So,
I have a friend.
She's really pretty. Olive skin, dark brown hair that flows in locks, eyes like pools of onyx.
She's a trained pianist. Loves great music.
Owns a house in a nice neighborhood. Has a decent job.
Likes to ride bikes. Sounds awesome right?
She's got faults too, but I don't want to point any of that out. Yet....
Ok, so this thing keeps happening to her where she starts dating a guy and not long after they decide to stop seeing her. It's always them that stop dating her... Lame.
I'm a good friend of hers at this point. I dated her before, in the past. And yes, I stopped seeing her too, so um.... here's my question to you (e:peep)'lz of the world.
She sometimes asks me, "Why does this keep happening to me?", and I feel like I must know, having had been a guy who did it and a person who watched it happened over and over, but what do I do?
Should I tell her what I think?
Should I ignore it and hope that someday someone will be a kind enough man to her to help her through this stuff
Really who do I know? Pfft!?
What do you think?
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06/04/2010 15:10 #51800
Queen of SorrowCategory: unnerd
06/04/2010 15:10 #51799
Queen of SorrowCategory: unnerd
So,
I have a friend.
She's really pretty. Olive skin, dark brown hair that flows in locks, eyes like pools of onyx.
She's a trained pianist. Loves great music.
Owns a house in a nice neighborhood. Has a decent job.
Likes to ride bikes. Sounds awesome right?
She's got faults too, but I don't want to point any of that out. Yet....
Ok, so this thing keeps happening to her where she starts dating a guy and not long after they decide to stop seeing her. It's always them that stop dating her... Lame.
I'm a good friend of hers at this point. I dated her before, in the past. And yes, I stopped seeing her too, so um.... here's my question to you (e:peep)'lz of the world.
She sometimes asks me, "Why does this keep happening to me?", and I feel like I must know, having had been a guy who did it and a person who watched it happened over and over, but what do I do?
Should I tell her what I think?
Should I ignore it and hope that someday someone will be a kind enough man to her to help her through this stuff
Really who do I know? Pfft!?
What do you think?
I have a friend.
She's really pretty. Olive skin, dark brown hair that flows in locks, eyes like pools of onyx.
She's a trained pianist. Loves great music.
Owns a house in a nice neighborhood. Has a decent job.
Likes to ride bikes. Sounds awesome right?
She's got faults too, but I don't want to point any of that out. Yet....
Ok, so this thing keeps happening to her where she starts dating a guy and not long after they decide to stop seeing her. It's always them that stop dating her... Lame.
I'm a good friend of hers at this point. I dated her before, in the past. And yes, I stopped seeing her too, so um.... here's my question to you (e:peep)'lz of the world.
She sometimes asks me, "Why does this keep happening to me?", and I feel like I must know, having had been a guy who did it and a person who watched it happened over and over, but what do I do?
Should I tell her what I think?
Should I ignore it and hope that someday someone will be a kind enough man to her to help her through this stuff
Really who do I know? Pfft!?
What do you think?
05/28/2010 03:41 #51742
Prince of PersiaCategory: movies
Let's not forget that this is a kids movie put out by Disney and a video game movie to boot...or maybe we can turn a blind eye to that and enjoy it as a unique historical fantasy action movie. Which ultimately i feel like it was.
This movie was a spectacle to behold. There was so much action that those who lack enough attention span for cohesive plot to develop won't be caught twiddling their thumbs. It suffers from that fractured feeling that non animated kids movies sometimes have, still it was alarming well glued. Something that's a bit of a feat of storytelling if you ask me. They managed to pack as much action and as little story in as possible and there was a pretty well rounded message and plot still. Unbeknownst to some this film was based on a video game and gamers are notorious for wanting more action less story so it might suit them well.
I think Jyllenhall does a great job delivering some really tacky one liners that couldn't be spun as funny or witty to most, which I think is a necessary evil when making a film that's supposed to entertain Sponge Bob fans who honestly laugh at knock knock jokes.
I saw it with a friend, and after 20 minutes I wished I had Mya next to me so that I could vicariously enjoy it as well as I should through her. Maybe I will take her if it's like playing at a double feature drive in or something.
All in all I give it a 4 1/2 stars out of 5. Losing 1/2 a star only because the jumpiness that losses adults could have been more cleverly placed, but still being a fun enough action film with killing that I wouldn't wanna cover my kids eyes during. Yes see this not Iron Man if you have littles.
Go see this film if you've got littles that like adventure. Or if you love adventure tales, or historical fiction and magic your self.
This movie was a spectacle to behold. There was so much action that those who lack enough attention span for cohesive plot to develop won't be caught twiddling their thumbs. It suffers from that fractured feeling that non animated kids movies sometimes have, still it was alarming well glued. Something that's a bit of a feat of storytelling if you ask me. They managed to pack as much action and as little story in as possible and there was a pretty well rounded message and plot still. Unbeknownst to some this film was based on a video game and gamers are notorious for wanting more action less story so it might suit them well.
I think Jyllenhall does a great job delivering some really tacky one liners that couldn't be spun as funny or witty to most, which I think is a necessary evil when making a film that's supposed to entertain Sponge Bob fans who honestly laugh at knock knock jokes.
I saw it with a friend, and after 20 minutes I wished I had Mya next to me so that I could vicariously enjoy it as well as I should through her. Maybe I will take her if it's like playing at a double feature drive in or something.
All in all I give it a 4 1/2 stars out of 5. Losing 1/2 a star only because the jumpiness that losses adults could have been more cleverly placed, but still being a fun enough action film with killing that I wouldn't wanna cover my kids eyes during. Yes see this not Iron Man if you have littles.
Go see this film if you've got littles that like adventure. Or if you love adventure tales, or historical fiction and magic your self.
metalpeter - 05/28/10 17:56
I so want to see this movie. When I first saw the previews for it, it looked amazing. Then Just recently I found out it is based on a Video game. It looks like it falls into the Mummy, or Indy movies a bit. I didn't know it was a kids movie it looks to me like it will be very good, I hope to see it sat, assuming that is what I wind up doing........
I so want to see this movie. When I first saw the previews for it, it looked amazing. Then Just recently I found out it is based on a Video game. It looks like it falls into the Mummy, or Indy movies a bit. I didn't know it was a kids movie it looks to me like it will be very good, I hope to see it sat, assuming that is what I wind up doing........
05/25/2010 00:28 #51725
Dolla Dolla Bowl Yall!Ok, so tomorrow there's 0.75$ bowling at Classic Lanes, which if you're being thrifty is a cheep night out. Only thing cheaper is a date with me, so why not do both at once and really save aaaaand have a good time?
So what do you say round 10sih?
So what do you say round 10sih?
05/20/2010 17:00 #51690
Sprint HTC Hero200 Android 2.1 UpdateCategory: nerd
After several virtual machine crashes and download debacles I've finally gotten my phone updated.
The update makes the phone a bit faster, and slightly better organized, give you access to a few more kinds of apps (google navigation, finally!), and has some cool HTC Sense updates. All in all worth the hassle
I accidentally found out that the update was published while calling sprint about an MMS message error on my phone so I freaked out and was distracted all day trying to get it installed and I mean alllll day.
The estimated time to download the 118MB file was bout 3 hours the frist time I tried to get it, and my impatience and ignorace failed me when I decided to restart the download a few times. Soon the time crawled up to over 5 hours and then I started to get ludicrous estimates like 14 hours and 2 days. By the end of the day and this morning when I check last the traffic didn't seem to be slowing.
There have been hacks and cracks for the update for weeks. I know some Sprint employees and I'd seen the update running on his device 3 weeks ago which lead me to question why they were waiting so long to release it.
I had to go to sprint yesterday for my mom and I found out the reason why they were taking so long with the phone update is because they wanted to wait for the Sprint HTC EVO launch, but I bet the pitchforks and torches convinced them otherwise.
Now everyone's bustling to get the files and the internet is broken over there. I decided to be a good Samaritan and post it on my dropbox. i don't want a million emails, but if you message me on my twitter @enknot then I will add your email address so you can grab it. Takes a few minutes there.
Note about the update. You need windows to do it (unless you can find the rom nugget without the .exe installer), and don't try it from a virtual machine. I was using VM ware fusion 3 with windows XP and right after it deleted the firmware on the device the system crashes to the blue screen and locks when it tires to reboot (tried it twice made me crazy).
Ok you humans. Good luck, have fun.
The update makes the phone a bit faster, and slightly better organized, give you access to a few more kinds of apps (google navigation, finally!), and has some cool HTC Sense updates. All in all worth the hassle
I accidentally found out that the update was published while calling sprint about an MMS message error on my phone so I freaked out and was distracted all day trying to get it installed and I mean alllll day.
The estimated time to download the 118MB file was bout 3 hours the frist time I tried to get it, and my impatience and ignorace failed me when I decided to restart the download a few times. Soon the time crawled up to over 5 hours and then I started to get ludicrous estimates like 14 hours and 2 days. By the end of the day and this morning when I check last the traffic didn't seem to be slowing.
There have been hacks and cracks for the update for weeks. I know some Sprint employees and I'd seen the update running on his device 3 weeks ago which lead me to question why they were waiting so long to release it.
I had to go to sprint yesterday for my mom and I found out the reason why they were taking so long with the phone update is because they wanted to wait for the Sprint HTC EVO launch, but I bet the pitchforks and torches convinced them otherwise.
Now everyone's bustling to get the files and the internet is broken over there. I decided to be a good Samaritan and post it on my dropbox. i don't want a million emails, but if you message me on my twitter @enknot then I will add your email address so you can grab it. Takes a few minutes there.
Note about the update. You need windows to do it (unless you can find the rom nugget without the .exe installer), and don't try it from a virtual machine. I was using VM ware fusion 3 with windows XP and right after it deleted the firmware on the device the system crashes to the blue screen and locks when it tires to reboot (tried it twice made me crazy).
Ok you humans. Good luck, have fun.
jenks - 05/21/10 21:09
hey dude, join my dropbox!
hey dude, join my dropbox!
I think I'm with Heidi. If you really are close friends, and you really want to help her- If you actually DO know why guys lose interest, or at least why you did, and it's something silly that she can fix, then maybe tell her that. You know "well, you're totally super awesome, but, well, you know the way you chew with your mouth open? That might kinda turn people off".
but if it's like "well, you're totally super awesome, but your voice is like nails on a blackboard, and, let's face it, you're totally psycho"... that might not go over so well. So in that case, yeah, I'd go with the "you're awesome. Guys are just stupid. You'll find the right guy someday, I know it!"
At first glance without knowing her or a pic, I would lean towards the whole (Guys are just intimidated by your vast accomplishments and just feel inferior to your life which is all put together. How can a guy measure up when you almost have it all. Or at least that was my first impression of her by your description.)
I just don't know really what to tell her as I have only recently gotten my "psychological" spur back but only since Loveline has come back to the local airwaves ;-)
I agree with (e:Tib), post a pic or lead her to this site to at least give it a coffee go of it with some of the (e:peeps) in a dry spell! ;-)
pic? I'll give it a try reversing her fortunes!
My blanket view on this matter: Girls don't want to hear the truth from any former mates. It just does not work out. If you think you are done being her friend, go ahead - spill it all out. Bear in mind that she will never be your friend again. There is no real or fake friendship on this one.
Relationships are the core of what it takes for humans to click. I can bet that she already 100% knows in heart what is exactly wrong. Probably is in some kind of denial. You will not help matters any if you tell the truth. You will just feel remorse and lose her as a friend.
Ignore. There is no point asking her if she can handle it or not. She cannot handle it because she asked you instead of searching herself.
I think this is what you should do, and there are some people I would tell to just shut up, and not say anything, but with speaking with you I don't have the right words but you are a very good speaker (At some party I remember you going on about the reasons to get high, and then going right into the reasons not to and it totaly made so much sense).
Ask her do you really want to know what I think and will you be able to handle the answer. Some times people think they want the answer but then can't handle it. If you think she really can handle it then you proced. You say something along the lines of I can't answer why people stop seeing you, I can only tell you what caused it with me. Again you can say how you are being honest and that is what a good friend does. Of course if she thinks that a good friend lies to help the friends feelings than you might get in a bit of trouble. Then go into what caused or why you stoped seeing her.
I see why you are kinda in a tough spot. I think it is worth the chance of losing her as a friend, if what you say will really help her out. But I also don't know what the issue is so I could be wrong there. I think though that you should tell her because she should know and it sounds like no one else is willing to do it......
You are friends, and she asked YOU for the reasons already mentioned. There could be 2 possibilities. Either she really is interested in knowing and wants to somehow grow from the knowledge. OR, she just wants to be justified in her own self and thinks you give her that justification and reassurance. If the latter is the case, it brings to mind the lyric "don't ask me what I think of you, I might not give the answer that you want me to". I say be honest (tactfully, obviously) and let the chips fall where they may. This is the exact difference between real friendships and fake ones.
Do you know? Is there something that she does that kinda ends the relationship? I guess it depends on if it's a personality issue or a behavioral issue - kindly pointing out an alienating behavior could be a very good thing. Personality issue - not so easy. Alternately, does she attract guys that are unavailable and/or uncommitted? You're in a very difficult situation.
Wow, tough situation. See, if you are honest and she rejects what she hears you're going to be in big trouble. I don't know how many times now I've regretted not saying "There's nothing wrong with you, you're great and they're all fuckheads."