Category: the ex
05/15/06 10:55 - ID#23852
glutton for punishment?
oh, when will I learn...
After seeing my ex last week, I was feeling charitable. Thinking maybe he's not really an ass. I came to the conclusion that he's just not the boyfriend type. He means well, but he just doesn't know how to treat a girl. Too selfish. Maybe it's not his fault, maybe I was too demanding, blah blah.
So this afternoon we had the following (unsolicited) email conversation:
"hey apple geek... you have any free time to help me with my ipod?"
"sure, what's up?"
"so are you free all day?"
"well I have to go to the airport at 3:30, and hopefully I can pick up my bike. But other than that..."
"ok, well I have lax til 7, so I'll give you a call."
"ok".
So I went and did my errands. [bike was ready- yay! rain rain go away!!] But I did change my plans and skip a few things I'd wanted to do in order to be home by 7:30 or so. Because that's how I am. It makes me happy to help people out.
It's 10:45 now.
No word.
I'm going to bed.
I controlled the urge to text him (also I've finally forgotten his number). But I couldn't resist one little email. I just responded to the "i'll call you" one, with "sure you will."
That is maybe my number 1 pet peeve in the world- when people say they will call/write/etc, and then don't. (and he knows this.) Am I alone in this? Is that unreasonable of me to be annoyed?
I'm sure he went out for beers after practice or whatever. No big deal.
I mean, it's no skin off my back to NOT help him tonight. But at the same time, I did change my plans for him. And he left me hanging. again. Some things never change.
And the killer is... if I say anything to him, he will snap right back at me with "we didn't have PLANS. I didn't ASK you to change your plans for me, so you can't be mad at me."
repeat ad infinitum.
Yup, better off without him.
Good to realize this, b/c I was almost starting to miss him.
night peeps.
-a
After seeing my ex last week, I was feeling charitable. Thinking maybe he's not really an ass. I came to the conclusion that he's just not the boyfriend type. He means well, but he just doesn't know how to treat a girl. Too selfish. Maybe it's not his fault, maybe I was too demanding, blah blah.
So this afternoon we had the following (unsolicited) email conversation:
"hey apple geek... you have any free time to help me with my ipod?"
"sure, what's up?"
"so are you free all day?"
"well I have to go to the airport at 3:30, and hopefully I can pick up my bike. But other than that..."
"ok, well I have lax til 7, so I'll give you a call."
"ok".
So I went and did my errands. [bike was ready- yay! rain rain go away!!] But I did change my plans and skip a few things I'd wanted to do in order to be home by 7:30 or so. Because that's how I am. It makes me happy to help people out.
It's 10:45 now.
No word.
I'm going to bed.
I controlled the urge to text him (also I've finally forgotten his number). But I couldn't resist one little email. I just responded to the "i'll call you" one, with "sure you will."
That is maybe my number 1 pet peeve in the world- when people say they will call/write/etc, and then don't. (and he knows this.) Am I alone in this? Is that unreasonable of me to be annoyed?
I'm sure he went out for beers after practice or whatever. No big deal.
I mean, it's no skin off my back to NOT help him tonight. But at the same time, I did change my plans for him. And he left me hanging. again. Some things never change.
And the killer is... if I say anything to him, he will snap right back at me with "we didn't have PLANS. I didn't ASK you to change your plans for me, so you can't be mad at me."
repeat ad infinitum.
Yup, better off without him.
Good to realize this, b/c I was almost starting to miss him.
night peeps.
-a
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Oh... i have a similar story recently, if you will pardon my self indulgence.
Last Wednesday, i was outside doing yard work and a neighbor came by and asked if i would cut hers and her daughter's hair. They have been hinting around it for a while, so i wasn't surprised. I said yes. She said "how about Thursday?" and i said ok. That i would be home anyway, and i planned on catching up on laundry that day. She tells me when the daughter is off school, so i make sure i am ready at about that time. An hour goes by. Another. I make dinner. We eat. Uncut takes out the trash and sees said neighbour getting out of her car. Mentions that we were expecting her... or at least i was. She said something about it being such a nice day out, she didn't want to waste it indoors. WTF?? I am willing to give her and her 14 year old daughter a free or very cheap haircut and she doesn't even bother to give me a call to cancel??? Uncut said i may have been too casual about my time... that i said i would be home anyway. And i agree with him... up to a point. I also think i wouldn't matter what i was doing or not doing. It's really just a matter of respect for me.
I assume you feel the same kinda thing?