04/27/13 11:50 - ID#57584
Changing Room Analogy
The solution is not to provide a separate space of equal rights, but to eradicate the barrier that is at best inconsequential, but often harmful, and certainly an impediment to progress.
Change the language to change the mental models and behavior.
Remove the barriers to empower all with one stroke.
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04/11/13 12:47 - ID#57504
Androminion Ridiculousness (Geek Gaming Content)
Safe to say that I have beaten the game. In fairness, I took unfair advantage of the AI's unwillingness to give up and buy the final Province/Colony.
If anyone wants to guess at my game progression though, here are the end decks for each of us (trashing, sadly, is not accounted for).
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04/08/13 07:27 - ID#57489
Purity Ring
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03/02/13 06:32 - ID#57318
What to do...
Each new encounter makes me feel increasingly unable to connect. Five years, a quarter of my adult life, of being alone. Amanda was someone I loved, but as much as I resisted it I still held back because inside I knew that her little Quinn was a piece that I couldn't appreciate as much as she deserved. The growing together, exploring and challenging...I associate these with being human, and this deprivation is taking its toll.
I believe I did the right thing with Machiko. I loved her with all my heart, and still do, but I knew she would always believe that we could have a child, and I could not deny something that I knew she could achieve and thrive at. The justification for this helped me through the wretched emotions I dealt with afterwards.
But less and less do I find myself truly relating to what is happening. A disconnection with reality is something of a fear of mine, and for it to take hold of such a part of my life only amplifies its power over me.
Michaelene recently became both engaged and available to expand our friendship, which was a pretty wonderful potential to realize. Yet with all of this the barriers remain, and my understanding diminishes.
I've always been a relatively independent person, but this is not an intentional extension of that trait. There is something about waking up next to someone and saying 'what should we do today' that dramatically changes my attitude over time, in a way I very much relish. The path out of this is wholly obfuscated.
The one change I've thought of is that I need a roommate on my next move, perhaps even trying to break my lease and expedite this shift. Little things like just hanging out in the afternoon during some generally monotonous activity have a noticeable effect on my state of mind. It seems obvious that there is more that can be done but I find myself at a place of ignorance and apathy; a thoroughly suffocating combination.
I need some help, to the point that I'm not even sure what kind of help to seek. Or perhaps I just need to rant to help diminish this paralysis. I've been able to ignore this much better as of late, but I think this medium might be a good way to get this out and hopefully limit the internal distractions.
Have a good night peeps. I'm glad I stumbled into this place in the world.
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02/27/13 08:07 - ID#57297
6-Years Old and transgender
There is certainly an amount of admiration towards their openness. However, I find it ridiculous that someone so young is being identified as such. That isn't to say that the person isn't transgender; it just seems (very) premature. I would apply the same reasoning to a child identified as gay, straight, and anything else dealing with sexuality. In fact, the issue (and growing trend) of childrens toys relating to gender demonstrates this pretty well IMO:
In the same way that we say a child's sex is independent of the toys they play with, the activities and artifacts that the child uses should not be used to determine their sex.
I love that she is able to freely engage in these practices, but there is no need to neatly wrap it up in some package.
Of course, when it comes to bathroom use, that's where this breaks down, and it is of course why the 'controvery' and article came to be. It's something I'll be mulling over, along with the question of when such an identify becomes sensible and healthy (puberty being the most tempting answer, even though mental awareness is the far more important yet immeasureable factor).
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02/21/13 04:45 - ID#57273
To This Day
I've been throw into chokes and armbars while training in MMA, been jumped by kids who did not know any better, and yet it is the words I had to deal with during my time at a poverty-striken high school that caused me the most pain.
The creators made such beautiful use of different mediums and storytelling techniques, all while capturing a message that is often ripe for target by those who commit these acts. This seems different to me.
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02/05/13 10:12 - ID#57199
Street Art
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01/24/13 12:00 - ID#57168
If you owned an iPhone, Paul...
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03/15/12 10:53 - ID#56224
Tree Tent
http://www.tentsile.com/gallery.html
Obvious problems include finding trees in the right place, right spacing, and right strength to set it up (with setup being no small task itself), but seems like a step up from the last one we saw. I'm less optimistic that a better option exists than the classic ground-gear, but not less wanting.
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01/23/12 10:19 - ID#55976
Beauty and Cheering
I feel pretty confident this guy will be doing great things, of which we will probably come across again.
On a slightly related albeit completely different topic of discussion, this is one of a continuing series of performances that make me want to shush the crowd.
In western culture, particularly American, there is an urge (possibly even a responsibility) to vocally express approval of a performance while it is ongoing. While the energy in some events, such as a football game, justifies this action, there are many others where it seems to obviously detract from the performance and yet we do so anyway.
This performance was a stark example. The music is very intimate, the motions gentle, and the crowd jarring in comparison.
This happens on a lot of things that I consume these days, though perhaps that's because I've been watching so much dancing material. But, even things like mix martial arts see very different crowd responses in some parts of the world. Specifically, in Japan, they treat MMA as we treat an opera, a hush over the entire crowd, with the silence being broken only on the most spectacular and unexpected occurrences. While I couldn't argue against others cheering in this case, I personally appreciate the silence far more; I feel it expresses a deeper respect for the contest taking place, and eliminates the feel of blood-lust in the crowd (and, indirectly, the community).
I'm curious how others feel about crowd cheers and jeers.
This is actually a topic that I considered writing about during this last break before I was sidetracked. At some point I'd like to research the origins and growth of this phenomenon.
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At first I agree with this idea... That it is good if you aren't comfortable changing in front of others .....
But that is what sham wow are for :) Or Ha for those that are blessed the two pack :) lucky bastards ........
But see that might not really be healthy lets us say for example I think I have a small dick cause I can't see it from being heavy ... or man boobs or back hair or unabrow ... I don't look like the football players... so I change by my self .... and just keep feeling that way... Well I hit the showers and notice I'm not as small as I thought I'm bigger then the entire weight lifting team or what ever....
Part of any sport or athletic stuff has a social aspect to it.... Getting along with others in the locker room is part of that......
But there is another question one has to ask who is this really for... in other words is it really for the people who don't want to see the gay or transgender people in the locker room.... or the fat girls or the people they don't like ?????
Paul, why do we have group changing rooms based on sex, instead of another bifurcation? Why is this particular arrangement appropriate in general, and even desirable for you? I doubt a majority of others share your belief that the odors in men's bathrooms are preferential, and we certainly wouldn't, as a society, support dividing changing rooms for that reason.
How is a private changing room, free of qualifications, not empowering to those who do not fit the specific models that we are relying on? Keep in mind that these models are constantly and exponentially evolving. Why is moving from a group changing room to a private model something that people are "hiding in", and not merely a sensible change to an archaic model? And what is the alternative that you would propose?
The fact that people will commonly feel uncomfortable (not ashamed) for a variety of reasons is why a private changing room (and eventually rest room, etc.) makes a lot of sense for all parties, and not just those who do not clearly fit the model that we currently enforce. This includes those hot people that you believe are going to congregate into our changing room relics (a belief I don't share).
I don't understand why you believe the order of these events is ironic.
How is having a private changing room empowering? Its just basically a closet to hide in. If they were really empowered they would be unashamed of their choices. Should everyone have their own private changing space built because they feel uncomfortable. What about the weak and skinny or the fat ones, etc. In the end you'd just a changing room full of the hottest people and a line for the uglys to get into the private one.
Would you honestly feel comfortable changing in a room with girls. Even if you say yes, I am sure many of them would not feel the same. I like that they are separate and its not because I am shy as you well know. For me just the smell of beauty products and hair spray, etc would send me over the edge.
I find it extra ironic that despite adding "hen" they still have gendered nouns but are working on gender free changing rooms.