So i got an email today for the (e:hodown) and it had a link to a very exclusive web site with very designer clothes. I can barely tear my self away and will prolly own this jacket and or buy a vacation at the Venetian in Vegas soon (or I'll miss out on it!).

Look at this bitchin' jacket!

Ok, so this article is going to piss some of you off, but go ahead and read it: The workplace should be segregated. Maybe.

She's so cute, you'd think she'd be a really nice lady


Made some people I know really mad and they starting calling Ms. Trunk really rude names like "Stupidhead" and "poopypants" and "smellycunt" (my personal favorite). This was my reply.

I know this article is going to get people emotionally charged as it was intended to do, but unless you wish to prove dear Ms. Trunk right I beg all readers of all genders to stop and think about what she is saying before reacting.

To be clear, I don't "agree" with her out of hand. I don't entirely disagree with her either though. Still If I were to make statements about the information she's collected, they'd sound completely different.

I'm only going to make this point before standing back from this dervish of emotionally charged blades of scientific stereotyping and sexism. Averages are tools to be used to protect you from dangers not subject you to servitude. If women are generally better at a certain task it'd serve the employer of one to perform such a task to seek a woman when trying to find the right "man" for that job. You'll save time and energy not rejecting every candidate, but you'd also rob your self of an amazing candidate if you were to ignore every male applicant. It goes both ways.

Ultimately if you're bent from reading that article you're making the same kind of mistake as a stereotyper but to the article writer and the publications advantage. Notice the adversing in the margines. You're also just human, so I forgive you. Hopefully that'll give you enough cause to put down your picket signs and pitchforks and maybe be a bit more entertained than offended. Yah, think of this article as microcosm of the Fox News business model. It's really just entertainment ...dangerous irresponsible misleading polarizing entertainment.

I'm going to go bake a more delicious cake than you can make now.

No, I'm not sharing.

I responded to someones assertion to love that read as follows:

"Love never fails. If it's not gonna matter tomorrow, make it right today ♥"

Like this:

"Love fails all the time. Sometimes we keep trying to make it right with the wrong alcoholic convict harlot theif sociopath cause we loooooove them, but no hard feelings, nothing's perfect."

Some one named Sarah responded with:

"Thats not love boo boo thats lust cause pure unadulterated love never returns to you void.."

And I was a jerk who dismissed her comment by calling her "young". Lame I know. I tried to fix things with this next bit whcih I think is apropos what with candy and cards day just around the bend.

"You're right Sarah. Dismissing someone's knowledge of anything on a the basis of youth or any quality of that individual outside of their understanding of the argument at hand is fallow. So I apologize for my gruff assessment of your view. I really don't know you, and that was rude of me. I just like to think I'm funny sometimes...and I am, just not this time.

Otherwise, I feel like l understand this emotion as well as any human can (I might be wrong). I just get perturbed when peoples romantic assessment of anything, let alone a chemical system of our physical minds denies the fact that all things can and do fail. I'm not a pessimist, I still do have hope for healthy functional love, but I can't ignore the fact that things break sometimes.

I think that when people ignore this fact it leads to greater failure. Such as loving the 'wrong' person or thing, which include all the former, but don't exclude those from the following: people who just don't love you back enough or the way you want and need. Hobbies and habits that destroy you in tiny undetectable bits or huge wave, and the list goes on. I've seen love without reason destroy lives and create wonderful things at the same time, as much as I've seen reason without love exclude a person until they've become emotionally caustic to everyone around them and them selves.

I think we're on the same team after all though. Love works sometimes, and when it does it's one of the greatest things that can be experienced by a life form on this planet ask any fat house cat. I think that was Aprils point. Still, the idea that anything is perfect is just an imperfect idea...it's kinda why I think love exists; to allow for the imperfect to stick around long enough to matter....

Ok I'm done, but stop talking bad about lust. It's just as necessary and dangerous as love, but really, lust is not what I was talking about. No one who sticks around to get abused by someone who's been drunk and out of shape for years is in a wild fit of lust. That's reaaally something else."

What do you think estrip?

PS. I missed you. You're so cute when you read lengthy stuff.

yep....

Ok Peeps,

Who's being selfish when both people love each other as much as any two people could, but one dose or doesn't want something so they part?

I've seen this happen a bunch before. There's…er was, this really cool couple who used to live upstairs from me when I lived in Allentown, that are clearly no longer together. They seemed to be made for one another. He was one of the coolest break dancers I've ever know and she painted everything she ever owned bright pink. I think she still has a few colors in her hair. I've since seen the dude at parties and bars. He often looks rather dejected and kinda alone, but he would always look that way i guess. A bit of a recluse that must have been in heaven to have such an extravert all to him self. So I guess his loneliness is a bit more pronounced of late. When they were dating the girl was faaaat, even if she was stylish. She ran it all off one year and I was like, "Way to go, go for you!" I wondered why anyone could be motivated to get them selves more in shape after they've been in a really long term relationship and got "comfy". Later I saw her with her son and a relatively dis-intersting boyfriend at the Arf Festival and the story just told it self. Made me sad.

Ok there's another account too. A good friend who has what I classify scientifically as a spiny personality. They're good at heart, but you've got to navigate some rather sharp stiff and unyielding aspects before you can enjoy them, found someone who could, but since the girl in the couple wanted a baby eventually (not right away) and he didn't they called it quits and just tried to be friends.

I feel like If you're a man it's in your biology to crave and receive sexual attention that should never cause any further responsibility beyond being the kind of lover your mate expects after having to suffer nocturnal emissions and constant hormonal agitation your whole life since puberty. And if you're a woman your biology entitles you to have something come of all this sex with destructive insensitive brutes and menstrual cycles at some point in your life after having to suffer through it all since you started bleeding weather you were ready or not.

I guess you could view my perspective as a bit jaded or one sided since I have reproduced (albeit not nearly in the most idea situation), but what do you think? I know there are alternatives, but how could anyone watch the love of their lives walk away just because they wanted or didn't want to have a baby, or live in a new town? It's such a cold hard choice, I hope I never have to make it. What choice could cause you to tear your self away from the comfort and security of real love with someone if you ever found it? It's not fun to think of, but if you're brave enough share…

who could say no to a face like this...

Fern and I bumped into J9 at the Farmers market this weekend.

Found out some interesting stuff from some farmers aaaaand saw some cute babies, even added my own to the mix to make it really cheek pinchy.

Here's the vid I snappped of Fern and J9 pokein' some cute chicks and goslings. Fern and her had a hug fest, which if you've ever met the Fuzzball in person you must know is astounding. J9 was like the only person we saw that Fern ever opened up to like that. Too bad it didn't work out. Oh well... I persist that shyness is a disease and I'm gonna cure her of it (I'm totally kidding. If I were going to be a monster I'd rather be one that could fly and suck blood or howl at the moon or something). Still, it seems like we might be able to be friends by and by, which is great.

I think maybe it was kinda weird how they had these cute little guys in a box next to coolers full of the bodies of their aunts, uncles, and possibly parents, but it's a cute video anyway.

Coming soon to a dinner plate near you*

• listen very closely to the conversation between the little girl and J9. This lil squishy face is already racially aware at like 3 years old. Otherwise J9 is borderline vegan so that what we're talking about.

Also found out that chemical companies who paid for a study to "determine" if cell phone towers could be the cause of the bee crisis are probably hiding the fact that their company's chemicals are causing the plants to be less nutritious for the bees from a bee keeper.

i wish my phone was faster so I could recored audio of stuff like that at least.

So,

I have a friend.

She's really pretty. Olive skin, dark brown hair that flows in locks, eyes like pools of onyx.
She's a trained pianist. Loves great music.
Owns a house in a nice neighborhood. Has a decent job.
Likes to ride bikes. Sounds awesome right?

She's got faults too, but I don't want to point any of that out. Yet....

Ok, so this thing keeps happening to her where she starts dating a guy and not long after they decide to stop seeing her. It's always them that stop dating her... Lame.

I'm a good friend of hers at this point. I dated her before, in the past. And yes, I stopped seeing her too, so um.... here's my question to you (e:peep)'lz of the world.

She sometimes asks me, "Why does this keep happening to me?", and I feel like I must know, having had been a guy who did it and a person who watched it happened over and over, but what do I do?

Should I tell her what I think?
Should I ignore it and hope that someday someone will be a kind enough man to her to help her through this stuff
Really who do I know? Pfft!?

What do you think?

So,

I have a friend.

She's really pretty. Olive skin, dark brown hair that flows in locks, eyes like pools of onyx.
She's a trained pianist. Loves great music.
Owns a house in a nice neighborhood. Has a decent job.
Likes to ride bikes. Sounds awesome right?

She's got faults too, but I don't want to point any of that out. Yet....

Ok, so this thing keeps happening to her where she starts dating a guy and not long after they decide to stop seeing her. It's always them that stop dating her... Lame.

I'm a good friend of hers at this point. I dated her before, in the past. And yes, I stopped seeing her too, so um.... here's my question to you (e:peep)'lz of the world.

She sometimes asks me, "Why does this keep happening to me?", and I feel like I must know, having had been a guy who did it and a person who watched it happened over and over, but what do I do?

Should I tell her what I think?
Should I ignore it and hope that someday someone will be a kind enough man to her to help her through this stuff
Really who do I know? Pfft!?

What do you think?

Hi Peeps,

I wrote most of this on my phone and I have to say, now that I'm really used to the keyboard I will prolly post a lot more often. Now if only I could upload pictures (he he he). I think that (e:paul) having an Android phone will cure that up really fast (link to journal #51465). Ok, so this post...


I went to get my hair done yesterday after having had it done only a month prior; a little gift from Uncle Samuel. It's been looking a little ratty to me lately and I've been working on my appearance so it made sense.

I'd like to feel good enough about it to want to leave it uncovered all the time, but I feel like its been under wraps and hats for so long its never gonna look ok out in the open air.

I've also been gyming a lot lately. It makes me feel awesome and I think I've lost a lot of weight too. Megan used to hate it when I started loosing weight. I hated every day I was uncomfortable in my own body. After throwing away or putting into storage a ton of clothes I felt a clown from the 90's wouldn't wear I don't' think I can ever stop going to the gym. It's become a relaxing place to vent energies that I didn't know I had to vent, and it helps me obey Justin.

The girl who does my hair is an artist by lifestyle, and she lives in the artspace on main. There's always sweet stuff hanging up and I always steal a few shots. She does classes and exhibits in the open common areas when she needs to, and hair in her apt. it's a perfect place for any enterprising artist without a lot of capital. Her name is Aminiata (Erika Mitchell) and she teaches an African dance class that doubles as a drumming class that a friend of hers teaches.

Here's some shots of the artspace* and her. She does decent stuff, but she's very apprehensive to show it to anyone. Oh the pantings aren't her's, they're on display in the front hall. I imaging some artist is selling or showing them, but I don't know how anyone's going to see them behind locked doors....well besides right here.

Ok, talk to you later. I gotta focus. I'm trying that more lately too.

She does foot massages, but this is just an ad from the hallway


Here's her dance studio

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• for some reason, the other images won't upload. I'll just post them in something new later.