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05/04/2006 10:20 #23843

room service
Category: food
This is just a mini-interlude post til I get home and have pix and stuff. (besides I'm having trouble posting anyway since Safari is suddenly crashing q5min.)

But I just wanted to say- room service is out of control. I mean we all know it's expensive, but yikes. I decided to treat myself to breakfast on my last morning. Now the hotel restaurant is a pretty fancy place, and the room service is off that menu so I guess it's extra pricey.
But I ended up going with an all-time fave breakfast indulgence- eggs benedict. For $12. I actually didn't think that was THAT bad, considering that's how much the continental breakfast cost.
Oh, but that doesn't include juice. So one glass of "fresh-squeezed" (they'd better not be lying) OJ for $5.
Plus 2.75 delivery fee. Plus tax. Plus 18% "service charge" brings it to $25.
And then the guy that drops it off needs a tip too? What's the "delivery fee"? What's the "service charge"?

craziness.

but delicious craziness. :)

See you all soon.
-J
dragonlady7 - 05/04/06 18:10
Awesome journal music!

05/04/2006 00:08 #23842

doh
dammit.... Safari just crashed and made me lose my whole post. And I don't have the energy to re-write it.
Maybe tomorrow.

But thanks for the comments on the last one. You're all right. I had a fun time, and that should be enough. I just always want more...

later peeps.
-j

05/03/2006 05:22 #23841

ugh
Category: boys
(to continue the thread of journals that makes me appear completely shallow and boy-crazy, I add:)

Dude!!!! Why am I SO incapable of closing the deal????? SO FRUSTRATING!
So, despite how I may make it seem, I am totally NOT about one night stands, random sex, etc. Sure, it's been a while, and I'd love nothing more than a good fuck, but the circumstances have to be right. And my standards are ridiculously (unrealistically) high.

But so I'm in Chicago. Trying to get in touch with my friend Sarah (from Buffalo). Finally we make plans to go tonight. And I get a text from her that says "my uber-hot friend charles may join us. he likes brunettes." And I reply "well he may be in luck, since I like uber-hot friend charles's."

So I meet her, we wait for charles. I see the blackberry email she sent him that called me "Dr. Surgeon McPretty". And I see his reply that says "can't wait". So he shows up- definitely cute. We all hang out. We go to another place. Drinks are abundant. there is small talk and chat. Including talk about how guys like what they can't have- i.e. as soon as you call (thereby expressing interest) they are not interested. Or the converse- we always like what we can't have. Like my date the other day. I wasn't even convinced I like him. But suddenly him not calling me makes me like "WHOA! Dude! I am so out of your league! And YOU are blowing ME off????? SO not how it was supposed to go."

But anyway, so we're all chatting. Sarah senses her moment and makes herself scarce. There is some definite bumping and grinding going on. I'm thinking "I so don't do this, but he's cute and I'm sick of striking out." so I'm kind of encouraged. Then I remember his words, and I pull away on the dancefloor (don't want to be all over him) to see if he responds- and he did. I pulled back, and he came after me. Still dancing close, etc.

So the song ends, I go to the bathroom. I come out, and sarah is back. He says "well, I have to go. Big meeting in the AM."

FUCK!!!!!!

But, in his defense, it WAS 3am, and he WAS in town just for 36hr to give this talk in the AM. So I can cut him some slack....

BUT, he was hot, he was flirting with me... I was (i thought) flirting with him in my little wimpy way, then he fucking gets up and leaves!!!!

Not that I would have known what to do with myself had it gone any other way, but still.....

Oy, drunk, time for bed..........
mike - 05/03/06 23:50
at least you had fun...but it always stinks when you think you have something "in the can" (or is that "in the bag" , yeah I think "in the bag") and then it vanishes before your eyes. I always wanted to go to Chicago, it seems like a city I would like, what'd you think?
metalpeter - 05/03/06 18:52
Well it does sound like you had fun, so remember that. Maybe in your subconsus mind all you wanted was some dirty bumping and grinding. maybe if you wanted more (maybe not also being shy and all) you would have wispered in his ear hey lets disapear somewhare more quite. I don't know why but your posts kinda sound like they could be "Sex and The City" episodes maybe you should write a book, :-) [kidding but also serious it might be verry interesting].

One thing I noticed you mentioned is that you have verry high standards. I think having high standards is good. But hopefully they are not so high that they can't be fullfilled.
scott - 05/03/06 15:37
Go Jenks!

Sounds like you had fun and he had fun, he stayed out too late, and then he got tired and went to bed alone, like a gent.

Nothing in the description of events seems a failure to me. I wouldn't get down on yourself over that one at all.
enknot - 05/03/06 14:33
sometimes a little bit and leaving is much hotter than all of it and sticking around...all, sticky and akward cause well, your strangers, or you dumped them for a reason, or fill in the horrible blank.

You scored. Notch your belt.

And so that I don't come off as a back patting nancy boy, if you wanted to score why didn't you just drag him to the car? Maybe wasn't your car, would be kinda gross, or cool depending on how gnarly your freinds are...

just watch "can't get a date" on vh1.com, it's sweet. the people on that show are so effe'd up that you walk away feeling so much more dateable it silly. Worst is they always get dates at the end of the show. Craziness...or just more stupid "reality" television.
ajay - 05/03/06 12:12
Meh, don't be too hard on yourself.

I have been on the other side too. I'll meet someone interesting, get totally carried away and lose all track of time. During a break, I'll realise: what the heck am I doing? I have a presentation/paper/early-morning-flight tomorrow... and then high-tail it outta there.
ladycroft - 05/03/06 11:49
just enjoy it for what it was :)

coulda, shoulda, woulda's make life miserable. you know my motto, 'chill winston'.
libertad - 05/03/06 11:21
hehe, I love reading about your boy adventures!

04/29/2006 11:48 #23839

I had a fun night. yay.
Category: enlightenment
Ok peeps. Next friday is my (and codypomeray's) 30th bday. I was originally thinking of maybe having a big party, but I don't feel like having to clean up afterwards, so now I'm thinking more of just a night out barhopping. I hope some of you will join us along the way if you can. :)

So.... I had a date last night. Which makes me happy. But I stood my friends up, which makes me feel shitty. (sorry guys). But like a real good old-fashioned date... dinner reservations, picked me up, pulled out my chair, all that good stuff. And when I think about it, I'm not sure I've EVER had that before. (Have come close a few times.) I just don't get asked out much. And if I do go out with people, it's usually a casual "hey wanna grab a beer, I'll meet you at xyz in an hour".

But we're sitting there at dinner, and my mind is racing 'is he cute enough? is he too short? is he too young? am I too old? Do I like his sense of humor? am I saying the right things? am I talking too much?' etc etc nonstop analysis. And then about halfway through the second bottle of wine I just decided to turn it all off and enjoy myself. And then I had a blast. Who knows what I think of the guy... but I had a fun night, and that's good enough for me. I don't know why I always have to ruin everything by over-thinking it. But it's really hard for me not to.
People have been telling me "alex, RELAX" lately, and I get all huffy and snap back "I AM relaxed! don't tell me to relax! I am a very chill person!" And now I'm thinking- who am I kidding? I'm a huge stressball all the freaking time! I dunno, it was kind of an epiphany moment. Maybe I don't always have to be in control of everything. Maybe it doesn't always matter what everyone else thinks. Maybe it's ok to just have fun and do what I want sometimes. Maybe I don't have to worry about whether or not everyone ELSE is having a good time, at the expense of myself. So even though he's way younger than me and does nothing but party, maybe he's got the right idea- let's just have FUN.
So this morning when I woke up at 5 (painful), I was already thinking 'well I'll just email him blah blah', and then I realized, going with the old-fashioned date concept, maybe now is the time to just CHILL and wait to see if he calls. Is that how this all works? So foreign to me. I am a dating idiot.

Okay I might throw my pager out the window. All I want to do is have a little time to myself to unfog my brain and write a post, but I was just paged 3 times in 30 seconds and I'm not exaggerating. Way to kill my good mood. I think it's gonna be one of those days. Thank god I'm on vacation tomorrow!!

Later peeps.
-J


enknot - 05/01/06 07:47
More refreshing text to read...thanks jenks.

Yeah, every dude should read your journal. Many of the things that you are worrying about dudes worry about too, and many of them ever think that the girl could be thinking these things. Kinda reminds you what dating is supposed to be for, getting this crap out of the way...er getting to know someone, and doing what you did; have a good time.

I'm glad this night went well, but this a post from the future (ie. I read your next post) and I wish you could have some of that relaxed mood that the wine put you in to compfort you now.

I kinda hate substances because of stuff like that, which is why I don't really partake of them that often, and try to attain all the states of uphoira that humans can experince from within. Ok now I sound like a crystal wavin' hippy, but it's true.

good luck jenks...
jason - 04/29/06 19:32
Don't overthink it. You had a great night, and that's a good enough start!
mrdt - 04/29/06 15:12
I second that MrMike.

There yeah go Alex, just let it flow like the Niagara River.
libertad - 04/29/06 12:56
Enjoy your vacation!
mrmike - 04/29/06 11:57
Good for you -- sounds like what I've been wrasslin with of late. Moment of truth comes tomorrow when I see the woman I called. I hope some of the stree free karma rolls my way and we can reverse an estrip trend.

05/01/2006 01:26 #23840

I hate being shy.
So I'm already starting to be sad that my date-boy hasn't called or anything. I don't even know if I like him, but now I'm kind of hurt b/c I think he's rejecting me. I'm too old, too boring, etc, (if my imagination is right.) The thing is, it's only been a day, and he knows I'm out of town. But I finally decided "fuck the 'rules'" and I sent him a quick email that just said "thanks for last night, had a lot of fun. Call me sometime?" And all my other emails have been answered in a matter of hours, and this one has gone untouched two days. Not a good sign.
Why why WHY do I have to obsess about this? Yesterday I was on cloud 9, today I'm totally doubting myself. Bleh.

But anyway, the reason I am writing-
I'm in chicago for a bit of a vacation. Probably can't get a tan and drink drinks with umbrellas, but this should be fun too, since I still have a lot of friends in town from when I lived here. But so I guess it was drizzling or something catastrophic like that in chicago today, b/c lots of flights were cancelled, including mine. So I had to kill a few hours waiting to find out if I would make the last flight of the day on standby. So I decided to go get drunk. (why not, right? I'm on 'cation!) So I went to the little restaurant/bar near my gate. And saw a blonde girl who looked kinda familiar... and I thought "I know (e:dragonlady) works in the airport"... So I spent a good half hour trying to decide how to ask "are you (e:dragonlady)?" Because if she were indeed NOT who I thought she was, my question would sound ridiculous. But so I finally asked and indeed it was her. So yay- stupid shyness overcome, and peep sighting confirmed. I guess the alternative would have been to post spy shots and ask for confirmation, like I did for (e:mike). ;) (e:jenks,49)

Then I had another bout of shyness... I was sitting and sitting and waiting and waiting at the gate for my flight. Listening to music and reading. And I noticed a very cute guy sitting one row over. And we kept almost-not-quite making eye contact. But I kept throwing glances, and I think he was doing the same. Then he got up to throw away some trash or something, and when he came back, sat in a different seat- two down from me. Did I say hello? No. Just kept peeking at him from behind my book. Finally a lady sitting across from us asked if we were from buffalo and we all started chatting. Then we finally got on the plane and I wasn't near him and couldn't talk anymore. But when we got off, I saw him again and he said he was glad I'd made it on the flight, and we walked towards baggage claim. Then we had to go different directions, and despite my little thoughts of how I would ask if he wanted to get a drink or something, I just let him walk away... He said "well I'll look for you in the city tomorrow" to which I just laughed, since that's sweet but silly. And there was another mini-pause, would have been the perfect time to say something, but did I? No. Just kept walking. Dammit! Now I don't know what I think would/could have happened, but I just wish I weren't so damn shy all the time!

Anyway.... I think I will take a nice long bath (I love hotels) and sleep way late, and spend tomorrow walking around michigan avenue and maybe checking out the museum. I love chicago!

Adios peeps.
-J

[user sound updated: Holiday in Rhode Island, by The Softies]
ajay - 05/01/06 21:30
Yeah, I know the feeling. Switch "guy" for "girl", and I might as well have written the post.

Sigh... there have been so many instances in the past... the lingering eye-contact; the furtive smile; the playful punch; etc. etc. that I've lost track.

When Cupid's arrow strikes, it'll hit you on the ass so hard that you won't be able to ignore it. Till then, just enjoy yourself and be yourself. If someone doesn't respond or acts weird, it's their problem. :)
vincent - 05/01/06 20:55
Well I would not stress about it until at least a week. Sometimes Guy's have this thing about not appearing desperate and will purposely not call someone for about a week or so. It is just all about the game we play.

Sometimes a guy will use the time to gague the girl to see if she is psycho or needy.

I'm not saying you are any of the above, but this is just some insight on how some guys think.
metalpeter - 05/01/06 18:50
Now if I remember correctly the guy was the Guy who I saw you Make out with at the jackdaw show. You warn't shy then. He may contact you try not to over analyze it. If like you said he knows you are out of town then he may just be waiting untill you get back or he may not be, who knows. That being shy kinda sucks I know all about that. The thing that is weird about it is just being shy around people you don't know. If it was around everyone it would be more bearable and less worrysome on the mind. I could give a few examples of how it has caused me some problems but I won't bore you with that.

In Terms of your trip hope it is fun. And for the benifit of you, your friends, and us (e:peeps) i hope you took a camara. But mainly i hope you the time away refreshes you and gives you a restfull little break.
theecarey - 05/01/06 17:01
Girlfriend, that airport guy was just as shy as you...although he was dropping some mighty fine hints!! He was trying to get a sense of whether you were open to meeting up in the city at some point. He wasnt being silly.. you were, haha. But I guess its one small step at a time.. as you did go up to dragonlady, hurray.
I love to jump on hotel room beds and take super long showers/baths... enjoy your stay How long will you be gone??
scott - 05/01/06 09:04
Hey, thanks for sharing this tale. It really does paint a vivid scene that just about anyone can relate to.

I agree with (e:enknot) on this. You're not alone in your rollercoaster ride of ups and downs in the dating world. I rode that train until I was de-railed by my soon-to-be mrs. (She basically rescued me like a dog at the pound.) It was a fun ride, but I'd clearly had enough.


Advice? Sue I got some...

Life's short and the decent guy's dig chicks who don't play games. Thus, you can't go wrong so long as you follow you're heart and be yourself. If you want to call a guy, call him. If you think you're smothering him, you are. Don't bother trying to guess what someone else is thinking. It's been my experience that most people don't thik at all, anyways. ;)

Good luck!!!
enknot - 05/01/06 07:38
I love your posts, they have a very movie like quality to them, and to show you gratitude for entertaining me with a moment from your life I'll say something kinda superfluous and nonsensical.

Don't fret about your shyness. Everyone goes through that from time to time.

I used to perform on stage. Once even in front of more than 400 people (and I'm kinda being modest as not to exaggerate), and I still get all choked up when it comes to meeting new members of the opposite sex sometimes, or even just people.

Just between you and me and everyone else, I've even try those internet dating things once or twice, but gave up because I felt silly and/or I was saved by being able find someone IRL. People can be intimidating, and girls are sometimes very imposing especially if I'm really attracted to them. I figure if is meant to happen it will by some stretch. I'll get over what ever's buggin me or something, and it’ll just happen. It has enough times, though it wouldn’t hurt for it to happen again…soon, so I’m really with you on all this.

So I guess my only real advice is (as if you were asking) to just keep being as cute as you can be, and feeling that way and something will happen. It always does doesn’t it?