I swear you would think I'm in high school if you could see the thoughts that go through my head. I'm not sure I think about much beside boys these days. It's pathetic. I think my (younger) sister getting married before me has freaked me out more than I realized. not to mention going to my ex's wedding.
But help me out here girls (and guys I guess)
This is my wish list.
Am I really asking THAT much?
(well the answer is yes. I want mr. wonderful, and I won't settle)
30ish
smart
funny
professional
attractive enough
similar values to mine
SINGLE.
As in NEVER MARRIED.
And not currently dating someone. (you'd think that's a no-brainer, but it's not).
And for god's sake, no kids.
Call me a bitch, but I do not ever want to be a stepmother or a second wife. I don't want to deal with your baggage. I will marry once, forever. Personally I think being divorced shows poor judgment on your part- you married the wrong person- should have known better. [yeah yeah flame away].
Preferably non-smoker.
Preferably non-religious.
Preferably graduate-degreed, but definitely college-degreed.
And call me shallow, but I WILL judge you by your shoes. ;)
(and I wonder why I'm single, with a laundry list like that!)
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12/15/2005 03:28 #23735
boy-crazyCategory: (again)
12/13/2005 23:43 #23734
ugh ugh ugh ughCategory: men suck
AAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrGGGGGGGGGGGGGhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I am SO FUCKING SICK of being treated like shit and not respected/appreciated.
Are ALL boys (I refuse to call them men) assholes, or just the ones I date?
I'm really losing faith here.
Grrrrrrrrrrr.
Off to cry myself to sleep.
a-GAIN.
I am SO FUCKING SICK of being treated like shit and not respected/appreciated.
Are ALL boys (I refuse to call them men) assholes, or just the ones I date?
I'm really losing faith here.
Grrrrrrrrrrr.
Off to cry myself to sleep.
a-GAIN.
jenks - 12/15/05 01:48
At this point, a guy can finger me any way he wants....
(oh snap!)
thanks for the love everyone. (and yes jason is prob right, but the odds of bumping into a 30ish smart professional funny decent looking guy with values close to mine in Buffalo seem to be slim to none.)
Feeling a little better tonight, except that my coworker suckssuckssucks.
At this point, a guy can finger me any way he wants....
(oh snap!)
thanks for the love everyone. (and yes jason is prob right, but the odds of bumping into a 30ish smart professional funny decent looking guy with values close to mine in Buffalo seem to be slim to none.)
Feeling a little better tonight, except that my coworker suckssuckssucks.
joshua - 12/14/05 15:49
Jason says not to feel sad. Two people getting together and getting along perfectly seems to Jason to be accidental more than anything else. Bump into enough people and you will eventually find one you can deal with! Make sure he is Republican though.
Jason says not to feel sad. Two people getting together and getting along perfectly seems to Jason to be accidental more than anything else. Bump into enough people and you will eventually find one you can deal with! Make sure he is Republican though.
joshua - 12/14/05 14:11
Half the time its the girls fault, Ajay... the other half of the time its the honest girls like Jenks getting used and abused by jackasses. By the way, and I know that I'm not making any friends by saying this AND I"M NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU DEAR ONE, but alot of girls in Buffalo are full of shit.
My advice is to be more picky and demanding, Jenks, but not so much that guys will finger you as a <fill in derogatory term>.
Half the time its the girls fault, Ajay... the other half of the time its the honest girls like Jenks getting used and abused by jackasses. By the way, and I know that I'm not making any friends by saying this AND I"M NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU DEAR ONE, but alot of girls in Buffalo are full of shit.
My advice is to be more picky and demanding, Jenks, but not so much that guys will finger you as a <fill in derogatory term>.
ladycroft - 12/14/05 02:19
you know it!!!
you know it!!!
ajay - 12/14/05 00:59
Ever since I left Buffalo, all I hear is doom and gloom from the ladies. What's up wit dat, yo?
Ever since I left Buffalo, all I hear is doom and gloom from the ladies. What's up wit dat, yo?
joshua - 12/13/05 23:47
Now don't be letting some idiots ruin ALL of our reputations! :)
Now don't be letting some idiots ruin ALL of our reputations! :)
12/13/2005 21:13 #23733
pmoblTesting
jenks - 12/15/05 01:43
It was at HSBC Arena. My first U2 show. And everything I'd heard about them putting on a great show is definitely true.
It was at HSBC Arena. My first U2 show. And everything I'd heard about them putting on a great show is definitely true.
codypomeray - 12/14/05 21:39
where is the show? i went to the one in madison sq garden in november. wasnt it a freakin awesome show
where is the show? i went to the one in madison sq garden in november. wasnt it a freakin awesome show
jenks - 12/13/05 21:41
The U2 show.
The U2 show.
paul - 12/13/05 21:36
Glad I could help you with the mobiel stuff .So what is it a picture of.
Glad I could help you with the mobiel stuff .So what is it a picture of.
joshua - 12/13/05 21:15
Nice work!
Nice work!
12/12/2005 23:02 #23732
Too cuteCategory: lurve
Ok, I'm sorry, I'm not usually this much of a sap, but-
Ok I retract that statement since it is a huge lie. I am definitely a sap.
But in any case, I couldn't not post this picture.
Is it just me or is this freaking adorable?
This was totally spontaneous and un-staged, as my sister and her brand-new husband walked out of the church.
awwwwww
Ok I retract that statement since it is a huge lie. I am definitely a sap.
But in any case, I couldn't not post this picture.
Is it just me or is this freaking adorable?
This was totally spontaneous and un-staged, as my sister and her brand-new husband walked out of the church.
awwwwww
12/12/2005 12:25 #23731
Pet peevesCategory: grr
I have plenty of silly pet peeves, as I imagine we all do.
Pardon me while I share two that get me steamed:
1: People who insist on taking the elevator DOWN ONE floor. Particularly when the stairs are nearby, and clearly marked. I don't really support taking the elevator UP one floor, but DOWN is inexcusable (for an able-bodied person. Note: "fat" does not mean you are not "able-bodied".) Sometimes I can't find the stairs, and I have to take the elevator one floor. I always feel guilty as I push that button, and mumble an apology. But once I was at work, trying to get the hell out after a loooong day, and was going from 10 to 1. The elevator was crowded, stopping on every floor, and generally irritating. Then some 350-pound bitch royale wedges herself into the crowd, and pushes the button to go down one floor. Some housekeeper friend of hers called her out, saying 'you did NOT just take the elevator down one floor!' and she responded "girl! They don't PAY me enough to take the stairs." I had no idea stair-walking merits extra wages.
And recently I was on the second floor, waiting for an elevator going up. And there was a guy there, practically leaning on the door to the stairs, waiting to go down. And he bitched about how long it was taking. So I kindly pointed out the stairs, and he said "oh I don't walk down stairs, I don't, you know, want to get assaulted." Right. He was a huge thuggish guy. I don't think anyone is going to assault him between the first and second floors of a children's hospital. Call me naive.
2: Jackasses that insist on backing into parking spaces, especially in a garage, especially when there is a line of cars waiting to park. I just don't get the point. Ok, so you can get out of work 0.5 seconds faster that way. But really... Is it THAT difficult and off-putting to have to back out of a parking space? I still think it takes less time to just back out like a normal person than to do this ridiculous ten-point-turn, shitty backing-in parking job, that is usually too close to a line, making the neighboring space unusable. Fine, sometimes in a parking lot there's no one on the other side and you can pull through so you can drive straight out. I don't have a problem with that. But i have seen some people so nuts about parking "face out" that they even do it at the grocery store. It's fun loading groceries into a car with the trunk facing in, don't you think?
Ok, so I'm a little cranky. I was supposed to be off work at 9am (started at 6am yesterday), but didn't get out til 11:45. And I witnessed both of these egregious transgressions in the process of trying to get the hell home.
And you know, I was going to apologize for offending anyone that may engage in these acts, but you know what? I do NOT apologize at all. You should be ashamed of yourselves.
Time for some hot cocoa and tivo to let my blood pressure go down. ;) Have a good day, peeps!
Pardon me while I share two that get me steamed:
1: People who insist on taking the elevator DOWN ONE floor. Particularly when the stairs are nearby, and clearly marked. I don't really support taking the elevator UP one floor, but DOWN is inexcusable (for an able-bodied person. Note: "fat" does not mean you are not "able-bodied".) Sometimes I can't find the stairs, and I have to take the elevator one floor. I always feel guilty as I push that button, and mumble an apology. But once I was at work, trying to get the hell out after a loooong day, and was going from 10 to 1. The elevator was crowded, stopping on every floor, and generally irritating. Then some 350-pound bitch royale wedges herself into the crowd, and pushes the button to go down one floor. Some housekeeper friend of hers called her out, saying 'you did NOT just take the elevator down one floor!' and she responded "girl! They don't PAY me enough to take the stairs." I had no idea stair-walking merits extra wages.
And recently I was on the second floor, waiting for an elevator going up. And there was a guy there, practically leaning on the door to the stairs, waiting to go down. And he bitched about how long it was taking. So I kindly pointed out the stairs, and he said "oh I don't walk down stairs, I don't, you know, want to get assaulted." Right. He was a huge thuggish guy. I don't think anyone is going to assault him between the first and second floors of a children's hospital. Call me naive.
2: Jackasses that insist on backing into parking spaces, especially in a garage, especially when there is a line of cars waiting to park. I just don't get the point. Ok, so you can get out of work 0.5 seconds faster that way. But really... Is it THAT difficult and off-putting to have to back out of a parking space? I still think it takes less time to just back out like a normal person than to do this ridiculous ten-point-turn, shitty backing-in parking job, that is usually too close to a line, making the neighboring space unusable. Fine, sometimes in a parking lot there's no one on the other side and you can pull through so you can drive straight out. I don't have a problem with that. But i have seen some people so nuts about parking "face out" that they even do it at the grocery store. It's fun loading groceries into a car with the trunk facing in, don't you think?
Ok, so I'm a little cranky. I was supposed to be off work at 9am (started at 6am yesterday), but didn't get out til 11:45. And I witnessed both of these egregious transgressions in the process of trying to get the hell home.
And you know, I was going to apologize for offending anyone that may engage in these acts, but you know what? I do NOT apologize at all. You should be ashamed of yourselves.
Time for some hot cocoa and tivo to let my blood pressure go down. ;) Have a good day, peeps!
Well yes. You make good points. And kind/thoughtful/considerate is first on my list, and I guess I assume it's implied. (though it was what my last guy was lacking the most. He had most of the other stuff, but as I learned slowly and painfully, wasn't too big on the giving-a-shit-about-me part, which hurt.)
And I don't consider these silly traits I list as absolutes- it's not like I won't give others a shot- it's just that I when I think about what I would like in someone, those come to mind. And I don't think I'm desperate, and I really don't have the ticking clock feeling... But at the same time I can't help but think that it's been a really long time since I had a guy that really cared about me and made me feel good and did the little things... And I miss that. Not that I can't live without it, not that I'm not ok with my life as it is... I just think sometimes that it would be nice to have someone to share it with... in a sane loving mutually respectful way. (and yeah, I miss the sex too.)
Sigh...
I know he's out there somewhere. And I know that you only find what you're looking for when you stop looking.
(E:Ladycroft) has an excellent point. What you do not want to do is trap yourself into thinking there is a specific time in which you must be married. I think nothing scares away potential relationships more than desperation. In friendships or relationships. I think when the time is right, you will know it and feel it. Don't give up on the fact that it is out there for you.
Funny, i don't recall (e:Ladycroft) ever having posted a list of her own, but then again my memory just is not what it used to be (if it ever was anything to be impressed about!).
I find this whole subject facinating and interesting. I have seen others with laundry lists of what they require or want in a mate, both men and women. Rarely at the top do i see something as simple and basic as "kind" or "thoughtful" or "considerate" or "giving" or "generous" or even "accepting". Is it because it is implied?
As to your specific list, i understand a lot of it. I really understand not wanting to be a stepmom. That is a huge complicated responsibility. I also understand and relate to the non-religious and non-smoker thing (hey, i just quit smoking less than a year ago, folks; i can't understand why anyone kissed me for the 20+ years i was a smoker!). In fact, i understand all the things you prefer. That you have preferences.
What i do not understand is why you would limit yourself. What would happen if your soul mate really is younger than you? But you won't meet him because the person you end up with has to be 30ish? What if he is a plumber, earns an amazing living because he invented some do-hickey thingie but you will not date him because he is not a professional? What if he has tons of baggage from his mom or dad or the girl he dated in high school that slept with his best friend?
I think the reason i can puzzle it out the way i do is because i used to have a specific list of my own. And my husband meets almost none of it. Except that he is the person i knew i would end up with when i met him. Despite the fact that he is not a tall skinny pale british wordsworth type, he is kind and thoughtful and considerate and giving and generous and accepting. And i thank my lucky stars i was open to him when i met him.
Don't fall in the "I'm 30 I have to be married now" trap. It'll happen it it's own time, when it's right for the pair of you.
I once posted a similar thought, only I was much more liberal (basically, be a decent human being) and I got railed for it.
This past May my ex got married to the girl he left me for. It kind of put me in a little spin too. Not that I had any interest in him, but the whole scenario just sucked.
I really hope you're stopping by the snow party, we have GOT to talk!