I am just taking a small break from dusting. We have quite a bit of dark wood furniture and the dust really shows.
In our dinning room, a place with lots of dark wood, i have a birthday gift displayed that a friend gave me recently which reminded me of something i found kind of odd.
When someone gives a gift, i realize some find it important to mention that the gift can be returned if it is not liked. But is it really important to tell the person to go look at the store to see if something might be better suited? I liked the gift i was given. I like the fact that someone picked something out for me, and even remembered that i mentioned i liked it when we were in the store back last summer. Why do i need to go to the store and see what else they have? How else can i tell someone i don't need to go to the store to take a look? Am i not being happy enough about the gift?
I would think it is an isolated situation, but something similar happened over the xmas holidays with this same friend. I was given a gift and the person giving it thought i didn't like it even though i said i did. They even took it back from me and gave me something i like less, because some how, me saying "very pretty" wasn't enough.
Is it me? Am i supposed to jump for joy? Isn't the way i react good enough? Or the right way to react?
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02/19/2007 11:47 #38208
Is Me Being Me Enough?02/16/2007 20:59 #38190
Recent Discoveries1) Sometimes, friends and complications of friendships make me cry. When i find out i have unintentionally hurt a friend and the only way they can find to mention it is to be bitter, i feel twice as bad. But i think that may have been the intention. If i had known, i would have made ammends. No wonder i withdraw from people...
2) Silicone baking cups rock. As do chocolate cupcakes that are baked in them.
2) Silicone baking cups rock. As do chocolate cupcakes that are baked in them.
02/14/2007 14:43 #38147
I'm A Lucky GirlFor more reasons that i can count, i'm fortunate. More than anything, it's because of who loves me.
I am married to someone who rarely makes a big fuss for me on my birthday, during xmas, or valentine's day.
Instead, every day, day in and day out, he makes a fuss about how much he loves me. He doesn't seem to need a reason to get me flowers; to write me a little note; to send me a special email. All of it just to tell me he thinks i'm swell, his bestest girl.
Sure, i could have met and married someone who would give me diamonds on my birthday and send me chocolate and flowers on valentine's day.
But i met someone better. Someone who appreciates me every day. And doesn't need a reason to tell me.
I think he's swell.
I'm a better person for knowing him.
I am married to someone who rarely makes a big fuss for me on my birthday, during xmas, or valentine's day.
Instead, every day, day in and day out, he makes a fuss about how much he loves me. He doesn't seem to need a reason to get me flowers; to write me a little note; to send me a special email. All of it just to tell me he thinks i'm swell, his bestest girl.
Sure, i could have met and married someone who would give me diamonds on my birthday and send me chocolate and flowers on valentine's day.
But i met someone better. Someone who appreciates me every day. And doesn't need a reason to tell me.
I think he's swell.
I'm a better person for knowing him.
mk - 02/14/07 22:42
That reminds me very much of my grandparents. I never got to see how sweet my grandfather was until after they had both passed away and I was reading my grandma's cards she had gotten from him over the years. He was the same way - so sweet and so in love with my grandma and always told her. I remember hoping so much that I find someone just like that, and you seem to have done that! How great for you both :)
That reminds me very much of my grandparents. I never got to see how sweet my grandfather was until after they had both passed away and I was reading my grandma's cards she had gotten from him over the years. He was the same way - so sweet and so in love with my grandma and always told her. I remember hoping so much that I find someone just like that, and you seem to have done that! How great for you both :)
lilho - 02/14/07 21:43
that is too cute. i hope i meet someone like that...
that is too cute. i hope i meet someone like that...
museumchick - 02/14/07 21:36
I think it's wonderful that you both have each other. It's nice to read an uplifting entry like this. I hope you had a great day.
I think it's wonderful that you both have each other. It's nice to read an uplifting entry like this. I hope you had a great day.
joshua - 02/14/07 16:23
See? This is how it should be.
See? This is how it should be.
jason - 02/14/07 16:01
TEARS!
TEARS!
hodown - 02/14/07 15:05
Aww, love. That's so great. I can only hope that someday I find that person as well.
Aww, love. That's so great. I can only hope that someday I find that person as well.
02/08/2007 16:18 #38070
Anna Nicole Smith DiedCNN just reported Anna Nicole Smith died 
Seems she collapsed in her hotel in Florida...
Seems she collapsed in her hotel in Florida...
imk2 - 02/08/07 20:01
one too many trips to the pharmacy.
one too many trips to the pharmacy.
metalpeter - 02/08/07 19:11
I was suprised when I read that online today.
I was suprised when I read that online today.
deeglam - 02/08/07 17:36
holy shit.
holy shit.
02/05/2007 18:57 #38029
'69 Was a Very Good Year69 confession questions
1. The phone rings. Who do you want it to be?
someone with good news
2. When shopping at the grocery store, do you return your cart?
yes, of course
3. In a social setting, are you more of a talker or a listener?
depends on the subject.. but i have been told i talk too much, so i reckon that means talker
4. Do you take compliments well?
no
5. Do you play Sudoku?
i tired once, then i realized i didn't understand how to do it 'cause it was too easy, and since there is no way someone like me who so is not friends with math would consider it easy, i gave up.
6. If abandoned alone in the wilderness, would you survive?
probably not. (e:Uncutsaniflush) might be able to tell a story or two about me running from bees
8. Did you ever go to camp as a kid?
no, never been to camp nor have i ever camped. sheltered life i have had, huh?
9. What was your favorite game as a kid?
i don't recall a favorite game, persay, but i loved to skip and rollerskate... i would probably love to rollerskate still if i could find a pair that fit me.. damn rollerblades have taken over the world!
10. If a sexy person was pursuing you, but you knew he/she was married, would you?
never
12. Could you date someone with different religious beliefs than you?
yes. i don't see it as an obstacle
13. Do you like to pursue or be pursued?
probably pursued... it feels flattering
14. Use three words to describe yourself?
caring, sensitive, silly
15. Do any songs make you cry?
yes
16. Are you continuing your education?
i am now!
17. Do you know how to shoot a gun?
i shot a shotgun once, when i was in Missouri, but i don't know if that qualifies as "knowing how"
18. If your house was on fire, what would be the first thing you grabbed?
(e:Uncutsaniflush)
19. How often do you read books?
not as much as i used to, but i love reading
20. Do you think more about the past, present or future?
future. gets me in trouble
21. What is your favorite children's book?
"The Gashlycrumb Tinies" by Edward Gorey
22. What color are your eyes?
hazel
23. How tall are you?
5"5'
24. Where is your dream house located?
anywhere (e:Uncutsaniflush) lives
25. Best vacay ever?
October 2000, Knoxville, TN
26. Coolest picture?
of me??
goofy ones of me as a kid
27. Have you ever taken pictures in a photo booth
yep
28. When was the last time you were at Olive Garden?
i have no idea... is it real italian food anyway?
29. How about the movies?
Stranger Than Fiction, Movieland8... when? Uhm, withing the last week or so...
30. Where was the furthest place you traveled today?
Williamsville, NY
32. Do you like mustard?
yes
33. Do you prefer to sleep or eat?
sleep
34. Do you look like your mom or dad?
thinner, everyone tells me i look like my mom... but i don't think i look like either, skinny or fat
35. How long does it take you in the shower?
depends. am i shaving? my underarms or my legs? or both? is it a hot day and i need to cool off or is it a cold day and i need to jump in and jump out?
36. Can you do a split?
ah, those were the days...
37. What movie do you want to see right now?
i have no idea
39. What did you do for New Year's?
(e:PMT)'s bash at 24
40. Do you think The Grudge was scary?
didn't see it
41. Do you laugh a lot?
just the right amount
42. Do you own a camera phone?
no. i like phones to phone and cameras to camera... mix the 2 and i get all confuzzled.
44. Was your mom a cheerleader?
yes. and my dad was on the football team
45. What's the last letter of your middle name?
e
46. how many hours of sleep do you get a night?
about 8
47. Do you watch MTV?
no
48. Do you like care bears?
no
49. What do you buy at the movies?
tickets
50. Do you know how to play poker?
no... i can never remember what beats what
51. Do you wear your seatbelt?
yes
52. What do you wear to sleep?
my birthday suit
53. Anything big ever happen in your hometown?
yeah, a big trial for a serial killer. blocked traffic for weeks. oh, and on the same week that started, prince charles came to town to cut the ribbon on the new GO Train station... a few blocks away.
54. How many meals do you eat a day?
3
55. Is your tongue pierced?
no
56. Do you always read MySpace bulletins?
no
57. Most visited webpage?
estrip.org
58. Do you like funny or serious people better?
seriously funny
59. Ever been to L.A.?
no, other places i want to go first... like SanFran!
60. Did you eat a cookie today?
no
61. Do you use cuss words in other languages?
yes
62. Do you steal or pay for your music downloads?
neither
63. Do you hate chocolate?
no. i love chocolate. particularly dark chocolate.
64. What do you and your parents fight about the most?
oy, don't get me started
65. Are you a gullible person?
probably... i'm doing this thing, aren't i?
66. Do you need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be happy?
nope
67. If you could have any job (assuming you have the skills) what would it be?
anthropologist
68. Are you easy to get along with?
i'd like to think so. why!?! someone say i wasn't? huh??
69. What is your favorite time of day?
evenings
1. The phone rings. Who do you want it to be?
someone with good news
2. When shopping at the grocery store, do you return your cart?
yes, of course
3. In a social setting, are you more of a talker or a listener?
depends on the subject.. but i have been told i talk too much, so i reckon that means talker
4. Do you take compliments well?
no
5. Do you play Sudoku?
i tired once, then i realized i didn't understand how to do it 'cause it was too easy, and since there is no way someone like me who so is not friends with math would consider it easy, i gave up.
6. If abandoned alone in the wilderness, would you survive?
probably not. (e:Uncutsaniflush) might be able to tell a story or two about me running from bees
8. Did you ever go to camp as a kid?
no, never been to camp nor have i ever camped. sheltered life i have had, huh?
9. What was your favorite game as a kid?
i don't recall a favorite game, persay, but i loved to skip and rollerskate... i would probably love to rollerskate still if i could find a pair that fit me.. damn rollerblades have taken over the world!
10. If a sexy person was pursuing you, but you knew he/she was married, would you?
never
12. Could you date someone with different religious beliefs than you?
yes. i don't see it as an obstacle
13. Do you like to pursue or be pursued?
probably pursued... it feels flattering
14. Use three words to describe yourself?
caring, sensitive, silly
15. Do any songs make you cry?
yes
16. Are you continuing your education?
i am now!
17. Do you know how to shoot a gun?
i shot a shotgun once, when i was in Missouri, but i don't know if that qualifies as "knowing how"
18. If your house was on fire, what would be the first thing you grabbed?
(e:Uncutsaniflush)
19. How often do you read books?
not as much as i used to, but i love reading
20. Do you think more about the past, present or future?
future. gets me in trouble
21. What is your favorite children's book?
"The Gashlycrumb Tinies" by Edward Gorey
22. What color are your eyes?
hazel
23. How tall are you?
5"5'
24. Where is your dream house located?
anywhere (e:Uncutsaniflush) lives
25. Best vacay ever?
October 2000, Knoxville, TN
26. Coolest picture?
of me??
goofy ones of me as a kid
27. Have you ever taken pictures in a photo booth
yep
28. When was the last time you were at Olive Garden?
i have no idea... is it real italian food anyway?
29. How about the movies?
Stranger Than Fiction, Movieland8... when? Uhm, withing the last week or so...
30. Where was the furthest place you traveled today?
Williamsville, NY
32. Do you like mustard?
yes
33. Do you prefer to sleep or eat?
sleep
34. Do you look like your mom or dad?
thinner, everyone tells me i look like my mom... but i don't think i look like either, skinny or fat
35. How long does it take you in the shower?
depends. am i shaving? my underarms or my legs? or both? is it a hot day and i need to cool off or is it a cold day and i need to jump in and jump out?
36. Can you do a split?
ah, those were the days...
37. What movie do you want to see right now?
i have no idea
39. What did you do for New Year's?
(e:PMT)'s bash at 24
40. Do you think The Grudge was scary?
didn't see it
41. Do you laugh a lot?
just the right amount
42. Do you own a camera phone?
no. i like phones to phone and cameras to camera... mix the 2 and i get all confuzzled.
44. Was your mom a cheerleader?
yes. and my dad was on the football team
45. What's the last letter of your middle name?
e
46. how many hours of sleep do you get a night?
about 8
47. Do you watch MTV?
no
48. Do you like care bears?
no
49. What do you buy at the movies?
tickets
50. Do you know how to play poker?
no... i can never remember what beats what
51. Do you wear your seatbelt?
yes
52. What do you wear to sleep?
my birthday suit
53. Anything big ever happen in your hometown?
yeah, a big trial for a serial killer. blocked traffic for weeks. oh, and on the same week that started, prince charles came to town to cut the ribbon on the new GO Train station... a few blocks away.
54. How many meals do you eat a day?
3
55. Is your tongue pierced?
no
56. Do you always read MySpace bulletins?
no
57. Most visited webpage?
estrip.org
58. Do you like funny or serious people better?
seriously funny
59. Ever been to L.A.?
no, other places i want to go first... like SanFran!
60. Did you eat a cookie today?
no
61. Do you use cuss words in other languages?
yes
62. Do you steal or pay for your music downloads?
neither
63. Do you hate chocolate?
no. i love chocolate. particularly dark chocolate.
64. What do you and your parents fight about the most?
oy, don't get me started
65. Are you a gullible person?
probably... i'm doing this thing, aren't i?
66. Do you need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be happy?
nope
67. If you could have any job (assuming you have the skills) what would it be?
anthropologist
68. Are you easy to get along with?
i'd like to think so. why!?! someone say i wasn't? huh??
69. What is your favorite time of day?
evenings
I agree with jenks. Sounds like insecurity to me.
What it sounds like is happening is that someone is misreading your body language. Often people say they like something but they don't want to be rude so instead they lie and say that they like something. But sometimes body language shows that someone isn't be honest so they assume that you arn't telling the truth. I think it is a good idea to let people know that if they arn't happy with something they can return it or exchange it. One reason for that is just because someone likes something dosn't mean they want one. An example from my life is that I used to love to play pinball. When I first moved in my place I was going to put a machine in one of my rooms. Now I don't have space for it. As much as I would love a pinball machine if someone bought me one I'm not sure as I would really want it. Hope that was a help.
No. It's not you. I think she's being insecure about her gift-giving. And taking it back and giving you something different is ridiculous, in my book.