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08/26/2007 18:27 #40739

Weekend Musings
Category: life
Really nice weekend. Totally enjoyed meeting several fellow (e:peeps) at the bars on Friday night. People were a little bit different than I imagined, which made for fun to compare the online persona to the real thing in my head throughout the night.

Saturday me and some menly men helped two people move out of their third floor apartments into a third floor apartment together. It needs a little work, but seeing as she makes a living doing set/props design, I'm pretty sure that her place will be fabulous by the time she's done.

In the afternoon, I went down to the church to assist with the handing out of free lemonade. It was amazing how snotty some people were about saying no to free lemonade. A simple no thanks should suffice, yes? But a highlight was meeting (e:leetee) !

Sunday morning I woke up to the aching of my muscles screaming at me for all the third floor moving on Saturday. I willed myself out of bed and off to church where I played a piece on clarinet for the worship service. It was well received so I had a pleasant stroking of the ego today! The afternoon involved some good loving followed by Gilmore Girls on the couch. Now I gotta go because my husband just brought me a plate of pierogies with peas swimming in a white cheesy sauce.


leetee - 08/27/07 08:47
awe, thanks. Was great meeting you and (e:Drew) too. When we arrived, i saw people in front of the church, and based on outfit, i guessed who was (e:Drew). :)
janelle - 08/26/07 21:53
Quite the opposite, felly. You were pleasant and fun. Can't wait til we meet again =)
fellyconnelly - 08/26/07 21:17
great meeting you the other night! pardon me if i was drunk and/or obnoxious...
tinypliny - 08/26/07 19:24
Damn, I missed your lemonade and the clarinet concert. I am always missing things... I just had to finish some stuff I was dragging on and on from last week and got done only at 4:15. :/

08/24/2007 20:20 #40716

The minister's wife....
Category: church
is busting out her stuff at church on sunday. Come see me play clarinet at church service this Sunday!
tinypliny - 08/24/07 21:25
Coool :)

08/24/2007 09:04 #40704

Inferiority Complex
Category: home
We left the suburbs of Pittsburgh to leave a culture and lifestyle behind that we disliked and to which we refused to expose any forthcoming children in our lives. The irony is that this suburb has one of the top ranked public school districts in the state and in the country. Maybe sometime (e:Drew) will even expound on his thoughts on why it's difficult to live out a christian mission in a rich suburb, but I digress...

We fulfilled a long time desire of wanting to live in an urban community (although I have to admit that my ultimate dream is to live in a particular urban community in Philly). So here we are and we love it for a number of reasons. I, for one, love how the old houses are built so that the porches are close to the sidewalk so that one can sit on their porch and comfortably greet their neighbors and passerbyers. Again, I digress....

Here, finally, comes the point. In this Pittsburgh suburb, folks were very wealthy and lived a very wealthy life style. The youth group kids at our church felt free to make fun of our beat up Geo Metro followed by our 10 year old beat up Acura Integra. A committee at church even removed some patio furniture off the front porch of our manse because it was unattractive. Yet, I NEVER felt an inkling of pressure to try to keep up with the Joneses...as the saying goes. In part, because it was absolutely a financial impossibility. I mean, we could have bought a few things of the life style, but barely.

I actually feel more community pressure and more angst from that pressure here in Buffalo. A common conversational topic around the neighborhood is house repair/renovation. And we have had and will continue to have some major repairs/renovations. We discussed house painting with a Buffalo friend who stated that if he had a house like ours he would paint it himself, absolutely. Oh, yes, it's that easy. Nights after work, weekend by weekend, bit by bit, you can paint your own house standing on scaffolding three stories high to reach up to the attic. Yeah, no thanks, we hired painters. We discussed our roof repairs with neighbors who said so matter of factly oh it's nothing to put a new roof on. They replaced their roof over the course of five years, section by section! Kewl, but I think I'll just save the money and have contractors do the work. (e:Drew) and I even joke about the potential shunning we might receive if people knew that the porch ceiling was repaired with vinyl instead of replacing the damaged wood <gasp>.

Don't get me wrong. I did a lot of minor repairs when we moved in. Sticky doors now close. I installed cabinet hardware so cabinets close. Tarnished copper door knobs are now a shiny rose color. I patched walls and did touch up painting all over the house. Interior painting is on the to do list down the road. But am I not worthy unless I sacrifice every weekend and summer evening to the idol that is my house?!
janelle - 08/25/07 08:44
I have to make sure the husband doesn't read your comment (e:tinypliny) or he'll never do anything around the house again...thanks!
tinypliny - 08/24/07 21:20
Everyone has pretty much said what I wanted to say, but I think this point needs to be made.
Splinters are the most abominable things to get into your fingers. They are an insidious cause of infection and have been known, at times, to cause loss of an appendage.

If your neighbour has a non-healing ulcer or a nasty pyrexic infection, you now know why.
lauren - 08/24/07 15:27
I say pick your battles wisely. Sure, put on new hardware, fix that creaky door, but don't go crazy and risk injuring yourself or your lovely husband. DIY can put some stress on a relationship, let me tell you, so only do it if you know you will have fun!
joshua - 08/24/07 14:04
Atta girl - enjoy yourself. Besides, the art festival is this weekend and the neighborhood is going to be jam packed with interesting things to check out.

In the end, if your house looks good and has a good roof then it doesn't really matter if you did it yourself... unless you have this strong compulsion to blabber to everybody about how self-satisfied you are! Screw that. =)
theecarey - 08/24/07 13:38
If you have the time and the know how- DIY can be rewarding on many levels; and it helps if you like to do that stuff. Again, time is big factor- consider where and how do you want to spend it. Otherwise, pay someone else to do it- when the two of you are ready. Dismiss what others are saying. I think its less about having the house look a certain way than it is to parade their own efforts, make you feel bad and put in their two cents- "look what I did! What..you arent doing it yourself?? ..Its sooooo easy.." Do you feel like their underlying question is "what is wrong with you" for not doing it all? yeh. Thats a sign they are just looking for an ego stroking. In short, like your title says-- inferiority complex, on their part. I'd compliment them on their know-how and suggestions, then leave it at that.

  • Do not* feel bad for not doing it all yourself- we do what we can given the time, resources, abilities, ambition and so forth. Be comfortable with that.

:)


I'm all for ATMs and EZPass.
janelle - 08/24/07 13:36
Well, I have concluded that I will no longer feel guilty for not being a DIY person who would probably end up doing it crappy, anyway. So I'll kick back and enjoy some beers this weekend instead of doing a roof tear down.
fellyconnelly - 08/24/07 12:38
i dont' think it is so much of 'keeping up with the joneses' so much as i think that buffalo is in a DIY boom right now... that is one thing that i have noticed about the area - everyone is fixing things up themselves.
maybe people are just very proud of doing it themselves?
jenks - 08/24/07 11:53
sorry mike.... I disagree. There's a bridge at home, and it's a major PITA b/c they won't take EZpass, and you have to buy these stupid tokens and it's just really annoying and takes forever. everyone is always begging the state to put ez-pass on the bridge, and they won't b/c then the toll collectors (there are like 2 of them) would be out of jobs.

Let them run the EZ pass sales then, I don't know. But don't hinder progress...

maybe i'm just too impatient.
mike - 08/24/07 11:35
a little addition to my comment...like I always find it so weird/kinda sad when like the bank tellers are forced to try and convince you to do all your banking online and getting direct deposit, and I just think um, then you wouldn't have a job right?
mike - 08/24/07 11:33
I am againt DIY in general one because I am kinda lazy honestly but two like people need to have jobs. Like why deny someone else like what they do for a living. That is why I go in banks instead of using ATMs and direct deposit and use toll collectors instead of EZPass. All these people need jobs so I feel like why not support them.
jbeatty - 08/24/07 10:11
They are beyond full of shit when they tell you its nothing to put a new roof on. Its hard work and dangerous as well. You will obviously pay a premium to hire a contractor to do the work but experienced roofers will be able to knock it out in 1 to 2 days where it would take the uninitiated a week or more.
paul - 08/24/07 09:58
(e:terry), our friend Dave and I replaced a 15ft x 15ft section of roof on the top of our house last year (e:paul,32779) - pics at th bottom of that entry. It was fun and a little bit scary during one wind storm but we saved a lot of money and learned a lot. It looks amazing now and didn't leak over the last year, so I supposed we did a pretty good job, I should take a new pic of it.
joshua - 08/24/07 09:33
That stuff is nonsense - to hell with what your neighbors think. I've actually never heard of anybody patching their own roof - WTF is this, do we live in grass huts now and have to thatch constantly?

Pay somebody to do the work and screw the rest. Seriously. I think that if you bothered to inquire further (which I wouldn't) you'd probably find out that your neighbors bizarre outlook on how to 'properly' renovate your home is only the tip of a very large, disturbing iceberg. With some possible exceptions, when you DIY, chances are its going to look DIY. That isn't necessarily a good thing when it comes to the outside of your home.

08/23/2007 08:39 #40691

My cats opthamologist looks like a star!
Category: pets
I like the opthamologist whom my fat cat visits.
I don't like the fact that my fat cat requires opthamological treatment for a condition (e:Drew) refers to as "MUCKY EYE".
But I do like the opthamologist.
She looks just like Kirsten Dunst when she was in Spider Man.
She even talks like Kirsten Dunst.
I think Kirsten Dunst is really cute; so I therefore find my cat's opthamologist to be really cute.

The fat cat likes the opthamologist because she provides a never ending pile of treats for the fat cat and then giggles at the greediness of the fat cat as she snoops around the office for more treats.

The treats sure enough aren't helping the fat cat's fat issue though.
fellyconnelly - 08/23/07 13:06
we have two cats.
one of which is a fat fatty fat fat.
mrdeadlier - 08/23/07 12:25
Hmph.. I've always found her and her ugly visage downright offensive to the eyes, but hey -- that's just me.
lauren - 08/23/07 11:50
Ohhhh...Kirsten Dunst IS cute, especially if she likes fat kitties!
mrdeadlier - 08/23/07 10:18
Kirsten Dunst is about as cute as I am Chinese (note: I am not Chinese). Sorry, but I just had to chime in with that.
mike - 08/23/07 09:24
I love Kirsten Dunst!!!! and if I had to like a cat it would be a fat one prolly though I generally do not like cats!
drew - 08/23/07 09:16
Hey. I'm not sure if I told you I have something tonight, but I do. I'll be home for dinner though. Call me,

08/21/2007 09:16 #40649

Blah
Category: life
It bites that the weather is unseasonably cold.

It bites when you're parents get divorced.
Even when you're 28 years old.
Even when you're living on your own.
Even when you have your own family.
It still sucks.
I guess there is never a good time in life for parents to get divorced.

Think happy thoughts, happy thoughts, happy thoughts .....*

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Ahh...much better.


theecarey - 08/22/07 20:26
I will be first in line for WWLD? paraphernalia hahahaha thats great!

Kittens and Gilmore Girls-- happy happy happy stuff for sure.

  • hug*
tinypliny - 08/22/07 04:51
OOOOOH! Is that your kitten?
tinypliny - 08/22/07 04:50
:( Yeah. Parents are meant to be together, forever. I wouldn't know how to cope with it either and I am edging towards 28.
museumchick - 08/22/07 00:29
It definitely bites about your parents... *hug* I do agree that Gilmore Girls is awesome.
mike - 08/21/07 17:48
that stinks, but skittles and Gilmore Girls I think can help someone through any situation.
ladycroft - 08/21/07 15:03
No matter what age you are, you don't want to see 'that' fairytale shatter. (hug)
janelle - 08/21/07 12:04
Sure...let's go. I'm ready to quit my job to take up Gilmore Girls paraphanelia production and distribution =)
leetee - 08/21/07 11:55
Speaking of Gilmore Girls, i had a thought...

What Would Lorelai Do (WWLD).

I'll do the t-shirts, you do the bracelets!
leetee - 08/21/07 11:53
You're right, there is never a good time.

((((( Janelle )))))

Gilmore Girls rocks!

and here (hopefully it pastes up in here ok) is a cute kitten for you.

:::link:::