02/27/09 10:29 - 53ºF - ID#47902

tired

So I haven't been around here much. And thought I'd stop in and say hi. I showed up yesterday in a fury because ok it's a long story, but to make it short, my LJ, which maybe I link to from here, is completely anonymous. It's been at the same name for 8 years and I have probably mentioned my name and various identifying things at various points over those years-- I have been unwary at varying points of my life-- but the fact is, in and of itself, there are no identifiers on that blog. And yet it keeps persistently getting used as "evidence" in roller derby dramas.
I mean, I know for local stuff it's inevitable-- people on my LJ f-list are skaters too, so they're going to take what I write and go with it.

But yesterday someone from ANOTHER LEAGUE, who doesn't know me, doesn't know my name, doesn't know anything about me, protested about an observation (not even an opinion!) I'd made in a 4,000-word entry about a road trip to see another league skate. And they're threatening to withhold support from my whole league over it. And Jesus Christ-- it's an anonymous blog.
I used to do search engine optimization so I know how to be relatively invisible to search engines.
The only way to find that blog if you're looking for derby stuff in there is:
Type in the abbreviation for the league's name
Scroll through FOURTEEN PAGES of more relevant results
Find an old entry of mine talking about something banal
scroll through several years of posts
There's the 'controversial' entry where I talk about my road trip.

So...
Someone who reads that blog fairly regularly has to have sent the URL directly to the person who got offended. There's really no other way they'd have found it. Because I have 0 contacts in this league, and have nothing to do with them at all. None of them have any way to have known where my journal was.

Someone is using me to stir up shit. And this isn't the first time it has happened.

I've had that fucking journal for 8 years and it has my whole life in it. I have done all I can to anonymize it. I completely resent the shit out of having to constantly watch what I write, but I have been for over two years-- I *know* people read it.
I just am sick of the bullshit. I DON'T write anything offensive, and people still find ways to be offended. And I have no recourse, since they're using it as a lever against my whole league.

Which is why I need someone out of town to help me out and mail a whole huge box of undies with "big girl panties" stenciled on the ass to Washington D.C.
No no no. But it would be hilarious.

metalpeter writes at 12:52:36 02/28/09 - Comment #45986: I don't use LJ so I don't know how it works and I don't know to much about how search engines work other then that there used to be close 10 major ones and they all worked differently. I think that sometimes things that we think don't have any details really do. I have never been to a derby bout but lets say I went to one and after the event I said something about "it was really fun but it wasn't what I was expecting I thought it would be like how it was on TV " (I really know you ladies use a flat track not banked and you don't get into fights for the camera or what ever the other differences are between the stuff we would see on TV Years ago) as I'm saying this I'm saying it to a group of people I'm with and maybe there are even some skaters. You know how girls talk. One person tells another and so on and so forth and before you know it everyone knows what I said. Now what if I write about the trip and and I use those exact words. Well it doesn't take much to figure out I was the guy in the crowd. There are a couple other things to think about. Remember people don't have to find your page if they all ready know where it is. Again word of mouth can spread that. What I think you should do is to write what ever you want and don't edit it, but here is what you do. You have a statement (yes like the TV stations do about infomericals or even some talk shows) on every blog that is allways the same. I don't know what wording you would want to use, but what it would say is that yes you skate on a team and are part of a Roller Derby league but that your ideas are not a represention of either the league or your team and that they are your own ideas and that you are representing your self. This would protect both you and your team and the league. The league might even want to come up with one of these statements for bloggers to use. Hey if you think the way one league runs their events or that the refs suck you should be able to say that. If they get mad then that team or league would be mad at your thoughts but then shouldn't be able to hold it against the league. Besides it might also be a good idea for that also for legal reasons.

paul writes at 06:40:42 02/27/09 - Comment #45980: I can't imagine trying to have a secret blog. Why not just make it password protected? Do they have that option?

dragonlady7 writes at 10:36:52 02/27/09 - Comment #45972: I actually have a stencil already cut out that says "Big Girl Panties" and have stenciled it across the ass of a pair of shorts I wear to practice a lot. So anyone who wants actual big girl panties, I can make them easily.

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02/26/09 03:57 - 44ºF - ID#47896

big girl panties

I need a blog no one knows about so I can rant and rave about how I AM GOING TO BUY A BIG MULTI-PACK OF BIG GIRL PANTIES AND MAIL THEM TO A CERTAIN PERSON.

But I really can't, since someone might know who I am and tell this person and then OH NOES there would be MORE FUCKING DRAMA.

Which I need like I need an extra hole right in my forehead so I can POKE MYSELF IN THE BRAIN.

Neat party trick that'd be. Until someone tried to use the hole as a bottle opener and I DIED.