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Almost every athlete, people at the very top of the top of their sport and their personal game, has talked about hard work as the key to their success. I've heard almost nothing about natural talent or good fortune (except in acknowledging the parents they were born to). Some have talked about planning to "peak" at the right time, more have talked about loving what they do, many have focused on performing better than they've ever performed before. As I listened I was so l glad to know that the kids who want to "be" Shaun or Apolo or Yuna Kim have heard that it takes dedication and commitment to achieve something great. But what is that underlying something that makes them do things the rest of us don't and achieve on a level that is rare. Are they bolder than the rest of us or just crazier?
I've also been thinking about everyday boldness. While less nightly-newsworthy, it takes a lot to believe in yourself everyday and to act on your convictions continuously, to step out of the background and be a frequent leader, to be the one who say "I will" rather than laugh at those who step up, to join with those who express optimism and a willingness to try rather than being a part of the pack that views them as the enemy. It's not easy to do this. I have seen people suffer because they've chosen a bold path. They certainly won't win every time but true boldness will find a way to try again. These people do things rather than talk about them. They find inspiration in others and are inspiring often without realizing it. I find them admirable.
I really liked this blog Ms. Jenkins. It spoke directly to me. Not only do I like to snowboard, but it's been said from time to time that I am a bold person. It's a compliment that I enjoy quite a bit.
I think a lot of people will read this blog and identify with it greatly, but it seems that a very key element of the process isn't presented that has been haunting me lately. Boldness gone bad. Failure. Rejection. Regret. Remorse. The things that follow when boldness doesn't serve you.
I've noticed the emotional outcome of attempts like this cripple some into a life long lull, or force them to shift their perceptions of the world around to protect them selves from more of the same and as a result become less bold. I've seen many great people who live inside their own heads and scoff at the outside world for not understanding or not being ready for the greatness they have to offer. Luckily, liviing that way scares me more than failing, or else I think I'd be in a very different place...
Well? what did you end up doing??
I would say c, have a drink. If she pays for round 2 or 3 then I would say that is a good sign. A drink is a lot less pressure than a dinner or lunch.
None are an insult, but coffee or a relaxed drink atmosphere would be a good first get to know each other encounter. I often go for an outdoor stroll (or more intense hike when the guy is game) followed by coffee/tea to rehydrate and relax. Lunch and dinner would be better for the second encounter, in my opinion. Go get her, tiger!
d. coffee
Less risk, more flexible.
but I also agree with (e:jbeatty).
I don't think any are an insult. However more times than not the bartender isn't really into the patron. They are only making money and being nice. But if it seems like a real connection is being made I would go with drinks. Its cheaper than dinner and you will find out if she is a lush or not.
If I was a bartender I don't know as I would want to be asked to go out for drinks, unless it was say drinks back at someone's place.
Dinner is nicer but also it might be tough to have dinner then go work at a bar , time wise it could be tough to find a day. But also though Dinner implies that after that if things go well there could be other stuff to do.
Lunch is more of causal thing, and there wouldn't be any conflict most likely. Unless the place you where singing has lunch.
I'm not a chick so I can't really say, I still think dinner is the best bet but it is hard to know really..........
Hmm.. none of those would work if she is avoiding carbohydrates.
Did she give you any cues in terms of what she is into, etc? I try to avoid dinner for a first date. You know what is pretty fun is 2 for 1 martinis at Cecelia's on the patio. I also like Chow Chocolat. Chocolate is a friggin winner every time, thanks to God for chemistry. Get an ice cream cone at Fowler's. Go to Delish or Zillycakes or some other place to get something sweet.
C is really giving her more business, no? :-)
I am not a bartender, neither am I American, but I think a or b or c would be fine really. It actually just depends on what she thinks - which you won't know till you see the reaction to a or b. heh