Yes, indeed I was a victim of uncontrolled thinking (ZING) and worried needlessly. It's tough sometimes when someone is difficult to read, and opens up slowly, carefully, with a certain degree of caution. I suppose it's the smart thing to do though.
I proposed that for our first "date" we find a recipe and make dinner together at my place. I get the food, she gets the vino, and we both get plenty of laughs over some food innuendo and awful cooking by yours truly, if any of you remember my terrible cooking ability. Good thing she's Italian and knows how to cook!
But OHHHH a wrinkle in the plot formed when she learned she had to work late both today and tomorrow, so my brilliant idea got pushed to the side for now. She definitely wants to do the cooking together thing sometime, but she said she wants to see me again before the weekend so tonight we're just gonna chill and watch a movie together.
I don't care if it's just a movie and two people on the sofa! I think it's going to be great, and I may even be rewarded for my gentlemanly behavior if I'm lucky!
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11/29/2006 08:30 #23707
Thanks For The HelpCategory: potpourri
11/28/2006 07:36 #23706
FrustratedCategory: potpourri
She's one of those people you just can't read. I don't even know for sure if she really digs me - it's just her friends that told me. After seeing her last night I just have no idea and I'm a little frustrated. Give me something, ANYTHING to let me know what's up.
Maybe I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed today.
Maybe I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed today.
matthew - 11/28/06 21:25
you should ask her what she's thinking, if she gives you a positive response, you're in the clear. If she hasn't thought about it in your terms she'll probably be flattered that you have. good luck.
you should ask her what she's thinking, if she gives you a positive response, you're in the clear. If she hasn't thought about it in your terms she'll probably be flattered that you have. good luck.
mrmike - 11/28/06 16:58
Quit thinkin' so hard. You'll hurt the ballclub.
Quit thinkin' so hard. You'll hurt the ballclub.
metalpeter - 11/28/06 16:10
I wish I had some good advice for ya. All I can really say is try to have fun and enjoy the time you spend with her.
I wish I had some good advice for ya. All I can really say is try to have fun and enjoy the time you spend with her.
jason - 11/28/06 11:56
You know what this really is? I've thought about it, and it's my insecurity for sure because I haven't dated in so long and I'm out of sorts.
You know what this really is? I've thought about it, and it's my insecurity for sure because I haven't dated in so long and I'm out of sorts.
ajay - 11/28/06 11:51
Lets look at it another way: why does it matter if she digs you or not?
Just go out and have fun with her. If you are a fun guy and an enjoyable company, she will automatically pull out the shovel. If she doesn't start diggin' you then, heck, at least you had fun! :-D
Too much worryin', too little lovin' ...
Lets look at it another way: why does it matter if she digs you or not?
Just go out and have fun with her. If you are a fun guy and an enjoyable company, she will automatically pull out the shovel. If she doesn't start diggin' you then, heck, at least you had fun! :-D
Too much worryin', too little lovin' ...
iriesara - 11/28/06 10:55
Maybe SHE has no idea what she wants....best not to put too much into the idea emotionally if you think it might not go anywhere. Just chill back, leave the door open and see what happens. Hard feelings can ruin an unsure thing before it's even started. No reason for frustration.....
remember, we're all just people trying to figure out what the fuck is going on around us and how we fit in, cut her a little slack.
Maybe SHE has no idea what she wants....best not to put too much into the idea emotionally if you think it might not go anywhere. Just chill back, leave the door open and see what happens. Hard feelings can ruin an unsure thing before it's even started. No reason for frustration.....
remember, we're all just people trying to figure out what the fuck is going on around us and how we fit in, cut her a little slack.
jasoninbuffalo - 11/28/06 10:28
I have dated women like that. I actually just am pretty blunt. I usually say something like, hey I am just curious. You are pretty hard to read and just making sure you dig me and are having fun. I have had good luck with this. The worst thing you can do is waste your time with someone who isn't really into you so being up front is a good idea.
I have dated women like that. I actually just am pretty blunt. I usually say something like, hey I am just curious. You are pretty hard to read and just making sure you dig me and are having fun. I have had good luck with this. The worst thing you can do is waste your time with someone who isn't really into you so being up front is a good idea.
museumchick - 11/28/06 09:18
I wonder if maybe she had an off night? I think usually if someone has no interest in another person, they won't hangout with them- they'll think of some excuse to get out of it. So maybe the fact that she still spent time with you is still a good sign.
I wonder if maybe she had an off night? I think usually if someone has no interest in another person, they won't hangout with them- they'll think of some excuse to get out of it. So maybe the fact that she still spent time with you is still a good sign.
11/27/2006 10:25 #23705
What's Going On?Category: potpourri
So are there any cool music/art/whatever events going on this week that are cheap or low cost? I'm not good at deciding on places to go that cost no money! Help!
metalpeter - 11/27/06 17:00
Not sure how you define cheap. But thursday there is a Warren Miller Movie at sheas called "Off the Grid" Then on friday Dec. 1st Breaking Benjimen is playing Town Ballroom.
Not sure how you define cheap. But thursday there is a Warren Miller Movie at sheas called "Off the Grid" Then on friday Dec. 1st Breaking Benjimen is playing Town Ballroom.
imk2 - 11/27/06 15:37
you can go see van wilder.......?
you can go see van wilder.......?
lilho - 11/27/06 14:59
albright knox every friday 3-10, its free, and they even serve top shelf drinks in the mezzanine or whatever for like 3 or 4 bucks. great date if you ask me. or just read the artvoice you dumbass.
albright knox every friday 3-10, its free, and they even serve top shelf drinks in the mezzanine or whatever for like 3 or 4 bucks. great date if you ask me. or just read the artvoice you dumbass.
11/24/2006 08:57 #23704
Has Jason Met His Match??Category: relationships
Sorry for being so snippy in my last entry - I've made a lot of progress but sometimes I still get frustrated. I'll explain why I was frustrated in another entry, "The Sophia of Jason, Part III" which will be published sometime later.
Anyway, what is on my mind today? Remember when I bitched that I went out with Jerry on Halloween and had to be the third wheel all night? Apparently that night at Faherty's a friend of a friend thought I was cute. I never found out until a couple of weeks ago, and anyway dating hasn't crossed my mind much, so my radar's been a little off.
When dating has crossed my mind, I've always thought "No, no, this can't happen now, I'm not 100% together yet. I need more time!" I was afraid that if the timing was off I wouldn't be able to do it the right way. This week I've thought about it more and I've changed my mind - maybe it IS the right time. Who am I to be so rigid about when the right time would be? Maybe this is what I need to take my progress to the next level, and anyway who doesn't like a little diddling now and then?
She isn't a very forward person, so there wasn't really a way for me to know for sure until I met her roommate the other day. She's definitely down, and so am I. I know what your first question will be, and yes she is a Republican, but not the mercenary type by a long shot. She told me the more I would try to spend spend spend the more she would resist it. She doesn't care at all that I'm broke now, or that my car's a heap, or that I need a haircut.
For the first time I feel like I have an opportunity to wow someone I like by being my charming, kind, brilliant, golden-hearted, and humble self. The thing is, if I like someone I can barely talk to her, or look her in the eyes and smile at her, but that's what I want to do the most. I'll chillax, don't worry. Doc Lurve, heeeelp!
Far from being a barbie, she has a quick wit and an off sense of humor, much like myself. I see a lot of myself in her (but not the good part, yet, ZING). Oh, and it doesn't hurt that she is a former figure skater, and mediterranean, so she is very, VERY alluring. The other night when we were out I had the constant, almost irresistable urge to wrap my arms around her body and probe her oral cavity but you'll be happy to know I was a perfect gentleman. Next time, I make no promises.
So last night I sent her a text asking when I could see her again. I know better than to get ahead of myself or make assumptions so for now I'm just happy to get to know her more and get out of the house to have fun. I'm such a dork. Maybe that's part of my charm.
Anyway, what is on my mind today? Remember when I bitched that I went out with Jerry on Halloween and had to be the third wheel all night? Apparently that night at Faherty's a friend of a friend thought I was cute. I never found out until a couple of weeks ago, and anyway dating hasn't crossed my mind much, so my radar's been a little off.
When dating has crossed my mind, I've always thought "No, no, this can't happen now, I'm not 100% together yet. I need more time!" I was afraid that if the timing was off I wouldn't be able to do it the right way. This week I've thought about it more and I've changed my mind - maybe it IS the right time. Who am I to be so rigid about when the right time would be? Maybe this is what I need to take my progress to the next level, and anyway who doesn't like a little diddling now and then?
She isn't a very forward person, so there wasn't really a way for me to know for sure until I met her roommate the other day. She's definitely down, and so am I. I know what your first question will be, and yes she is a Republican, but not the mercenary type by a long shot. She told me the more I would try to spend spend spend the more she would resist it. She doesn't care at all that I'm broke now, or that my car's a heap, or that I need a haircut.
For the first time I feel like I have an opportunity to wow someone I like by being my charming, kind, brilliant, golden-hearted, and humble self. The thing is, if I like someone I can barely talk to her, or look her in the eyes and smile at her, but that's what I want to do the most. I'll chillax, don't worry. Doc Lurve, heeeelp!
Far from being a barbie, she has a quick wit and an off sense of humor, much like myself. I see a lot of myself in her (but not the good part, yet, ZING). Oh, and it doesn't hurt that she is a former figure skater, and mediterranean, so she is very, VERY alluring. The other night when we were out I had the constant, almost irresistable urge to wrap my arms around her body and probe her oral cavity but you'll be happy to know I was a perfect gentleman. Next time, I make no promises.
So last night I sent her a text asking when I could see her again. I know better than to get ahead of myself or make assumptions so for now I'm just happy to get to know her more and get out of the house to have fun. I'm such a dork. Maybe that's part of my charm.
jason - 11/27/06 10:26
Yes Jenks I do have a soft spot for women! And a hard spot too, if I'm lucky! Har Har!!!!
Ahem ahem...yeah, sorry, had to do that. Thanks for the well wishes peeps!
Yes Jenks I do have a soft spot for women! And a hard spot too, if I'm lucky! Har Har!!!!
Ahem ahem...yeah, sorry, had to do that. Thanks for the well wishes peeps!
codypomeray - 11/25/06 00:39
i would have to agree with the popular wisdom. dont think to much, have fun, and just show her what kind of a person you are. ( i don't really know myself personally, but i am sure you're a good dude) oh and did i say have fun? good luck, get in there slugger. haha
i would have to agree with the popular wisdom. dont think to much, have fun, and just show her what kind of a person you are. ( i don't really know myself personally, but i am sure you're a good dude) oh and did i say have fun? good luck, get in there slugger. haha
jasoninbuffalo - 11/24/06 23:15
Make sure she swallows...kidding..ok maybe not really kidding but good luck dude. Dating can suck.....but so can relationshjps and so can being alone....its all about trying to enjoy each experience, each person as an individual and not comparing them to someone else...tough to do but worthwhile if you try.....good luck man
Make sure she swallows...kidding..ok maybe not really kidding but good luck dude. Dating can suck.....but so can relationshjps and so can being alone....its all about trying to enjoy each experience, each person as an individual and not comparing them to someone else...tough to do but worthwhile if you try.....good luck man
leetee - 11/24/06 21:40
Have fun getting to know her and hanging out with her, Jason! :O)
Have fun getting to know her and hanging out with her, Jason! :O)
mrmike - 11/24/06 19:16
Consider it part of the wisdom of my years that I'll just shut up and agree with Jenks, Ajay and Carey.
Little things like that keep my optimism for my own troll like self alive.
Consider it part of the wisdom of my years that I'll just shut up and agree with Jenks, Ajay and Carey.
Little things like that keep my optimism for my own troll like self alive.
ajay - 11/24/06 12:40
Way to go, (e:jason) !
I'll second what (e:jenks) said.
And add: _you_ shouldn't be the one deciding whether you're "good enough" or not; let the woman decide! Just be yourself. If you're yourself, you'll be calm, relaxed and enjoy your time with her. Women can sense when you're tense, and that's a big turnoff for them.
Keep us posted how things go... we're all rooting for you.
Way to go, (e:jason) !
I'll second what (e:jenks) said.
And add: _you_ shouldn't be the one deciding whether you're "good enough" or not; let the woman decide! Just be yourself. If you're yourself, you'll be calm, relaxed and enjoy your time with her. Women can sense when you're tense, and that's a big turnoff for them.
Keep us posted how things go... we're all rooting for you.
jenks - 11/24/06 10:55
Awww, so jason does have a soft spot for women. ;) congrats. have fun. Don't overthink it. (advice I need to listen to myself.)
Awww, so jason does have a soft spot for women. ;) congrats. have fun. Don't overthink it. (advice I need to listen to myself.)
11/21/2006 08:08 #23703
Policing Journals is WRONGCategory: potpourri
Not only is it wrong in principle to try and shut people up, it is incredibly stupid, and exposes an adolescent inability to deal with other people.
Seriously, grow the fuck up. If you don't like what someone says, you aren't obligated to read their journals. I had this problem once and I can honestly say it is beyond ridiculous. I am the #1 nastiest and most vicious asshole on this site when I want to be, by a very wide margin, and yet I don't feel the compulsion to knock someone every single time they write some colossaly stupid entry.
Do you want to know why? Oh never mind.
Seriously, grow the fuck up. If you don't like what someone says, you aren't obligated to read their journals. I had this problem once and I can honestly say it is beyond ridiculous. I am the #1 nastiest and most vicious asshole on this site when I want to be, by a very wide margin, and yet I don't feel the compulsion to knock someone every single time they write some colossaly stupid entry.
Do you want to know why? Oh never mind.
mrmike - 11/21/06 22:57
Estrip, we know drama
Estrip, we know drama
metalpeter - 11/21/06 19:19
Ok I must have missed something. I know there was what seemed like some heat between jaoninbuffalo and pyrcedgrrl but not sure if that is what you are refering to. But yeah I think that if you don't like what someone writes then you should just skip to another journal. Just like you would if music came on the radio you didn't like. That being said there is nothing wrong with a little friendly debate as long as it isn't personal. I also think that anyone should be able to say anything they wan't on their blog and shouldn't have to worry about being pursecuted.
Ok I must have missed something. I know there was what seemed like some heat between jaoninbuffalo and pyrcedgrrl but not sure if that is what you are refering to. But yeah I think that if you don't like what someone writes then you should just skip to another journal. Just like you would if music came on the radio you didn't like. That being said there is nothing wrong with a little friendly debate as long as it isn't personal. I also think that anyone should be able to say anything they wan't on their blog and shouldn't have to worry about being pursecuted.
ajay - 11/21/06 14:30
Who's policing what where?
Who's policing what where?
pyrcedgrrl - 11/21/06 12:18
Indeed, but you also know how to debate, discuss VALID POINTS and stick to the subject.
You're not one to pick out one detail, freak out about it and then go cry "mean mommy" on the person who is questioning you.
Indeed, but you also know how to debate, discuss VALID POINTS and stick to the subject.
You're not one to pick out one detail, freak out about it and then go cry "mean mommy" on the person who is questioning you.
jasoninbuffalo - 11/21/06 11:16
Hey man. I said the same thing as you. Good post. The hypocrisy of this is incredibly funny. Here is the deal, my name is a hyperlink, if you don't like what I read do not click on my name. The End. Angnyway..thanks for sharing my opinion.
Hey man. I said the same thing as you. Good post. The hypocrisy of this is incredibly funny. Here is the deal, my name is a hyperlink, if you don't like what I read do not click on my name. The End. Angnyway..thanks for sharing my opinion.
nice man, nice!! good to hear!!!! just have a good time. couple glasses of wine, showing off your culinary skills and some nice chat...whoo ra!
Movie on the couch sounds like a fun time. I just hope you both like the same kinds of movies.
Dude I'm so with you on all fronts. Too easy to overthink/overanalyze/freak out, esp in the beginning. I do my best to resist the urge, but often fail. And I love the cooking date idea. And a movie on the couch is one of my faves too. I mean the point is to spend time together, so who needs all sorts of fancy/expensive stuff? Go J.
baller!
You're so smooth. Good luck with it.
Cool.......sounds like a good start, good luck.