With this latest haircut, I have had 18 of them in Buffalo. Some of them have been more memorable than the others.
My first one was all the way up at North Plaza. For want of a better sense of direction, and the gleeful excitement of having a "metro" train service within walking distance once again, I took it all the way up to south campus and was quite disappointed when the driver announced that it was the last stop. I don't know what I had been expecting but I do remember wondering whether it would come out in another city's downtown.
Somehow this seems so appropriate, not to mention way cooler. Downtown to downtown - symmetric underground and overground sections. Like a light rail but also like a tube. The romance was killed brutally at south campus.
So back to the main story, that trip was memorable not only for the huge metro asymmetry disappointment but also for the near hysterical haircutter. She started carelessly whacking my hair off. I don't really ask too much from my haircutters. I just want it all off and a decent non-eggy looking outcome at the end. But I got more than I paid for.
She told me the whole in-detail story about how she was going to call her wedding off because she had just found out that morning that her fiance had given her a fake golden ring with a fake diamond pasted on it. She also sniffled into my hair. I didn't mean to be insensitive but.. Geez. I never went back.
The second haircutter had moved his shop from Utica to the basement of an old people's home on Main Street. It started out okay but I was the only one below 60 in that room and one of the old ladies was bitterly complaining that her new hair colour was not purple enough.
It unsettled me. Oh, and that place smelled really funky as well.
A few haircuts at not-very-memorable-places later, I met this haircut lady!
I swear she must have been a drill sergeant in her past life! She yelled at everyone in the shop - customers and employees alike, and gave me something very close to a military buzzcut. I was too scared to say anything and slunk out!
Then I met the best haircutter ever - LaShawn! I don't think anyone ever cut my hair so well as her. My hair didn't grow out of shape for a whole month! It was as if she had sprinkled magic dust on my hair and bullied it into behaving.
Unfortunately, she went on maternity leave after I had that haircut and I haven't seen her since.
The next one was downright freaky. While cutting my hair, he casually mentioned how his dream career was to become a mortician! Nice way to boost confidence levels in a client.
The last really interesting haircutter was an indophile.
He was covered in so many tattoos, it was hard to tell what kind of clothes he was wearing! He told me that his boyfriend usually tried out unique designs on him first and that's how he ended up with so many. I found that what little I know about Hinduism was very deficient compared to his encyclopaedic knowledge!
I seem to have knack for meeting the most bizarre haircutters and going to the weirdest of haircutting settings.
In terms of (e:strip) no
Have I ignored people, sure at work all the time or you just drown people out who talk about stuff you could care less about everyone does that, but the answer to your question is no because I have never done it to someone because they did it to me.
Okay, I think I have made a decision. I am going to kill the albatrosses of non-interaction and disinterest that have somehow crept into my life.
I don't feel guilty any more.
Wow! That's a ton of answer, I am going to have to statistically analyze all of those now. (And of course decide on my vendetta/guilt/ignore question, that is harder. :()
More responses and thoughts are still welcome!
1) I don't think that I have every done that
2) If I did I probably would feel guilty about it if they were trying to communicate with me and I refused.
3) I would probably care more about my guilt
4) I tend to forgive even the most heinous violations eventually.
When I was younger I was very vengeful and did some things that I now find pretty shameful as a way to make them pay for what they did. Now I believe that they will get theirs when the time is right and I really don't need to do anything.
1. not as a way to 'get back' at them. just because they disgust me at the time.
2. nope.
3. nope.
4. i've never been able to ignore someone forever. when i think it's time, i'll connect with them again. if they don't want me, smell ya later!
Ok I just read Paul's responses. My thinking is along those same lines. My favorite is: "I never feel guilty about retribution".
1. Yes. Many times when I was younger.
2. Not at all.
3. Nope.
4. Yep. I tend to be vindictive. I could go into stories from my younger years, but we'd be here a while.
1. You have to know when to cut your losses, but also not ruin friendships that are salvageable. So, sometimes, yeah, I do this.
2. No, not usually.
3. If the person is a good friend, sure.
4. Nope.
1. No. I find it really hard work to be mean or get back at people. I do ignore people if they in general bother me and I don't want anything to do with them. But I tend to ignore them politely, if that makes sense.
1- I have had to force myself to TRY to ignore people, but I am nearly always unsuccessful. e.g. "how long will it take for him to notice I haven't called?" -> i rarely make it past about 24h before breaking down. So I guess that's not really retaliatory, but it's definitely reactionary.
2- guilty, no.
3- if i felt guilty about it, I would give up. I don't handle guilt well at all.
bottom line, i am too attention-hungry to ignore much of anything.
conversely, ignoring me is probably the NUMBER ONE way to make me totally insane.
But the bigger question- who are you debating ignoring, and what did they do to you?
Oh, excuse me, did you say something? I wasn't paying attention... hahaha
1. No - I usually figure if they're ignoring me it's because I probably was rude to them and/or otherwise pissed them off somehow. Of course, that doesn't stop me from going out of my way to make them have to pay attention to me.
2. No - feeling guilty is way over rated.
Actually, the only place this planned ignoring may ring true is in the case of my teenage daughter. Sometimes it's very necessary and self-preserving on my part. They will try you endlessly sometimes.
Not really, but that's not to say I don't ignore people. If I see somebody I haven't seen in a while and I'd like to keep it that way, and I can tell that they don't recognize me, I'll slink away.*
If I see somebody that I owe some work that I'm invariably procrastinating, I'll usually try to avoid them but it never works very well.
- Z
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1. No - ignoring is not vendictive enough.
2. No - I never feel guity about retribution.
1. No
2. But I would feel guilty if I did.
I hope if someone felt ignored, they'd tell me. I tend to be oblivious.