I want to bring some food to share for my family's Thanksgiving day dinner. It will also be celebrating my Grammy's 80th birthday. I really would like to bring something special so I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions? It would have to be something I could make the night before and that I could travel with in a cooler for 3-4 hrs. It could be a dessert but would like to stay away from the pies. My family never has seafood on Thanksgiving and I was thinking that might be a nice change but I can't think of anything I could make the night before.

I spilled some pure tea tree oil and I wish it was milk! It is so strong. I do like it diluted but full strength is overwhelming. It spilled on my clothes, on a bag of plastics I am hoarding and on my kitchen floor. I can't get it out of my nose. Thankfully it wasn't a full bottle but some I had saved in a plastic container because I had over poured.

I miss my conejo. He is my life just like my (e:mike).

Updated: September 22, 2010, 6:51 PM

Homicide investigators late this afternoon were at the scene of what was described as a murder-suicide at 54 Tuxedo Place in the city's Riverside neighborhood.

Police described the victims as a woman in her late 40s and man in his early 50s -- boyfriend and girlfriend. The violence, police said, erupted during a domestic dispute.

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Nevermind, guest. I found what you were referring to. I had no idea it was so recent. I almost was killed once because of domestic violence. I had a knife to my throat and thought I was going to die. I was lucky but Valerie and this unfortunate woman were not.

A Tuxedo Place woman about to escape an abusive relationship was killed Wednesday by her estranged boyfriend, who then took his own life inside the apartment they shared, police said.

Loud quarrels between Joy Rizzo, 49, and Andrew Soos, 51, were said to have been frequent in their lower flat. Often -- and as recently as three days ago -- they ventured outside, in full view of neighbors, according to Trina Pena, Rizzo's friend.

"She was trying to leave him," Pena said. "She was scared. She feared for her life, and [Soos] took her life."

Neighbors said Rizzo was packing her belongings into boxes and planned to move to Florida with another man she had known since childhood and had befriended again on Facebook.

That was the reason for the loud quarrel that neighbors heard earlier this week.

"[Soos] was standing on his porch saying, 'Over my dead body,'" Pena said.

The other man, who neighbors called "Steve," was supposed to have been picked up by Rizzo earlier Wednesday. When Rizzo did not show up, he called her unsuccessfully before showing up on Tuxedo Place, which is north of Hertel Avenue, a few blocks east of Military Road.

When there was no answer at the apartment, police were summoned.

Northwest District officers responded after 2 p.m. to make "a welfare check" on the two, and the landlord arrived with a key to let them in.

"Police arrived on scene, gained access to the home, and, once inside, they found the bodies," said Michael J. DeGeorge, Buffalo police spokesman. "Right now, it appears to be an apparent murder-suicide that appears to be domestic in nature."

Police would not say what type of weapon was involved. However, neighbors described hearing two gunshots at about 1:45 p.m.

Authorities released few details of the crime, saying only that it remained "under investigation" by homicide detectives. Police did not release the names of the victims.

Nancy Young, a neighbor, said she had been friends with Rizzo since childhood. The two attended Hoover Elementary School and Kenmore West High School together and had remained friends ever since. Soos, Young said, was the first man Rizzo let abuse her.

"I was surprised she stayed with a violent man," Young said. "She never put up with it before. She tried to leave him several times. He had some kind of fear of God in her."

Young described Soos as a controlling man who once cut the brake lines to her vehicle to keep her and Rizzo from attending a concert together at Darien Lake Performing Arts Center. She said Rizzo liked the outdoors, including hiking in Zoar Valley, camping, volleyball and football.

The couple leaves behind a 12-year-old son who was met at school Wednesday by police. The child is now in the care of relatives. Neighbors said the boy would often be seen walking down the street and stopping to visit during quarrels between his parents.

Neighbors said Rizzo's older son from a previous relationship, Nick Rizzo, now 22, spent time in jail after coming to the defense of his mother by hitting Soos in the head with a baseball bat. The Nov. 22, 2004, police report states that the incident occurred at Chadduck and Ontario streets. Soos was taken by ambulance to Erie County Medical Center.

Nick Rizzo is now serving up to seven years in the Attica Correctional Facility for robbery, burglary and grand larceny, according to state Department of Correctional Services records.

Soos' wife of two years, the former Valerie Wilkins, 43, was found slain behind a Niagara Street bar in November 1996. Her ring finger was cut off after her death, but before authorities found her nude body in her car behind Campbell's Pub, 1591 Niagara St.

"Cold Case Squad detectives were recently looking into that cold case," Dennis J. Richards, chief of detectives, said late Wednesday, "and furthermore were conferring with homicide detectives who were at the scene of today's find."

This was written by By T.J. Pignataro for the Buffalo News.

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I wasn't able to reply to your message to me because I didn't have an email address. I'm really sorry for your loss. I hope that my journal has not caused any further pain. If it has, or you think it will hurt her family, please contact me again and I will remove it. To hurt anyone that knew her more would be the last thing I want. From the memorial I knew she meant a lot to those around her and that she is missed very much.

I suspected her husband but was afraid to say so, and I am glad he is dead. I'm sorry that he was able to kill another. Do you have the news story? I wasn't able to find it. I really want to express my sympathies to her daughters. I'm really surprised that the police weren't able to link him to the crime. Was there really no evidence or were they just not investigating?

I did pray for her and that she would get justice. I really wanted her murder to be solved. Every single time I ride by the place they found her body I think about her, thanks to the memorial...

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guest says: Andy just killed himself and his current wife it was on the news. That guy should rot in hell. Valerie was a close family friend. So sad. But its interesting how you went about investigating her. She was a sweet woman.

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