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Why I'll Never Get Married

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And people suggest that allowing gay people to marry somehow mucks up the "institution." I think that hetero couples have ruined the institution plenty well on their own.



I seriously want no part of it.
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  1. janelle ·

    You reject marriage because it's in a state of disarray or because you think it's impossible to have a (self-defined)successful marriage where both partners are faithful?

    I love marriage (of course we're only 2.5 years into it), but so far, I really do love it. I recommend it to my friends. Corny, I know, but I do. I know there are bad marriages out there, my parent's marriage has had its problems. And I knew I never wanted my parents marriage and I set out to not have my parents marriage but something better.

    I think that you can reject all the negatives that you see in the media and even in life and have a marriage better than any you've seen.

    And who knows how wide spread this website thing really is, media loves to sensationalize, right? So how representative is it of the average American household?

  2. jason ·

    Yes, and Heather Mills is getting away with $100M of Sir Paul's money. Ouch!

  3. joshua ·

    Well, when we live in a society where 50-60% of marriages fail... yeah, I'm very skeptical. I don't think it would the best service for me to put on rose-colored glasses and pretend that marriage isn't as temporary as it ever was.

    This isn't the first time, or the second even, that I've heard of websites like this. Its really sad.

    I suppose I could be accused of having trust issues - so be it. That doesn't bother me a bit. It would take an act of God to get me to reconsider.

    Granted though, to your point, I think its possible to beat the odds, find a good partner and never have to worry about the statistics. All of my married friends seem to be in good relationships and I think I'd be genuinely surprised if one of them got divorced. I'm happy for them but I want no part of it, and the adulterous aspect of things is only one element of my views on marriage.

  4. james ·

    The institution of marriage works for some people. But for so many people it is ridiculous. I mean, some people just aren't made for monogamy. Look at how we are built biologically. Men are capable of having sex several times a day, impregnating several women a day. Women, are built for relationship. Mate with a mate and have them help raise the pups.

    But, society thrusts it upon us. Marriage is defined in a narrow way that doesn't allow for, say, three person relationships, open relationships, same-sex-relationships, non-sexual relationships. The list goes on.

    So, I completely understand your point. Too bad the adulterers on that site have to be so sceavy.

  5. drew ·

    Right on man, marriage sucks.


    Just kidding Janelle!

  6. ladycroft ·

    you know the first time i saw one of those late night commercials i thought i had turned the channel to SNL and it was a gag. it's quite sick. i'm all for not getting married. just live together and be happy.

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