Sometimes, the best thing to do is to just give in to the Pity Party. Feel bad, cry it out, berate yourself, and then, reality kicks back in and you can say, "I'm an AWESOME person!" and really believe it, because, afterall, it's true.
I do think, though, that when an optimist hits the doldrums, we can get into a deeper depression than the most dedicated pessimist. The trick is, though that rather than dwelling there interminably, we dust ourselves off and smile and say, "What a beautiful day!" and move on from there. At least, that's what I do because, Magically, everything works out for the best in the end. So very Panglossian, and so very, very true. Ciao! :)
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07/16/2006 19:52 #35150
Much Better07/15/2006 12:53 #35149
slapped down againOkay, so I venture outside myself- finally- actually work up the nerve to ask out a very cute boy- which took me a month and a half from the time I decided to do it to the time I actually did- and, of course, it comes back to slap me in the face! My timing is so horrible, had I asked him when I originally realized that I should very much like to date him, he would have been still single, but as I procrastinated- AGAIN- he has since run into his ex-girlfriend and they're trying to work things out. ARGH! He's such a decent and honest and delicious guy OF COURSE he would have a girlfriend! (although I keep going to spell it "girlfiend". I think my subconcious is trying to say how I REALLY feel about the whole thing!) I kick myself for doing it, for saying to him that I really like him because now the truth is just out there, hanging in limbo, as always happens to me when I decide to take a chance on telling someone how I feel and once again, it really SUCKS! People always say, "What have you got to loose?" to which my answer is, "My self-respect". Have I lost my self respect- well, no- and I was- I AM rather proud of the fact that I did have the courage to do it but I don't feel any better for it. Immediately after I asked him, I asked myself "what the hell have I done?" I'm not going to lie, I so very badly wanted it to go in the other direction- for him to be single and be interested in me back, and had this ex- girlfriend not shown back up, I really think it would have.
I always say that I have no luck, but that is not true. I am a very fortunate person in a lot of ways, but where I have no luck is with the opposite sex and that stings. *sigh* I'll nurse back from this. I always do. I comfort myself with the fact that he really is a decent fellow and at least had the respect for me to be honest with me. That doesn't happen very often.
I always say that I have no luck, but that is not true. I am a very fortunate person in a lot of ways, but where I have no luck is with the opposite sex and that stings. *sigh* I'll nurse back from this. I always do. I comfort myself with the fact that he really is a decent fellow and at least had the respect for me to be honest with me. That doesn't happen very often.
ajay - 07/17/06 00:24
'tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all (with apologies to some old dude who's prolly spinning in his grave).
So what you said you liked him? Hold your head high, because this little thing ("I like you") is very hard for most people to say even in a relationship. You should be proud of yourself that you had the courage to take this step.
Sometimes, things just don't go our way. Remember: Babe Ruth hit so many home runs, but he also struck out a lot.
'tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all (with apologies to some old dude who's prolly spinning in his grave).
So what you said you liked him? Hold your head high, because this little thing ("I like you") is very hard for most people to say even in a relationship. You should be proud of yourself that you had the courage to take this step.
Sometimes, things just don't go our way. Remember: Babe Ruth hit so many home runs, but he also struck out a lot.
metalpeter - 07/15/06 19:17
Belive me I get that often it is tough to get up the courage to tell someone how you feal about them. That fear of rejection and or exception is tough. Sometimes the fear of well what if they like me back and is this what I really want can be a factor to. Don't beat your self to much about putting your fealings out there. He may not have had fealing for you or he may not have been ready yet. Or You could be dating him and then when the ex re showed up he could have picked her over you, us guys can be like that sometimes. Just try to use this as a positive and not a negative, i know that is verry hard to do.
Belive me I get that often it is tough to get up the courage to tell someone how you feal about them. That fear of rejection and or exception is tough. Sometimes the fear of well what if they like me back and is this what I really want can be a factor to. Don't beat your self to much about putting your fealings out there. He may not have had fealing for you or he may not have been ready yet. Or You could be dating him and then when the ex re showed up he could have picked her over you, us guys can be like that sometimes. Just try to use this as a positive and not a negative, i know that is verry hard to do.
paul - 07/15/06 14:46
I think you must make it more complicated than it is. Perhaps, you think about it all very much and internalize all the options too long. Like you were saying about how if you had jumped on it, he would have been single. Frankly, you are just way to cute, responsible, and intelligent to not have a boyfriend.
I think you must make it more complicated than it is. Perhaps, you think about it all very much and internalize all the options too long. Like you were saying about how if you had jumped on it, he would have been single. Frankly, you are just way to cute, responsible, and intelligent to not have a boyfriend.
05/20/2006 17:26 #35148
Culmination of a long time dreamNo, it has nothing to do with the boy... It has to do with the fact that on Thursday night, I FINALLY, actually got to go and see Depeche Mode in concert! I can't begin to describe to you what it was like and how much it meant to me other than to say that I have wanted to see them perform since I was 12 years old! And now I have and it was just so amazing! My uncle took me to see them, and he was joking when he called them a "rock band" which, after the concert, he later retracted because, my god, they certainly can!
Moving next week. Next to nothing done. Off to possible do more packing, or perhaps something else!
Me and my Depeche Mode shirt say "ciao!"
Moving next week. Next to nothing done. Off to possible do more packing, or perhaps something else!
Me and my Depeche Mode shirt say "ciao!"
paul - 05/20/06 17:35
Where are you moving to?
Where are you moving to?
05/11/2006 22:17 #35147
OH MY GOD!Swear to God, if Jeb Bush runs for president of this damn country and wins, I am moving to Canada!
The thought angers, terrifies, and sickens all at the same time. What a feat!
The thought angers, terrifies, and sickens all at the same time. What a feat!
04/15/2006 21:27 #35146
Sooo... what'd I miss....Lots of stuff I'm sure. School is winding down. Getting ready to move next door to my uncle's house. I can't believe I'm moving again. It's such a pain in the ass... but it's a gorgeous house and I'll be living there rent free so I absolutely cannot complain! Plus, said uncle is also taking me to the Depeche Mode concert in Toronto next month and as I have been a Depeche Mode fan since I was 12 years old, I am so totally excited! Lovelife is still abysmal but until I decide to actually make room for one, I don't really have any right to complain. It's my own damn fault. That's about it for now. Everyone take care. Don't forget about the prodigal daughter. I'm still out here in the big, bad world, even if I'm not posting.
mrdt - 04/15/06 21:40
you missed my perfect execution and dismount. i wish I knew they were coming because I would have gotten tickets 2. got an extra???
you missed my perfect execution and dismount. i wish I knew they were coming because I would have gotten tickets 2. got an extra???
You are a beautiful person. I met you only once, and I still remember your golden curls. :)
Thanks, I needed that -- basically did what you prescribed, but to it from somebody's perspective makes it that much more effective. Bring on Monday, I'm ready
What a great attitude. :) And you're totally right. It DOES all work out. All these things that are so devastating at the moment- end up not being a big deal. And even if they do- if we remind ourselves of all the other great stuff around- good friends, a beautiful day, a good nap... suddenly things are bright again.