First of all
(e:ladycroft) don't take this as me bashing you because I'm not at all. I think you are pretty awesome and I'm sure you are great at your job. With the news post about the stalking and your post it got me thinking about something. I like blogging and reading blogs but there is a problem with it, and with the the Buffalo News also.
The problem is that it is one sided. First with the news. Yesterday The Buffalo News put a picture of those two Tiger Cubs and a little blurb about it. They should have had a short article below the picture. If Buffalo had another Daily news paper maybe there would have been a full article that gave all the facts. So since there is only one paper source if you only read the paper you only get their side of it and you don't get the entire story.
Blogs are kinda the same way. Well it depends on the subject matter of course. I will do something that I maybe shouldn't do but will anyways and use my work as an example. There is this guy who i have now named "Coffee Boy" and there is a good reason for this. When this dude works he comes right in and gets a coffee then talks to everyone in the office then at some point makes it out to the floor. What he does next isn't all ways the same but it is all ways not doing any work or seeing if there are any orders to fill. He walks around like a big shot like he owns the place and just starts talking to someone who is busy working as he fucks off. If he was a boss then no big thing but it isn't like he is figuring out how to run things that day or anything he is just lazy and doesn't want to do anything. The thing with this is it is an everyday thing and it is very annoying take my word for it, it really is. If I where to read someone else say this I would think what an ass how do you put up with this guy, and why hasn't he been fired or something along those lines. But the thing is that you are only getting my side of it, he doesn't get to present his side. In this case i don't know of much he can say really, well he could say it takes him 5 minutes and I make it sound like 2 hours. But the point is you only hear my side so it is kinda unfair.
I guess the Better example is the other day I ripped into him pretty good. Don't get me wrong I like the guy but work wise he has a long way to go. Now there is nothing wrong with goofing off, Bullshiting, breaking on each other or even playing pranks. But there is a difference between doing that as you work and making that the focus. I can tell you for sure that he puts that before doing his work and that is what leads to most of the mistakes he makes. I know people make mistakes and that is fine. But when the mistakes you make are because you are concentrating on other things instead of picking that is unaceptable. I ripped into him because I didn't want him helping me because he comes over and starts talking and talking and talking and just not doing anything and causing me to get a headache. Sometimes he just needs how to shut the fuck up and do the orders right. So he gets mad at me, fuck him. Then for the reason I didn't want his help for he goes and does. He made a mistake that was really stupid but is easy to do, I have done it myself but have caught myself. The reason I got caught is cause I pay attention. Then the next one was so stupid I couldn't believe he really did it. Now when he comes over and fucks off all he does is fucking make my job that much harder he isn't a help at all really he just winds up being a hinderance. Again with this story you would think what an ass Pete no wonder why you are so tired all the time and don't ever want to interact with people when you work with an asshole like that. But the problem with that is you don't know his side of the story. I'm sure he would say that he makes mistakes and it is no big deal that everyone does it and he might have a good point and might have a different reason for his mistakes like someone picking on him or something.
Wow that felt good to vent like that. I guess what I'm try to say is that when you read a journal entry you should remember that it is only one persons view of what happened and that there is at least another side to the story. I have heard that there are 3 sides to every story you have the side of each person telling it and then the truth somewhere in the middle. I'm not saying to not believe people but to just remember you only have the facts that they present, unless you have something to do with the story.
I thought that maybe I should put this journal into draft mode since it is about work. But I decided I wont. The reason is that I don't say where I work or the persons name. The other factor is that I'm using it as an example and not saying it as a story. Thirdly I have said that since you only have my side you should understand that it is only one side of the story so for those reasons I have kept it here. I also wanted to say that I do like hearing other people chime in like you (e:ladycroft). I also wanted to say I'm not really bitching about work. Yes things do drive me crazy there, but that doesn't mean I don't like my job. To be honest I do have it pretty good. Yeah I do work hard most of the time, but I think I get rewarded for that. I also think it is important to work hard because you have a good work ethic and not because of what it brings you. It is kinda like Karma that if you do things for the reason of getting good Karma instead of doing things for the right reason then you won't get good karma.
I also wanted to add that what I said about the trouble with blogs is also true of when you talk to people. They tell you some story about how someone was a dick but they don't tell you how they where a dick also. Or they tell you about how bad the sex was but they don't tell you that they didn't tell the person that the sex position they where in doesn't do anything for them and they need to be in a certain position to get off. So what I said is true off of the web also.
No worries Peter :)
You are right, there are two sides (or 3) to every story. It's OK for you to vent your frustrations.
Don't worry about me and my situation, it's not a personal fight. I learned a great lesson from it, it just made me sad that she did not.