It may not be the most scientifically valid research, I know... but still interesting.
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04/28/2007 18:07 #39076
heh, see! It's not all in my head!Category: boys
Buffalo was among the three WORST cities to meet men, according to this article from MSNBC.
It may not be the most scientifically valid research, I know... but still interesting.
It may not be the most scientifically valid research, I know... but still interesting.
04/28/2007 13:00 #39072
what are "friends"?Category: friends
So, a series of (really, really shitty) events has brought me to some important realizations.
I have just realized that some of my "friends" are not my friends, but my drinking buddies.
I mean less to them than a bottle of wine.
I can not, and should not, count on them for anything. They will not be there for me when I need someone, and they will not change their plans for me.
Not that they don't enjoy my company- they do. We have a great time together. I really enjoy hanging out with them; it's always a blast. And I do believe they really do like having me around.
But why? what am I to them?
A chick, first of all. A chick that will hang out with them and drink and let them act like pigs. I get points for that.
I am someone to grope when drunk that will not kick them in the balls. (but I'm ok with that, b/c I'll grope back most of the time.)
And I might be some sort of weird status symbol- in that they get to introduce me to their friends as "our friend, THE SURGEON". It's like they're really proud of me. It's almost cute. Which is fine, except that it usually leads to the assumption that I will foot the bill for the rest of the night. Ironic, since I make less than all of them.
So, this realization is kind of depressing- but maybe liberating at the same time.
Now that I have a better grasp of the situation, maybe I can adjust my expectations accordingly, and stop being disappointed all the time.
Hmm.
-J
p.s. T-2 days!!!!!! (though due to some crap at work, this is suddenly about the worst time I could possibly be out of town, and will lead to me getting fucked.)
p.p.s.
Next saturday is:
1: a saturday
2: cinco de mayo
3: my first night back in town
4: my last night of vacation
5: my birthday
Everyone should come out!! I don't know when or where, since I don't even land til 10:30. But somewhere, fo sho!
later peaches.
I have just realized that some of my "friends" are not my friends, but my drinking buddies.
I mean less to them than a bottle of wine.
I can not, and should not, count on them for anything. They will not be there for me when I need someone, and they will not change their plans for me.
Not that they don't enjoy my company- they do. We have a great time together. I really enjoy hanging out with them; it's always a blast. And I do believe they really do like having me around.
But why? what am I to them?
A chick, first of all. A chick that will hang out with them and drink and let them act like pigs. I get points for that.
I am someone to grope when drunk that will not kick them in the balls. (but I'm ok with that, b/c I'll grope back most of the time.)
And I might be some sort of weird status symbol- in that they get to introduce me to their friends as "our friend, THE SURGEON". It's like they're really proud of me. It's almost cute. Which is fine, except that it usually leads to the assumption that I will foot the bill for the rest of the night. Ironic, since I make less than all of them.
So, this realization is kind of depressing- but maybe liberating at the same time.
Now that I have a better grasp of the situation, maybe I can adjust my expectations accordingly, and stop being disappointed all the time.
Hmm.
-J
p.s. T-2 days!!!!!! (though due to some crap at work, this is suddenly about the worst time I could possibly be out of town, and will lead to me getting fucked.)
p.p.s.
Next saturday is:
1: a saturday
2: cinco de mayo
3: my first night back in town
4: my last night of vacation
5: my birthday
Everyone should come out!! I don't know when or where, since I don't even land til 10:30. But somewhere, fo sho!
later peaches.
metalpeter - 04/28/07 18:54
First of all I hope you have a great time on your cruise. Hope you have lots of fun but not so much you go to jail. I hope you take lots of pictures and let us (e:peeps) see them.
Secondly If I would have known you let your friends grop you I would have asked for your number the first time I met ya (kinding well sord of I guess). But the point I'm getting at is there are all kinds of different friends. For example you may have friends at work but that is the only place you are friends. Bar friends like in that piano man song where everyone is there and lonely but where it still beats drinking alone. There are school friends. This is the point that is used in some beer Add I think for labatts. And it is very true that the type of friend is defined by how you know them and what type of relationship you have with them.
I didn't know that Cinco de mayo was your birthday, hope you wind up having fun. I myself will be downtown at a comedy event at the town ballroom.
If there is a predetremined celebration for your birthday I might be able to make it.
First of all I hope you have a great time on your cruise. Hope you have lots of fun but not so much you go to jail. I hope you take lots of pictures and let us (e:peeps) see them.
Secondly If I would have known you let your friends grop you I would have asked for your number the first time I met ya (kinding well sord of I guess). But the point I'm getting at is there are all kinds of different friends. For example you may have friends at work but that is the only place you are friends. Bar friends like in that piano man song where everyone is there and lonely but where it still beats drinking alone. There are school friends. This is the point that is used in some beer Add I think for labatts. And it is very true that the type of friend is defined by how you know them and what type of relationship you have with them.
I didn't know that Cinco de mayo was your birthday, hope you wind up having fun. I myself will be downtown at a comedy event at the town ballroom.
If there is a predetremined celebration for your birthday I might be able to make it.
theecarey - 04/28/07 15:20
ah yes. friends can fall into various categories. Some are party friends, some are gossip friends, some are cry on should friends, some are 'bail you out' friends, some are 'get in trouble with you' friends.. and a very small select few can be all those and more. Just dont expect more out of any of them than what they are able and willing to give & visa versa.
The sucky part is realizing this. Although the best part-- and you already said it--its liberating to know who's who and what you can expct/depend on people for.
totally in need for no strings attached, drunken laugh fest?-- thems your boys. Dont turn to your serious-logical- all work-no play pals to help loosen up after a mad week of work/study. You know what I mean :)
ps.. where are you going? What did I miss? Wherever it is.. relax, have oodles of fun, keep text books at home!
ah yes. friends can fall into various categories. Some are party friends, some are gossip friends, some are cry on should friends, some are 'bail you out' friends, some are 'get in trouble with you' friends.. and a very small select few can be all those and more. Just dont expect more out of any of them than what they are able and willing to give & visa versa.
The sucky part is realizing this. Although the best part-- and you already said it--its liberating to know who's who and what you can expct/depend on people for.
totally in need for no strings attached, drunken laugh fest?-- thems your boys. Dont turn to your serious-logical- all work-no play pals to help loosen up after a mad week of work/study. You know what I mean :)
ps.. where are you going? What did I miss? Wherever it is.. relax, have oodles of fun, keep text books at home!
lilho - 04/28/07 13:44
hey peach! what can i say? some people are just shitty, and that said, you should move on and find better friends! i will def be up for going out next sat, cinco de mayo and your bday? sounds like a good time to me. and here's the best part... i don't give a shit that you are a surgeon, i won't grope you, unless you really want me to, and i will find you amusing w/or w/o alcohol!
hey peach! what can i say? some people are just shitty, and that said, you should move on and find better friends! i will def be up for going out next sat, cinco de mayo and your bday? sounds like a good time to me. and here's the best part... i don't give a shit that you are a surgeon, i won't grope you, unless you really want me to, and i will find you amusing w/or w/o alcohol!
ladycroft - 04/28/07 13:40
um, since when is getting fucked a bad thing? ooooooh, that kind of fucked...nevermind. that sucks.
um, since when is getting fucked a bad thing? ooooooh, that kind of fucked...nevermind. that sucks.
mrmike - 04/28/07 13:27
For what it's worth, I'm sorry about the "gang." That does suck. I'm only older (not wiser) so I don't have anything profound beyond I hope you're not getting taken for granted (Sounds like it might be a little too late for that).
On the flip side, enjoy the vaca -- you've earned some awesomeness. Hope it's flawless.
For what it's worth, I'm sorry about the "gang." That does suck. I'm only older (not wiser) so I don't have anything profound beyond I hope you're not getting taken for granted (Sounds like it might be a little too late for that).
On the flip side, enjoy the vaca -- you've earned some awesomeness. Hope it's flawless.
04/25/2007 12:18 #39036
paul is a google masterCategory: food
First of all, last night at work was freaking crazy.
We took out FOUR appendixes (appendices?) between 11pm and 3am. Every time we finished the ER would call "we have another one".
But so before the shit hit the fan we decided we wanted sushi, and we decided to try Fuji Grill. So I googled it to try to find a website and hopefully the menu online. Well, they don't have a website. Lame.
But when I googled them, (e:Paul)'s journal was in the top ten hits.
heh.
We took out FOUR appendixes (appendices?) between 11pm and 3am. Every time we finished the ER would call "we have another one".
But so before the shit hit the fan we decided we wanted sushi, and we decided to try Fuji Grill. So I googled it to try to find a website and hopefully the menu online. Well, they don't have a website. Lame.
But when I googled them, (e:Paul)'s journal was in the top ten hits.
heh.
chico - 04/25/07 23:16
Had takeout sushi from Kuni's tonight. Very good stuff. Never had from Fuji Grill... what's the word on theirs?
Had takeout sushi from Kuni's tonight. Very good stuff. Never had from Fuji Grill... what's the word on theirs?
04/23/2007 22:43 #39021
Phished??Ok, I am really losing my patience with customer service-type issues of all sorts.
First of all, the computer nonsense. They fixed my hard drive, but in the meantime seem to have broken/disconnected the isight camera. After a week of phone tag, they are sending a guy to my house on wed to fix it. In the meantime, the wireless card seems to be dying. Apple doesn't seem to believe me, b/c every time I call them it miraculously works, and then of course dies five minutes later. I talked to them today, from work, and they said "call back tonight when you're in front of the computer". But of course all night tonight it was working. Then it died, so I called- oh, "call back tomorrow during business hours". Unfortunately I do not have the kind of job where I sit at a desk all day and can make all sorts of phone calls.
Then there's the crap with my car- also scheduled to be fixed on wed.
And the new one tonight-
I just got three emails from Vonage.
8:48 PM "here is the RMA# for your vonage equipment"
8:49 "your account has been disconnected as you requested"
8:50 "Welcome to vonage!"
Nothing asking for a password or account info. Nothing from fake-looking email addresses. I.e. doesn't look phish-y.
So I called: they say they got some call at 1pm from some man who said to cancel the account and that he was in a hurry and not to ask a lot of questions.
WTF. I said clearly that was not me.
The response "call back tomorrow"
What is the point of 24/7 customer service if you can't actually do anything?
And the girl said "well to make any changes to the account, he would have had to know your account info". I asked WHAT account info, and she said "your email and billing address."
Gee, so if someone knows my email address and my home address they can just cancel my phone service? Yeah, that's secure. No PIN#, no mother's maiden name...
The thing that's weird is that today is 30d after I signed up, and the first month is free... i wonder if the account was just transitioned from "free trial" to "paying customer" and technically has to be cancelled/reinstated? But the chick on the phone said no.
What a PITA.
I can't wait until all my technology is behaving itself again.
-J
p.s. T-7!!!!!!!!!!
and PPS paul/estrip: congrats on the artvoice nominations! This is your/our year! I can feel it!
First of all, the computer nonsense. They fixed my hard drive, but in the meantime seem to have broken/disconnected the isight camera. After a week of phone tag, they are sending a guy to my house on wed to fix it. In the meantime, the wireless card seems to be dying. Apple doesn't seem to believe me, b/c every time I call them it miraculously works, and then of course dies five minutes later. I talked to them today, from work, and they said "call back tonight when you're in front of the computer". But of course all night tonight it was working. Then it died, so I called- oh, "call back tomorrow during business hours". Unfortunately I do not have the kind of job where I sit at a desk all day and can make all sorts of phone calls.
Then there's the crap with my car- also scheduled to be fixed on wed.
And the new one tonight-
I just got three emails from Vonage.
8:48 PM "here is the RMA# for your vonage equipment"
8:49 "your account has been disconnected as you requested"
8:50 "Welcome to vonage!"
Nothing asking for a password or account info. Nothing from fake-looking email addresses. I.e. doesn't look phish-y.
So I called: they say they got some call at 1pm from some man who said to cancel the account and that he was in a hurry and not to ask a lot of questions.
WTF. I said clearly that was not me.
The response "call back tomorrow"
What is the point of 24/7 customer service if you can't actually do anything?
And the girl said "well to make any changes to the account, he would have had to know your account info". I asked WHAT account info, and she said "your email and billing address."
Gee, so if someone knows my email address and my home address they can just cancel my phone service? Yeah, that's secure. No PIN#, no mother's maiden name...
The thing that's weird is that today is 30d after I signed up, and the first month is free... i wonder if the account was just transitioned from "free trial" to "paying customer" and technically has to be cancelled/reinstated? But the chick on the phone said no.
What a PITA.
I can't wait until all my technology is behaving itself again.
-J
p.s. T-7!!!!!!!!!!
and PPS paul/estrip: congrats on the artvoice nominations! This is your/our year! I can feel it!
04/19/2007 22:16 #38965
cripes...Category: work
Must say, I don't really understand the point of this. It takes twice as long and I'm sure is much more difficult, all to avoid 3 <1cm scars?
Here's a teaser quote:
"Doctors in New York have removed a woman's gallbladder with instruments passed through her vagina."
Here's a teaser quote:
"Doctors in New York have removed a woman's gallbladder with instruments passed through her vagina."
mrmike - 04/19/07 22:33
What did they use Jai lai paddles??
What did they use Jai lai paddles??
ouch
come on guys, you arent all bad, and neither are the women. the only thing thats bad is pigeon-holing either sex and blaming the locale. its more of a matter of looking at yourself. As the latter portion of (e:jason) 's comment states, "If I went to Phoenix or LA or anywhere else I'm sure I'd be reaping the consequences of my actions and words, just like here in Buffalo."
dont let a silly article get you riled up.
Woohoo!!! I knew there was a reason I moved to SF from Buffalo.
In my experience, this place is the best. I got laid more in a month here than I did in 3 years of singledom in Buffalo.
@ (e:jason): "bar sluts, attention whores, emotional drainers, flakes to the core, wannabe trophy wives or all-out man haters."
Looks like you've met my ex-wife a few times....
Yes, and Buffalo is such a fantastic place to find a woman we wouldn't laugh about when thinking in the context of being a mother.
They are either bar sluts, attention whores, emotional drainers, flakes to the core, wannabe trophy wives or all-out man haters. The glue that holds them together in the sisterhood? The extreme confidence they have that they have no problems, and that it is the men around them who are the assholes. Let me tell you it's about as fun as getting your eyes carved out with a spoon.
But, even looking at them I know that I've got my own problems to deal with, and I'm not a perfect soul either. If we run into the same problems over and over and over, the problem ain't someone else's. If I went to Phoenix or LA or anywhere else I'm sure I'd be reaping the consequences of my actions and words, just like here in Buffalo. Not everyone gets that.
It is kinda interesting but it seems flawed to me because it throws out the bar scene. I'm guessing because that would be to hard to judge or get numbers on. It replaces it with aderline sports. That means that if you don't have class 5 rapids or mountains you start out behind. The thing that I find interesting is how mind set seems to have been used to kill Buffalo's score. The ice and snow and cold stops the love connection. But what about people who ski and snowboard and ice skate and find the snow as there playground that wasn't even looked into. I find it funny that Miami and Buffalo both got an F. But that would make sense since miami has a high party scene and is also a sports town Baseball, Football and don't the panthers and Heat play there also. But again they have no rapids and mountains. Again maybe I'm miss reading this. That would also explain why places near mountains could have done well.
That article although written from the perspective of a woman is totally flawed when it comes to Buffalo. Women here don't want a "college educated, physically fit, never married, straight man" They want a blue collar, hard drinking, chain smoking badass that will knock them up when they're way too young.
Women around here just don't go for the standard that they are judging in the article. It's just that in the long run they're be screwed by being more mesmerized by a cocky roofer than a guy with a masters degree. Especially when he messes up his back when he's 45 and she's stuck supporting him and his beer gut.
Oh I so believe it!
I am shocked to see that Buffalo's singles scene is on-par with Miami's.
I'm not upset by that. I admit I don't have time to read that but I will soon. But what does kinda upset me a little bit is when girls, chicks, ladies, Dames, skirts, or maybe even Divas or what ever term you prefer say there are no good guys in Buffalo. Um excuse me Hello I'm standing right here and you are looking right past me. I understand if what you mean is there are no guys here who are what I want in a guy then that is fine. But I'm a good guy. But being a good guy and being what someone wants are two completely differant things. I think that it is just a case of bad language use. Ok so I'm not upset anymore I think I sorted it out.
And the whole time I thought the reason you guys imported me from Raleigh was to do odd programming work that you couldn't find anyone else to do.
Now I learn it was just to boost your singles rate. Oh, the betrayal!
It's not we are not here, some of us are just MSNBC camera shy.