mobileCategory: rant
09/03/05 05:44 - 74ºF - ID#32908
The advice roulette wheel....
I hate it when people come to you with a problem and then ask you, "What would you do?"
It seems that, usually, they are not actually looking for what you would do in the situation, but rather what you think they should do.
Then, when you tell them what you would do if you were in their shoes, you get a rebuttal. (usually something like, "Yeah, but....blah blah blah..." where they give you a whole new set of crap to try to get you to change your response) Meaning that they actually took it as YOU TELLING THEM WHAT THEY SHOULD DO and they don't want to do it.
If they were actually asking for what YOU would do in said situation, there would be no room for a rebuttal, would there? They would take what you say at face value and see how they could apply your take on the situation to their final action.
People just need to say what they mean. :)
It seems that, usually, they are not actually looking for what you would do in the situation, but rather what you think they should do.
Then, when you tell them what you would do if you were in their shoes, you get a rebuttal. (usually something like, "Yeah, but....blah blah blah..." where they give you a whole new set of crap to try to get you to change your response) Meaning that they actually took it as YOU TELLING THEM WHAT THEY SHOULD DO and they don't want to do it.
If they were actually asking for what YOU would do in said situation, there would be no room for a rebuttal, would there? They would take what you say at face value and see how they could apply your take on the situation to their final action.
- sigh*
People just need to say what they mean. :)
Sometimes they really do need to give you more details becuse there is a reason in there mind why that won't work. Then sometimes they just want you to say what they where going to do, that way it justifies them doing what they are going to do. But I can understand why that drives you insane. Permalink: The_advice_roulette_wheel_.html
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Location: Lewiston, NY
09/01/05 03:46 - 75ºF - ID#32907
First post :)
Been on here for a bit and forgot to post! Hmm.. what to put in an initial post?
Probably just the everyday stuff....
I'm Dana, 29, living in Lewiston currently, mom to one 12 yr old kiddo, 4 cats and a newly adopted rat.
I'm pretty laid back (sometimes TOO much), fun and friendly. I have an ever-changing sense of humor. Dry, dark, goofy, witty, sarcastic and everything in-between. :)
Love meeting new people, hanging out w/ friends, talking forever, coming up w/ new excuses to get sushi on a daily basis, random adventures and good times. :)
Recently lost my job and am searching desperately for one at the moment, feeling like a big ol' loser :)
In the next 5 years I would like to get back into school and finish something for once, perhaps buy a house somewhere, settle back and have another.....20 or so cats ;)
Probably just the everyday stuff....
I'm Dana, 29, living in Lewiston currently, mom to one 12 yr old kiddo, 4 cats and a newly adopted rat.
I'm pretty laid back (sometimes TOO much), fun and friendly. I have an ever-changing sense of humor. Dry, dark, goofy, witty, sarcastic and everything in-between. :)
Love meeting new people, hanging out w/ friends, talking forever, coming up w/ new excuses to get sushi on a daily basis, random adventures and good times. :)
Recently lost my job and am searching desperately for one at the moment, feeling like a big ol' loser :)
In the next 5 years I would like to get back into school and finish something for once, perhaps buy a house somewhere, settle back and have another.....20 or so cats ;)
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Location: Lewiston, NY
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