"Jonas Brothers and...Do you have kids?" written by Lauren on estrip.org

03/15/09 10:39 - 38ºF - ID#48058

Jonas Brothers and...Do you have kids?

I went to see the Jonas Brothers Special Event Concert whatever in 3D yesterday. Holy hell...15 bucks PER PERSON. One for me and one for my TEN YEAR OLD! Are you serious. I kept the glasses. Screw them.

In other news...I am desperately searching for FREE and or CHEAP places to take my kids...ie. places to hike, places to ummm...I dunno.
I am not good at this...I don't have kids. What do you do with them?

Looking particularly in Lackawanna, Hamburg, West Seneca area and Tonawanda. The suggestion box is now open...who knows, yours might be a winner!

Finally, Felly and I will be heading out to the parade today so we are looking forward to seeing folks!

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03/08/09 01:55 - 38ºF - ID#47987

Posty Post

I'm not quite sure why I'm posting right now...but hey, why not?

I guess I will go ahead and give ye olde college try at the post I've been thinking about posting. Post haste? Posty post.

The comments I received about Octo-mom were what I expected, to say the least. I believe it was (e:jason) who told me that my gut was telling me that I agreed with the comments, and the truth, he is right. And that is the subject that I want to deal with...

I believe that our "guts"..intuition, instinct, whathaveyou, are culturally and socially shaped and manipulated and that often enough, those values that inform our guts are products not of our own making, but reflect and in turn shape the culture that we live in. This is, on a side note, one of my issues with liberalism and individualism that this country was supposedly founded on. I could go off here on about identity politics and the like, but I will refrain.

Yes, my gut tells me that octo-mom is irresponsible. My gut also tells me that I should be afraid of poor neighborhoods were mostly people of color live because they have been labeled "ghettos," places of violence and poverty. My gut tells me to cringe when homeless people come up to me and ask if I cans or bottles or change. My gut tells me that the cranky woman behind the counter at wilson's farms is a rude bitch who needs to effin relax. My gut tells me that my girlfriend never notices that I scoop the kitty litter every day. My gut tells me to tell one of my client's mom that she is fat and lazy and needs to get up off the couch and clean her damn house. When I was young my gut told me that abortion was terrible, until I thought I was pregnant at 15.

So you see, my point is, that if we followed our guts and refused to step back from the situation, we wouldn't get anywhere.

Felly and I were driving home from...somewhere and decided to follow the map via the straightest route, which ended up taking us through a poor part of the city. I felt scared but then began to ask myself, why do I feel this way? What must it be like to live here, to grow up here? How does my skin color, the place where I grew up and now live shape my feelings about this place?

I once had a man come up to me carrying empty bottles who was obviously drunk. I was totally grossed out and wanted to get away from him, but then he said, in reference to Ralphie, " I always wanted a dog." How nice I thought, sarcastically, and then he continued, "I always wanted a dog and mother." Who knows what this guy went through to get there in front of my house carrying empty forty bottles. How lucky am I?

My example could go on, but I don't think they are necessary.

My point is that we have been conditioned to believe that what we "feel" in our guts is our own, is instinctual, natural, objective. But what we fail to remember is that we all come from somewhere. I grew up in a middle class home where my parents were and still are married. That home was in a 99% white, middle class farming community in "upstate" NY. New York is located on the eastern coast of the United States and all of these and more have brainwashed me in some way or another. The amount of possibilities of ways of looking at and living in this world are almost infinite and to think that something is absolute because our guts tell us that something is wrong will get us nowhere.

I guess here is the point where I should be prepared for backlash. I know I am often on here spouting what I think is right and wrong, what my values and morals are. I don't want to put out there that one shouldn't have values, because obviously I do, we all do in some way or another. I guess what I'm calling for is a more rounded, more obtuse approach to passing judgment and making claims of morality. I think that if we could all open up just a little bit more, to see the possibilities of why things are, how they came to be, what they may or may not mean, we might be able to move forward a bit.

tinypliny writes at 05:41:57 03/15/09 - Comment #46487: Did you know that humans are the only species in the whole of the animal kingdom who would get into a confined space with another of their species that they really, truly and instinctually fear?

jason writes at 12:25:08 03/10/09 - Comment #46285: Well, it certainly wasn't my intention to make you question yourself, although it's always healthy to do so. I just felt that in the Octo-mom case that, especially sticking to the facts, your gut was right.

dcoffee writes at 05:25:51 03/08/09 - Comment #46254: excellent stuff, I totally enjoyed reading that. Great examples too, puts things in perspective.

drew writes at 05:10:03 03/08/09 - Comment #46253: You are right--our guts are often wrong.

metalpeter writes at 03:58:11 03/08/09 - Comment #46252: Not really sure where to start to I will say this that you make some good points not that I really agree with them but I also don't really disagree with them either.

One of the best Bumper stickers I think I have ever seen said "don't believe everything you think". At first you don't think anything about it and you might even just think that the word think is the same as read. Then later you think that you should question your ideas and thoughts and morals. But it could even mean more to look at what you think and examine your own bullshit. It could also mean that when we do something we think it is right, but just really think about it. If someone wanted to they could think about what that means and really examine their life or just every day when you think about something try to see it from the other persons perspective. Or maybe it is just a stupid saying. That saying though seems to fit with your view though.

But here is why I kinda don't agree with what you are saying. Yes it is good to question what our gut is telling us. But the thing is our gut tells us something for a reason. I would say the reason is to protect us, but that might not be true but in some it is. Granted you can get attacked, robed, car broken into any place really. But I'm guessing the chances are much higher in a poor neighboorhood. I'm not picking on the poor and saying that steal and attack people. What I'm saying is that people who do that are more likely to live or stay in the bad parts of town.

On a side note being scared does you know good. In fact it is bad for you. Believe it or not some people can read it and it can make things worse. Believe me I know, and I'll leave it at that. What you should be is prepared and quick on your feet. I'm not saying if someone pulls a Knife you should know how kick them in a way that sends the hand with the knife into their own throat but that would be kinda cool. What I mean is that you need to know how to watch what is going on and how to be safe in places that maybe aren't. Like say you are at a food festival don't let those people give you those little papers, HA.

I think that there are many different cultures and some cultures in any city,state,county or country no matter on what level you look. Different cultures often hold different value systems. I'm not saying there values are any better or any worse. But what is important to remember as you say is not Judge people because of those differences. I don't judge them in a they are a sinner kind of way. I try not to Judge them. But that is so tough when you see things that make you want to Judge them.I wish I had a good example. I also think that you should know they Judge us also.

heidi writes at 03:42:13 03/08/09 - Comment #46251: Beautifully said, (e:Lauren). Thank you!

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03/03/09 09:47 - 12ºF - ID#47932

Cooking By The Book

Warning: Contains offensive language!

If you can ignore that misogynist bs that is spewing out of Lil John's mouth, this is actually quite catchy.

Also, I read all the comments from the previous post. I have been formulating a post about political morality vs. gut feelings/reactions, but it's not ready yet.

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03/01/09 05:21 - 23ºF - ID#47917

Computer HELP!

Sigh...ok, so for my job I have to do notes via the computer... but every time I log into the website I get this:

ERROR:
Cannot locate proxy which supports Remote Scripting.
Was RSEnableRemoteScripting method evoked?

I installed Java and enabled it in a bunch of places but no luck. Every site I look at it is in developer language that I don't speak, let alone understand.

Oh...and that is the message I get when I use Internet Explorer. I can't even get to that page when I use Mozilla.

Por Favor...

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02/25/09 10:41 - 25ºF - ID#47883

Reproductive Rights

Reproductive Rights means more than having the ability to have the option of abortion...it also means that women have the right to HAVE children. The key word here is CHOICE. This is a tricky commentary I've been struggling with over the last few days...but I will do my best.

By now you should have at least heard of the "Octuplet Mom" that is all over the damn tabloids and news stations.

She is getting all kinds of flack...including something the other day about a gun. I dunno. It's tempting, don't get me wrong, to think, what the hell is she doing? She already had a bunch of kids, she has no husband and no job and now she's got eight infants on her hands. Who will support these kids, America wonders. We will! That's what's going on in most people's minds I imagine.

Before I get into this...I want to remind those of you who don't watch TV, or at least not quality programming such as these shows...that there are many, many women who have tons...yes, TONS of kids... and who are not getting half...or any of the negative responses that Octuplet Mom is getting. For example:

John and Kate plus Eight have their own show on TLC...and the only reason they have their own show is because they have EIGHT kids. The show chronicles the trials and tribulations of raising such a large family and there is always commentary by John and Kate where they are all made up and sitting in chairs alone looking calm and relaxed. The picture of a happy, heterosexual, married couple who just happen to have kids.

Then there is this show with the Dungar Family:

They have, I believe, 18 or 19 kids! They are of some religion where you can't use birth control, obviously. They home school all their children and have a real estate business to provide for the little fundamentalist army they have spawned. Once again, happy heterosexual couples who are married and ready to keep producing, and America is ready to keep watching in awe. Maybe a little disgust, but once again, not half the flack that the single Octuplet mom is receiving...

Sigh.

The point here is not to say that John and Kate Plus Eight or The Dungar Family should be getting more negative attention for reproducing as much as they are, but really looking at why Octuplet Mom IS getting so much. We approve of certain women reproducing, and that approval seems to have no bounds when it comes to how many that particular woman can reproduce. She must be married, obviously, to a man who can support her babies for her, and she must be at least middle class or higher. Preferably she should be white...although I guess if she meets enough of the other criteria that would prevent her from being labeled a "welfare queen," then we might let that one slip.

May I remind my dear readers that women, women of color, immigrant women, poor women of color especially, disabled women, and mentally ill women were STERILIZED against their will in this country. Why? Who decides?

Women's reproductive abilities have long long long been used against us. Whether we were having too many babies or not enough, whether they were white babies or light skinned babies or healthy babies or boy babies or whatever the hell men wanted at the time.

So basically, what I am trying to say is this. I understand the temptations. I fight with it myself sometimes. the almost instinctual judgment wells up and we say, you shouldn't have babies that you can't take care of. It seems so simple. But it is not. We are talking about a long and complicated history of women's bodies being used as a tool to manipulate, abuse, coerce, and blame women. And history is not some giant in the hillside that no longer haunts the villagers.

gardenmama writes at 05:34:15 02/26/09 - Comment #45963: I feel a little sorry for this woman that she has this empty space she keeps trying to fill with children who will likely end up with the same empty space because there won't be enough of mom to go around. That being said - rights come with responsibilities and part of being not necessarily even a good parent, but at least a somewhat effective parent is taking care of your children. She doesn't seem to have the finanacial means or the physical means she'll need to provide for all these children. It's sad for them all.

theli writes at 08:23:49 02/25/09 - Comment #45942: The answer is that they can't take care of the kids. But that's the whole point. Any civilized society will likely have social services that will then take the kids away from the irresponsible mother.

The kids suffer, of course. There may be some good foster homes. But the system as a whole tends to be overburdened. And as for the woman...if she cares that little about the well being of her children, then she probably doesn't care that they'll be taken away.

Despicable. But, again, she in some way "wins", assuming that a significant goal in life is to continue your line. You can't blame the children for having an irresponsible mother. So the line will not sustain a punishment worthy of whatever crime someone might think has been committed.

I'm not arguing that the line should be punished, of course. But the issue is definitely more complicated than most give it credit.

Personally, I think society might benefit from there being somewhat less emphasis on this "family line" or genetic imperative. Not having children is selfish in its own way, but then again...

metalpeter writes at 07:16:01 02/25/09 - Comment #45940: Well you make some good points but.....

Here is the thing how can one women by herself take care of 6 kids on her own. I don't mean money wise I just mean take care of them and be a decent mother one is tough enough. For anyone with kids or who knows anyone think about how much work one baby is, now you have to take care of 8.

I think she may be a "welfare mother". Yes there are single moms out there, but that isn't what I'm talking about. You have women who have a kid young and get on the system. Then to get more money they wind up having another kid by a different father (that is how they play the system) oh don't get me wrong I'm sure they have lots of fun sex nothing wrong with that along the way.

But see this brings up a bigger question what about the rights of the kid. Kids, babies and the unborn do have rights. That is why most states make late term abortions illegal. At that point the fetus is a alive and has rights. If someone ever wanted to end abortions that would be the way to do it. A living fetus has just as much right to live as a women has to control her body so who wins.....?

I don't think it is fair for the kids there life is going to suck, assuming they even live. How can you have 7 sibelings your own age and have any kind of life. I would say even with two parents with two good jobs the kids would suffer. Is it still better then being a foster kid? Well Maybe but not sure. What about the Kids rights. Why does a kid have to wear dirty clothes and be mocked at school for being the dirty kid? Or maybe mom can get nice clothes and the kid can starve and pass out in class and be the dump kid. What about the kids rights?

theli writes at 06:06:46 02/25/09 - Comment #45937

Ahh, hahah... I have way too much to say about this. So I'll *try* to keep it short.

This woman is a thought experiment come to life. It brings up the question of what exactly society "should" value and what we really feel is fair play. And how much we truly respect wealth in this society, over pretty much any other aspect of life.

If "genetic survival", if the family line, is meant to be important in one's life, then how could you fault what this woman has done? From where she was, there is no possible way she could obtain the resources necessary to gain an edge in that survival game. When you're born poor, when you live in poor environments, it is INCREDIBLY difficult to pull yourself out of that.

So... She found a way to out-maneuver society's rules and, perhaps coincidentally, actually recieved a "survival edge". I can only laugh at the ridiculousness of it all. Though I can't help but pity the children.

But then...that's just because I can only see smaller families as preferable, somewhat due to personal experience.

As to the question of reproductive rights... This woman is a fringe case. With any question of rights, there will always be fringe cases. Especially ones which you find disgusting or are offended by.

For those that find the one-child per family law within China despicable, well... Legislation will always have its peril. You attempt to curtail something like this and someone WILL suffer. And, almost certainly, that will be the children, whether or not the progenitor(s) suffer any harm as well.

If that's ok with you just to take out some vengeance on people like her, and by extension people NOT like her but who end up in similar situations despite it, then I suppose making some nice restrictive laws will be your next logical step.

looks down* The hell...who put a soapbox here? Crap. Sorry guys.

heidi writes at 05:08:49 02/25/09 - Comment #45935: Just cuz it seems appropriate for me to add the legal aspect...

Buck v. Bell (1927) :::link::: is the Supreme Court case that upheld Virginia's forced sterilization statute. The rest of the quickly updated their forced sterilization statutes or implemented new ones. Buck v. Bell legitimized the eugenics movement in the United States. The last forced sterilization in the US was in 1981 in Oregon although the bulk of it was done before the mid-60s. :::link:::

libertad writes at 04:09:44 02/25/09 - Comment #45929: I'm definitely not for forced sterilization or abortions but this case here is completely irresponsible. I agree with just about all the other comments.

People need to start taking in consideration whether they can properly raise the children they bring into this world. In my opinion, people should be pressured more to limit children to what they can emotionally and financially handle. Pressure in the form of counseling and subsidized sterilization offered to some women and men or birth control when wanted. I believe this counseling can be done in hospitals and should certainly have ethical guidelines that are not based on religion.

I believe the doctor who assisted this woman in having these children acted unethically. Nadya was was able to do what she wanted here but will have to face the public condemnation for her selfish actions.

joshua writes at 02:35:04 02/25/09 - Comment #45925: Hmm - I lost my long post too! Suffice it to say she's irresponsible and crazy, and will cost taxpayers millions of dollars for no other reason than to satisfy some maternal urge to have 14 kids with no plausible way to actually care for them. Way too many points on this woman to illustrate that point clearly. Women like her should not be glorified or defended - there is absolutely nothing honorable or decent in what she's done. In other words, people are absolutely, 100% right to criticize her. Wealth only matters to the extent that you can actually provide the means to care for your kids, and race is absolutely irrelevant. In this country there are thousands of minority families with large numbers of kids, who DO responsibly look after their kids. I'm sorry to say it, but what she's done is an absolute outrage and I pity the taxpayers of California. The wrongness of this whole thing is self-evident.

jason writes at 02:31:12 02/25/09 - Comment #45923: I think a value judgment in this case is entirely appropriate. And, (e:Lauren), I sense your gut is telling you this is correct as well. Don't fight it. Whatever race she is is irrelevant when you ask the following questions:

1) How is she paying for IVF?
2) Who is going to pony up the $5M for this year?
3) Who is going to bear the ongoing costs?

And I've got more questions like, "Why is her crazy ass on TV arguing with her mom about fertility?" and "Why is she telling Ann Curry she's having these kids to fill an emotional childhood void?"

The simple fact is that we don't limit how many children a woman is allowed to bear. In this sense nobody's reproductive rights are threatened.

What is objectionable, and tax payers have a right to throw a shit fit about it, is that this woman is gaming the system, taking advantage of everyone else, flipping them the bird and the whole while behaving as if she's entitled to it. No sister, you're not.

If the other couples were in similar circumstances, you could make a similar value judgment. We know enough about Nadya to understand this situation is much different than a situation where people are being responsible.

Because really, what she did was irresponsible, a Dali portrait of motherhood - bankrupting your parents, forcing your neighbors to pay millions and millions over time for them and for her, as well as setting up these poor kids for what is going to be a very difficult, tough, poverty riddled life.

Yeah, the kids - what usually gets lost in the argument of whether their mother has a right to dilate and extract them, or the right to have the public be their daddy, is what is right for the kids? They might as well be set props. The Ann Curry interview was creepy, really creepy and revealing. It's all about Nadya, and all about fulfilling her own needs. No, I don't support that, and yes it should be judged harshly.

theecarey writes at 02:08:32 02/25/09 - Comment #45919: "We are talking about a long and complicated history of women's bodies being used as a tool to manipulate, abuse, coerce, and blame women." I get what you are saying and there is certainly a bigger picture to consider. I struggle with these very thoughts. Often I stop myself and try to see varying perspectives, but of course I am limited by my own experience, knowledge, bias, etc. So in my judgmental and pervasive view, regardless of race, religion, marital status, etc, a person who decides to continually reproduce with no means to financially support the family is placing an unfair burden on not only society at large, but their support network, if they have one- friends, family, community and ultimately on those children. The issue (for me, and many) is that she has six kids already, and decided on more. If she were single and financially (and mentally) capable, I'd likely think, 'go for it'. But I have to wonder what is going on in her mind/life that prompted her to seek out having more, doctor assisted?
I don't know John and Kates financial situation, but they seem to be in a much better position to provide (and they started with two, then had the six, not six then eight!) Definitely NOT my thing. :)

Good stuff to think about though; thanks for the multi-dimensional thought provokers!

drew writes at 01:53:02 02/25/09 - Comment #45918: Also relevant is the fact that it took a medical intervention to make these 8 children possible. While I would never take away a person's ability to reproduce, I am not sure I want to help somebody put themselves in a situation that they cannot handle. I don't think ANYBODY, rich, poor, or whatever, should be assisted in having octoplets. I also would not permit a person to simultaneously adopt 8 children.

Yes, I am making a a value judgment, but I do believe that society owes it to the children.

Take the right to bear arms. Not necessarily the most helpful right (imho) but there in the constitution nonetheless. So I won't begrudge the person who decides to buy a gun. But do I want my tax dollars to buy one for the one who can't afford one? NOPE!

If this woman can make 8 babies on her own, that's her choice. But that doesn't mean that anybody has to assist her in getting there.

janelle writes at 12:58:00 02/25/09 - Comment #45912: Damn. I wrote a really long post and then my computer shut down!

Anyway, I want to preface my statement with, I have no strong opinion on this woman with the 8 kids.

But here are somethings I think we should consider when understanding the public outrage. Time and place provides important context to this situation. She made this decision in the state of California while the state government was experiencing a serious financial crisis. Undoubtedly there will be people who are going to respond with outrage that the state can't meet its financial obligations, but is going to be providing welfare benefits to a woman who chose to have 8 kids. Talk show hosts are going to tap into that sense of outrage to increase their ratings and beat the story to death. Might have been a little bit different if it was a different time and place.

BTW, the Duggars have had their share of internet critics. People have said some awful things about the Duggars and about their religion.

American culture values self sufficiency so it makes sense that people would respond a little more negatively to a single woman who is having difficulty supporting herself, let alone her large family, versus the Duggars who generally are financially sound (the Duggars have had things donated to them, but again, donations are different than welfare).

I also think there are some ethical questions at play regarding carrying eight babies to term at the same time versus one by one like the Duggars. But that's a side topic, I suppose.

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02/22/09 12:27 - 25ºF - ID#47856

UnbeWEAVEable!

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02/17/09 03:57 - 32ºF - ID#47783

Pishaw

Felly and I spent Valentines snuggled on the couch in our PJ's...cause that's how we roll. Not that I'm not into V-Day...just that I'm not that into it that I put crazy amounts of stock in it and get all worked up about it being perfect. I was hungover, and she was more hungover. We had frozen pizza for dinner. Tell me that's not romance.

I took Ralphie for a walk today...his first walk in a VERY long time. Maybe I'm a bad mommy, but he hates the cold too, so we haven't gone since maybe October. It was nice today though and made me want nothing more than to go outside in a tank top and flip flops and be comfortable. That to me is nice.

Oh yes and I got fingerprinted today! I was quite impressed with fingerprinting technology...I don't know what I was expecting... ink and paper? But that's some fancy stuff they got there.

Oh right...speaking of...I had to go and privatize my facebook and my myspace cause...well, its best I spose. I never really had anything to hide before...not that I really do now, but for my own safety and well being I guess its the right thing...you can still find me on estrip, but hopefully there isn't anything too damaging on here :)

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02/12/09 12:26 - 36ºF - ID#47729

mm. sleep. good.

i slept till 930 today and it was amazing. I did wake up around 530 but happily went back to sleep.

I have been waking up at 530 for the last three days in a row for my training, which is thankfully now over. the training was pretty good... not as terribly boring as i expected it to be. they have some pretty good techniques for dealing with kids and being a "teacher"...but i can't help but wonder how three days of lectures and mini role plays can really prepare you for working one on one with kids.

i know that when it comes down to it though, you can't really prepare. its like someone explaining to you exactly how to drive a car. it doesn't really click until you get there and do it yourself...and do it awhile before you are good at that. i also think that there is much that i can learn from kids...just like i hope they will learn from me. its all about the process i suppose

anyway, I am now a certified Direct Care Worker in the Wraparound program for Erie Country. I know how to deflect the punch of a cute little lady who was my partner for that exercise, and the correct steps of "preventative teaching," and crisis intervention. we shall see about that.

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02/04/09 12:19 - 16ºF - ID#47634

25 things...might as well.

1. I am not sure if I am doing this right...

2. When I was in high school I was in the band, orchestra, marching band, pep band and chorus. I also played the hand bells at church. Now I don't play anything.

3. I went to SUNY New Paltz to major in theater. I came out with a degree in Women's Studies.

4. I am currently writing my Master's Thesis.

5. I was born in Oklahoma and haven't been there in over 10 years even though I have tons of family there. I want to go back but I am afraid that they will judge me.

6. I am obsessed with black women's fiction.

7. I just got my first "real" job...at 25.

8. I am out to my parents...and they love my girlfriend.

9. I hate the cold, but I love to ski.

10. I got "best eyes" my senior year of high school.

11. I miss my New Paltz friends sometimes...and I miss New Paltz in general.

12. Cleaning makes me feel happy and accomplished.

13. I believe in ghosts, but I don't know if I believe in an afterlife. Explain that one.

14. I hate being the center of attention, but I crave the spotlight.

15. I am a hoarder. I keep everything. Notes from high school. New Kids on the Block collector cards. Trolls. I have them all.

16. My older brother lives in Seattle. I am extremely proud and jealous of him. My younger brother still lives at home and I'm not sure if he will ever really know how much I worry about him. I am the middle child and only girl.

17. My mom told me that my dad thinks I "walk on water".

18. I used to suck my thumb. I used to bite my nails. I used to chew on my hair. Now I smoke cigarettes, even though I think they are gross. I am a nervous person.

19. I am nostalgic about the past. I can't quite seem to connect all the parts of me.

20. I have never had a one night stand.

21. I hate shopping, but I love getting new clothes.

22. If I could, I would wear tank tops all year.

23. I have to get fingerprinted next week.

24. I managed to get through all my stupidities without ever being arrested. I am good at not getting caught and playing the part of good girl.

25. I want a baby someday....

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02/04/09 11:03 - 15ºF - ID#47630

Job Desciptions and the like

My new job titles are "Individual Service Specialist" and " Respite Care Provider II".

ISS
"Provides in-home/community skill building to individuals with Mental Health Diagnoses.

RII
"Provides in-home respite care to individuals ages five through seventeen with a MHD.

This is the very very very basic descriptions of my jobs. Yesterday I spent 45 minutes reading and signing my life away. They now have access to my SS#, my bank account, my drivers license and my gf's name. They know every address I've lived at since I was two years old and chances are they watch me when I pee.

Just kidding...a little.

Both of my job titles came with three page long descriptions of duties, requirements, qualifications, etc. It's enough to intimidate someone. My mother is a "keyboard specialist" for Broome County Developmental which is a state run agency and she is basically a paper sorter. She goes on and on about how much useless and unnecessary paperwork there is for every single thing that every single client has ever done since they were out of the womb. My mother often rewrites her superiors work so that their wording fits the guidelines of what the state finds acceptable in their paperwork. My mom's a smart lady. She got a 100 on the civil service exam. But she doesn't believe in evolution. Go figure.

Sigh. And so it goes....