07/24/06 02:06 - 78ºF - ID#29298

sex of the oral style

Thank you all for your comments but I'm actually still more interested in the whole condoms during oral sex issue. Anyone, anyone?

ajay writes at 09:43:37 07/24/06 - Comment #10223: Condom during oral sex is like sucking a popsicle in its wrapper. What's the point?

metalpeter writes at 08:31:21 07/24/06 - Comment #10216: I guess one thing that I will add is that I do understand why a girl would want a guy to wear one. The first part of that is the chance of getting and std and then the chance of giving someone else one. Also it gives the apperance of being safe. The other reason is cause they don't want to taste cum, wich I can't blame them for. Some girls spit, swallow, bite or even kiss you. I have known a few who want to know when it is coming so they don't have to taste it. But a condom gets rid of that worry, not to mention you don't have to worry about if it is going to get on anything else, so I can understand why ladies would prefer guys to wear a condom. Some one mentioned a dental dam. From what I've seen if your going to do that you are better just to skip sex alltogather.

vincent writes at 04:07:25 07/24/06 - Comment #10203: I am most likely a member of a very tiny minority of men on this planet of which oral really doesn't do it for me. A Condom is just BLAH. Then again I would rather prefer a woman's breast, the two of them squeezed together down there or a handjob if I wasn't going to actually have intercourse.

I suppose the worst case scenario for a STD transmitted via oral sex on a man is what??? Herpes. Transmitting a cold sore to a penis is very possible from what I have been told.

jason writes at 03:57:41 07/24/06 - Comment #10201: I will ask you ladies a question - What if every time a guy wants to go down on you he decides to cover your flower with saran wrap?

Not fun! =)

jenks writes at 03:51:06 07/24/06 - Comment #10198: p.s. even worse than a condom for a blow job is a dental dam for going down on a woman. puh-leeze. has anyone here ever even seen a dental dam? I wouldn't know what to do with it if I tried...

jenks writes at 03:50:00 07/24/06 - Comment #10197: I wouldn't give a guy a blowjob with a condom. I disagree with Jason that it's a plot to take pleasure away from men- I just don't want a condom in my mouth. If we're so afraid of each other's germs that we need condoms for oral sex- maybe we should stick with other activities. And as far as 'what is sex'- I agree that oral/handjobs are sexUAL activity- but I still wouldn't say I "had sex" with someone unless it was actual intercourse.

jason writes at 02:28:13 07/24/06 - Comment #10196: I would never ever allow a girl to give me a blow job if I had to wear a condom. Fuck that! I'm pretty sure people want to take away as much joy from men as possible. I would rather jerk off.

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07/23/06 10:08 - 67ºF - ID#29297

Oral Sex

So a friend of mine recently had an STD test, and was questioned about the use of condoms. The nurse asked if he used condoms every time he had sex, and he said "yes." And then she asked if that included oral sex, and he said no, so she said "well, that means no then."

I'm putting it out there to see how many people actually use a condom for oral sex. I'd like to hear your thoughts, opinions, etc. I personally have never heard of anyone using one for oral sex. I can only imagine it would not be any fun for either party involved.

On the same topic, does anyone consider oral sex "sex"? Are you no longer a virgin if you've partaken in the act of oral sex?

Deep issues to ponder...

ajay writes at 09:44:55 07/24/06 - Comment #10224: Oral sex is not sex... unless, of course, you are a Democrat president; in which case, it is worse the incestuous necrophilia!!!!111!!one!!

metalpeter writes at 08:22:52 07/24/06 - Comment #10215: Sex is short of Sexual intercourse so because of that a Blow Job isn't sex. That is also why it is called oral sex, it has to have the term oral in it to qualify it as sex. But oral sex could also mean using you mouth as in just talking about sex but that isn't really how it is used.

In terms of using a condom. I being a stright guy have never given a bj (but if I ever did) what fun is tasting the rubber yuck. That being said I have been forced to use one to get a bj. I have to admit it wasn't as fun. For anyone who wants to do the reserach who dosn't know how, there is a way to put one on using ones mouth.

libertad writes at 11:22:07 07/24/06 - Comment #10191: You are still a virgin until the bloody sheets are hung on the line for the neighbors to see!

Of course i'm just being ridiculous. Really, I do think along leetee's lines, but also think that going all the way the first time has special meaning.

uncutsaniflush writes at 11:20:56 07/24/06 - Comment #10190: fwiw, I think if an activity involves some sort of physical activity whose purpose is to make at least one other person sexually satisfied then that activity is sex.

Is B&D or S&M actually sex? Frequently, such scenes involve no genitalia and no direct skin to skin contact.

Must an activity involve a penis and a vagina or a penis and an anus to be considered real sex?

I would think that if a blow job isn't considered sex then hand jobs and cunninglingus isn't sex either.

And what about 69-style positions? If eating pussy and blow jobs aren't really sex; then two people 69ing each other aren't really having sex either.

leetee writes at 01:41:40 07/24/06 - Comment #10183: I think i'm kinda weird and a bit of a prude, but i think if there is the word sex in the act, then it's sex.

Virgininity? Well, depends on how it's defined. For women, there can be a tecnicality -- hymen in tact, virgin; broken, no longer a virgin.

But sex is so much more than a hymen or lack thereof. The intimacy matters so much more than just getting off.

I guess my rules have always been if you can get a disease from it, then it's sex and you aren't a virgin anymore. If you need protection, there's no more virginity.

How romantic is that, huh?

libertad writes at 10:22:59 07/23/06 - Comment #10174: blah, I would rather not have any oral sex rather than bj's with a condom. They have fruity condoms (i have some). I find them repulsive, especially strawberry which looks like somebody has a bloody wang. Personally, I think that you are still a virgin if you only have oral sex. All that being said oral sex is risky business. Like mama always says "you don't know where that thing has been!"

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07/21/06 01:48 - 82ºF - ID#29296

Questions about schools

Has anyone ever attended or known anyone who has gone to the following schools:

Penn State
Westminster Choir College
THE Ohio State University
UNC at Greensboro
Univ. of Colorado at Boulder

I'm looking into grad schools and would love any info anyone has on these schools. Thanks guys!

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07/11/06 01:59 - 75ºF - ID#29295

troubles...sort of

I can't get over the fact that I as well as my friends are in such a crazy part of our lives right now. Like at this point, I really don't know how I want my life to go. I can think of several different career routes I could take but none of them seem THAT appealing and even the ones that do, seem like it will take a lot of work and time to get there. I could probably just start teaching right now and do it for like 35 years as most people do and then retire. But I honestly feel like if I just teach public school music for the rest of my life I will feel like a failure and that I could do so much more. So then I think I want to teach at the college level, but maybe I'm not good enough. It's just that there's so many things I could do right now and it seems so intimidating and scary.

What is also very, very sad is that I still have maintained similar thoughts patterns I used to have when I was in my stupid bad relationship. What I mean by that is, every time I used to make a decision or take any action, my first thought would always be, "what would he think? what would he do? what if i do something he doesn't approve of, or what if i don't succeed and i look stupid? what if he does the same thing, but better? of course he will, i never do anything better..." etc. etc. I STILL have these thoughts. A lot. And it is really, really troubling. Like I'm putting together a recital right now, and I'm trying to do "the best" music, because otherwise I will look like a singer who doesn't know what she's doing. I want to go to "the best" grad school. It's like, I don't know the difference between what I WOULD have done before because I felt so much pressure to be great versus what I ACTUALLY want to do. Like right now, I don't have a job other than teaching lessons. And I really enjoy it. However, I know that I would feel the pressure to have a job because otherwise I'm "wasting time." Oh it is so stupid that I still have these awful thoughts and feelings. I am just so afraid that it is still controlling what I do and think, and that is so terrible. Why can't I just get it through my head that no one is controlling me anymore?

Lastly, I'm sad I missed Kenmore Days/Taste of Buffalo. While I had a good time at my friend's sister's grad party, it makes me sad to miss out on the good times with the Kenmore crew, especially since we are hardly ever together anymore, now that people have real jobs/husbands/houses or apartments in other places. Life is moving pretty fast...