after a spat with a coworker, i was told by this person:
i am a stupid immature little brat, they have no time to deal with
this person has no respect for me, they only deal with me because they respect my mother and uncle
i am a little girl, and i act like a little girl, and we both know it
there are several physicians and nurses who want me fired, so i better watch what i say and who i say it to
these comments blew me away, and i was in full out tears. several physicians witnessed this encounter, but i doubt any will come for ward and stand up for me. in fact, the medical director was laughing.
i am good at what i do, and i am smart. this whole situation was so out of line, and i am so upset. honestly, i feel like this man is going to spin this stuff to try and get me fired. i have two other jobs so i am not that worried. and in the end, i know i am not wrong.
it is never ok, to let someone speak to you the way this man did to me. i felt intimidated, and little. i felt threatened. i was scared of him and i stood up for myself. my advice to you, is to always speak up for yourself. it is never acceptable to let someone belittle you, ever.
to have a grown man call me a stupid little girl is such an insult. this comes from someone i taught some advanced algebra to a few months ago. he praised me on being an intelligent young lady. he has told me he thinks im beautiful and witty, and today attacked and threatened me.
there are two sides to every story, and yes i was angry with him as well. but i would never call him a stupid little boy. i would never get right in his face and tell him i have no respect for him. i would not say this to anyone at work. i do not berate people.
i don't know what is going to happen tomorrow, and i feel so awful right now, it is hard to describe. he threatened my job and my character.
on the upside, i have a sweet new/used car and no more car debt. i have two other awesome jobs. i am gonna kick ass in school this semester and i have finally made some stellar friends out here!!!
- and i will see you buffalonians so soooooooooon!****
happy valentine's day to lovers and non-lovers alike!
So what happened, I would definitely call HR on this one like (e:janelle) suggested,
I don't know the details in this case about how you work. But what I can say is there is someone who everyone hates where I work, and this person deserves it. They Act like you come to work to smoke, drink, and fuck off and then when you have time you work. The Point I'm getting to is that everyone (well mostly) hates him or can't stand him, but yet he thinks he does nothing wrong and it isn't him. I've had to yell at him plenty of times for being lazy, I don't like to do it, and it isn't my job since I'm not the boss. But if someone really makes your Job Tougher they need to be yelled at. But the thing is often that isn't the best way to do things. In His case he is a kid he ain't no working man that is for sure, he likes to play games, and only thinks about him self really. I'm not saying you are like this, but if you are really viewed this way then you can see why you got yelled at. But to call you a little girl was a bit much.
Call HR. Obviously every HR department is different. But generally, the HR departments I've dealt with have a vested interested in resolving these issues fairly.
He said it to you because he knew that it would hurt you.
You, too, could probably spin this to try to get him fired. I would suspect that publicly insulting someone is against the rules of your employer. Sometimes making someone cry can backfire on the asshole because it almost de facto proves that his conduct wasn't appropriate. But sometimes, dealing with shit like that just ain't worth the effort.