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07/02/2009 00:46 #49158

FREE LUKA
Carry on. (Great tune by CSN, by the way).

In my last entry (e:carey) mentioned the thought about not realizing or understanding those things that might make someone feel like the lil' ol' hypothetical me is hard to approach. I can't get my head around that, I've never really considered these things before. I'm painfully shy with ladies and I'm usually prone to scurrying off.

OH SHIT. Sly & Family Stone - Thank You just came on Sirius - fuck my blog. Nite guys!




metalpeter - 07/02/09 19:34
I can admit that it is hard to believe. But that being said I think most people have a tiny bit of shyness that only shows up in certain situations, I know seeing a hot chick can often cause that. Or maybe that is just me......
joshua - 07/02/09 01:41
Nobody believes me when I say that really... I am a jovial guy that can talk a blue streak at times, but I'm bashful.
tinypliny - 07/02/09 01:35
You are shy? Really? I can't believe that.
paul - 07/02/09 00:55
Wow, for once you and (e:matthew) agree on something.

06/30/2009 10:35 #49129

Yet Another Admission To Discuss
I must be horny - lately I've been fixated on discussing what my boundaries are in terms of attraction to the opposite sex. The "mistaken lesbian unrequited love" entry that I posted yesterday is one thing, but I think this next tidbit may be controversial. Maybe not so much with the lesbian contingent, but we'll see.

Women with shaved heads. Yes or no? I'm not talking about Bic razor shaved, but your normal clipper style. I say yes!

Yesterday while driving home I saw a girl that completely blew me away but I don't think a single one of my friends would consider dating her. She was wearing a tight, slinky black dress, curvy, in my eyes mega attractive, and the way she walked just oozed sexy confidence. Really pretty smile, black Ray-Bans, and a shaved head. Allow me to be a typical guy and use a crude analogy - for some this is like being presented with a 5-star, world class dessert topped with something funky you haven't tasted before. This is where the world of "to each, his own" really kicks in, but for me this was another Cupid moment. Based on my track record and what I revealed in my last post, any takers on whether or not she's "off the market to me" so to speak? Maybe Cupid hates me? Really though, I was totally struck with how beautiful I thought she was.

Based on a very unscientific survey I think you'll find some of what my guy friends had to say surprising. A co-worker told me that he'd date a girl with a full tattoo sleeve before dating a girl with a shaved head. Hmm. Another spoke about the challenges of bringing home a girl with a different outlook on personal expression to meet grandma, which maybe isn't so surprising. (Yes, some of us are actually honest with mostly decent intentions!).

I say sexy is sexy, and personally I'm not going to be stopped because a girl I thought was an utter knockout has hair a little shorter than mine.


jenks - 07/03/09 08:30
my hairdresser shaved her head a couple years ago. And she ROCKED it. She looked super hot. She also has some amazing tattoos... She would definitely be my girl crush.
And I agree with lauren about the confidence aspect.
metalpeter - 07/01/09 18:00
So the term is Handle Bars, thanks. I haven't done it my self but I have heard they are great to direct the chick, hey sounds fun. Some might say well not if you are the lady, but I'm sure some of them do there hair that way just for that reason.
lauren - 07/01/09 11:50
there is so much going on here, but I will say this: I think (e:tinypliny) has a very good point, which is to say that only those with really nice faces can pull off a shaved head well. That being said, I think a girl with a shaved head has to have some kind of wicked confidence (that is if they are not some adolescent teenager) and that is always sexy. Also...and I am hesitant to say this, but I will anyway, I think that in general, lesbians MAY have more confidence than straight women because they are less likely to buy into all that crap about femininity and what is or is not considered attractive by the straight world. Considering that...a lesbian with a shaved head is hot...a straight woman with a shaved head may be even hotter...does that make sense? In any case, I saw to you, (e:joshua), way to go and go for it. If everyone listened to what is supposed to be sexy these days, we would all by up shits creek without a paddle.
jason - 07/01/09 10:20
Carey, nice usage of the word delicious. Amen to that. Peter, I think the word you are looking for is handlebars.

Michael Vincent, I know it's in the graveyard but did you say you like girls with shaved heads too? You're dead to me, Vincent...DEAD!!! =)
theecarey - 06/30/09 23:33
as you said, sexy is sexy. why not try on all sorts of different looks, sizes, styles, interests, attitudes etc? It isn't marriage nor needs to be anywhere near that level. Some people only like one 'look'- and many of us enjoy a wide delicious range. Never know what might stop you in your tracks.. Enjoy it, and go for it- don't let the perception that that person is off the market to you! Besides, who knows what they are into, and what it might be about *you* that might stop them in their tracks, right? right.
metalpeter - 06/30/09 21:11
I don't really go for the shaved head. But that being said I think a lot of it has to do with the chick. Like Sinead O'Conor (singer who ripped up the picture of the pope) was skinny had no tits and had a shaved head, but yet was still hot somehow. I think that with women more then men Hair really changes how there faces look. Some people look better with short hair and some with long. This is true with colors also. For example I have seen this one girl on line who looks so hot with black dyed hair but with her natural hair she is just allright. Oh wait maybe with the black hair she had on an out fit that went with the hair color I can't remember.

(e:leetee) I think that you kinda make a good point about hair length. I think with short hair it puts so much attention on the face that you really have to look very pretty. Plus with short hair the way it is styled then has to fit the persons face. But see with long hair you can hide flaws or what someone might find a flaw.

I love crazy hair, Bright pink. I saw this girl once with rainbow hair. Each color stood out and it looked amazing. I love fetish hair also. I don't mean the pig tail fetish either, I have heard there is something they are good for (BJ's). I mean the braids, ok I think I have to go and go take care of my self now(kidding) Tattooes help it along.
drew - 06/30/09 18:10
I like a shaved head.
tinypliny - 06/30/09 15:34
Did you know that only those people who have near symmetric faces can pull off the short-hair/shaved-head look really well? Hair is a sort of adornment that hides many flaws.

That, and not having it is a huge time-saver. HAHAHA.
jason - 06/30/09 13:37
I don't dig chicks with shaved heads. Sorry, I just can't bring myself to feel it's sexy. The rest of her could be A+ Dime Piece 10/10 quality but she's got to have hair fer chrissakes. Then again, I don't know that they dig me either - I don't have nose or dick piercing.
joshua - 06/30/09 11:43
It's an interesting topic to me James. Everything you say is true, yet I still don't understand people that shit in cups in an effort to get off. Then again, some people wouldn't understand how I could find a banging girl that just happens to have really short hair.

(e:lee) I'd have to say that when it comes to the ladies I have a far, far broader mindset than all my friends. I love all of my friends' wives and girlfriends - they are great - but none of them are necessarily the type I'd look for.

Every time I've been with a girl that isn't your typical suburban white bread female, I've found a lot of depth - girls with good hearts who do the impossible in my eyes, which is accept my own flaws without much reservation.
theli - 06/30/09 11:37
I say yes as well.

Go for it man. Sometimes grandma will just have to accept it.
james - 06/30/09 11:32
Spending a few minutes on the internet, you can find that people have different sexual interests. From girls with shaved heads to two girls taking a shit in a cup. What I love about our crazy species is the diversity of sexual expression. Bonobo chimps may get it on way more, but none of them have crazy bondage devices or high heel shoes.

Enjoy your own brand of freakishness.
leetee - 06/30/09 11:18
Hmm, interesting. I find the subject of what makes sexy sexy facinating. In down times, co-workers and i have discussed it at length. Sadly, most of the men don't get too in depth with us and end up saying that sexy is big tits or a perfect ass or nice legs. Most of the woman admit that a nice ass is, if you will pardon the pun, an asset, but more often that not, it has to do with personality/behaviour.

I admire a man who is willing to go beyond the usual social norm... at least with a hairdo.

Which brings me round to another ponderance. Why is long hair sexy or good and short hair, particularly very short hair not sexy? It can't be because it is too boyish, is it? 'Cause isn't it supposed to be sexy when woman wear a man's pj top or girl up a men's suit?

06/29/2009 12:28 #49123

Another Admission
This is more direct and will probably be more controversial, but I suspect that it might start an interesting conversation. Or not. This time I'm not admitting something I don't like about myself but rather something maybe a little more unusual. I bet I'm not alone on this one either.

More than once I've found myself attracted to a girl that I found out later was a lesbian. Actually, this might be my least favorite thing about the pride parade - almost every year I see a fine lady and Cupid plays a cruel and unusual joke on me. I'll see a girl that gets my heart pounding, then a second later she'll be holding hands with another girl, and then a minute later they're kissing. SON OF A! Off the market, move along soldier. I love girls regardless of their own sexuality, apparently!

I have to laugh at myself. I'm sure this has happened to everybody (a lesbian attracted to a straight girl, etc.). I love you girls anyway - ALL of you!
theecarey - 06/30/09 23:28
c'est la vie! I dont know what it says, if anything. But I feel your pain. Often, way too often some guy I am actually attracted to is well, gay. Bi often works in my favor, but honestly, only when they are more about me. Regardless of the dynamic (ie; whether you are front and center or on the back burner), it is fun nonetheless, but still something likely to consider if going for a bi-girl, and what you want from them.

metalpeter - 06/30/09 20:59
I have never had that happen to me. But I can get how that feels. As a Pride Parade example look at the Roxy's Float (I assume they are all lesbians I wouldn't know) and at least the ones on the truck all look smokin hot.
leetee - 06/30/09 11:09
I have a friend who's first girlfriend was a bit gender bender looking. His first love. Many years and a divorce later, he had a run of 3 girlfriends in a row that broke up with him because they realized they were gay. Now that is a cruel twist of fate for the guy....
joshua - 06/30/09 09:58
I'd be up for a bisexual girl - no problems there! Oh, I have a new one for you all to consider that I'm about to write about.
lauren - 06/30/09 08:24
I am right there with you (e:matthew) and (e:tinypliny)! although mine is perhaps a new twist? Often enough I have seen people of either sex and thought, if only they were the "opposite" sex they would be attractive...I guess I just like boys who look like girls and girls who look like boys. And don't worry (e:Joshua), for every lesbian out there you find attractive, there is probably a straight (or hey, maybe even bisexual?) girl waiting in the wings.
tinypliny - 06/29/09 12:57
HAHAHA (e:matthew), I once talked to this extremely charming person for a complete 5 minutes before I realized she was not a boy. It was so hilarious later that I still can't help laughing when I think about it. I think that might have been one "realistic" person that I might actually have been interested in - at least in the past 4 years. HAHAHAHA
tinypliny - 06/29/09 12:52
Why stop there? I would add being obsessed with highly unrealistic people to this list. I don't even want to list the names on my recent unhappy OMG-I-am-*this*-obsessed list. :/
matthew - 06/29/09 12:52
lol its funny but ive had the same problem..er..sorta. Sometimes when im out i see a really cute boy across the bar, only to get a closer look and i realize it's not a cute boy after all, but a cute girl.

06/28/2009 11:59 #49107

I Disappoint Myself Sometimes
I've kept my blog relatively light-hearted for a while, but today I wanted to share with you guys something that really bugs me about myself. This is about an aspect of my personality that I dislike and would like to work on and change a bit.

I know myself and where I stand with my friends fairly well. I'm secure with myself more or less, although there are things that I wish were different, which is a statement that I think most people would make. I know that amongst my friends I'm broadly well-liked and amongst the more popular ones, even when I've been kind of reclusive. People do like me and I don't know why... but I'm thankful!

There is something about my personality that I hate and I feel like at times it betrays that sentiment from my friends and colleagues. Once in a while a pet peeve of mine will be in front of me, my thought process halts and a swift rush of annoyance hits me, and I'll stop what I'm doing and do whatever I can to stop that pet peeve. I'll even be vicious about it if I feel like someone is being annoying to me or a friend. Then, on occasion, I'll realize after the fact that I should have taken a different approach because my instant reaction to the pet peeve that I just described clouded my judgment, making me take too heavy handed an approach to begin with. Then I'll apologize, because I thought about it for a minute and realized that I was horrified with how I reacted.

I'm betraying myself when I do that. What it comes down to is that I am not giving people the benefit of the doubt at times, and I need to do that more because it is all that I would ask of anyone else to do for me if I were misunderstood or misinterpreted.
tinypliny - 06/28/09 13:32
Yea, confession time! I am horribly judgemental sometimes - and I hate it and it makes me repent all the time. I am hasty in passing judgements on people who:
a) whinge - it makes me resentful towards them - which actually makes me a whinger.
b) are indifferent - again I feel resentment towards their attitude - when its totally not my business.
c) are insincere generally - who am I to even call them insincere.

I say I need to practice the non-judgement live-with-flaws-and-let-live-with-even-more-flaws more this year.
paul - 06/28/09 12:54
I think I know what you mean but can you give a specific example, even if it is a hypothetical one.
metalpeter - 06/28/09 12:45
Not sure what to say really other then that I think most people have stuff about them selves they hate. I know I have many things. But from what this sounds like is that you want to try and change what you don't like. Hopefully you will be able to, most people aren't able to.

06/26/2009 14:57 #49090

If You Love My Shades Then Just Admit It
Ray-Ban has a utility that allows you to "try on" different models of sunglasses. I've been thinking about replacing my current aviators with a new model, or perhaps the Wayfarer type. Here's a screenshot of the utility while in use -

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The aviator model is entirely different than the model I currently wear - different shape, different lens size, different manufacturer. What I'm really interested in, although you can't seem to pick it specifically, is the black metal frame aviators with the dark green lenses... the sort of classic Ray-Ban setup.

I dunno. Sorry about not shaving, by the way, but then again if I don't have to apologize to my boss why am I apologizing for the public at large? Haha. Which do you think are best?

EDIT: X-factors, for fun. Sorry for the fuzzy picture but it's kind of dark.

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EDIT: XXX-factor, no pr0n involved - I give you my brother. Hot like lava, y'all -


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jenks - 07/03/09 08:37
The wayfarers are ok, but I still dig the aviators. They're timeless.
I have mixed feelings about girls wearing them.
Sometimes they look great, sometimes it's more like 'hey look at me, don't i look cool in these glasses? huh? huh? look at me LOOK AT ME! This is trendy!"
metalpeter - 06/27/09 19:16
Well along time ago I used to have white shades, but that was ok because they where the "Macho Man" Randy Savage Sunglasses I think I still have them they might be on the Ultimate Warrior currently not sure. But that brings up a point You could call white shades on a guy depending on style Laguna's also if you wanted to.
vincent - 06/26/09 22:41
I'd have to go with the aviators in the top comparison and then with the bottom three the glasses on the right hand side. To me I just don't get the 80's goggle look. I didn't care for it much then and I certainly don't go for it now. What really gets me is the white sunglasses that are out there these days, guys should not be wearing white shades.
theecarey - 06/26/09 21:23
Hmmm, I am partial to the Aviators on you. I'm usually not a fan, but you pull them off quite attractively. (our new site troll will be jealous)

and for Mr. Hot Like Lavaâ„¢, the 3016 are working for me. or him. You know what I mean!
mrmike - 06/26/09 21:15
I dig the 3016 model. Used to have them a lot, haven't been able to find them in ages.
tinypliny - 06/26/09 20:42
This post will go down in the (e:history).
joshua - 06/26/09 20:40
Come to think of it this is kind of rare, Jay normally doesn't make many cameos in my blog.
joshua - 06/26/09 20:40
Yep.
tinypliny - 06/26/09 20:36
LOL this is getting hilarious. Are both of those "Jasons"?
tinypliny - 06/26/09 20:13
HAHAHAH... I am absolutely just admitting it. I <3 ^5 your sunglasses with the pout!!
joshua - 06/26/09 20:06
I should rename this journal entry to "If You Love My Sunglasses Just Admit It."
tinypliny - 06/26/09 19:40
"suspect that I have an asymmetrical head..."

Naaah, that's just you displeased about something. ;-) Quite honestly, you do have a very pleasant face and smaller snappier glasses are the way to go!
joshua - 06/26/09 19:39
The aviators I have right now are 52mm width, which I think is slightly too small for my liking. On the other hand my brother has the frames I'm looking for and when I wear them they feel cavernous by comparison (they are 58mm). I can't tell if they are simply too big, or if the difference is so large that it seems exaggerated in my own mind.

What I want for aviators are a gunmetal type frame, or black, frame model 3025, and either smoke or Ray-Ban's green lenses, preferably polarized. I think the Wayfarers are cool as well, and those are the sort of shades you can hang onto for 30 years and they'll never really totally be out of style. That Virtual Mirror tool is kind of fun, maybe I'll edit this and throw in an "x-factor" for you guys to evaluate.
tinypliny - 06/26/09 19:37
"Big sunglasses make ugly girls look pretty"

Sssshushhh... Think of the chaos this might cause in the known planetary systems were this truth more universally known!!!


joshua - 06/26/09 19:34
(e:tiny) I suspect that I have an asymmetrical head but I'm not sure.
metalpeter - 06/26/09 19:00
I Can't say what ones are better really. I just have to comment on something (e:heidi) said. I don't think either of those are big sunglasses. What I call big ones I call Leguna's . Yes they are those huge sunglasses that make ugly girls look pretty. Just because you where them doesn't mean you are ugly. But what they do is cover so much of your face that they change how you look. I call them Lagunas because those girls on Laguna beach wore them and then it seemed like all the Buffalo Area girls started wearing them. I would like to get those ones they make for men with the diamonds that are real square and almost look pimp like you have all seen them, but I want a twist I want something speeled out on the side peace like Metallica or deathklok or something like that and then I can look all California and use them up on top of my head to hold my hair out of my face with some metal style t-shirt.
tinypliny - 06/26/09 18:17
Weeeeeelll, in that case, you are 1000x hotter. *wink* *Super wink*


I think you would look even hotter in slightly smaller framed glasses. Show that symmetric face off more. :)
joshua - 06/26/09 17:55
Yes that is exactly what I'm doing Tiny. =/
heidi - 06/26/09 17:36
I think both of them are too big but I may just have a bias against large glass/sunglass frames. I like the wayfarer shape better.
tinypliny - 06/26/09 17:08
Are you giving Luka Magnotta a run for his money?