03/19/12 10:56 - ID#56251

polyamory redux

I've been feeling rusty in my chosen relationship style. My last two serious relationships were monogamous. Now that I'm actively poly again, I decided some research and reevaluation were in store. I'm a little behind the times I think.
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I currently have what I would describe as a secondary partner, but not a primary, and am secondary in return (although we don't necessarily use those terms). I've never been secondary without having a primary of my own, and it's different. On top of that, I found out today that he accepted an excellent job offer, and will be moving to Rochester, so let's add some distance to make things better, eh?
Friday I had dinner and went out to see Paul Oakenfold with him, his wife, and his wife's boyfriend. I had such a great time (what I remember of it), that I lost my car keys:( Thankful that I had a spare. The whole evening wasn't nearly as weird as I'd feared.

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03/11/12 09:13 - ID#56203

walk of shame

You know, when last night's stockings are rolled up in your purse, and you walk to out into the cold daylight wearing the same outfit you wore to the club 12 hours before and have to make your way to your car/bus/taxi and then home?

Everything looks a little different doesn't it?

Do the people out walking their dogs look at you a little funny or is it just your imagination?

And what the heck time is it anyway?

I think Buffalo is gorgeous on Sunday mornings.

jolene writes at 11:09:07 03/11/12 - Comment #67910: Yes, (e:heidi), my victory lap was taken near that area:)

heidi writes at 10:53:27 03/11/12 - Comment #67908: Walking home from the 24 on a post-party Sunday morning prolly doesn't count as walk of shame but I find that Allentown residents don't really blink, even with a Viking vest and corset. Allen Street is very quiet on Sundays. The friendly folks at Cafe Taza are quite used to irregular hours, makeup and dress.

I like "victory lap" :-) Was your adventure somewhere near Ellicott St.?

jolene writes at 10:34:48 03/11/12 - Comment #67905: @ (e:tinypliny) : Nope, no hang over, just the "I haven't had enough sleep" fog :)

@ (e:paul) :Odds are very good it was coined by men for women. I heard "victory lap" suggested for my walk today, and I think I prefer that:)

tinypliny writes at 08:01:32 03/11/12 - Comment #67901: Too many grammatical errors there! The lost hour is getting to me! I hate it. Why do they have to take away an hour. A WHOLE SIXTY MINUTES. I want my hour back. :/

tinypliny writes at 08:00:21 03/11/12 - Comment #67900: There are too many dogs on linwood. Worse are the owners don't scoop it! :/ I totally give THEM nasty looks most days. I also get creeped out when I walking thinking about something and suddenly this HUGE devil of a dog comes up and gives you an equally huge sniff and a lick. its disconcerting not to mention unhygienic. I pretend to be all impressed and all but secretly I am shaking off dog cooties and wishing I could walk home even faster to wash off the drool and the fishy dog breath thing. ugh

tinypliny writes at 03:33:03 03/11/12 - Comment #67898: I walk on linwood wearing crazy stuff and my hair sticking out like a porcupine (often chasing after the UPS delivery) like all the time. That's exactly when I get the funny looks. And its really not just my imagination. hahaha

tinypliny writes at 03:30:34 03/11/12 - Comment #67897: Maybe this is a completely different cultural construct or something.. but if you had the party of your life... I don't know if anything else matter. Unless of course, you are hungover and feeling sick - which you didn't say you were. Were you?

metalpeter writes at 11:32:17 03/11/12 - Comment #67894: Well glad you had a great time and went home with some one or maybe a group of people.... Well I assume it was a great time... Not sure if this "Walk of Shame" Happens with guys well it might but I think it might be a little different like "Never did that before did I like it or do I feel Dirty and wait is this my jeans or hers ?"... Kidding a bit but I seriously don't think the people look at you funny and here is the unless part unless a different person walks out of the house every day or every weekend day when they walk their dog.... I think it is your perception.... That being said I would like to hear or read others take on this........ Yes there is still a part of me that wanted to go out last night but I'm tired now there is now way I would have survived...ARGh.... Sounds like you had fun so......

paul writes at 11:15:43 03/11/12 - Comment #67893: The Wikipedia article :::link::: doesn't mention it but I think it might be femine situation. Its hard for a man to look all that different in the morning as there is no makeup (minus the Jersey shore and drag type). Plus I can't think of one Guy friend that would ever use that term. If anything it would be called the walk of pride or freedom or something, haha.

I wonder if the term was coined by men for women or by women for women.

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Category: work

03/01/12 07:32 - ID#56154

Why did I agree?

To go into work in the morning at 6am? Because I have an over inflated sense of responsibility, that's why.

My boss recently got promoted, and is having to manage our house plus do her new job. Yesterday she pulled me from night shift to afternoons, telling me I was wasted on nights and she needed my presence on afternoons while she wasn't there. She also gave me tons of new tasks and responsibilities (such as being in charge of money and maintenance). Unfortunately this does not equal a raise for me.
However, she did recommend that I put in for the promotion that I already bid on, so that's another vote of confidence.

Pleased but annoyed, cuz nights are really laid back, and afternoons are more work:) I find out on the 9th if I got the promotion, and that will mean day shift and a LOT more work:)