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Meh

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Last night after reading my post and responses e:felly told me that i came off sounding condescending and...bitchy. really, that is the farthest from my intent..and i had it all up in my head that i wasn't "that" way, but apparently that's not the case.

i do however think that some of my points are being misread. Like I said...I was not talking about individuals and was certainly not attacking anyone, or rather, that was not my intention...Remember, I go to school all day and hear all kinds of shit. So when I write something it is the culmination of a day or a week or a book or whatever. I do however get that I used examples from people's journals on here... but that was for effect rather than being the point of the argument. I apologize for singling people out.
I am not saying that I am the almighty or that I have all the answers either. If I could I would take all the periods out to assure you that my words are not end points, or "final answers" but ideas in progress... And for the record, I don't consider myself a liberal. I think liberalism is a bunch of bs just as much as "democracy" is in this country. but i will be out there voting just like i hope the rest of you will.

and @paul, I think that if you read my post you would see that we were on the same page. I said, "Perhaps what they should say is that they are surprised that someone said it IN PUBLIC." Again, just because I used you as an example does not mean that I was attacking you or talking to or about you. Note, I said "who the hell do WE think we are". Not you, them, they... we.




Maybe I need to step back a minute because I really need to make clear that this is not about one on one nonsense. The entire point of my post was to say that our SOCIETY/culture/system allows for and perpetuates this type of thing, not that individual human beings are at fault for the sake of pointing fingers. I don't think that bickering or in fighting gets anyone anywhere.

Honestly, I hate the internet...hate it because I can't' ever properly express emotion via emoticons and bold letters. The sound of my "voice" is read however the reader wants to "hear" it so you can't see that I'm not standing up on a soapbox with a megaphone screaming in your face, but rather, I am dealing with my own shit, working through things and trying to understand and maybe trying to share my ideas with other people. Share, not shove down your throat.


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💬 5 comments

  1. james ·

    well, we will just have to settle this like civilized people in a jello wrestling match at the halloween party.
  2. paul ·

    It is very difficult to give a tone to writing on the internet which does lead to misunderstanding. Its probably good practive for writing books though ;) I do not think you should stop writing about your feelings on the issues, but rather you should just write about them more. The more you write the better you will get at judging how your writing comes across. Sadly, even after 3000+ journals I am still not that good at it.

    To me it was definately this paragraph. If you had continued with the we perspective it would have read totally different:

    "I am so sick of good intending white people talking about how 'surprised' they were when they overheard this or that explicitly racist or sexist or homophobic remark. Perhaps what they should say is that they are surprised that someone said it IN PUBLIC."

    By using they instead of we in this case, it puts your in the category along with the good intentioned white people, instead of putting you somewhere else, which lead me to perceive you thought you were judging from outside the scenario.
  3. jim ·

    Tangentially related: :::link:::
  4. theecarey ·

    Our true 'voice' is a challenge, as you said, it is the readers interpretation (and we interpret based on our experiences etc). If things are misinterpreted then we have the chance/opportunity to re explain, ask questions, open a dialogue. Given what you have written in the past, I think if you were targeting anyone you would have said their names. If you had a specific issue with someone you would have named them specifically. I get that you were taking in and processing peoples thoughts (specific and in general) but that your rant output wasn't an attack- more of a springboard. For what its worth, in this case, I simply 'get it'.

    Keep writing!


  5. metalpeter ·

    I will admit that when I read it, it didn't sound condescending or bitchy to me. I also want to add that it did seem to be written about certain people as opposed to the system. I think that once that was clarified that made things better. Yes writing in voice is tough. Once someone knows you better and knows how you talk they can kinda get a sense of what you mean more. If you are around someone enough when you read there blog you will hear it in their actual voice, that happened to me for a couple months with someones blog, it was interesting. I used to have favorite blogs and I really don't anymore but yours are all ways interesting or at least they are a lot of the time so keep it up, and keep things interesting.

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