I could come up with a bunch of answers to my own question but I don't know if any of them would be right. Someone contacted me recently looking for new friends in Doha. It happened to be a guy.
Now, I know 90% of the time what they really mean is they are looking for a westerner to date because they think we're free sex machines. Sad but true story. It is a tradition of mine to ignore and delete anything that comes my way in the form of, "U eyez so butiful, ur such butiful womenz". However this message just said,"I'm new to Doha and looking to make some friends". Ok, fair enough. I'm looking for new friends too.
So I checked things out, he appeared to be normal, his page wasn't full of porn stars in thongs saying, "me lick you long time $10". He was a rapid responder to everything I sent, "When can we meet up?", "I'm always free in the evenings and most weekends".
So after a few weeks I finally have a free night so we plan to go out. He was actually quite fun. I thought, wow, a new friend. Awesome!
Then we grab some food. Then the shoe drops. "What do you think of me? What were you expecting when we met? ..." Sigh.
Why, why, why do people do this? Did I ever ONCE mention anything related to dating or being interested? No. But all along you had this intention. All along you knew this wasn't about making a new friend. All along you had an agenda.
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03/18/2008 03:40 #43713
agendasCategory: potpourri
03/17/2008 16:08 #43707
the kingdomCategory: potpourri
I have to tell you, this movie is fantastic! If you haven't seen it, get your booty to the video store and watch it.
While watching it I realized just how much I've changed in the last 8 months and how much perspective I'm getting on life in the Middle East.
I understood a lot of the Arabic which was cool. A lot of it was filmed in Abu Dabi so you can really get a good idea of what it looks like here in Qatar. The roadways are the same (well the major roadways that is).
Oh, and Jason Bateman's character does an outstanding job of freaking out about how they drive. Seriously, you MUST watch it. Watch how they fly through the roundabouts. Yes, I know they claim it's 'military procedure' in the movie, but that's REALLY how they drive here.
The part about the prince in his palace, totally accurate. Falcons are a big deal here. The guys are wearing the traditional thobe which the men here wear. The only difference is that Saudi's wear the red and white checked gudthra and the Qataris wear solid white.
Ok, just go watch the movie!
While watching it I realized just how much I've changed in the last 8 months and how much perspective I'm getting on life in the Middle East.
I understood a lot of the Arabic which was cool. A lot of it was filmed in Abu Dabi so you can really get a good idea of what it looks like here in Qatar. The roadways are the same (well the major roadways that is).
Oh, and Jason Bateman's character does an outstanding job of freaking out about how they drive. Seriously, you MUST watch it. Watch how they fly through the roundabouts. Yes, I know they claim it's 'military procedure' in the movie, but that's REALLY how they drive here.
The part about the prince in his palace, totally accurate. Falcons are a big deal here. The guys are wearing the traditional thobe which the men here wear. The only difference is that Saudi's wear the red and white checked gudthra and the Qataris wear solid white.
Ok, just go watch the movie!
metalpeter - 03/17/08 17:24
You are correct that it is a very good movie. I was given a copy of it by someone. There is one thing I didn't like about, no subtitles. I can understand when there are Americans present but when one guy is trying to get info from the other guy it would be nice to know what they are saying but other then that very good. Oh yeah plus Jenifer Garner is hot also, as a bonus.
You are correct that it is a very good movie. I was given a copy of it by someone. There is one thing I didn't like about, no subtitles. I can understand when there are Americans present but when one guy is trying to get info from the other guy it would be nice to know what they are saying but other then that very good. Oh yeah plus Jenifer Garner is hot also, as a bonus.
03/14/2008 11:29 #43663
from the north: part 3Category: photos
we found a wandering camel and my aunt's friend carries camel biscuits in the car for this very reason
made our way toward the very tip of the country and finally met the sea again
we were off road 90% of the time
I thought it was interesting to find a mancala game carved into the rocks
it was wicked windy and i ended up looking like i went skiing at the end of the day with all the windburn
we found more ruins, or should i say "the archaeology"
don't worry, we did not "inerfere" with it
different view
part of it reminded me of greece
small lookout post
the stairs...i love spiral stairs
view at the top
between this and the beautiful water, i almost felt like i was in the caribbean
i think this is the oldest standing house in qatar
paul - 03/17/08 18:14
I love the texture of the tower.
I love the texture of the tower.
jenks - 03/15/08 01:56
wow nice pix. :)
wow nice pix. :)
metalpeter - 03/14/08 17:38
They Make Camel Biscuits that seems so random that you got to see the camel. One question where you able to go into the sea at all?
They Make Camel Biscuits that seems so random that you got to see the camel. One question where you able to go into the sea at all?
dcoffee - 03/14/08 13:14
The camel is awesome. and Mancala! I did that on a walgreens sidewalk once, didn't carve the holes, just used the stones from their garden.
The camel is awesome. and Mancala! I did that on a walgreens sidewalk once, didn't carve the holes, just used the stones from their garden.
joshua - 03/14/08 12:00
The English on that sign reminds me of the poor grammar I constantly correct at work.
The English on that sign reminds me of the poor grammar I constantly correct at work.
03/12/2008 14:24 #43635
from the north: part 2Category: photos
It's starting to warm up here. We're hitting around 90 most days. It's not hot, at least compared to 130 it's not. The evenings are fucking amazing! It won't be much longer that I can keep my windows open and enjoy 'fresh' air. I'll try to send some warmth and sunshine your way b-lo. Now onto more photos from the north of Qatar.
whenever I travel I always wonder about random articles of clothing I find in the street, or up in a tree - in this case, what's the story behind a single sandal in the middle of nowhere?
I really mean the middle of nowhere!
where we found camel bones
and got a flat tire! (that's why you never go adventuring alone, even with a healthy spare)
we came upon a place that might have been part of a war
it was riddled with bullet holes
and graffiti
we also found what looks like a natural rock in the middle of the desert
but is a place for a man to hide out
stay tuned for more next time!
whenever I travel I always wonder about random articles of clothing I find in the street, or up in a tree - in this case, what's the story behind a single sandal in the middle of nowhere?
I really mean the middle of nowhere!
where we found camel bones
and got a flat tire! (that's why you never go adventuring alone, even with a healthy spare)
we came upon a place that might have been part of a war
it was riddled with bullet holes
and graffiti
we also found what looks like a natural rock in the middle of the desert
but is a place for a man to hide out
stay tuned for more next time!
mike - 03/14/08 14:07
i wonder if the camel bones and mystery sandal are related? an all out fight to the death between a wild camel and a lone traveler perhaps?
i wonder if the camel bones and mystery sandal are related? an all out fight to the death between a wild camel and a lone traveler perhaps?
mrdeadlier - 03/12/08 15:19
I want one of those rocks for my yard! It would be a trip using it to scare little kids on Halloween.
I want one of those rocks for my yard! It would be a trip using it to scare little kids on Halloween.
03/11/2008 03:38 #43615
from the north: part 1Category: photos
top of a lookout tower
staircase of the tower
remnants of the wall that surrounded the neighborhood
the homes are built using rocks, then they just smooth it over with a cement like mixture; i guess this house has returned to the earth
view from a window
this reminds me of mexican pueblos
this area used to be under water, the ground is made of millions of tiny sea shells!
metalpeter - 03/11/08 17:04
Thanks for sharing and telling us those are shells I wouldn't have been able to tell that.
Thanks for sharing and telling us those are shells I wouldn't have been able to tell that.
fellyconnelly - 03/11/08 08:49
i always love getting your photos from around the world... thanks for sharing!
i always love getting your photos from around the world... thanks for sharing!
I will be the first to admit I'm no dating expert. But what I will say is this You can take the fact that he wanted to date you as a good thing. If I where You I would. I'm not saying this guy is one of them but there are some guys who like to be friends first and then see if they can get into that dating zone, or the she doesn't know anyone so when she get horny she'll call me zone. Again this is where I say if is intention was just to have sex with you take that as a compliment. But there are also those people who use deception for what ever reason that they do. I can't really get into this guys mind really. I'm guessing that your instincts are right. Two side notes you are what we Americans call "A good catch" stupid term but it might explain things some what. As a side note I do have pornstars on my myspace page (friends list somewhere) also so that alone wouldn't make someone a bad person. It may to late now but hopefully you at least said hey I not going to date you and if that is what you really want then no luck but if you really want to hang out sometime you wrote me so write again or something along those lines. It is to bad he had to lie to you. I wish you luck and hope things are going well for you, and that things are at least civil with him so that if you run into each other someplace there doesn't become a death match.
Wow - he lied to you to get in the door. A+ winner. =/