I had a great time at my friend's wedding this past weekend. I'll detail that in a moment but (e:Maureen) wrote some things that hit home and I want to talk about that stuff first.

I know so many women who say that their man has to be x, y, and z - and no less or else they are off the radar completely. It's astonishing to hear them read off their long list of requirements, especially the superficial things that automatically rule a guy out. I've heard some crazy stuff, like he can't have a computer in his bedroom or his nose has to have a certain shape. They look for the "A" candidate, the ones who have it all, who compose about 5% of the male population. When they don't find the ultimate man they sit at the coffee shop with their friends and ask "Where are all the good guys?" They don't even as much as recognize the existence of the "lesser" men and go through life being single and miserable about it. Some women prefer to live single and without a man, and I respect that. The ones who I've been describing are hard to listen to because they are so strict about what makes a man acceptable to them. Of course you can't say "lower your standards" to them because it will result in a major shitstorm - trust me on that one, ahem. Nobody deserves to be miserable but some people have to recognize that it is largely an effect of their own stubborn nature.

Anyhow (e:Maureen) based on reading your journal you seem to be a mature, loyal, calm, thoughtful young woman. You are driven and a hard worker. Oh, yes, you are also quite lovely. You have to recognize the good traits you have and know how important they are to the good men out there, the ones you really want. I'm not saying you have to lower your standards, but instead I want to emphasize that as long as you are reasonable and forgiving you will not be alone, I guarantee it. You have nothing to worry about, and actually I kind of laugh at how silly it is for you to worry about it. Out of my league for sure. You seem to be an A+ young lady, and I see an ivy league educated, handsome, great man in your future. Don't worry, and keep the focus on your school!

Along the same vein (relationships) I went to a wedding this weekend. It was probably the last one I'll have to attend for a while, and I'm really happy about that. Jerry, Josh and I are the only single ones left. Jerry is quite the ladies man so I'm sure he'll be next. Don't expect me to be married anytime soon - I don't think I'm meant to be in a relationship. I'm comfortable this way. Anyhow the wedding was really fun. We had a great time and got to catch up with some old friends from Jamestown.

Josh and I were about half way to Jamestown when I realized I had forgotten my dress shoes. Oh no! I was positive that Gramma had thrown away all of Grampa's old stuff, and I knew we would have ZERO time to go to a store and get some cheap replacements. I decided not to worry about it anymore until we got to Jamestown. When we got there, I had concocted a story about how I tripped and fell, dropping a glass, with my momentum bringing my foot on top of the glass and shattering it, cutting up my foot. Sneakers were just more comfy than dress shoes! This way I could not feel so responsible for looking dorky, with a nice pinstripe suit and Nike shoes. I also walked around the entire time with a fake limp, so everyone would "understand" my dilemma. Haha. I'm such a jerk.

Jason

"I think deep down the boys really do want the nice girls, but they convince themselves that they want a viper. When will they ever learn? Don't let it eat you up inside."

Good guys really do want good girls. The major problem is that real good girls are hard to find, and the good guys are often fooled by the fronters and fakers. Another problem is that the good girls sometimes also are horrible at letting the guys know they are up for some conversation and such. I'll bless (e:strip) with some knowledge about different types of nice girls and how they are perceived:

1) "Reformed" Nice Girl - This type is the 30 to 50 donger who is "sick of the bar scene" and the brutal (although hot) men she has had in her life. She wants to finally settle down and find a dude to be with, someone reliable and good, who isn't bothered by her dong count. For her being a good girl is a phase of time rather than a state of being. Good guys can be fooled easily by this type, but usually a little conversation outs them. I guess being reformed is better than not being a nice girl at all.

2) Shy Girl - She seems a little uncomfortable in her own skin, and rarely (if ever) gives guys buying signs to let them know she is interested. She gets very frustrated by all of the slutty women out there getting all of the attention. Even if she was interested in a guy, the guy would never know about it because she wouldn't give him the time of day. Guys miss these ones because the shy girl either seems unapproachable, bitchy, or not interested in meeting someone. One thing the "vipers" have over the shy ones is that the vipers always give the guy some kind of affection or attention, a touch or a flirtly look or something like that. If the shy girl could do this she would have many options to choose from in terms of men she wants to date.

3) The Prude - She completely refuses to acknowledge her sexuality. Good guys don't want a 50 donger but they don't want an asexual woman either. A guy usually has to spend lots of time and mucho bankola on her before he can even scam a kiss, let alone feel all up on her booty or grind his bone on her. Guys like good girls who can hold conversation and who will treat them well, but guys also like sexual activity. The prude is wise in carefully choosing who gets their hands in the cookie jar, but almost hurts herself in the process by making her guy think she's not sexually attracted to him. The prude is a good girl but needs to be a little more flirty and sexual to rope in the guys worth keeping.

I hope my short, yet insightful post brings much joy and satisfaction to your hearts!

Jason

I'm losing at life. I'll be back to talk about more important subjects later.

Jason

Now I can get my porn on! My god my neighbor downstairs brought home this bombshell of a chick. That's what happens when you are the boss I guess!

Jason

PS - More on Nukes upcoming....I need to handle mah bidness first.

I agree completely, the atomic bomb is a blight on the human race. I also think that building new types of atom bombs is a mistake. To me killing is killing, regardless of the method. What is preferable, dropping a nuke or using infantry to cut, shoot, and maim? Again I have to say that nobody is justifying nuclear war - that is not the argument anybody is trying to make. You see, yet you do not perceive. It is a mistake to take our own filters and apply them to what someone else writes without trying to process exactly what it is that is being said. Furthermore it stifles honest debate on the subject because it becomes a knee-jerk, reactionary, insult-garbled tit-for-tat. Talking about what happened when and after the bombs were dropped, as well as discussing what may have happened had they not been dropped, are things that don't deserve the kind of venom-spitting that has gone on. None of it is equal to justifying a nuclear holocaust, yet that is the treatment it is getting, and people are getting their panties all up in a bunch and assuming a whole lot of things about people. This is the last time I'll say it - Nobody here thinks Nukes are good! Now are we capable of having a mature discussion about this, the good, the bad, and the ugly? If not, I'll be happy to move on to other topics that interest me.

However we may feel about it, there are nations (as well as groups of individuals who are not under a flag) who would be happy to see multiple nukes dropped on our cities, rendering irrelevant our own feelings on the subject. They have the will to pull the trigger, while we do not. It should be the effort of the entire world to eradicate nuclear weapons from our planet, lest we see London or Berlin or Rome or New York or L.A. become uninhabitable wastelands. You don't do it by offering money and oil, and you do not let rogue nations shake down the free world. It has to be a united front against nuclear weapons, and it has to have teeth. I would sleep better at night knowing that no place on the earth has to worry about it happening to them.

Jason

Cute bartenders make me go and order drinks, so at the very least I can talk to them. I feel so fucking sick. I can hear Rhonda's voice echoing in my head...."That's right Jay! Feel that shit! You deserve it for drinking!" Oy vey..good thing I don't talk to her anymore. I just drank up all of my brother's soda and immediately puked it up! Haha!

(e:Paul) I think you went over the top and read things into Josh's posts that simply weren't there - i.e. making excuses for the mass killing of civilians. I don't think anyone believes that killing civilians is O.K. - what Josh said though is technically correct. The bombs ended the war. Japan had 5,000 planes and 3,000,000 soldiers who would rather have died "honorably" than accept defeat. It would have been a knock down, drag out fight with many more casualties. That is not equal to saying that using nukes is A-Okay - clearly in hindsight we all know that using nukes is awful - but rather it is a line of reasoning that says if those nukes had not been dropped we would have seen many more deaths. We very well may have killed multiples of that number, and they may likely have done the same. There is a distinction (very hard to articulate, and very hard to understand) between excusing the use of nukes and offering a plausible alternative account of history. I really feel like you went too far in attacking Josh without trying to figure out the point he was trying to make - and I blame Josh for using language that is basically a written invitation for that kind of reaction (I was always better at articulating this shit).

There was one word in your post that stood out for me though, and I want to elaborate on it a bit. Some people don't have the stomach to embrace what I'm about to say, because it sounds preachy and perhaps too philosophical, but I believe so firmly that it is relevant to this and countless other topics. Compassion is a word that is often spoken, but rarely practiced or exercised in reality. It is so difficult for us as humans to be truly compassionate because it requires us to remove every barrier between ourselves and others which are literally pounded into our brains since birth. Instead we practice what I call "conditional compassion" - people believe in being compassionate sometimes, and not compassionate other times - with the barriers being race, gender, religion, sexuality, political affiation, you fill in the blank. I know many people who feel compassion for gays, but yet feel no compassion for the unborn, or for muslims, or for christians or jews, so on and so forth. It's not necessary to go through all the permutations, you get the idea. It is a lack of compassion that enables war, poverty, and oppression. It is a lack of compassion that allows people to disrespect the homeless, or to treat them like they are less than human. As much as I lament the lack of compassion I believe whole heartedly that we are capable of complete and true compassion - the kind that will get us over the hump and allow us to eradicate the war, the poverty, the oppression, and other such things. I can't emphasize it enough - we are capable of being 100% compassionate, but it will take some work on everyone's part! I have come to the conclusion that more than anything else I want to strive throughout my lifetime to become a completely compassionate person. My soul won't rest without that happening. Compassion, love, and belief in the unity of the human race will save us and usher in a new age of peace and prosperity.

Jason

I need to have a shiotload of tattoos. And to lose about 30 pounds, rendering me a skeleton with skin. And to wear funky glasses and have funky hair. In the circles I run with, this clean cut look just ain't going to cut it.

Jason

(e:Matthew) - I have 3.25GB of Jazz. I'll try to catalogue it.

Jason

Here's what I had to say to some jerk who is anti-gay and started using the Bible to justify his bigoted view of homosexuals.

Some of you people subscribe to the Jerry Falwell definition of what it means to be a Christian - but what is so amusing about these types is that they cling to the literal word so tightly on some occasions, and then ignore the literal word on other occasions. Hypocrites, all of them. If you believe in strictly interpreting Leviticus, then you also believe in condemning to death anyone who curses the name of the Lord. You would also wash your body and clothes before you sit anywhere your menstruating wife has sat, and also many other things. Do you do all these things as instructed in Leviticus? If not then by your own definition you are not worthy to be called Christian. Don't question my faith, look inward, read the teachings of Jesus and understand that if you condemn homosexuals or anybody else like you do, you will have a very difficult time finding the pearly gates. Worry about your own soul.

Listen, we don't use the Holy Bible as THE basis for our law, and the Christian right has to come to grips with it. There is nothing wrong, unconstitutional, or more importantly anti-Christian about letting homosexual couples have a civil union contract that gives them all of the same legal protections, benefits and such that straight married couples have. You can protect marriage and be for civil unions. Do you believe everyone in America should be equal in the eyes of the law? Isn't that the way that it's supposed to be? There are homosexual couples raising kids all over the USA and the reality of that situation renders inadequate far-right definitions of family. These people ARE families and the law should not discriminate against those families in a society where everyone is supposed to be equal under the law.

Comments?

Jason

I finally have a country to call my own!

The People's Republic of Weeniedom

Motto: "We'll take that income! Cha-ching!"
UN Category: Left-wing Utopia
Civil Rights: Superb
Political Freedoms: Superb
Economy: Basket Case
Location: the West Pacific

The People's Republic of Weeniedom is a tiny, environmentally stunning nation, remarkable for its strong anti-business politics. Its compassionate, intelligent population of 5 million are free to do what they want with their own bodies, and vote for whoever they like in elections; if they go into business, however, they are regulated to within an inch of their lives.

It is difficult to tell where the omnipresent, corrupt, liberal, socially-minded government stops and the rest of society begins, but it devotes most of its attentions to Social Welfare, with areas such as Law & Order and Religion & Spirituality receiving almost no funds by comparison. The average income tax rate is 64%, and even higher for the wealthy. The private sector is almost wholly made up of enterprising fourteen-year-old boys selling lemonade on the sidewalk, although the government is looking at stamping this out.

Crime is totally unknown. Weeniedom's national animal is the turtle, which frolics freely in the nation's many lush forests, and its currency is the credit.