Not sure what happened today...
I had written a nice long (happy) post, and I clicked publish and it never showed up, and then I got error messages about the server being down all day. Seems my post vanished into the ether.
Anyone else having problems?
Bummer.
Oh well.
I will re-type one little tidbit though-
Since people seem to be sharing recipes lately, I have one:
Our once-a-year decadent christmas morning breakfast is french toast- made with angel food cake instead of bread.
mmm-mmm-good...
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12/21/2005 20:38 #23739
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12/20/2005 00:05 #23738
saddest story ever, part 2Category: yikes
Ok first off, I promise that one of these days I will post something nice and happy, and not me whining about boys or bitching about work, or telling depressing stories.
Believe it or not, I AM a pretty happy person.
But not quite yet, I have part two of the last story.
But before I get into it- I'm totally serious when I ask if anyone can recommend a decent place for christmas eve dinner. I refuse to believe that EVERY restaurant in town is closed... And my mom is basically refusing to cook for all of us since I don't have a dishwasher, and it's not Her Kitchen. And god knows I'm not up for it- I barely have the energy to get out of bed these days. (on that note- I was at work from 7am til 11pm today. have to be back at 7 tomorrow- until noon ON WEDNESDAY. Another 7-? day thurs. and 7-noon on sat, fri. I added it up- I worked 100hr last week. Which is illegal, but whatever... At least I'm off christmas day.. Not sure when I think christmas cookies/christmas cards/laundry/wrapping presents/grocery shopping/sheet-changing/house-cleaning/tree decorating is going to happen. Not to mention studying. ack.)
But just to add insult to injury about my last horrible story...
So when I got into work this AM, I learned that a pregnant lady had come in the night before. She had found out by ultrasound a while ago that her baby has a problem- basically all its intestines are on the outside. It's not a GOOD problem to have, but it's fixable. But so this lady was in town visiting from Boston. And she went into labor, 6 weeks too early. Sucks to be having a baby with a problem, extra-sucks to be having it prematurely, and super-sucks to be having it away from home and away from your doctors. So the baby was born this morning, and everyone was there waiting to rush it to the operating room to fix the intestines. Well to make matters worse, half the intestines were dead, and had to be removed. (that is not good, and makes the problem MUCH more serious and dangerous and reduces the baby's chances of surviving)
And the punchline- why was she visiting from Boston? For the funeral of the little organ-donor girl the other night. It was her cousin.
I mean how many more things can go wrong for this poor family... I wonder when they'll be struck by lightning.
I hope they win the lottery next week.
Ok, next post will be happier i promise.
Now off to bed!
night peeps.
-J
Believe it or not, I AM a pretty happy person.
But not quite yet, I have part two of the last story.
But before I get into it- I'm totally serious when I ask if anyone can recommend a decent place for christmas eve dinner. I refuse to believe that EVERY restaurant in town is closed... And my mom is basically refusing to cook for all of us since I don't have a dishwasher, and it's not Her Kitchen. And god knows I'm not up for it- I barely have the energy to get out of bed these days. (on that note- I was at work from 7am til 11pm today. have to be back at 7 tomorrow- until noon ON WEDNESDAY. Another 7-? day thurs. and 7-noon on sat, fri. I added it up- I worked 100hr last week. Which is illegal, but whatever... At least I'm off christmas day.. Not sure when I think christmas cookies/christmas cards/laundry/wrapping presents/grocery shopping/sheet-changing/house-cleaning/tree decorating is going to happen. Not to mention studying. ack.)
But just to add insult to injury about my last horrible story...
So when I got into work this AM, I learned that a pregnant lady had come in the night before. She had found out by ultrasound a while ago that her baby has a problem- basically all its intestines are on the outside. It's not a GOOD problem to have, but it's fixable. But so this lady was in town visiting from Boston. And she went into labor, 6 weeks too early. Sucks to be having a baby with a problem, extra-sucks to be having it prematurely, and super-sucks to be having it away from home and away from your doctors. So the baby was born this morning, and everyone was there waiting to rush it to the operating room to fix the intestines. Well to make matters worse, half the intestines were dead, and had to be removed. (that is not good, and makes the problem MUCH more serious and dangerous and reduces the baby's chances of surviving)
And the punchline- why was she visiting from Boston? For the funeral of the little organ-donor girl the other night. It was her cousin.
I mean how many more things can go wrong for this poor family... I wonder when they'll be struck by lightning.
I hope they win the lottery next week.
Ok, next post will be happier i promise.
Now off to bed!
night peeps.
-J
12/18/2005 04:42 #23737
saddest thing ever... and a questionCategory: major downer
Jesus. I want to cry...
So there was a nasty car accident a few days ago- car lost control on black ice and crossed the divider and hit an SUV head on. Mom and two daughters. Three year old girl broke her neck [the xrays are sickening]. She was declared brain dead (which means dead) a few days later. In the midst of the horrible grief (and mom reportedly being at ECMC in a coma and the sister in surgery for a broken leg) they have to ask the family about organ donation. At least some other life can come out of this horrible death, I guess. But so tonight I got the call at 1:30 am "hey want to come help out with a case?" "yeah sure, who needs sleep?" So I just spent the last 3 hours 'harvesting' [what an awful word] the organs of this tiny little girl, along with a team from Canada who was going to take the heart to Calgary. Kidneys going to NYC, and corneas and some other tissue going elsewhere. Unfortunately they couldn't use the liver or lungs or pancreas, which is a shame since you rarely see organs so young and healthy- no diabetes, no obesity, no smoking, no clogged arteries, etc.
And to make it worse the people here know her, from when her sister was sick last year- they say she was just so adorable and would come visit her big sister every single day... and the family is so nice... And the clincher- they were on their way to the mall to buy her some toys- to celebrate the fact that her adoption papers had gone through, and she was now officially a sister. And she fucking dies the same day.
(moment of silence for poor thing)
So before you all go slit your wrists, I will completely change the subject and leave you with a question:
My parents are coming to visit for christmas, and have proposed going out to dinner for Christmas Eve. Hutch's and Left Bank are closed.
Anyone have any recommendations for a nice place eat that might actually be open that night?? Thanks...
So there was a nasty car accident a few days ago- car lost control on black ice and crossed the divider and hit an SUV head on. Mom and two daughters. Three year old girl broke her neck [the xrays are sickening]. She was declared brain dead (which means dead) a few days later. In the midst of the horrible grief (and mom reportedly being at ECMC in a coma and the sister in surgery for a broken leg) they have to ask the family about organ donation. At least some other life can come out of this horrible death, I guess. But so tonight I got the call at 1:30 am "hey want to come help out with a case?" "yeah sure, who needs sleep?" So I just spent the last 3 hours 'harvesting' [what an awful word] the organs of this tiny little girl, along with a team from Canada who was going to take the heart to Calgary. Kidneys going to NYC, and corneas and some other tissue going elsewhere. Unfortunately they couldn't use the liver or lungs or pancreas, which is a shame since you rarely see organs so young and healthy- no diabetes, no obesity, no smoking, no clogged arteries, etc.
And to make it worse the people here know her, from when her sister was sick last year- they say she was just so adorable and would come visit her big sister every single day... and the family is so nice... And the clincher- they were on their way to the mall to buy her some toys- to celebrate the fact that her adoption papers had gone through, and she was now officially a sister. And she fucking dies the same day.
(moment of silence for poor thing)
So before you all go slit your wrists, I will completely change the subject and leave you with a question:
My parents are coming to visit for christmas, and have proposed going out to dinner for Christmas Eve. Hutch's and Left Bank are closed.
Anyone have any recommendations for a nice place eat that might actually be open that night?? Thanks...
ladycroft - 12/18/05 18:24
She died on what was probably the happiest day of her life, I'll try to look at that side. It is so sad when children die, but I'm glad her parents opted to donate her usable organs so that she could help others.
She died on what was probably the happiest day of her life, I'll try to look at that side. It is so sad when children die, but I'm glad her parents opted to donate her usable organs so that she could help others.
theecarey - 12/18/05 13:55
oh jeez.. (the change of subject thing did not work!) That goes deeper than sad. Especially the sickening twist of her official adoption. bah.
oh jeez.. (the change of subject thing did not work!) That goes deeper than sad. Especially the sickening twist of her official adoption. bah.
paul - 12/18/05 12:54
That is the saddest story ever.
That is the saddest story ever.
12/17/2005 21:47 #23736
par-tayHave fun at the party everyone....
Wish I could come and meet some of alls y'alls.
(wow, the new orleansisms come out at the oddest times)
Alas, I am sitting in my little hole praying that no one crashes their car or gets stabbed or burned or is involved in any other sort of unfortunate event that will keep me up all night. :)
Would much rather be out socializing, but oh well...
So have fun, and congrats to everyone that just finished finals.
-J
Wish I could come and meet some of alls y'alls.
(wow, the new orleansisms come out at the oddest times)
Alas, I am sitting in my little hole praying that no one crashes their car or gets stabbed or burned or is involved in any other sort of unfortunate event that will keep me up all night. :)
Would much rather be out socializing, but oh well...
So have fun, and congrats to everyone that just finished finals.
-J
12/15/2005 03:28 #23735
boy-crazyCategory: (again)
I swear you would think I'm in high school if you could see the thoughts that go through my head. I'm not sure I think about much beside boys these days. It's pathetic. I think my (younger) sister getting married before me has freaked me out more than I realized. not to mention going to my ex's wedding.
But help me out here girls (and guys I guess)
This is my wish list.
Am I really asking THAT much?
(well the answer is yes. I want mr. wonderful, and I won't settle)
30ish
smart
funny
professional
attractive enough
similar values to mine
SINGLE.
As in NEVER MARRIED.
And not currently dating someone. (you'd think that's a no-brainer, but it's not).
And for god's sake, no kids.
Call me a bitch, but I do not ever want to be a stepmother or a second wife. I don't want to deal with your baggage. I will marry once, forever. Personally I think being divorced shows poor judgment on your part- you married the wrong person- should have known better. [yeah yeah flame away].
Preferably non-smoker.
Preferably non-religious.
Preferably graduate-degreed, but definitely college-degreed.
And call me shallow, but I WILL judge you by your shoes. ;)
(and I wonder why I'm single, with a laundry list like that!)
But help me out here girls (and guys I guess)
This is my wish list.
Am I really asking THAT much?
(well the answer is yes. I want mr. wonderful, and I won't settle)
30ish
smart
funny
professional
attractive enough
similar values to mine
SINGLE.
As in NEVER MARRIED.
And not currently dating someone. (you'd think that's a no-brainer, but it's not).
And for god's sake, no kids.
Call me a bitch, but I do not ever want to be a stepmother or a second wife. I don't want to deal with your baggage. I will marry once, forever. Personally I think being divorced shows poor judgment on your part- you married the wrong person- should have known better. [yeah yeah flame away].
Preferably non-smoker.
Preferably non-religious.
Preferably graduate-degreed, but definitely college-degreed.
And call me shallow, but I WILL judge you by your shoes. ;)
(and I wonder why I'm single, with a laundry list like that!)
jenks - 12/15/05 20:21
Well yes. You make good points. And kind/thoughtful/considerate is first on my list, and I guess I assume it's implied. (though it was what my last guy was lacking the most. He had most of the other stuff, but as I learned slowly and painfully, wasn't too big on the giving-a-shit-about-me part, which hurt.)
And I don't consider these silly traits I list as absolutes- it's not like I won't give others a shot- it's just that I when I think about what I would like in someone, those come to mind. And I don't think I'm desperate, and I really don't have the ticking clock feeling... But at the same time I can't help but think that it's been a really long time since I had a guy that really cared about me and made me feel good and did the little things... And I miss that. Not that I can't live without it, not that I'm not ok with my life as it is... I just think sometimes that it would be nice to have someone to share it with... in a sane loving mutually respectful way. (and yeah, I miss the sex too.)
Sigh...
I know he's out there somewhere. And I know that you only find what you're looking for when you stop looking.
Well yes. You make good points. And kind/thoughtful/considerate is first on my list, and I guess I assume it's implied. (though it was what my last guy was lacking the most. He had most of the other stuff, but as I learned slowly and painfully, wasn't too big on the giving-a-shit-about-me part, which hurt.)
And I don't consider these silly traits I list as absolutes- it's not like I won't give others a shot- it's just that I when I think about what I would like in someone, those come to mind. And I don't think I'm desperate, and I really don't have the ticking clock feeling... But at the same time I can't help but think that it's been a really long time since I had a guy that really cared about me and made me feel good and did the little things... And I miss that. Not that I can't live without it, not that I'm not ok with my life as it is... I just think sometimes that it would be nice to have someone to share it with... in a sane loving mutually respectful way. (and yeah, I miss the sex too.)
Sigh...
I know he's out there somewhere. And I know that you only find what you're looking for when you stop looking.
leetee - 12/15/05 19:28
(E:Ladycroft) has an excellent point. What you do not want to do is trap yourself into thinking there is a specific time in which you must be married. I think nothing scares away potential relationships more than desperation. In friendships or relationships. I think when the time is right, you will know it and feel it. Don't give up on the fact that it is out there for you.
Funny, i don't recall (e:Ladycroft) ever having posted a list of her own, but then again my memory just is not what it used to be (if it ever was anything to be impressed about!).
I find this whole subject facinating and interesting. I have seen others with laundry lists of what they require or want in a mate, both men and women. Rarely at the top do i see something as simple and basic as "kind" or "thoughtful" or "considerate" or "giving" or "generous" or even "accepting". Is it because it is implied?
As to your specific list, i understand a lot of it. I really understand not wanting to be a stepmom. That is a huge complicated responsibility. I also understand and relate to the non-religious and non-smoker thing (hey, i just quit smoking less than a year ago, folks; i can't understand why anyone kissed me for the 20+ years i was a smoker!). In fact, i understand all the things you prefer. That you have preferences.
What i do not understand is why you would limit yourself. What would happen if your soul mate really is younger than you? But you won't meet him because the person you end up with has to be 30ish? What if he is a plumber, earns an amazing living because he invented some do-hickey thingie but you will not date him because he is not a professional? What if he has tons of baggage from his mom or dad or the girl he dated in high school that slept with his best friend?
I think the reason i can puzzle it out the way i do is because i used to have a specific list of my own. And my husband meets almost none of it. Except that he is the person i knew i would end up with when i met him. Despite the fact that he is not a tall skinny pale british wordsworth type, he is kind and thoughtful and considerate and giving and generous and accepting. And i thank my lucky stars i was open to him when i met him.
(E:Ladycroft) has an excellent point. What you do not want to do is trap yourself into thinking there is a specific time in which you must be married. I think nothing scares away potential relationships more than desperation. In friendships or relationships. I think when the time is right, you will know it and feel it. Don't give up on the fact that it is out there for you.
Funny, i don't recall (e:Ladycroft) ever having posted a list of her own, but then again my memory just is not what it used to be (if it ever was anything to be impressed about!).
I find this whole subject facinating and interesting. I have seen others with laundry lists of what they require or want in a mate, both men and women. Rarely at the top do i see something as simple and basic as "kind" or "thoughtful" or "considerate" or "giving" or "generous" or even "accepting". Is it because it is implied?
As to your specific list, i understand a lot of it. I really understand not wanting to be a stepmom. That is a huge complicated responsibility. I also understand and relate to the non-religious and non-smoker thing (hey, i just quit smoking less than a year ago, folks; i can't understand why anyone kissed me for the 20+ years i was a smoker!). In fact, i understand all the things you prefer. That you have preferences.
What i do not understand is why you would limit yourself. What would happen if your soul mate really is younger than you? But you won't meet him because the person you end up with has to be 30ish? What if he is a plumber, earns an amazing living because he invented some do-hickey thingie but you will not date him because he is not a professional? What if he has tons of baggage from his mom or dad or the girl he dated in high school that slept with his best friend?
I think the reason i can puzzle it out the way i do is because i used to have a specific list of my own. And my husband meets almost none of it. Except that he is the person i knew i would end up with when i met him. Despite the fact that he is not a tall skinny pale british wordsworth type, he is kind and thoughtful and considerate and giving and generous and accepting. And i thank my lucky stars i was open to him when i met him.
ladycroft - 12/15/05 11:54
Don't fall in the "I'm 30 I have to be married now" trap. It'll happen it it's own time, when it's right for the pair of you.
I once posted a similar thought, only I was much more liberal (basically, be a decent human being) and I got railed for it.
This past May my ex got married to the girl he left me for. It kind of put me in a little spin too. Not that I had any interest in him, but the whole scenario just sucked.
I really hope you're stopping by the snow party, we have GOT to talk!
Don't fall in the "I'm 30 I have to be married now" trap. It'll happen it it's own time, when it's right for the pair of you.
I once posted a similar thought, only I was much more liberal (basically, be a decent human being) and I got railed for it.
This past May my ex got married to the girl he left me for. It kind of put me in a little spin too. Not that I had any interest in him, but the whole scenario just sucked.
I really hope you're stopping by the snow party, we have GOT to talk!
Yes, I love left bank. As a restaurant, and as a bar. But alas, they are closed on christmas eve. I guess we'll have to settle for oliver's. (shucks).
Left bank is amazing if it is opena nd you can get reservations. It is by richmond and lexington.
that is the saddest thing ever. that poor family! like you said, i really hope something wonderful happens to them soon. how much longer can this awful streak continue?
Oliver's is very good, but expensive. I've gotten conflicting reports about the service there as well. Either way, have a good dinner with your parents and have a Merry Christmas. :)
Thanks for the link. Saigon Cafe is around the corner from my house, one of my fave places. Love the green curry! But I think my parents want something a little more 'traditional' for a christmas dinner. I was able to get a reservation at Oliver's. I'd never even heard of it, but the menu looks good, and i'm told "What?! never heard of oliver's?! it's the "real deal" (i.e. too expensive for me to afford but ok if mom and dad are paying haha)", so we'll give it a shot.
So, i forgot to add the link!!
:::link:::
My husband and i don't really "dine". We go out to eat often, but a good restaurant isn't really what we do. Are you looking for ethnic food? We eat Thai often and the Saigon Cafe on Elmwood is one of the nicest places we go to... Here, too, is a restaurant guide that was helpful to us (and still is) when we moved to Buffalo not too long ago.
As for your sad stories... i could not do what you do... i would be in tears 24/7. Not to mention i can barely stand the sight of blood... let's not even talk about all the other icky goo that comes out of people.