my guy and I have to be out of his apartment on the 1st. Some kind of argument transpired between his roommate and the landlord. And because their apartment isn't a place for babies, i have been shuffling between my moms house, my sisters house, and other family members who will allow me to have my daughter there. It's been so stressful and I have reallyu been losing my mind. So we've been trying to find an apartment for the 3 of us but it's very hard because we have credit and reference issues working against us. Yet he has an astounding work history, actually he's been at the same job for 8 years and makes good $$ because of that. . And I have been working from home and caring for my baby girl Hannah for the past year.
I can't help thinking that we may just be better off trying to find another young couple with child or a single mom to share a house or apartment. Ideally it would be a good way to save $$ so work on getting our credit in order and get a car and all that good stuff. I can picture myself and another young mom enjoying each others company and the kids having a live- in playmate would be great, too. Although I can also see some more realistic problems arising from this, any time you bring multiple personalities into a situation there is serious potential for conflict...especially with children involved as many people have different views on parenting.
What do you guys think? Does anyone of any kind of family -oriented communal situations that I could check out? Or maybe there would be someone out there willing to house a young couple and a child for 2-3 weeks in the event of worse case scenerio that the 1st comes and we haven't found an apartment? I guess i'm just trying to explore any options that I haven't thought of yet.
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11/26/2007 10:51 #42283
thoughts on communal living???Category: communal living
11/22/2007 18:18 #42243
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11/21/2007 13:19 #42222
hannahs 1st b-dayCategory: baby pics
09/14/2007 22:14 #41105
letter to an e-strip buisness ownerCategory: scumbags
yeah, so i missed my shift and quit my job after working for you for 3 weeks..... this is what i get for calling to apologize and ask for a second chance???? I was warned that you were a fucking pervert...yet she said "don't worry, you're not his type" well J, looks like he has no type.
"id like to discuss this with you in person,get to know you a little better..... why don't you call me.... I'll pick you up and bring you back to my place.....I'd like to see what you'd be willing to do to get your job back...... i'd just like to know that whatever we work out doesn't get back to the other girls......"
It makes me fucking sick! Old fat mid-life crisis scumbags see a young single mother like me and think we must be hard up for means of survival. And what makes it even worse is that some women are actually willing to succumb to these pathetic antics and thats why sick bastards like you continue to get away with these behaviors.
Look at me..... I'm a pretty girl. If I were the type of girl to suck a dick to keep a job it certainly wouldn't be yours you ugly fuck. Not for a worthless $7 an hour job doing what i did for you!!! No, you wannabe Big Shot. And I feel terribly sorry for any girl who really thinks that little of themselves. I almost feel obligated to expose you to the people of our city and let them know who's pockets they're choosing to put their $$$ in, knowing that I may also be saving the next poor girl who may not have the intelligence and self esteem that I have.
But you sir, are in luck. this is as far as I will go because in my heart i know that my daughter and whatever she needs come 1st.... my pride and my ego will have to take this hit for the team. But I would suggest that you stop being so quick to underestimate those you consider disadvantaged. Dont worry, I wont tell the other girls what happened between you and I.... judging from how casually that shit came out of your mouth I'm sure there are many out there who already know all about you.
IN THE TIMES OF MY DEEPEST TROUBLES, THOSE TIMES THAT i MAY FORGET WHO I AM AND WHAT I AM CAPABLE OF- WHEN CIRCUMSTANCES SEEM TO LEAVE ME ALMOST DESPERATE.....i WILL REMEMBER THAT GOD IS MY PROVIDER, AND MY EXPERIENCE HAS SHOWN ME TIME AND TIME AGAIN THAT IF I KEEP MY HEART OPEN I WILL BE ABLE TO RECEIVE THE GIFTS THAT COME MY WAY. I NEVER GO WITHOUT ANYTHING I NEED, OR SINCERELY ASK FOR. I HAVE BEEN HOMELESS, YET NEVER UNSHELTERED OR UNPROTECTED. I HAVE BEEN BROKE, YET HAVE NEVER GONE HUNGRY OR UNCLOTHED. I HAVE BEEN EVEN MORE THAN I HAVE MENTIONED-AND YET I HAVE MORE THAN I NEED TO BE HAPPY. ANYTHING I NEED FINDS ITS WAY TO ME, $$$ IN MY POCKET OR NOT. SO THIS HERE OBSTACLE.... THIS TOO IS NOTHING THAT A LITTLE FAITH AND PATIENCE CAN'T HANDLE. ( A LITTLE REALLY DOES GO A LONG WAY WHEN YOU LET IT!!! )
LOVE IS THE LAND THAT I STAND ON.THE WIND MAY BE BLOWING SHARP OBJECTS IN ALL DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS- AND I MAY BE CUT UP AND BLEEDING DUE TO THIS STORM BUT YOU BEST BELIEVE THAT AFTER THE ELEMENTS HAVE SUBSIDED I WILL STILL BE STILL BE STANDING HERE!!!! AND SO IT IS!!!!!!
"id like to discuss this with you in person,get to know you a little better..... why don't you call me.... I'll pick you up and bring you back to my place.....I'd like to see what you'd be willing to do to get your job back...... i'd just like to know that whatever we work out doesn't get back to the other girls......"
It makes me fucking sick! Old fat mid-life crisis scumbags see a young single mother like me and think we must be hard up for means of survival. And what makes it even worse is that some women are actually willing to succumb to these pathetic antics and thats why sick bastards like you continue to get away with these behaviors.
Look at me..... I'm a pretty girl. If I were the type of girl to suck a dick to keep a job it certainly wouldn't be yours you ugly fuck. Not for a worthless $7 an hour job doing what i did for you!!! No, you wannabe Big Shot. And I feel terribly sorry for any girl who really thinks that little of themselves. I almost feel obligated to expose you to the people of our city and let them know who's pockets they're choosing to put their $$$ in, knowing that I may also be saving the next poor girl who may not have the intelligence and self esteem that I have.
But you sir, are in luck. this is as far as I will go because in my heart i know that my daughter and whatever she needs come 1st.... my pride and my ego will have to take this hit for the team. But I would suggest that you stop being so quick to underestimate those you consider disadvantaged. Dont worry, I wont tell the other girls what happened between you and I.... judging from how casually that shit came out of your mouth I'm sure there are many out there who already know all about you.
IN THE TIMES OF MY DEEPEST TROUBLES, THOSE TIMES THAT i MAY FORGET WHO I AM AND WHAT I AM CAPABLE OF- WHEN CIRCUMSTANCES SEEM TO LEAVE ME ALMOST DESPERATE.....i WILL REMEMBER THAT GOD IS MY PROVIDER, AND MY EXPERIENCE HAS SHOWN ME TIME AND TIME AGAIN THAT IF I KEEP MY HEART OPEN I WILL BE ABLE TO RECEIVE THE GIFTS THAT COME MY WAY. I NEVER GO WITHOUT ANYTHING I NEED, OR SINCERELY ASK FOR. I HAVE BEEN HOMELESS, YET NEVER UNSHELTERED OR UNPROTECTED. I HAVE BEEN BROKE, YET HAVE NEVER GONE HUNGRY OR UNCLOTHED. I HAVE BEEN EVEN MORE THAN I HAVE MENTIONED-AND YET I HAVE MORE THAN I NEED TO BE HAPPY. ANYTHING I NEED FINDS ITS WAY TO ME, $$$ IN MY POCKET OR NOT. SO THIS HERE OBSTACLE.... THIS TOO IS NOTHING THAT A LITTLE FAITH AND PATIENCE CAN'T HANDLE. ( A LITTLE REALLY DOES GO A LONG WAY WHEN YOU LET IT!!! )
LOVE IS THE LAND THAT I STAND ON.THE WIND MAY BE BLOWING SHARP OBJECTS IN ALL DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS- AND I MAY BE CUT UP AND BLEEDING DUE TO THIS STORM BUT YOU BEST BELIEVE THAT AFTER THE ELEMENTS HAVE SUBSIDED I WILL STILL BE STILL BE STANDING HERE!!!! AND SO IT IS!!!!!!
metalpeter - 09/15/07 18:05
First of all to (e:ajay) Recording the conversation would be illegal with out letting the person know. I don't know what caused the missing of a shift and then quiting but I'm sure you had your reasons. Most places once you quit won't let you back. I don't know if this person was sleeping with other girls who worked there or what the sexual dynamic of the place is but that can sometimes be a factor in how people think. I'm not saying what he said was right but there may have been other girls who worked for him who used sex to get keep there jobs or get it back, and they may have been willing and even liked it. The point I'm getting to is it might not be that you are a single mother it might just be cause your a hot lady. I say you are right in not saying his name and the place that he runs or owns. The reason is that if he has a different version of what happened and has someone who can back up his version he could sue you for either liabale or Defermation of character. Besides it is better to leave it behind you. If you go public with it then another employer could go oh it was that girl who talked about a work problem on line and you could kinda get black listed. Besides not saying who it is shows more class anyways.
First of all to (e:ajay) Recording the conversation would be illegal with out letting the person know. I don't know what caused the missing of a shift and then quiting but I'm sure you had your reasons. Most places once you quit won't let you back. I don't know if this person was sleeping with other girls who worked there or what the sexual dynamic of the place is but that can sometimes be a factor in how people think. I'm not saying what he said was right but there may have been other girls who worked for him who used sex to get keep there jobs or get it back, and they may have been willing and even liked it. The point I'm getting to is it might not be that you are a single mother it might just be cause your a hot lady. I say you are right in not saying his name and the place that he runs or owns. The reason is that if he has a different version of what happened and has someone who can back up his version he could sue you for either liabale or Defermation of character. Besides it is better to leave it behind you. If you go public with it then another employer could go oh it was that girl who talked about a work problem on line and you could kinda get black listed. Besides not saying who it is shows more class anyways.
jbeatty - 09/15/07 14:41
what a cock!
what a cock!
lauren - 09/15/07 13:23
I am sorry that you had to go through this kind of bullshit. It is an unfortunate reality for many women and you are obviously not alone. There is a part of me that wants to know at least what business this is so I can not go there, but I respect you choice to keep it to yourself. There are questions of safety, reputation, etc. that are on the line when it comes to speaking the truth, and this is one more tool that is used to keep women silent. You do not have to put yourself or your daughter at risk, but remember, silence only perpetuates this kind of abuse and there may be women out there who are not as strong as you are.
I am sorry that you had to go through this kind of bullshit. It is an unfortunate reality for many women and you are obviously not alone. There is a part of me that wants to know at least what business this is so I can not go there, but I respect you choice to keep it to yourself. There are questions of safety, reputation, etc. that are on the line when it comes to speaking the truth, and this is one more tool that is used to keep women silent. You do not have to put yourself or your daughter at risk, but remember, silence only perpetuates this kind of abuse and there may be women out there who are not as strong as you are.
ajay - 09/15/07 12:52
Record the conversation and expose the prick.
But I do understand your hesitation, Buffalo's such a small town that you could get blackballed....
Record the conversation and expose the prick.
But I do understand your hesitation, Buffalo's such a small town that you could get blackballed....
paul - 09/15/07 12:21
I agree, who the fuck was it. That is so wrong. Where did you work at?
I agree, who the fuck was it. That is so wrong. Where did you work at?
imk2 - 09/15/07 09:42
you should totally expose him.
you should totally expose him.
11/18/2007 08:31 #42184
Hanna turns 1 year old on tuesday!Category: baby b-days!
My baby girl will turn 1 year old on Tuesday, Nov 20th!!! We had her first b-day party yesterday and it was a lot of fun! A very good friend of mine that I went to the rainbow gathering with a couple of years ago ( see Spirit Revival- 7/16/04) ran into me 2 summers ago upon his return home to Buffalo. I was 6 months pregnant and having trouble finding a job, so he introduced me to his dad who owned 2 printing/mailing businesses. His dad hired me to do some telemarketing, calling non-profit organizations and asking them if they needed help with their newsletters, appeal letters.. things of that nature. Also stuffing and sealing and stamping thousands of letters at a time!!. It worked out well, and when I was put on bed rest in the beginning of last November he got a computer and a phone for me to set up my office at home. ( which has been a huge blessing so I didn't have to pay for child care for my newborn. Because of that I have had the most gracious opportunity to be with my child and watch her grow. I can't describe how amazing this has been- those of you with with children probably already know. ( I had never envisioned myself as a mother of my own children. I figured I would adopt some child that had already been dealt a shitty hand on this planet and fix it for them. but even at that I was pretty annoyed by infants- i hated those ppl that take babies to movie theaters, when my friends baby would wake me up in the middle of the night i would wish in my head that someone would just shut that thing up! Up until Hannah I had never even held an infant. I was great with kids ages 3 and up- but NO experience with babies. watching her over this last year has been a whole new side of life for me-( by the time I was 23 I had 8 people who were very close to me pass away.starting at 12 years old 5 of them had been close freinds my own age at the times of their deaths. 3 of my natural grandparents are still living today- and 1 of them died before I was even born.) so having this little love has been so refreshing!!! Take into consideration that she really is a total angel! SHe has her moments, and when she was very young she went through a 2 week period of total colic, but so many people keep telling me they've never seen a baby as easy as her- and that I have no idea how blessed I am. ( now I can't even pass a baby in a grocery store without thinking " oh the precious little baby"!!!) So I also have been blessed with so many people that love and care about us! My friends parents have been a great part of that blessing over this last year. They have pretty much adopted us into their wonderful family, and my heart was overwhelmingly thankful when they decided they'd like to have this birthday party to share with us the celebration of her 1st year. My mother has also been a huge blessing in this past year- as we have bonded in a way that we haven't been able to in a very long time. It's truly amazing the side of ourselves that we meet when we have our own children. Watching them grow is truly a miracle- new sounds, new faces, first teeth, big smiles ( and tears that just break your heart into pieces!!!)
Thank you for letting me share this all with you! Hopefully I will have the pictures posted up here soon!
Thank you for letting me share this all with you! Hopefully I will have the pictures posted up here soon!
trisha - 11/21/07 15:58
what a cutie! i know....they change you so much. so much work, but also so much happiness. happy birthday, hannah!
what a cutie! i know....they change you so much. so much work, but also so much happiness. happy birthday, hannah!
imk2 - 11/18/07 11:07
i dunno. after having my kid, i never felt any more emotion towards other kids. i still hated them. i actually wasn't one of those mothers that was all super in love with their kid when it was born. it took me time to fall in love with her. at first i was like, um, ok.....it's a baby...great. but soon afterward, (not sure if it was a few weeks, or months) i was totally in love with her. however, i'm not sure i would ever want to go through that again.
i dunno. after having my kid, i never felt any more emotion towards other kids. i still hated them. i actually wasn't one of those mothers that was all super in love with their kid when it was born. it took me time to fall in love with her. at first i was like, um, ok.....it's a baby...great. but soon afterward, (not sure if it was a few weeks, or months) i was totally in love with her. however, i'm not sure i would ever want to go through that again.
mrmike - 11/18/07 10:29
Isn't it great! That is the best time too.
Isn't it great! That is the best time too.
there are people who live like how you mentioned but they are a clan of people who are like minded or family. It is great to have someone discipline your kid or not but most likely you both will be not take care of each others kids the same way and that will cause problems. What I would suggest is since you have credit problems move to a shitty part of town. Often people just want a tenant who will pay there rent and don't care if they sell drugs, have loud parties, or whore out there women, I'm not saying to do any of that. The other idea is if either of you is handy and can fix stuff maybe you can find a place that is cheap because it needs work or a slum lord who will take your money and you can fix everything your self.