party rant
The following is a rant about a BDSM party. If you're easily offended or find the material objectionable, please don't read.
I've been involved in the local BDSM community for six years or so, and there are social norms and rules that are particular to "the lifestyle". I won't go into all of them here, I figure if you're interested you'll figure them out. However, last night I attended a party, and while I was playing with my friend, what I consider to be one of the major rules was broken by someone who should have known better.
Do not interfere with others' scenes
Simply because this person and I had played earlier in the night, they felt they could come up to my play partner and I, while we were in the middle of a scene, and talk to me. Admittedly, permission was asked, but I was too out of it to give permission. Cthulhu could have shown up and I'd have been happy as a clam to talk. This interrupted our flow, and while we were able to get back into the right head space , it was really socially unacceptable for this person to do that.
Now, the next time I see them, I have to be the bitch and say something. I hate doing that. I'm too much of a people pleaser and "go along to get along" type of person. However, if no one calls this person on their behavior, they think they can get away with it, which is what's been going on, in my opinion. I don't like being the bad guy, and that's just what's going to happen. Grrr...
I've been involved in the local BDSM community for six years or so, and there are social norms and rules that are particular to "the lifestyle". I won't go into all of them here, I figure if you're interested you'll figure them out. However, last night I attended a party, and while I was playing with my friend, what I consider to be one of the major rules was broken by someone who should have known better.
Do not interfere with others' scenes
Simply because this person and I had played earlier in the night, they felt they could come up to my play partner and I, while we were in the middle of a scene, and talk to me. Admittedly, permission was asked, but I was too out of it to give permission. Cthulhu could have shown up and I'd have been happy as a clam to talk. This interrupted our flow, and while we were able to get back into the right head space , it was really socially unacceptable for this person to do that.
Now, the next time I see them, I have to be the bitch and say something. I hate doing that. I'm too much of a people pleaser and "go along to get along" type of person. However, if no one calls this person on their behavior, they think they can get away with it, which is what's been going on, in my opinion. I don't like being the bad guy, and that's just what's going to happen. Grrr...