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04/21/2009 09:10 #48464

I'm dropping a hell of a lot of F bombs
where do i begin....

my mother is in the hospital. has been throwing up for over a week. hasn't been able to eat as a result, in over a week. the doctors have no fucking idea what is wrong with her. they will say, oh this is what it probably is, and then its not. they haven't exactly been putting too much effort or concern into her.

she is producing large amounts of bile, which is what shes throwing up. Yesterday, the Dr stopped in for his 'hey I'm here, okay i can log it and get paid for this' visit and when he, once again, said 'don't' know whats wrong with you,' my brother asked him why the hell mom was vomiting far more than she was taking in. the Dr. actually thought about this morning and decided to run a scope into her stomach today. Why the FUCK does it take my brother's asking of a si9mple goddamn question to prompt a Dr to do his fucking job? I'm so fucked up, mad, concerned, etc. about this. I mean FUCK.

Is there anything I can do? Any way of reporting dr.s that just don't seem to give a goddamn?? I'm so stressed about this.

Secondly, not 2 weeks after my car accident and subsequent $400+ bill, and Lauren's bullshit ticket, (e:lauren) 's car decides to shit a brick. So we have it at the mechanics right now. First its the coil - and apparently she's been running on 2 cylinders. Once they get the coil, then they can figure out if its a catalytic converter.

What really fucking sucks is that we only need this car for 4 more months until we move to NYC. Which, in case any of you are doing the math, is seriously taking a whole hell of a lot out of our "move to NYC" fund.

which brings me to my next point... My supposed best friend last night informed me that because she is miserable living at her brothers for these FEW fucking short months until I get there, she is going into a deal with her former employer (who, incidentally fucked her royally and caused her to be in serious financial debt) wherein she is getting an apartment in NY by herself, and her former boss will pay for half of it as long as he can stay there 2-3 times a month.

As in she will not be moving in with us, splitting a 2 bedroom with us, she casually says she wants to move into this apartment and we would have to find one on our own. FUCK YOU.

Okay, so moral of the whole fucking story? Someone took a big shit on my parade.

Now I have to go get ready to drive to LOCKPORT to pick up all the Cellphones that I was transferring to the SPRINGVILLE store and forgot yesterday, and then drive to SPRINGVILLE.

So, I haven't posted in a while, and this is the angry fucked up woah is me post i post? yup. Fuck.
heidi - 04/22/09 15:40
that's some rough stuff, (e:fellyconnelly)... my thoughts are with you & your family.
fellyconnelly - 04/22/09 05:34
thanks to everyone's well wishes...

(e:jenks) my mother is on peritoneal dialysis, just recently from last summer. They originally decided that it was a stomach bug and sent her home. Then they did some bloodwork, and from the results of that decided it wasn't peritonitis, and said it was just a blockage. They put a tube down her throat (which causes her severe claustrophobia/panic attacks) and drained an excessive amount of bile from her stomach. They said it was a blockage. They gave her medicine to help her pass it. Then after some more xrays they said that there might not have been any blockage at all. My mother felt loads better. they took the tube out, her throat was sore, but not sick. Next day she was vomiting all over herself again. After my brother pressing the dr about why there was so much coming out when NOTHING was coming in, DR decided to do a scope and a CT scan to check for gallbladder issues and etc.

The scope found a small polyp in her duodenum, which they brushed off as not a problem, and nothing much else. We are waiting to see the results of the CT scan.


Original problem was the vomiting/abdominal bloating/pain in the stomach. She is gassy, but does not have diarrhea. They have occasionally said (back and forth) maybe it has something to do with her peritoneal tube, maybe a hernia from the surgery, maybe not. She does not drink, and i'm not sure of her poop.

She mentioned a gallbladder problem that has run in the family many times to the dr, and they kept saying, no thats not it. actually her dr, at her questions, often brushes things off and has to apologize to her twice already as a result. this is why i want to scream at the dr.

and yes, we are moving to NYC... i guess... :) thanks for your help jenks!
jenks - 04/21/09 20:39
i clearly missed something- you're moving to NYC?!

and re your mom...
I really doubt (HOPE!) that they were ignoring her and doing nothing. Even if we only stop in for a few minutes in the AM, that doesn't mean we're not working on things for you all day long.
That said... bilious vomiting usually means some kind of obstruction somewhere. Could be a bowel obstruction from scar tissue from previous surgery. Could be a gallbladder/pancreas problem. Could be a mass/tumor. Is she having abdominal pain, too? has her poop changed color (like from brown to gray?) does/did she drink a lot (of alcohol)? has she farted/pooped recently? Any diarrhea? Has she ever had surgery before? How long has this been going on? what medical problems does she have?
Those are some questions I'd start with...
I would start with bloodwork and an abdominal xray, then most likely a CT scan (not so much an MRI)- and I agree with the thought of an EGD (scope).

As far as getting your doctors' attention... it's a fine line. I don't recommend you sit back and do nothing. But at the same time, don't be an obnoxious pain in the ass. When we know we're going to be accosted by a million people with a million questions as soon as we walk in a room- it makes us not want to go in. That may sound horrible- but trust us. We haven't forgotten about you. Also- try to be there when the team comes by on rounds. that's the best time to get them. Asking the nurses to page the doctors to come talk to you does not win you points.

(not trying to be harsh or obnoxious, just honest.)
mrmike - 04/21/09 12:15
Positive vibes to you. And do what Jim said, I had no troubling raising cane at Sisters when my kids arrived and when my Dad was treated there.
jim - 04/21/09 09:51
If they're not taking your Mom being sick seriously it's up to your family to make sure she's getting the care she needs. Raise as much ruckus as you have to.

Have they done any body scans? If they haven't done a CAT scan or MRI then demand it.

I'll be thinking of you and her...
james - 04/21/09 09:13
Love and kittens! Just think love and kittens.

04/15/2009 13:11 #48394

More info on the Beerology Event
I just bought (e:lauren) and I tickets to Beerology.
its our 4 year anniversary, and it was (e:lauren)'s idea to spend it on beer tasting. This is why I love this woman.

More Info:

Beerology: Science on Tap!
When: Friday, April 24
6:00 - 9:00pm
Where: Buffalo Museum of Science
Tickets: $25 pre-sale; include beer tastings, food and presentations.
Please Note: This event is for adults 21 and over only, please.
Once registered, your name will be added to the Beerology guest list. Tickets will not be mailed.



Join the Buffalo Museum of Science for its new adult event surrounding the science of beer! Guests can sample beers and brews from local breweries, snack on beer-friendly foods, and enjoy presentations on home brewing, entertainment, raffles and much more!

Presenting Beerologists (to date):
Ethan Cox - local beer brewer, judge, and educator
Stephen Powell ��" brewing history guru

Featured Breweries (to date):
Blue Point Brewery
Flying Bison Brewing Company
Great Lakes Brewing Company
Long Trail Brewing Company
Merchant Du Vin Importers
Pearl Street Grill & Brewery
Saranac Brewery
The Village Beer Merchant


Music to Brew By:
Michael Bly

Beer-friendly Foods:
‘Happy Hour Fare’ provided by local restaurants

Event agenda to come!

jason - 04/16/09 14:32
Alex, next time you go, you want to go to the St. Sixtus Monastery and get the Westvleteren 12, the Holy Grail of Beer, and a drop that I would do some seriously dirty shit to taste.
jenks - 04/15/09 18:59
damn jay, I'll go beer tasting with you!
and unfortunately I didn't get your message in time, and couldn't find the beer you wanted. All I brought back was some chimay, which is not even hard to find here- but there were too many carry-on restrictions, so I had to buy it in duty-free and the selection was limited. :( I did have a tasty delirium nocturnum while there though, and had a rochefort back at the house too. :)

Ok felly sorry for hijacking!
james - 04/15/09 15:38
Happy beeriversary!
james - 04/15/09 14:18
Happy anniversary.
jason - 04/15/09 13:55
PS - If I had a woman that wanted to do beer tasting on an anniversary I would love the bajeezus out of her too! LOL!
jason - 04/15/09 13:55
It looks like an interesting event. Merchant Du Vin imports some of my favorite Belgians - Orval, Trappiste Rochefort, Westmalle.

04/08/2009 06:50 #48321

my excuse
Sorry I didn't make it over to the dinner after work. Or call. I had a massive migraine yesterday as a result of stress.

Yesterday on the way into work I hit a drift in the road, slid, and after almost correcting myself, hit the second drift and lost it. Spun around and nailed the guard rail on my drivers side.

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The biggest issue here is the wheel damage.

I found a replacement rim for $100 (used) that will arrive at the shopp in Springville, today. Thankfully the tire is fine. Today, I drive BACK to springville on the stupid donut I had to put on and get to find out the rest of my fate. Of which I know:

My alignment is way off, I'm pretty sure I have a bent rotor, will need at LEAST one new rotor, brakepad and caliper. I may need a trailing arm too.

The worst part about the whole thing was that I was on the phone with my mother when it happened (she didn't know it happened, until she asked me why I was swearing) and not TEN minutes earlier we were having a conversation about my insurance being so high, and how I have to do some shopping around, because my deductible is $1000. Fing f f f f f.

ANyways, I hope you all had a great time last night and Sorry I didn't make it!
libertad - 04/08/09 21:39
I have heard your deductibles actually should be fairly high because if you make any claims they can affect your rates for years anyways. Glad you weren't hurt.
lauren - 04/08/09 12:16
you know your profile says you are 27? you are gay and i heart you and im glad you are ok.... these things build character...i accidentally wrote "thesis" instead of "these"...shows you were im at :)
theli - 04/08/09 10:09
What the hell is with these accidents on the way to work?

Is working too hard putting our lives, and by extension our cars, in danger? O_o

(Hee, see what I did there?)
jim - 04/08/09 09:34
Sorry Felly :( That really sucks!
james - 04/08/09 09:18
Oh no. I am so sorry to hear Felly.

04/04/2009 21:55 #48287

bonsaiiii
I Bought a Japanese Juniper plant.

it looks sorta like this
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the intention is to prune it into a bonsai

like this:
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I intend on doing this tomorrow. But I don't have any bonsai pottery. Nor do I have gloves. Which could suck as my hands already have red prickles on them.

AH.
paul - 04/05/09 11:58
That sound so fun. I think I would enjoy having some bonsai trees. Keep us posted on the pruning, I am curious to see how it goes.
tinypliny - 04/04/09 22:05
Is this like a prop for the story you are mentally writing while commuting?

04/07/2009 09:30 #48315

Sometimes
I've been getting so drained at work lately... I keep anticipating the time when it will all just go away, and yet it doesn't...

My Lockport store is currently the #1 Wireless zone store for April (out of several hundred), and last month we were#2. It has been SO BUSY!

Which of course is good for profits, but I'm finding it to be a hard time juggling sales, and trying to keep these guys going long enough to keep their other tasks up. I walked into the store Monday morning and it was a DISASTER.

I placed a $35,000 order because we were so very low/sold out of stuff. Seriously - that is a big order.....

I love working in Lockport because it makes my check much more bearable, but holy hell does it kick my ass.

Today I'll be in Springville, which has still been a profitable store, but less chaos. A little relaxation, I guess. Except the admin lady called in, so I get to do her job too. BAh.... AND as a result, I don't get to go to the dinner tonight. BALLS!

Its so hard leading these kids into battle....

oh... haha on another note, (e:lauren) got a ticket yesterday! haha
fellyconnelly - 04/08/09 06:51
no relaxing today. bah
james - 04/07/09 09:50
um... yeah! That sounds like a whole lot of crazy. If you can sneak it in, try and relax a little.