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Select photo dump from Scrody04/27/2013 11:50 #57584
Changing Room Analogyhttp://www.salon.com/2013/04/26/swedish_high_school_institutes_gender_neutral_changing_room/
The solution is not to provide a separate space of equal rights, but to eradicate the barrier that is at best inconsequential, but often harmful, and certainly an impediment to progress.
Change the language to change the mental models and behavior.
Remove the barriers to empower all with one stroke.
The solution is not to provide a separate space of equal rights, but to eradicate the barrier that is at best inconsequential, but often harmful, and certainly an impediment to progress.
Change the language to change the mental models and behavior.
Remove the barriers to empower all with one stroke.
metalpeter - 04/27/13 21:55
Interesting....
At first I agree with this idea... That it is good if you aren't comfortable changing in front of others .....
But that is what sham wow are for :) Or Ha for those that are blessed the two pack :) lucky bastards ........
But see that might not really be healthy lets us say for example I think I have a small dick cause I can't see it from being heavy ... or man boobs or back hair or unabrow ... I don't look like the football players... so I change by my self .... and just keep feeling that way... Well I hit the showers and notice I'm not as small as I thought I'm bigger then the entire weight lifting team or what ever....
Part of any sport or athletic stuff has a social aspect to it.... Getting along with others in the locker room is part of that......
But there is another question one has to ask who is this really for... in other words is it really for the people who don't want to see the gay or transgender people in the locker room.... or the fat girls or the people they don't like ?????
Interesting....
At first I agree with this idea... That it is good if you aren't comfortable changing in front of others .....
But that is what sham wow are for :) Or Ha for those that are blessed the two pack :) lucky bastards ........
But see that might not really be healthy lets us say for example I think I have a small dick cause I can't see it from being heavy ... or man boobs or back hair or unabrow ... I don't look like the football players... so I change by my self .... and just keep feeling that way... Well I hit the showers and notice I'm not as small as I thought I'm bigger then the entire weight lifting team or what ever....
Part of any sport or athletic stuff has a social aspect to it.... Getting along with others in the locker room is part of that......
But there is another question one has to ask who is this really for... in other words is it really for the people who don't want to see the gay or transgender people in the locker room.... or the fat girls or the people they don't like ?????
YesThatCasey - 04/27/13 21:12
lol, Matt. Though not so much to the approach that your school administrators took.
Paul, why do we have group changing rooms based on sex, instead of another bifurcation? Why is this particular arrangement appropriate in general, and even desirable for you? I doubt a majority of others share your belief that the odors in men's bathrooms are preferential, and we certainly wouldn't, as a society, support dividing changing rooms for that reason.
How is a private changing room, free of qualifications, not empowering to those who do not fit the specific models that we are relying on? Keep in mind that these models are constantly and exponentially evolving. Why is moving from a group changing room to a private model something that people are "hiding in", and not merely a sensible change to an archaic model? And what is the alternative that you would propose?
The fact that people will commonly feel uncomfortable (not ashamed) for a variety of reasons is why a private changing room (and eventually rest room, etc.) makes a lot of sense for all parties, and not just those who do not clearly fit the model that we currently enforce. This includes those hot people that you believe are going to congregate into our changing room relics (a belief I don't share).
I don't understand why you believe the order of these events is ironic.
lol, Matt. Though not so much to the approach that your school administrators took.
Paul, why do we have group changing rooms based on sex, instead of another bifurcation? Why is this particular arrangement appropriate in general, and even desirable for you? I doubt a majority of others share your belief that the odors in men's bathrooms are preferential, and we certainly wouldn't, as a society, support dividing changing rooms for that reason.
How is a private changing room, free of qualifications, not empowering to those who do not fit the specific models that we are relying on? Keep in mind that these models are constantly and exponentially evolving. Why is moving from a group changing room to a private model something that people are "hiding in", and not merely a sensible change to an archaic model? And what is the alternative that you would propose?
The fact that people will commonly feel uncomfortable (not ashamed) for a variety of reasons is why a private changing room (and eventually rest room, etc.) makes a lot of sense for all parties, and not just those who do not clearly fit the model that we currently enforce. This includes those hot people that you believe are going to congregate into our changing room relics (a belief I don't share).
I don't understand why you believe the order of these events is ironic.
matthew - 04/27/13 18:03
I was asked to change in a separate changing room while in highschool. I wasn't uncomfortable, but apparently I made the guys in my gym class feel uncomfortable. I assume it was not because of my sexuality but because of my perfectly beautiful penis. Jealous Bitches!
I was asked to change in a separate changing room while in highschool. I wasn't uncomfortable, but apparently I made the guys in my gym class feel uncomfortable. I assume it was not because of my sexuality but because of my perfectly beautiful penis. Jealous Bitches!
paul - 04/27/13 12:34
"According to student union member Camille Trombetti, the space isn’t just for transgender students, but for anyone at the school who would prefer a private place to change. "
How is having a private changing room empowering? Its just basically a closet to hide in. If they were really empowered they would be unashamed of their choices. Should everyone have their own private changing space built because they feel uncomfortable. What about the weak and skinny or the fat ones, etc. In the end you'd just a changing room full of the hottest people and a line for the uglys to get into the private one.
Would you honestly feel comfortable changing in a room with girls. Even if you say yes, I am sure many of them would not feel the same. I like that they are separate and its not because I am shy as you well know. For me just the smell of beauty products and hair spray, etc would send me over the edge.
I find it extra ironic that despite adding "hen" they still have gendered nouns but are working on gender free changing rooms.
"According to student union member Camille Trombetti, the space isn’t just for transgender students, but for anyone at the school who would prefer a private place to change. "
How is having a private changing room empowering? Its just basically a closet to hide in. If they were really empowered they would be unashamed of their choices. Should everyone have their own private changing space built because they feel uncomfortable. What about the weak and skinny or the fat ones, etc. In the end you'd just a changing room full of the hottest people and a line for the uglys to get into the private one.
Would you honestly feel comfortable changing in a room with girls. Even if you say yes, I am sure many of them would not feel the same. I like that they are separate and its not because I am shy as you well know. For me just the smell of beauty products and hair spray, etc would send me over the edge.
I find it extra ironic that despite adding "hen" they still have gendered nouns but are working on gender free changing rooms.
04/11/2013 12:47 #57504
Androminion Ridiculousness (Geek Gaming Content)Safe to say that I have beaten the game. In fairness, I took unfair advantage of the AI's unwillingness to give up and buy the final Province/Colony.
If anyone wants to guess at my game progression though, here are the end decks for each of us (trashing, sadly, is not accounted for).
YesThatCasey - 04/12/13 16:27
My theory is that the AI uses a range for their opponents VP, based around their actual VP. If their VP-range is within everyones elses VP-range, then it will end the game in the hopes that it is ahead. However, if the upper-range is below anothers lower-range, then they will play a non-game-ending move in the hopes for a win down the line.
My theory is that the AI uses a range for their opponents VP, based around their actual VP. If their VP-range is within everyones elses VP-range, then it will end the game in the hopes that it is ahead. However, if the upper-range is below anothers lower-range, then they will play a non-game-ending move in the hopes for a win down the line.
puddlediving - 04/11/13 13:41
Wow. That's averaging better than a colony per turn. I wonder why the AI wouldn't trigger endgame? I've never had an AI avoid it before.
Wow. That's averaging better than a colony per turn. I wonder why the AI wouldn't trigger endgame? I've never had an AI avoid it before.
03/02/2013 06:32 #57318
What to do...It's been just over 5 years since Machiko and I ended things. Today was her birthday, and popping on FB to send her a small note turned into a far more emotional event than such a simple gesture should beget.
Each new encounter makes me feel increasingly unable to connect. Five years, a quarter of my adult life, of being alone. Amanda was someone I loved, but as much as I resisted it I still held back because inside I knew that her little Quinn was a piece that I couldn't appreciate as much as she deserved. The growing together, exploring and challenging...I associate these with being human, and this deprivation is taking its toll.
I believe I did the right thing with Machiko. I loved her with all my heart, and still do, but I knew she would always believe that we could have a child, and I could not deny something that I knew she could achieve and thrive at. The justification for this helped me through the wretched emotions I dealt with afterwards.
But less and less do I find myself truly relating to what is happening. A disconnection with reality is something of a fear of mine, and for it to take hold of such a part of my life only amplifies its power over me.
Michaelene recently became both engaged and available to expand our friendship, which was a pretty wonderful potential to realize. Yet with all of this the barriers remain, and my understanding diminishes.
I've always been a relatively independent person, but this is not an intentional extension of that trait. There is something about waking up next to someone and saying 'what should we do today' that dramatically changes my attitude over time, in a way I very much relish. The path out of this is wholly obfuscated.
The one change I've thought of is that I need a roommate on my next move, perhaps even trying to break my lease and expedite this shift. Little things like just hanging out in the afternoon during some generally monotonous activity have a noticeable effect on my state of mind. It seems obvious that there is more that can be done but I find myself at a place of ignorance and apathy; a thoroughly suffocating combination.
I need some help, to the point that I'm not even sure what kind of help to seek. Or perhaps I just need to rant to help diminish this paralysis. I've been able to ignore this much better as of late, but I think this medium might be a good way to get this out and hopefully limit the internal distractions.
Have a good night peeps. I'm glad I stumbled into this place in the world.
Each new encounter makes me feel increasingly unable to connect. Five years, a quarter of my adult life, of being alone. Amanda was someone I loved, but as much as I resisted it I still held back because inside I knew that her little Quinn was a piece that I couldn't appreciate as much as she deserved. The growing together, exploring and challenging...I associate these with being human, and this deprivation is taking its toll.
I believe I did the right thing with Machiko. I loved her with all my heart, and still do, but I knew she would always believe that we could have a child, and I could not deny something that I knew she could achieve and thrive at. The justification for this helped me through the wretched emotions I dealt with afterwards.
But less and less do I find myself truly relating to what is happening. A disconnection with reality is something of a fear of mine, and for it to take hold of such a part of my life only amplifies its power over me.
Michaelene recently became both engaged and available to expand our friendship, which was a pretty wonderful potential to realize. Yet with all of this the barriers remain, and my understanding diminishes.
I've always been a relatively independent person, but this is not an intentional extension of that trait. There is something about waking up next to someone and saying 'what should we do today' that dramatically changes my attitude over time, in a way I very much relish. The path out of this is wholly obfuscated.
The one change I've thought of is that I need a roommate on my next move, perhaps even trying to break my lease and expedite this shift. Little things like just hanging out in the afternoon during some generally monotonous activity have a noticeable effect on my state of mind. It seems obvious that there is more that can be done but I find myself at a place of ignorance and apathy; a thoroughly suffocating combination.
I need some help, to the point that I'm not even sure what kind of help to seek. Or perhaps I just need to rant to help diminish this paralysis. I've been able to ignore this much better as of late, but I think this medium might be a good way to get this out and hopefully limit the internal distractions.
Have a good night peeps. I'm glad I stumbled into this place in the world.
metalpeter - 03/03/13 19:23
Not sure what to say.... So here is what I will say... Be glad you know you might need help... As much as I love (e:strip) and everyone I've meet through it... I wonder what would have happened if after that 1st party I didn't go to.. I would have thought and understood I had a problem then ? Assuming you have a job (Sure you do just don't remember what it is or if it say fulltime) look into your benefits and maybe they have something to help... I don't know if it will help me but been to one free session my self (lots of work stress lately).... But I'm no expert and can't say that it could bring up old stuff.. But if you are all ready thinking about stuff from then any ways it might not hurt any thing?
Not sure what to say.... So here is what I will say... Be glad you know you might need help... As much as I love (e:strip) and everyone I've meet through it... I wonder what would have happened if after that 1st party I didn't go to.. I would have thought and understood I had a problem then ? Assuming you have a job (Sure you do just don't remember what it is or if it say fulltime) look into your benefits and maybe they have something to help... I don't know if it will help me but been to one free session my self (lots of work stress lately).... But I'm no expert and can't say that it could bring up old stuff.. But if you are all ready thinking about stuff from then any ways it might not hurt any thing?
YesThatCasey - 03/03/13 14:03
Appreciated Dave
Appreciated Dave
libertad - 03/02/13 10:32
Sorry you are having a hard time.
Sorry you are having a hard time.
This was such a great time. I still can't believe we swam in water that cold twice.
what camera is this? {sung in the tone of what child is this... ;-}
Usually I do, and almost all of my FB ones are. But, in this case, I was worried that waiting to sit down and post edit would turn into not posting them at all, so these are raw and uncut. Most of them came out pretty well thanks to the lighting in that area at the time.
And yeah, I'm the epitome of manliness in that picture haha
Wow these pictures are supa awesome Casey! Are these straight off the camera or do you post process?
And (e:paul) I literally shivered thinking about jumping in. I bet we could have pushed another minute or two though :::link:::
These pix are beautiful! I'm glad there was an acceptable one of you chopping wood - so manly! ;-) I just wish we had gotten one of all six of us.
Awesome pics! Such a great job of capturing our time at the waterfall.
Its hard to appreciate how cold that water was. I literally thought I was going to seize up part way across the water.
Great pics. I wish my phone took such quality photos.