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12/25/2006 01:00 #29641
Merry Christmas, Peeps!!Category: wassailling
12/22/2006 20:04 #29640
Getting Bitchslapped by lifeCategory: weekly world news
I've developed my own connection to Roswell now. My Dad has been volunteering with one of the labs doing computer help which is cool. On the not so cool side, my ex's Dad who's still a father in law to me if you know what I mean (and I think you do) has been battling bladder cancer for six months or so. He's been going through a therapy regimen for sometime. Yesterday, there was an exploratory surgery to determine where the cancer stood. He's got a mid january date for his prostrate, parts of his bladder and one kidney to get taken because of things have progressed at such a rate. Basically, he opens his mouth and you'll be able to hear an ego. It's set for middle to the end of next month and one of the physicians said something about not being able to get a room till then.
I being me couldn't help but ask "You only have the one?" A little humor to lighten the load. I have good feelings about it. Aside from successfully quitting smoking, Dad-in-law is one of those folks stuck in time. My daughter showed me a picture of him that she thought was recent. Turned out to be from 91. Dude hadn't changed. He kicked smoking, doesn't eat red meat or drink any alcohol, so the omens are on his side. I've learned not to bet against him.
Saw Matthew's post about the PMT New Year's and I believe I can make it. Yee ha, think I'll walk to it though.
Enjoy the holiday, peeps!
Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa, Happy Channukah, etc and mostly importantly, Good Festivus to us all.
Peace
I being me couldn't help but ask "You only have the one?" A little humor to lighten the load. I have good feelings about it. Aside from successfully quitting smoking, Dad-in-law is one of those folks stuck in time. My daughter showed me a picture of him that she thought was recent. Turned out to be from 91. Dude hadn't changed. He kicked smoking, doesn't eat red meat or drink any alcohol, so the omens are on his side. I've learned not to bet against him.
Saw Matthew's post about the PMT New Year's and I believe I can make it. Yee ha, think I'll walk to it though.
Enjoy the holiday, peeps!
Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa, Happy Channukah, etc and mostly importantly, Good Festivus to us all.
Peace
12/20/2006 20:23 #29639
Hey Ya Charlie BrownCategory: holly day
12/15/2006 19:31 #29638
Will the beatings ever stop?Category: aw crap!
Periodically, since my wife and I split, it's felt like I get turned into a human punching bag. Nobody did anything wrong yet the vicissitudes of life come down like bad plumbing.
I have daughters who asked my ex to ask me if they could pass on coming over for awhile. They want to hang, they just down want to sleep over. Ex also mentioned that her vibrator is missing and for the record I ain't got it. She (my ex) went to great pains to assure me I was doing okay on the Dad front. It's just the close surroundings were interfering with the kids being 15 and 12. Intellectually, I know all of this and understand it. I'd rather the girls pass then be here unhappy. But emotionally, it still reduced me to rubble. Your brain hears everything and is fine, but your heart stops listening after "We don't want to come over."
I kept it together as I went across the parking lot to my car. Once inside the lil red bus, I let it go. The pressures of doing 2 1/2 jobs at work and then hearing that from my girls managed to suck the fight right out of me. So, here I sits, man enough to mention I bawled most of the way home.
Sucks to try so hard only to get beat down again.
Knew it was coming, but you'd like a little praise for all the shit I've had to put up with in recent years.
I settled for the next best thing. Number 1 Son and I just repaired to Fowlers for shakes.
Chocolate malt to sooth the wounds.
I have daughters who asked my ex to ask me if they could pass on coming over for awhile. They want to hang, they just down want to sleep over. Ex also mentioned that her vibrator is missing and for the record I ain't got it. She (my ex) went to great pains to assure me I was doing okay on the Dad front. It's just the close surroundings were interfering with the kids being 15 and 12. Intellectually, I know all of this and understand it. I'd rather the girls pass then be here unhappy. But emotionally, it still reduced me to rubble. Your brain hears everything and is fine, but your heart stops listening after "We don't want to come over."
I kept it together as I went across the parking lot to my car. Once inside the lil red bus, I let it go. The pressures of doing 2 1/2 jobs at work and then hearing that from my girls managed to suck the fight right out of me. So, here I sits, man enough to mention I bawled most of the way home.
Sucks to try so hard only to get beat down again.
Knew it was coming, but you'd like a little praise for all the shit I've had to put up with in recent years.
I settled for the next best thing. Number 1 Son and I just repaired to Fowlers for shakes.
Chocolate malt to sooth the wounds.
ladycroft - 12/18/06 14:23
i wish you peace.
i wish you peace.
libertad - 12/16/06 22:36
mrmike, when I was around the age of your daughters my parents got a divorce. Actually, I lived with my Dad and it was my mother that I went to go and see. Going to my mother's apartment was great, but also very draining. There were times that I felt like your daughters and it didn't have anything to do with my mother that I didn't want to go to her place all the time. I'm sure that your daughters are not playing favorites, but rather just want stability. Just hang in there and maybe write them each a letter. Assure them that you understand how they feel and you want them to know that you are there for them when they need you. Maybe you can ask them about creating a new visiting schedule? Divorce is difficult for everyone in the family, but from what little I know of you it seems that you are always doing your best. Your kids will always remember that.
mrmike, when I was around the age of your daughters my parents got a divorce. Actually, I lived with my Dad and it was my mother that I went to go and see. Going to my mother's apartment was great, but also very draining. There were times that I felt like your daughters and it didn't have anything to do with my mother that I didn't want to go to her place all the time. I'm sure that your daughters are not playing favorites, but rather just want stability. Just hang in there and maybe write them each a letter. Assure them that you understand how they feel and you want them to know that you are there for them when they need you. Maybe you can ask them about creating a new visiting schedule? Divorce is difficult for everyone in the family, but from what little I know of you it seems that you are always doing your best. Your kids will always remember that.
metalpeter - 12/16/06 11:41
Does it hurt yes, should it hurt yes and does it suck yeah it does. I think it might be better that they asked mom to ask you, because they at least know that them asking directly might be to hurtfull or they where affraid to ask you. Belive it or not but in the long run it might be better for both you and them at 12 and 15 they both may be changing a lot. Sometimes fathers and daughters don't get along at those times do to dating and things like that and a lot of bitterness and resentment forms between fathers and there daughters. I'm not saying it shouldn't hurt cause it should but maybe it is for the better. It dosn't mean they don't like you or don't care about you it just means they would for what ever reason rather be with your ex. Try not to take it to personally. All you can really do is be who you are and hope people like that. Hang in there.
Does it hurt yes, should it hurt yes and does it suck yeah it does. I think it might be better that they asked mom to ask you, because they at least know that them asking directly might be to hurtfull or they where affraid to ask you. Belive it or not but in the long run it might be better for both you and them at 12 and 15 they both may be changing a lot. Sometimes fathers and daughters don't get along at those times do to dating and things like that and a lot of bitterness and resentment forms between fathers and there daughters. I'm not saying it shouldn't hurt cause it should but maybe it is for the better. It dosn't mean they don't like you or don't care about you it just means they would for what ever reason rather be with your ex. Try not to take it to personally. All you can really do is be who you are and hope people like that. Hang in there.
leetee - 12/16/06 00:08
Ouch.
(((( (e:Mrmike) ))))
I think all teenagers go through that "geeze, my parents are cramping my style" phase, particularly parents of the opposite gender. Even cool dads like you aren't immune, i am sorry to hear.
I firmly believe that if you are always open and there for your daughters, they will come back to you and may even wonder why they wanted to pass on hanging out with you.
As for the crying... well, damn, if we can laugh in public, why can't we cry? No shame in it... real men cry, for sure.
Ouch.
(((( (e:Mrmike) ))))
I think all teenagers go through that "geeze, my parents are cramping my style" phase, particularly parents of the opposite gender. Even cool dads like you aren't immune, i am sorry to hear.
I firmly believe that if you are always open and there for your daughters, they will come back to you and may even wonder why they wanted to pass on hanging out with you.
As for the crying... well, damn, if we can laugh in public, why can't we cry? No shame in it... real men cry, for sure.
mrmike - 12/16/06 00:01
Thanks you guys, positive reinforcement has been rather sparse of late.
Thanks you guys, positive reinforcement has been rather sparse of late.
uncutsaniflush - 12/15/06 23:42
The fact that this bothers you proves that you are a good dad.
I know you know that your presence in your daughters lives is very important.
I bet that they *KNOW* you'll be there for them so they kinda take you for granted. But you are still their dad and they love you.
The fact that this bothers you proves that you are a good dad.
I know you know that your presence in your daughters lives is very important.
I bet that they *KNOW* you'll be there for them so they kinda take you for granted. But you are still their dad and they love you.
imk2 - 12/15/06 23:10
awww mike, that sucks big time. but i know that you know, that this will pass and soon your girls will realize what a great father they have and will come back around. it might take a few years, of boys, of partying, of being teenagers, but they'll be back. even if not physically, because of college, or jobs, surely emotionally. hang in there, i totally know how you are feeling. i have a 13 year old too.
awww mike, that sucks big time. but i know that you know, that this will pass and soon your girls will realize what a great father they have and will come back around. it might take a few years, of boys, of partying, of being teenagers, but they'll be back. even if not physically, because of college, or jobs, surely emotionally. hang in there, i totally know how you are feeling. i have a 13 year old too.
12/14/2006 22:23 #29637
It's all a bullshit, Charlie BrownCategory: ho hos
Some different spins of Charlie Brown and a Christmas Story.
And a reprise of what if Outkast scored "A Charlie Brown Christmas."
Scroll down a little bit, it's on the right hand side.
Enjoy
And a reprise of what if Outkast scored "A Charlie Brown Christmas."
Scroll down a little bit, it's on the right hand side.
Enjoy
Wow not sure where to start really other then to say when you bought sabres tickets I hope you wind up going to the game to. I think I will be at PMT's also so maybe I will see you there. I think celebrating festus could be really fun but In some families the grievances might never end and maybe the pole might wind up being used as weapon. Onto the cable thing briefly, I don't mind if prices go up a little I kinda figured they would, that is as long as we don't lose any chanels. Oh by the way I hope you Have a great Christmas.