I noticed (e:hodown)'s post about her breakup and wanted to put my thoughts out there.

I think certain breakups we never actually get over, but more learn to accept the reasons it ended and learn why it didn't work.

Ill always care about some people I dated and even love them in a way, but there comes a point when I realize it wasn't meant to be and I'm ok with that. I can look back and laugh at how upset I was or how I thought I'd never date again or feel happy.

Even now, there's someone I recently dated who I will always have feelings for but there's nothing I can change about the situation... So for now I think pleasantly about the times we had and hope that person is doing well.

As for the crappy breakups that leave you feeling used and worthless, it is true this other person is probably not doing as well as you think. I am a strong believer in karma and making the right decisions and people who treat other fairly are rewarded. My advice for next time is to evaluate the relationship more in the future... Do you want the same things? If not, life is too short to settle so move on.

Dating sucks, especially in the digital age. Americans want too much too soon and nothing is ever good enough. So, I'd like to think if I spend my time doing what is good for me, and things I enjoy... I will eventually meet my penguin and sail off into the sunset. If this doesn't happen, I think I can suck it up and be ok having amazing friends and family...

They also say it takes half as long as you dated to get over a lover... Wait 6 months and spent this time being completely selfish and freeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!


Also, go to Vegas- it is the quintessential single place for being carefree and remembering why it can be truly awesome to be a single lady!

i'm the best. sent my sis these...

it's the 12 days of sismas.

sent my sis these to kick off her bday week. flowers in a teacup, a sip of bourbon and you're good to go.

from you flowers online

i was basically done typing a blog entry, and then i closed the page and here i am for the third time. anyway, third time is a charm right?

i am mostly done xmas shopping, being able to complete my shopping entirely online and i must say i am pretty proud of myself. i managed to only buy myself a few gifts which are items that i actually need, sorta. i have all of these awesome shopping tips:

1. shop sale first- you can often find exactly what you want at a fraction of the price

2. shop from sites that offer free shipping, or google "free shipping codes"- and then the store name, and you can find codes that will give you free shipping! it's super important to me to get the free shipping because you really save then. everything here is such a long drive, and gas is tres cher... so i factor in my gas savings... woot!

3. do not buy random crap because it is cheap. then you just have a pile of useless crap. one of my fav things to do is look in magazines for gift ideas. lots of the holidays versions have gift guides and often give great ideas for gifts under $50. even if you don't buy what they show, it can give you ideas for people. some of the gifts im giving this year came from these guides, and im acutally most excited about these ones!

4. think practical..... lots of people are struggling right now financially so give gifts that your family and friends actually need. also, it is a good idea to just give cash, but do it in a cute way. put money of different increments in red chinese new year envelopes, or give a credit gift card.

5. have fun! i think giving gifts is way more fun that receiving. i love to see the look on peoples' faces when they receive something they were wishing for!

now, here's a pic update!

some didn't load and the captions are out of order, but you get the idea.


my friend meghan and i in the lobby of the planet hollywood towers, sweet hotel crappy service.


terry, ready to cross it up, vegas style in our sweet suite.


terry again.


the hot tub that took 3hrs to fill that no one ever came to fix. it looks nice.


chihuly glass ceiling at the bellagio.


pretty holiday flower display at crystals shopping center in the city center.


yummy chocolate fountain at jean louis patisserie at the bellagio


we came home from the club one night, and i created a fridge masterpiece!


candy statue of liberty at new york new york


chillin on the monorail


le bebe, who wasn't in vegas and won't go til 21. i just threw her in, cuz she cute.

this may well be my new slogan because i believe i am going to be working the night shift soon.

i really don't want to, i am kinda an old lady now and i value my early bed times and my 8 hrs of sleep... but i will need to take at least 15 credit hrs next semester.

also, the night shift differential is about 5 grand a year which is around which i make p/t with working extra hrs.... now i can cut back on work.

i have been doing some black friday research, and it appears people get super crazy. i am planning on waking up at 4am friday to shop for a bit then come home and sleep and then pack for vegas....

i just really can't resist a bargain.

it feels like i never blog anymore, but it's so hard to keep up with my new work schedule. wake up at 5am, work from 630am-7pm, and then by the time i get home it's almost bedtime!

i think all the travel has made me pretty fatigued and the mono isn't quite gone...boo.

i decided to chop off quite a bit off my hair, it was so long and getting on my nerves and i just needed a change! i really love it! yay for haircuts, and thanks to (e:hodown) for convincing me to do it! asymmetrical style, it's so healthy now and doesn't need gobs of conditioner. woohoo! the super tangle is finally gone.




i'm really excited for xmas and i'm trying to plan a spa day with my sister and mother... i was my bother and niece and sis in law would be here, but i think it will be just us ladies.

do you know what that means??? i will have to return to the coldness maybe for new years????!!! anyway, sometime soon, i miss that little girl, she is so presh.

sorry i was a weirdo at the halloween party, i didn't know many people there and i never stay up that late or drink anymore because all i do is work.

ok, i decided to stay at home with the moms and she doesn't seem happy about it, but i am. i have started my savings plan, and i am sooooo excited to finally be making decent money and be able to save a ton from each check. super exciting and empowering.

i miss my boys. hi boys. see you soon. (e:terry), what's up with vegas????????