Today was such a crazy day. I had Time Warner come to set up my new home business line so that I could run the server from here and save about $60/month.
Trying to make a little server room out of a bedroom closet made me confront all of the stuff inside there. That plus having to rewire a bunch of stuff and get the internet back up and running kind of sent me over the edge.
It so funny how much I am like my dad. I recognize that I get so crazy about stuff but sometimes I just can't stop. I hear myself saying the same jerky things he said that make my mother so nuts but at the same time as I get older I am starting to understand him perspective more. Either that or I am just beginning to be a grumpy old man.
It basically comes down to a difference in people who want to keep stuff and people who want to throw stuff out. My mother, my brother (horder king) and (e:matthew) are more of the mindset that you should always hold onto everything in case it has a value or purpose someday. If it can fit somewhere then it should. My borther has the quirk that he takes on other people's sentimental objects too while (e:matthew) likes to keep broken things just in case. I on the other hand like to hold onto some sentimental things like letters or pictures, possessions that remind me of someone, etc but draw the line at fabric scraps, broken things, books I will never read (in fact I have a couple that need to go), etc.
Its probably wasteful of me to be this way but I think it has to do with always feeling like I am wadding through garbage whenever I am looking for a specific item.
I think there is some relationship to hating to lose placement of where stuff is. Having more stuff means things get misplaced and are harder to find. Also, for some reason having a lot of stuff just gives me anxiety. I never want to have to go through removing tons of garbade from this place again liek we had to when we moved in. I think (e:matthew) and my bro/mom are the opposite when not having lots of stuff gives them anxiety.
The best for me was going away to school where I had to fit the few things I had in a few boxes. One thing I was really excited about in having a giant house was to have some giant open space. At one point I didn't even like furniture. Now I feel that slowly but surely everything is crowding in closer.
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04/04/2011 22:31 #53982
Reliving my parents dramaCategory: family
04/03/2011 23:45 #53976
A trip to South BuffaloCategory: buffalo
At Tiffy I saw some charred reeds. I hope people are not trying to start fires there.

I swear I spend more time in former waste dumps and industrial sites than out in the country but its kind of cool to have so much outside stuff so close to the city. Its nice that they are really redoing the waterfront and even parts of the Buffalo River. Its the first time I can actually imagine it changing. There is so much space cleared and so many new parks.

We found lots of parts of the what I had been told was the old "New St Joseph's Cathedral" that was at Utica and Delaware
The only thing is I can't see how these parts match up with the pics, unless they are the internal pillars. I also heard these are the pillar parts that make up the pillar statue on North Campus.





Here is (e:terry) being strongman in the lot where they store the ice boom in the summer.


We also headed over to woodlawn.

At the end of it all we got a car wash at the deltasonic.


I swear I spend more time in former waste dumps and industrial sites than out in the country but its kind of cool to have so much outside stuff so close to the city. Its nice that they are really redoing the waterfront and even parts of the Buffalo River. Its the first time I can actually imagine it changing. There is so much space cleared and so many new parks.

We found lots of parts of the what I had been told was the old "New St Joseph's Cathedral" that was at Utica and Delaware

The only thing is I can't see how these parts match up with the pics, unless they are the internal pillars. I also heard these are the pillar parts that make up the pillar statue on North Campus.





Here is (e:terry) being strongman in the lot where they store the ice boom in the summer.


We also headed over to woodlawn.

At the end of it all we got a car wash at the deltasonic.

metalpeter - 04/04/11 16:59
seems odd that they would leave the pieces just laying around outside like that......
seems odd that they would leave the pieces just laying around outside like that......
04/03/2011 22:55 #53975
Dare to be mikeCategory: family
(e:mike) has been dare since the day he was introduced to it. This is the cutest pic. Just look at his poofy hair and how happy he is with his nonna. Its so hard to imagine him that little now.


flacidness - 04/04/11 13:34
Sooo cute!!!
Sooo cute!!!
libertad - 04/04/11 10:47
This is a very cute pic. I'm glad you posted it.
This is a very cute pic. I'm glad you posted it.
paul - 04/03/11 23:46
That is so funny.
That is so funny.
mike - 04/03/11 23:33
aww! I love that pic and totally ironically I am actually wearing that shirt right now, as a pajama shirt but still wearing it proudly!
aww! I love that pic and totally ironically I am actually wearing that shirt right now, as a pajama shirt but still wearing it proudly!
04/03/2011 10:58 #53965
Baked turkey nugget saladCategory: food
This was so delicious. The blackberries made me want summertime so bad.


paul - 04/03/11 12:56
Its baked breaded turkey breast, butterleaf lettuce, several kinds of olives, cooked string beans, blackberries, celery, fresh mozzarella, olive and coconut oil, lemon juice, herbed salt.
Its baked breaded turkey breast, butterleaf lettuce, several kinds of olives, cooked string beans, blackberries, celery, fresh mozzarella, olive and coconut oil, lemon juice, herbed salt.
tinypliny - 04/03/11 12:25
What else is in there? I can see green olives, celery, black olive? Is that bok choy?
What else is in there? I can see green olives, celery, black olive? Is that bok choy?
04/02/2011 20:21 #53964
Trip to WegmansCategory: food
I saw the produce Guy out and aabout with a crate of beans. So, instead of taking the old stringbean pickovers that were left out I waited for him to put the new ones out. It was so worth it. Look how freaking green and yummy they look. Its like summer.
Also, my favorite tuna in the glass jar is back. No need to trek out to the Orchard Park Wegmans anymore.


Also, my favorite tuna in the glass jar is back. No need to trek out to the Orchard Park Wegmans anymore.


libertad - 04/04/11 10:50
Mike and I had green beans 3 nights in a row. You certainly lucked out on those as we had a hard time buying them. Actually we went to 7-8 different stores looking for the perfect chicken to fry for my Dad's birthday and most of the stores we went to the green beans were completely picked over. Price Rite had the nastiest beans of them all but it is where I picked up the best frying chicken.
Mike and I had green beans 3 nights in a row. You certainly lucked out on those as we had a hard time buying them. Actually we went to 7-8 different stores looking for the perfect chicken to fry for my Dad's birthday and most of the stores we went to the green beans were completely picked over. Price Rite had the nastiest beans of them all but it is where I picked up the best frying chicken.
KeithT - 04/03/11 12:10
It must be super inconvenient to have to travel from south buffalo to allen town all the time....lol :P
It must be super inconvenient to have to travel from south buffalo to allen town all the time....lol :P
tinypliny - 04/03/11 10:06
I bought super-greeeeeeeeen beans too. I am usually very excited when I spot produce people coming in with new stuff. In fact, I am friends with the main produce king at pricerite (who was in the Buffalo United Artists version of this play btw: :::link:::) because I constantly hover around to see if I can get newer produce.
I bought super-greeeeeeeeen beans too. I am usually very excited when I spot produce people coming in with new stuff. In fact, I am friends with the main produce king at pricerite (who was in the Buffalo United Artists version of this play btw: :::link:::) because I constantly hover around to see if I can get newer produce.
How are you doing, Jason? You continue to be in my thoughts.
Lately I've been cleaning house. Cleaning out Josh's room. It is unbelievable how much shit people accumulate, myself included. Definitely feeling the "I have too much stuff" anxiety at my Elmwood perch. Why do I have 4 phone books? I am going to try to clean it all up this month, and I can almost taste the relief of having thrown away or given away almost everything.
hahaha... I love space to the point of being completely and obsessively avoiding any more furniture at all costs. I have very very little furniture (that I am constantly trying to eliminate and give away, if possible) even though people have tried to give me dining tables, couches, beds, mattresses, dressing tables, kitchen appliances, more lamps, hangars, side tables, closet of drawers, vase holders, mini-kitchen gardens for free at various points of time. But I admit, it's the most tempting thing in the world to receive offers of free stuff. I come close to dragging something home every month. But everytime I think of my parent's home and it scares the hell out of me and I walk away. When I was younger, my favourite story used to be Leo Tolstoy's :::link::: I was so much affected by the whole concept that I drew and sketched every single scene (yes, I trashed those sketches when my parents weren't looking).
My parents are such major hoarders. There was seriously no place to move at home because they have so much furniture, duplicates.. no make that triplicates of everything. They have the exact same policy as you describe: "If it is broken, it can be fixed someday." And sometimes this policy does work back home. I don't know if I am even their kid because I don't even keep photographs. People I really want to remember live in my head always... unchanging, happy, growing, beautiful (freaky as it might sound). Over years, my perceptions of them evolves and takes on hues but I feel that it's a healthy way to grow and gain perspectives on the people I came into contact with. If my flat were to burn down tonight and if I had my passport with me, I guess that's all that would really matter (because losing my passport would put me into bureaucratic/immigration/official mess that would suck the life out of me).
I guess that is why "settling down" sounds really scary to me. I guess I am like some of the blokes that most normal women seem to hate - in the sense of inanimate things at least... (and maybe towards people as well). Commitment and attachment-phobe to just about everything.