how could i be "racist" against white men???? i've dated mostly white men.
ok, i made the mistake of calling wihte men "whiteys", it was supposed to be funny. the post was not against white men, just stating my preferences.
don't get your panties all in a bundle about this people. i am just stating my preference for other ethnicities, as others often do. because a woman prefers other woman, does that mean she dislikes men, no. she is just not sexually attracted to other men.
i'm sorry if what i said seemed insulting, that is not what i was looking to do.
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07/12/2007 17:43 #40084
i didnt mean it that wayCategory: racism
07/12/2007 12:18 #40078
mom doesnt approve, a lot of people dontCategory: interacial dating
so, my mom has some real issues with me dating a black guy. i don't really know what its all about, but it really upsets me. especially since this guy i like is black, and she is being all weird about it.
of course, she isn't the one who makes the call, but i also feel like other family members have issues with this. seriously, we are in year 2007. im not even completely wihite, and now with my tan i totally look like a mexican. what is the deal with this backwards attitude???
im finding myself attracted less and less to white guys. sorry, whiteys, but white just gets boring for me.
this new guy said he'd never experienced racism until he moved here a while ago. he said that in europe, people's attitudes toward race and beauty are completely different. i just don't understand why skin color is so important.
would it be better for me to date some asshole and have people approve just because he isn't ethnic? or date someone i really like, no matter what race they are.
i feel like this shouldn't be a controversial issue anymore, but it seems like it is? why? i don't get it.
the point here is. i don't really care if people have issues with it. i will date whomever i choose.
of course, she isn't the one who makes the call, but i also feel like other family members have issues with this. seriously, we are in year 2007. im not even completely wihite, and now with my tan i totally look like a mexican. what is the deal with this backwards attitude???
im finding myself attracted less and less to white guys. sorry, whiteys, but white just gets boring for me.
this new guy said he'd never experienced racism until he moved here a while ago. he said that in europe, people's attitudes toward race and beauty are completely different. i just don't understand why skin color is so important.
would it be better for me to date some asshole and have people approve just because he isn't ethnic? or date someone i really like, no matter what race they are.
i feel like this shouldn't be a controversial issue anymore, but it seems like it is? why? i don't get it.
the point here is. i don't really care if people have issues with it. i will date whomever i choose.
james - 07/12/07 17:07
Who can say how our desires form. There is a small demand for videos with titles like 'lactating grannies' and 'Raunchy Eskimo Pie' what makes someone attracted to such things is beyond me. So, unless you in fact harbor some sort of racism for white folk, I wouldn't say your desire for a non-white partner is inherently racist, just part of that bewildering array of desires.
But good luck with the family. For my first boyfriend, I was the first to meet his mother. She had so many issues with her first born son being gay, but after meeting me and seeing I was a person and not some swishing gay archetype she became much more accepting. So, maybe, if things get serious (if they already aren't) meeting this guy could help.
Who can say how our desires form. There is a small demand for videos with titles like 'lactating grannies' and 'Raunchy Eskimo Pie' what makes someone attracted to such things is beyond me. So, unless you in fact harbor some sort of racism for white folk, I wouldn't say your desire for a non-white partner is inherently racist, just part of that bewildering array of desires.
But good luck with the family. For my first boyfriend, I was the first to meet his mother. She had so many issues with her first born son being gay, but after meeting me and seeing I was a person and not some swishing gay archetype she became much more accepting. So, maybe, if things get serious (if they already aren't) meeting this guy could help.
matthew - 07/12/07 16:39
"i just like guys who aren't (white)" That's racism. If you can prioritize how much you'll like a man based on the color of their skin, It shouldn't surprise/hurt you that your mother is doing the same thing.
"i just like guys who aren't (white)" That's racism. If you can prioritize how much you'll like a man based on the color of their skin, It shouldn't surprise/hurt you that your mother is doing the same thing.
bridgette - 07/12/07 15:29
my cousin dated a black guy when she was younger, and the family was totally against it for years. Eventually he ended up robbing her fathers house, and everyone was like, "we told you so". Had it been a white guy, maybe they would have given her the sympathy she needed and deserved... he screwed her over more. assholes are assholes no matter what color. So goes the same for kind, loving people. Love knows no color. Unfortunately, i don't see the color barrier going away any time soon. I think our generation has broken it down a whole lot, but there will always be people out there searching for something to separate themselves from others...Follow your own heart. I wish you the best.
my cousin dated a black guy when she was younger, and the family was totally against it for years. Eventually he ended up robbing her fathers house, and everyone was like, "we told you so". Had it been a white guy, maybe they would have given her the sympathy she needed and deserved... he screwed her over more. assholes are assholes no matter what color. So goes the same for kind, loving people. Love knows no color. Unfortunately, i don't see the color barrier going away any time soon. I think our generation has broken it down a whole lot, but there will always be people out there searching for something to separate themselves from others...Follow your own heart. I wish you the best.
joshua - 07/12/07 15:16
Exactly, Z.
Exactly, Z.
lilho - 07/12/07 14:16
hey now. i am not racist against white guys. recently, i just like guys who aren't.
hey now. i am not racist against white guys. recently, i just like guys who aren't.
mrmike - 07/12/07 13:47
The racial thing is everywhere. My ex is an african american and we'd be in Sweet Tooth and get dirty looks. Do what is good for you and the hell with everybody else.
The racial thing is everywhere. My ex is an african american and we'd be in Sweet Tooth and get dirty looks. Do what is good for you and the hell with everybody else.
drew - 07/12/07 13:35
Sorry. She's just telling the truth. White guys are pretty lame. If we didn't run the world nobody would like us at all.
Sorry. She's just telling the truth. White guys are pretty lame. If we didn't run the world nobody would like us at all.
zobar - 07/12/07 13:02
I was totally with you until you said all white men were boring assholes without ethnicity. Now _I'm_ experiencing racism. WTF? I thought that in 2007 we were supposed to be more enlightened than that. <-:
- Z
I was totally with you until you said all white men were boring assholes without ethnicity. Now _I'm_ experiencing racism. WTF? I thought that in 2007 we were supposed to be more enlightened than that. <-:
- Z
jason - 07/12/07 12:27
Don't expect even your family to see the world the same way you do. The bottom line is if you are dating a black dude it's their problem if they can't handle it. Of course, then again, your family can also make your life very difficult.
Me, I pretty much am attracted to tall, thin, blonde chicks, which as a Swedish dude should come as no surprise. There really isn't any reason to come down from that, although a latina would be really nice. A black girl would be nice too, although I'm definitely way too stereotypically white for a black girl to be down with hit probably.
Don't expect even your family to see the world the same way you do. The bottom line is if you are dating a black dude it's their problem if they can't handle it. Of course, then again, your family can also make your life very difficult.
Me, I pretty much am attracted to tall, thin, blonde chicks, which as a Swedish dude should come as no surprise. There really isn't any reason to come down from that, although a latina would be really nice. A black girl would be nice too, although I'm definitely way too stereotypically white for a black girl to be down with hit probably.
07/05/2007 15:58 #39928
lean like a chollaCategory: dora
07/03/2007 02:39 #39892
hey peepsbasically craigslist is a hot spot for losers and, well, im not interested in anybody there. but boy, there sure do like me. anyways, i think there is this guy who wants to take me out. someone i met in person, but you know, i just don't know.
i feel like i don't want to bother if they aren't like super great and everything. and lets face it, how many super great people are there really? not many. exactly.
ok. onto more important things. the hiking is going really well. its amazing how just a few weeks of exercise really gets your body going. by the end of the week, im going to be ready for something more challenging. which is pretty exciting, because i am determined now to get into shape. hell, i aint got much else to do.
I've been hitting up the library a lot, and I've gotten back into reading. and working on the tan.
i am now almost ready to be an official stick shift driver. after many stalls in intersections, blood, sweat, and tears.
i like the weather here. but nys really has a much better state gov system. a lot of people here are just strange and backwards thinking. its kinda getting to me...
i feel like i don't want to bother if they aren't like super great and everything. and lets face it, how many super great people are there really? not many. exactly.
ok. onto more important things. the hiking is going really well. its amazing how just a few weeks of exercise really gets your body going. by the end of the week, im going to be ready for something more challenging. which is pretty exciting, because i am determined now to get into shape. hell, i aint got much else to do.
I've been hitting up the library a lot, and I've gotten back into reading. and working on the tan.
i am now almost ready to be an official stick shift driver. after many stalls in intersections, blood, sweat, and tears.
i like the weather here. but nys really has a much better state gov system. a lot of people here are just strange and backwards thinking. its kinda getting to me...
jason - 07/03/07 11:24
Yeah, I know the feeling, every guy thinks they deserve a super model but there are only so many.
Yeah, I know the feeling, every guy thinks they deserve a super model but there are only so many.
james - 07/03/07 10:20
Decades ago, when Californians with too much money and too much free time wanted to work on themselves they would go into little dessert towns like Taos. So, all this work you are getting done, reading a lot, hiking a crazy amount, tanning, learning to drive stick, fits in nicely with your desert dwelling. Glad to hear you are doing well despite the craigslist Neanderthals trying to club you over the head and drag you back to their creepy caves.
Decades ago, when Californians with too much money and too much free time wanted to work on themselves they would go into little dessert towns like Taos. So, all this work you are getting done, reading a lot, hiking a crazy amount, tanning, learning to drive stick, fits in nicely with your desert dwelling. Glad to hear you are doing well despite the craigslist Neanderthals trying to club you over the head and drag you back to their creepy caves.
07/01/2007 18:10 #39878
dear people who dont call me backCategory: communication
now, im not gonna name names, there would be too many.
but, why don't ya'll call me back bitches? you are all worthless assholes.
thanx.
do we really live in that kind of world now, where are too fucking lazy too call the people we "supposedly" care about???
what is the issue here???
(e:pau) , you are exempt, because you never call and it could almost be considered a personality trait of yours.
the rest of you are going to die a slow lonely death. or something like that.
one last thing. would you go on a date with someone you "met" on craigslist?
and, go see die hard.
that's all.
but, why don't ya'll call me back bitches? you are all worthless assholes.
thanx.
do we really live in that kind of world now, where are too fucking lazy too call the people we "supposedly" care about???
what is the issue here???
(e:pau) , you are exempt, because you never call and it could almost be considered a personality trait of yours.
the rest of you are going to die a slow lonely death. or something like that.
one last thing. would you go on a date with someone you "met" on craigslist?
and, go see die hard.
that's all.
metalpeter - 07/02/07 18:03
So never used the Craig's List thing so I can't really say anything about that. I have heard a rumor of some girls (not you of course) who where escort/hookers/Prostutes and got busted for it. But I think going to see Die Hard on a date would be awesome. Granted It isn't really a good way to meet someone since you can't talk to them during the the movie but eating before or after might be a good idea.
So never used the Craig's List thing so I can't really say anything about that. I have heard a rumor of some girls (not you of course) who where escort/hookers/Prostutes and got busted for it. But I think going to see Die Hard on a date would be awesome. Granted It isn't really a good way to meet someone since you can't talk to them during the the movie but eating before or after might be a good idea.
lilho - 07/02/07 00:24
whats gentile pic heaven??
whats gentile pic heaven??
vincent - 07/01/07 22:24
Depends on if you posted or are answering. If you're answering that I'd say Yes, since there must have been something that triggered a response from you. If he's answering then use caution, CL is troll heaven or at least gentile pic heaven!!!
Depends on if you posted or are answering. If you're answering that I'd say Yes, since there must have been something that triggered a response from you. If he's answering then use caution, CL is troll heaven or at least gentile pic heaven!!!
mike - 07/01/07 21:53
i say do it!
i say do it!
deeglam - 07/01/07 19:00
and, just a side note: my good from from college, Hope, met her man on craigslist and they have been dating for 3 years and are perfect for eachother....
and, just a side note: my good from from college, Hope, met her man on craigslist and they have been dating for 3 years and are perfect for eachother....
deeglam - 07/01/07 18:59
well, you STILL HAVEN'T GIVEN ME YOUR NEW NUMBER, biatch!
well, you STILL HAVEN'T GIVEN ME YOUR NEW NUMBER, biatch!
Yo people are mad touchy about this. Having an aesthetic preference for skin color is not very different from having an aesthetic preference for hair color. Drawing further conclusions about a person based on their skin color is as asinine as drawing conclusions based on hair color.
I think most of us are in agreement on that. So why are people surprised when I take offense at being called a boring asshole?
- Z
Ok I have a lot of things to say. First of all it is one thing to have a preferance as long as you don't descrimante that is fine. I will be honest as hot as I find white girls that tan skin and dark black hair is very sexy. Assuming the features fit that dark white or asian color.
In terms of Racism AZ, is one of the worst. Does anyone remember when they lost the superbowl or was it the olympics because the state voted MLK wasn't a holiday. Once that changed they got a superbowl.
Most minorities don't like other minorities. When I was in school it seemed like at least once a year the blacks fought the spanish but maybe that was just gangs not sure. and maybe it was more like every couple of months. I have had black friends who said they hated portoricans that thought they where black and listened to that fake rap they sang. But that being said I was the white boy who listened to rap and metal and they liked me so, it is kinda weird and hard to explain.
I think most racism is caused by bad experiances. It only takes a couple ass holes or trouble makers to make everyone look bad.
Naturaly most people have pride in there own culture what ever that is. But what happens most of the time is if you like things in your culture you then won't like things in other cultures. Then some cultures you never hear about the bad stuff. For example there are gangs and violance in all races but you only hear about blacks killing each other, or at least in Buffalo. No one ever hears about asain gangs. When it is whites it is allways the mob and that is glamerised in movies and tv so it isn't the same.
But I think the biggest factor is always class and money. I think most people don't understand that there are middle class and rich blacks. A lot of people think if you are black you are from the ghetto and that isn't true. Then if you are from the ghetto you act ghetto. Again that isn't allways true. But it is natural to put people into catorgories. We do it with every thing else. For example the type of music, tv, sports, gender, sex, and all sorts of stuff. Breaking things into classifactions is how we make sense of the world. I'm not saying it is right. But when you are walking down the street by your self and you see 4 guys your brain is going to make assuptions based on your past and how they look. It is just natural for that to happen. It is part of our animalisic instints. That doesn't mean we have to act on it or be pairanoid.
It isn't only a color issue. There are still families where you are expected to marry someone of your same nationality. Tradition and customs are very important to americans. What happens if someone polish marries and Indain and they both want a traditional wedding? Some family members woun't be happy.
My point is we should all try to get along and not cause anyone any pain. But the reality is some people don't like other people based on race and I don't think that it will ever change. Yes there will be more exceptance but sterotypes (both good and bad) will always be around.
Why do you hate my whiteness?
So yeah I got the same thing from my mom who asked why I don't date someone that is from my own culture. So it just happens that I went back, but it wasn't at my mom's request, it is just who I happen to fall in love with.
Listen, black men can have small penises too. Don't be such a size queen. Just Kidding! don't attack me people it was a joke and not to be taken seriously.