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05/18/2007 22:17 #39338

Point of View
One of my contractors is about to father his third kid with his third partner. And he must be at least 10 years younger than I am. That freaks me out. Not because I feel like I have to "catch up" (on the contrary). I feel like I'm not sure what the hell is going on out there in procreation land.

In other news, Ron asked me to write an explanation about how my little plot of nirvana is chain-gained down the line. Here's my ego-centric (at this particular point in time) view. It's a long history, I can probably live it down, haha.

"F" Addendum

The 600 block of Buchanan Street is comprised of three pairs of 3-story properties each sharing common walls, foundations and roofs in the style of row houses.

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618-620 Buchanan Street is connected to 622-626 Buchanan by a party wall, foundation, and roof. The two sides even divvied up space for utility meters (electrical meters on the 618-620 side, gas meters on the 622-626 side) back when same-family ownership made such arrangements a matter of convenience.

When I bought 618-620 Buchanan, the owner of 622-626 Buchanan and I agreed we would move the utility meters to each property's respective side. The electric meters were moved and approved by the city in August 2007. Once PG&E hooks them up, we can start moving the three gas meters for 618-620 Buchanan Street over to their rightful side.

I know, I know. You'd think real estate disclosures would be racier. I guess you'll just have to come to the open house and rifle through my lingerie drawer. Oh wait! You live 3,000 miles away! Don't worry, you're not missing anything.

metalpeter - 05/20/07 08:55
The fact that you don't have a racey diclosure Is a good thing. Nothing like saying this little ding no matter what I do won't go away a even put in a new board and it came back I guess the evil spirits don't want anyone to forget about the axe murder that happened here. I'm kidding around of course but you know what I mean. 3000 miles is a little bit of a deturent to go to the open house. But that being said How awesome would it be to just say "Hi I'm from Buffalo I came all this way to just go to open house and then fly back home" You know not to visit you or the city but just for the open house. I wish you luck with it, the house looks pretty cool.

05/11/2007 02:00 #39233

Blog therapy
To pass the time during my hour-long commute to Napa, I started developing OK Cupid tests. No one could be more surprised than I am, considering I've only taken three myself. (I totally aced the "Commonly Confused Words" test, by the way. That was satisfying.)

Anyway, I've got the "communication style" test and the "driving style" test in the hopper. Many more where that came from.

Also to pass the time, I've been listening to the radio without changing the station the second they start talking. So I caught an interesting tidbit about a study showing people who blog about their relationships are xx% more likely to stay together than those who don't. Now, I'm about as cynical as you can get about drawing hard and fast conclusions from so-called "studies." But I do enjoy exploring a theoretical question now and again -- as long as you don't take it too seriously -- and I can see this particular theory having some merit.

Anyway, this study also made me think of (e:Jason). (Oh yes, all you (e:peeps) are frequently in my thoughts. You have no idea!) Of course, I would have rewritten the study to see whether blogging helps people resolve whatever the natural path of their relationship might be. It makes sense you have to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with someone else.

I actually have quite a bit more to say on this subject (surprise, surprise!) but I'm having a hard time concentrating right now because I finally broke down and bought a CD for the first time in ages and it ROCKS! (Listen to my new usersound.)

I ended up at Amoeba tonight because I thought it was the free Dinosaur Jr. in-house. (It's not 'til next Tuesday.) So I salvaged the trip by finally buying Razorlight. Even if you've never agreed with my musical suggestions before, this is a must-have! Ok, if you insist I'll upload it to Gather (tracking number: 0047419001178863042) so you can give it a proper listen. See for yourself.
twisted - 05/11/07 10:55
Actually they said "keeping a journal about the relationship" helps, not "blogging" per se. So I guess that goes to show you REALLY shouldn't trust the results of a study designed, performed, and analyzed by the same group of people; interpreted and reported by the media; and blogged about by someone who doesn't believe it in the first place. ;-)

Anyway, my point is: "It isn't the conclusions that matter; it's the ideas raised by the question." Discuss.
dragonlady7 - 05/11/07 10:32
Ha ha, they probably mean blogging privately, then. If some of us were smart enough not to blog where the other person can read about said feelings... but I would argue that even that is, in the end, beneficial. Blogging often entails discussing one's feelings and worldview, and it can be beneficial for a partner to read that.
If one can keep the "n is a terrible person" to a minimum...

But yes, you're right, next month will probably tell us that blogging causes cancer.
twisted - 05/11/07 10:08
Since I distrust the results of a "study" most likely designed, performed, and analyzed by the same group of people, you can imagine how I feel about the results as interpreted and reported by the media. ;-) But the person reporting the story said it had something to do with having a safe outlet to work through how you feel before discussing it with your partner.

Whatever. This month blogging is good for you. Next month it'll probably kill you.
zobar - 05/11/07 07:55

I caught an interesting tidbit about a study showing people who blog about their relationships are xx% more likely to stay together than those who don't. Now, I'm about as cynical as you can get



Ya me too, considering how much I dislike reading terrible things about myself on the Internet, nevermind the unnecessary yet obligatory endless comment thread of 'What a dick' and 'How could someone be so rotten,' and worse.

But you've piqued my interest: how is that supposed to improve a relationship?

- Z

05/07/2007 00:15 #39189

Pulp Muppets


theecarey - 05/07/07 01:53
I'm just getting to the video-- but had to comment on that I love the user pic, haha

05/05/2007 18:27 #39168

full house redux
Category: san francisco

just to clear up any remaining confusion.

More fake tales of San Francisco. Conan tries to visit a Medical Marijuana center:



04/28/2007 19:00 #39077

Rude Realization
Category: dating
For reasons I'd rather not go into right now, I found myself taking the OK Cupid personality test again. I wasn't expecting or looking for a different score, but was still surprised when I got exactly the same result as (e:twisted,36664). Maybe there is something to these tests after all? Anyway...

Even though it's been more than a year since I first took that test and filled out my profile, I picked two of the same adjectives to describe myself (philosophical and observant). I was completely stumped to think of a third one though, so I finally picked "indecisive." (That should get me lots of dates!) I wish I could say that was just an inside joke, but lately it seems all too true. It's not that I don't like making decisions, it's just that I hate closing out my other options. And that's pretty much what a decision is, after all.

Which may be why I'm still squarely situated in The Window Shopper camp. Although I really haven't had much time to do any window shopping since I moved to SF, which is a crying shame. I was just thinking how a little recreational shopping could be just the thing to celebrate finally moving into my own place and getting all my crap out of storage and getting my life back instead of spending every weekend at Home Depot. (I still have a few more Home Depot weekends to go, but the end is in sight.) As much as I love my contractors, I'm really ready for them to go away. It's like having four boyfriends wake you up at 7am every morning for the same thing -- just not the thing you want right at that moment.

Anyway, in a bout of sleeplessness left over from the nine hour Italy time difference, I was trying on a few imaginary candidates for size. (Let's face it, there are always options. Maybe options you shouldn't exercise, but there are worse ways to lull yourself back to sleep.) In any case, my mind is running through the drill when all of a sudden I flash back to one of the OK Cupid questions. Something like, "do you imagine breaking up with someone before you've even gone out with them?" Of course I answered no. Well, in the cold dark of night, turns out one of the scripts my mind plays out is the break-up scene. I know that sounds terrible, but I guess I want to have an exit strategy before I get involved in anything. Sometimes there's a good reason for that, like if you're thinking of dating a coworker or a neighbor -- someone you're going to have to see every day even if things don't go well. Better make sure it's worth getting into, and probably smart to lay the groundwork to get out gracefully. But I think I do it regardless. Which might be a tad cynical.

I honestly didn't know that about myself. So much for my powers of observation, haha.

p.s. -- The Kaiser Chiefs were fucking brilliant last night (new user sound). The Good The Bad & The Queen are on tap for tomorrow and Arctic Monkeys on Tuesday. Maybe that's enough distraction for now.




twisted - 04/30/07 13:02
When I told my ex-boyfriend I couldn't see us being together forever he said to consider that every relationship you have -- until the last one -- ends. You don't get to experience a romantic relationship that lasts until you're in it. So it might be hard to recognize. That was a sweet and compelling argument.

I stayed with him two more years after giving the high sign it wasn't working for me. I'm not saying I should have bailed right away after five years together, but two more years was a bit much. I think that's why I'm so skittish about getting into anything now.

Luckily, there are plenty of guys who are interested in recreational "friends first" dating (or so I hear). And if I hit it off with one, I'm not going to run away screaming from something more serious.
metalpeter - 04/29/07 10:17
Ok so I checked out that site but Havn't done the personality test one yet I did a politcal one. But the thing is about those tests is you have to be carefull taking them. The reason I say that is that they can be very addicting and the next thing you know you have been online for like 9 hours. Also it is good to remember that just because a test measures where you are or what you are dosn't mean that it has to be that way. Sometimes they are wrong, and you can allways change the way you are, assuming that you don't like how you are.
jenks - 04/28/07 20:41
At her rehearsal dinner, my sister told me that her soon-to-be husband was the first guy she'd dated that she couldn't imagine breaking up with. She said with all the others she could imagine the breakup from the beginning. But not him. And she married him...