Here's my first mobile journal. I'm in the church of Ani di Franco at that Bob Creeley farewell. Turn's out Mr. Creeley has a son who's friends with my friends, and the sanctuary of the church is quite pretty. You get photos with this one since the phone's so crazy. check it:
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05/20/2006 22:13 #22275
Robert CreeleyCategory: unnerd
05/08/2006 03:05 #22274
Fake Plastic TreesCategory: unnerd
I woke up early on Saturday to get "in line" online for tickets to a radiohead show that's coming to Toronto that very few people even knew about. Radiohead is seriously my favorite band ever and I'd sell my first born to see em before I died, ok maybe not my 1st but maybe someone elses baby.
My buddy Andy Blake has the inside scoop on stuff like this so we (Andy, his ex-gf jenny, and I) went down to UB to use their network cause Andy thought it'd be quicker and we'd have a snowballs chance to get tickets before they sold out on us.
The controls for getting the tickets weren't on the page when we got there and we had to wait until 10:00 am EST before they'd appear. We had to keep reloading the page to get the tickets, but the page would lock you out if you hit refresh to many times (more than 6x a minute), so it was going to be a mad dash at 10 on the button to get seats at all.
10:00 and 0 seconds am EST rolled around and I was frantic. I smashed F5 (a reload page short cut in both Firefox and IE) and I was rushing to fill out my info for the tickets. By 10:00 30 seconds am EST the show was sold out, and I didn't get any tickets, but Jenny and Andy did.
Yes... I was sad.
But it wasn't 10:00 am in Chicago yet so I decided to try for tickets there, so we waited an hour.
I really wanted to go to the Toronto show, but I have a buddy or two in Chi-town it might be fun. All 3 of us tried for tickets again and Jenny was the only one to get in. Luckily. I bought the tickets and we all went out to eat some grub at Pano's to celebrate
(I guess (e:jenks) saw me but was hanging w/ her parents so she decided not to complicate things)
I bought tickets but didn't have anyone definite to go with since going to Chi-town is a bit more of an endeavor than going to Toronto. I had a friend named Ben who wanted to go with me, but he just got a new job but had to take a pay cut for the better hours and is getting married so I didn't know if he could afford a concert ticket and a plane ticket. In my fit of excitement and desire to have a music fan go with me I called my ex-gf like an idiot to see if she wanted to go.
Not to hang all my dirty laundry around town, but she owes me quite a bit of money, but I didn't care as long as she could pay her own way. She said yeah, and I told her it was first come first serve with who ever wanted to go, could afford it and confirmed, and luckily Ben came through.
My ex-gf has been more nice to me than she has been since we first started dating and it's either going to be awful or really sweet to tell her that Ben's going in her stead. I haven't told her yet, but I think I should/will by Monday. I just confirmed that my Chi-town buddy Neil can put us up for the night and we're going to get there a day early and cruise the town so um...yeah I need to call her and tell her something.
I'm taking bets on weather the niceness dries up quick after I tell her she's not going with, but che sera sera. I didn't break up with her so that she'd be nice to me...though it would be nice, since I think I treated her really well.
oh gawd it's late...
My buddy Andy Blake has the inside scoop on stuff like this so we (Andy, his ex-gf jenny, and I) went down to UB to use their network cause Andy thought it'd be quicker and we'd have a snowballs chance to get tickets before they sold out on us.
The controls for getting the tickets weren't on the page when we got there and we had to wait until 10:00 am EST before they'd appear. We had to keep reloading the page to get the tickets, but the page would lock you out if you hit refresh to many times (more than 6x a minute), so it was going to be a mad dash at 10 on the button to get seats at all.
10:00 and 0 seconds am EST rolled around and I was frantic. I smashed F5 (a reload page short cut in both Firefox and IE) and I was rushing to fill out my info for the tickets. By 10:00 30 seconds am EST the show was sold out, and I didn't get any tickets, but Jenny and Andy did.
Yes... I was sad.
But it wasn't 10:00 am in Chicago yet so I decided to try for tickets there, so we waited an hour.
I really wanted to go to the Toronto show, but I have a buddy or two in Chi-town it might be fun. All 3 of us tried for tickets again and Jenny was the only one to get in. Luckily. I bought the tickets and we all went out to eat some grub at Pano's to celebrate
(I guess (e:jenks) saw me but was hanging w/ her parents so she decided not to complicate things)
I bought tickets but didn't have anyone definite to go with since going to Chi-town is a bit more of an endeavor than going to Toronto. I had a friend named Ben who wanted to go with me, but he just got a new job but had to take a pay cut for the better hours and is getting married so I didn't know if he could afford a concert ticket and a plane ticket. In my fit of excitement and desire to have a music fan go with me I called my ex-gf like an idiot to see if she wanted to go.
Not to hang all my dirty laundry around town, but she owes me quite a bit of money, but I didn't care as long as she could pay her own way. She said yeah, and I told her it was first come first serve with who ever wanted to go, could afford it and confirmed, and luckily Ben came through.
My ex-gf has been more nice to me than she has been since we first started dating and it's either going to be awful or really sweet to tell her that Ben's going in her stead. I haven't told her yet, but I think I should/will by Monday. I just confirmed that my Chi-town buddy Neil can put us up for the night and we're going to get there a day early and cruise the town so um...yeah I need to call her and tell her something.
I'm taking bets on weather the niceness dries up quick after I tell her she's not going with, but che sera sera. I didn't break up with her so that she'd be nice to me...though it would be nice, since I think I treated her really well.
oh gawd it's late...
twisted - 05/20/06 11:34
So three of us tried to buy tix at the stroke of 10:00:00 Sunday and I'm the only one who came away with 2 tickets (the maximum allowed per transaction). Two nights sold out in approximately 5 seconds. It's un-freakin-believable! I'm letting Larry and Mark take the tix since they're the diehard Radiohead fans.
So three of us tried to buy tix at the stroke of 10:00:00 Sunday and I'm the only one who came away with 2 tickets (the maximum allowed per transaction). Two nights sold out in approximately 5 seconds. It's un-freakin-believable! I'm letting Larry and Mark take the tix since they're the diehard Radiohead fans.
twisted - 05/08/06 11:33
Ordering tickets online is a scam! We're standing by to get Radiohead tix for June 23 & 24 at the Greek Theatre at UC Berkeley. But I guess you've already had your fill of Cali. ;-)
One friend said some tickets were already released on :::link::: but sold out. I have no idea how that thing works. I'm totally indebted to my friends in the know, as I have no first-born to barter with either, haha. I just do as I'm told when the time comes. Wish me luck, and enjoy the show in Chicago!
Ordering tickets online is a scam! We're standing by to get Radiohead tix for June 23 & 24 at the Greek Theatre at UC Berkeley. But I guess you've already had your fill of Cali. ;-)
One friend said some tickets were already released on :::link::: but sold out. I have no idea how that thing works. I'm totally indebted to my friends in the know, as I have no first-born to barter with either, haha. I just do as I'm told when the time comes. Wish me luck, and enjoy the show in Chicago!
05/08/2006 02:32 #22273
Last days of the lappyYes... the lappy is leaving me. I'm up right now backing up all the episodes of Enterprise I got from (e:paul) and (e:matthew) cause I haven't watched them yet.
It was faithful for all this time, and now it's time for it to move on to greener pastures.
I'm buddies with that dude you sometimes see at the pink with the devilsticks and he dosen't have a lappy and wants to buy mine.
I figured I should sell it since I have a pretty sweet compy at home and don't ever use it since I'm such a socialite that the idea of not being around people is just a irritating as the idea of not playing with computers. Lappy + Coffee shop usually solved that, but I'm becoming a lot more well adjusted with my single bachlor life and I like my empty apartment a lot more than I used to. Not to mention I'll be buying a phone like the one that (e:paul) has to tide me over until I get the neolappy.
This install of the lappy lasted me quite a while. I still have stuff on here from my trip to San Fransisico which isn't documented on (e:strip) cause I wasn't much of a poster back then.
Soon as those videos finish I'll start the reinstall process and all the meories that me and the lappy had togheter will be wiped clean. Kinda makes me sad, but I don't wanna cry so how's about I talk about the new lappy instead?!
I'm getting one of those new mac book pros. I guess you can run windows on it and it's mac that's all svelt and macalicious so it's more than a win wins situation.
I'm saving for a really good one since it'll be my main mac machine and I want a service plan on it too. A buddy of mine said that mac service is the bizomb and I belive him. Told me a story about when he had to send a mac lappy in for service and it came back virtually a new machine.
So untill my mac lappy...my mackie comes in I guess you won't be able to catch me at SPoT, and all my posts will have to come from my crazy desky that, by the way, has a silly Lan Party momaboard and a crazy strobe light case, you can probably tell why we don't hang out so often.
Yeah..., but I've got other news...
It was faithful for all this time, and now it's time for it to move on to greener pastures.
I'm buddies with that dude you sometimes see at the pink with the devilsticks and he dosen't have a lappy and wants to buy mine.
I figured I should sell it since I have a pretty sweet compy at home and don't ever use it since I'm such a socialite that the idea of not being around people is just a irritating as the idea of not playing with computers. Lappy + Coffee shop usually solved that, but I'm becoming a lot more well adjusted with my single bachlor life and I like my empty apartment a lot more than I used to. Not to mention I'll be buying a phone like the one that (e:paul) has to tide me over until I get the neolappy.
This install of the lappy lasted me quite a while. I still have stuff on here from my trip to San Fransisico which isn't documented on (e:strip) cause I wasn't much of a poster back then.
Soon as those videos finish I'll start the reinstall process and all the meories that me and the lappy had togheter will be wiped clean. Kinda makes me sad, but I don't wanna cry so how's about I talk about the new lappy instead?!
I'm getting one of those new mac book pros. I guess you can run windows on it and it's mac that's all svelt and macalicious so it's more than a win wins situation.
I'm saving for a really good one since it'll be my main mac machine and I want a service plan on it too. A buddy of mine said that mac service is the bizomb and I belive him. Told me a story about when he had to send a mac lappy in for service and it came back virtually a new machine.
So untill my mac lappy...my mackie comes in I guess you won't be able to catch me at SPoT, and all my posts will have to come from my crazy desky that, by the way, has a silly Lan Party momaboard and a crazy strobe light case, you can probably tell why we don't hang out so often.
Yeah..., but I've got other news...
04/24/2006 04:42 #22272
Of Mongeese and MenCategory: unnerd
Thanks to all the helpful people who decide to put their two cents in about the previous post. I really appreciate it. I think I have enough spare are change to catch the bus now...
Just to let cha'll know. I've decide to take most of the advice I was given (in retrospect). I think we're through the worst of it by now, and things will only get better, but I"ll be damed if I ever go on a trip with her anywhere ever again, (there goes Cancun). And to be a little less vague about the last bit. I think Jenny's great for the most part, but she lives in LA, and she's really finicky, and she's done some stuff that I could never forgive her for, so I will only ever be her friend, though she's been hinting at other things lately. I just hope that this trip hasn't put a big fat bent on our friendship.
Getting back to enjoying my self, I've been avoiding talking about anything with her really and enjoying my self with my other friends who came on this trip, and some new acquaintances. To speak of them, we went to Haneuma Bay this morning, which is this really sweet coral reef nature preserve today. This trip to the bay will make 3 times on this trip, but I figured since I bought some snorkel gear I'd better get full use out of it. We have 4 underwater cameras full of shots that I promise to put some good pics up from. I got a shot of a sea turtle, I hope it came out OK, but even if it's blurry it was sweet to see him doing his thing right before I nearly drowed in the ocean.
Yeah I freaked out when I was on my way back to shore. Apparently swmming with the current is more easy than swimming against it, and when you're 30+ feet out to sea...ok bay, with huge scary fish and really sharp coral reef with cute but poisonous little sea urchins in it you um...well you freak out.
My freak out didn't last long, some surfin rescue dude came to save me, I felt like jabronie, but it was to be expected and no one really gave a poop, so now I'm telling all of you people....so don't laugh. stop. stop now. The bay is not super touristy, and it will never be over crowed cause they stop lettin' peoples in when the parking area is filled up. It's only a dolla to park, and 5 bucks to get into the preserve, but you've never been on a cleaner beach with clearer water and with more to do besides volleyball. It's really easy to get there you just take the H1 east out of Honolulu and there's signs right away, but like i said, get there early (like 7am, which is 1pm Buffalo time, but you know what i mean).
Right after we came up from the bay we saw bunch of mongeese stealing crap from the trash. There are no indigenous fuzzy mammals on Hawaii, but the mongooses were brough here to take out the snake population, and they went crazy, and now Hawaii has a mongoose problem. But they are super cute. Nope no squirrls (werid huh?), they do have geekos however. Apparently a gecko will steak out a tree or some such (even if it's fake) and live there for a grip. We stopped for ice cream and there was one lampin on this fake bush outside of a curiosity shop next to the ice cream parlor. I like the lil lizards, but um I don't have time for animals what whit my workaholism. But, If I did ever get an animal I might get a gecko and I would call him george and he'd be my friend.... uh, here's that shot of the leezard...check him out...
He's concerned about your car insurance premium
We still have the illegal "Stairway to Heaven" hike to do, and some parasaling if that'll ever happen. I guess there's this moutian with so many thousands of stairs in it so it's kinda easy to hike since the trail is a buch of stairs, but it's tough cause there's a friggin' thousand of them. The view is supposed to amazing, and if it is I'll be sure to get a lucky shot.
Ooh, one more animal story before I bust out. The first day we got here we were targeted as tourists (how'd that happen) and this really friendly local weedled 5 bucks out of us. She wanted 5 buck per person having pictures taken with her brids, but um...well she was a schist-er so we only gave a five spot even for all of us Here's one of the photos we took...
A happy Jenny, being ripped off
OK you (e:strip)pers I have many many many more photos but I won't over do it. Hmm... here's one more for the road, a really rare shot of the Hawaiian tree sneaker.
Not even a pun, but just as bad
Just to let cha'll know. I've decide to take most of the advice I was given (in retrospect). I think we're through the worst of it by now, and things will only get better, but I"ll be damed if I ever go on a trip with her anywhere ever again, (there goes Cancun). And to be a little less vague about the last bit. I think Jenny's great for the most part, but she lives in LA, and she's really finicky, and she's done some stuff that I could never forgive her for, so I will only ever be her friend, though she's been hinting at other things lately. I just hope that this trip hasn't put a big fat bent on our friendship.
Getting back to enjoying my self, I've been avoiding talking about anything with her really and enjoying my self with my other friends who came on this trip, and some new acquaintances. To speak of them, we went to Haneuma Bay this morning, which is this really sweet coral reef nature preserve today. This trip to the bay will make 3 times on this trip, but I figured since I bought some snorkel gear I'd better get full use out of it. We have 4 underwater cameras full of shots that I promise to put some good pics up from. I got a shot of a sea turtle, I hope it came out OK, but even if it's blurry it was sweet to see him doing his thing right before I nearly drowed in the ocean.
Yeah I freaked out when I was on my way back to shore. Apparently swmming with the current is more easy than swimming against it, and when you're 30+ feet out to sea...ok bay, with huge scary fish and really sharp coral reef with cute but poisonous little sea urchins in it you um...well you freak out.
My freak out didn't last long, some surfin rescue dude came to save me, I felt like jabronie, but it was to be expected and no one really gave a poop, so now I'm telling all of you people....so don't laugh. stop. stop now. The bay is not super touristy, and it will never be over crowed cause they stop lettin' peoples in when the parking area is filled up. It's only a dolla to park, and 5 bucks to get into the preserve, but you've never been on a cleaner beach with clearer water and with more to do besides volleyball. It's really easy to get there you just take the H1 east out of Honolulu and there's signs right away, but like i said, get there early (like 7am, which is 1pm Buffalo time, but you know what i mean).
Right after we came up from the bay we saw bunch of mongeese stealing crap from the trash. There are no indigenous fuzzy mammals on Hawaii, but the mongooses were brough here to take out the snake population, and they went crazy, and now Hawaii has a mongoose problem. But they are super cute. Nope no squirrls (werid huh?), they do have geekos however. Apparently a gecko will steak out a tree or some such (even if it's fake) and live there for a grip. We stopped for ice cream and there was one lampin on this fake bush outside of a curiosity shop next to the ice cream parlor. I like the lil lizards, but um I don't have time for animals what whit my workaholism. But, If I did ever get an animal I might get a gecko and I would call him george and he'd be my friend.... uh, here's that shot of the leezard...check him out...
He's concerned about your car insurance premium
We still have the illegal "Stairway to Heaven" hike to do, and some parasaling if that'll ever happen. I guess there's this moutian with so many thousands of stairs in it so it's kinda easy to hike since the trail is a buch of stairs, but it's tough cause there's a friggin' thousand of them. The view is supposed to amazing, and if it is I'll be sure to get a lucky shot.
Ooh, one more animal story before I bust out. The first day we got here we were targeted as tourists (how'd that happen) and this really friendly local weedled 5 bucks out of us. She wanted 5 buck per person having pictures taken with her brids, but um...well she was a schist-er so we only gave a five spot even for all of us Here's one of the photos we took...
A happy Jenny, being ripped off
OK you (e:strip)pers I have many many many more photos but I won't over do it. Hmm... here's one more for the road, a really rare shot of the Hawaiian tree sneaker.
Not even a pun, but just as bad
twisted - 04/24/06 22:26
Whoa, she's hot! Maybe I was too easy on her, haha. Ok, some people there's no traveling with -- but that doesn't have to ruin a friendship.
Have fun at Coachella! Sounds like a great lineup. I'm going to see Depeche Mode with Scissor Sisters and She Wants Revenge Thursday, and am on standby for Yeah Yeah Yeahs Friday since Hard-Fi and The Rakes CANCELLED due to illness (that really sucked -- I was looking forward to that one). I have not picked up tickets for The Editors Saturday yet, so can't say for sure. But I kind of have my own mini-coachella going on. I don't think I'd have the stamina for a 2-day all day festival! Plus tonight is Eisley, but nobody knows them. I'll make them my user sound if I ever post again.
Whoa, she's hot! Maybe I was too easy on her, haha. Ok, some people there's no traveling with -- but that doesn't have to ruin a friendship.
Have fun at Coachella! Sounds like a great lineup. I'm going to see Depeche Mode with Scissor Sisters and She Wants Revenge Thursday, and am on standby for Yeah Yeah Yeahs Friday since Hard-Fi and The Rakes CANCELLED due to illness (that really sucked -- I was looking forward to that one). I have not picked up tickets for The Editors Saturday yet, so can't say for sure. But I kind of have my own mini-coachella going on. I don't think I'd have the stamina for a 2-day all day festival! Plus tonight is Eisley, but nobody knows them. I'll make them my user sound if I ever post again.
paul - 04/24/06 10:29
You can never post too many pictures on estrip, we have the tsorage space, why not use it.
Can't wait till you come back. I have no one to speak javascript with.
You can never post too many pictures on estrip, we have the tsorage space, why not use it.
Can't wait till you come back. I have no one to speak javascript with.
jenks - 04/24/06 09:51
My aunt used to have a house in st lucia (i'm still mad at her for getting rid of it) but we used to go and there were little lizards EVERYwhere. I tried to catch them, and one's tail broke off in my hand. Gross, but I guess that's their defense mechanism. I was like 'hey hey I cought him!" and I looked down, and all i had was a tail. At least there was no blood.
My god no more coffee for me. Sorry!
My aunt used to have a house in st lucia (i'm still mad at her for getting rid of it) but we used to go and there were little lizards EVERYwhere. I tried to catch them, and one's tail broke off in my hand. Gross, but I guess that's their defense mechanism. I was like 'hey hey I cought him!" and I looked down, and all i had was a tail. At least there was no blood.
My god no more coffee for me. Sorry!
mrdt - 04/24/06 05:03
i'm sorry man, that whole rescue thing was kinda funny. and cycle or not I wouldv'e ripped that girls clothes off and showed her the "Oh" face. Oh Oh OHHHH
i'm sorry man, that whole rescue thing was kinda funny. and cycle or not I wouldv'e ripped that girls clothes off and showed her the "Oh" face. Oh Oh OHHHH
04/23/2006 05:39 #22271
Complications with the MoonSo this is how nerd I am.
I'm sitting here deciding on whether this will be a post about my trip that, amazing setting besides, is getting frustrating because of the company I'm in, or to finish wrtting the first chapter of my Star Wars story (yes I write Star Wars stories, I'm a big fat nerd and I love it).
Ok, I guess this posting getting done while the events are still fresh in my mind would help. Really peeps, I just need to let off some steam, and getting some answers wouldn't hurt either. I amost had the vacation of my life and the moon had to go and throw a huge monkey wrench in it.
Really this post will be more of a series of questions. If you feel that you can do so legitimately please answer any one of them.
1. How does one deal with a girl who is in her um...cycle. Since it seems if you're too stand offish they are moody, and if you're too involved they are pushy. Ok, I know that saying that a girl could be either of those during her time to her is tantumount to suicide, and that that both of those statements are generalizations... but if you can answer that question it's a valid one.
2. I have sisters, ok, and as far as I know women know when (generally) this sort of thing is going to happen (ie every 28 days). They also must know that they can be a bit more irritable when it does..., so why the hell would any girl ever book a vacation with just friends, or even some girl friends, or whatever on or around that time? Is being in your cycle ever something that would stop you from oh say going vacation where you'll be kooked up in a room with other people that you are certainly not accustom to dealing with on a day to day basis.
3. Do you think that the way someone behaves during that time is a accurate depiction of their character? Like I said I have sisters, and they can be tough to handle around then, but things typically clear up by the time it is over. It's not to entirely different than when someone gets drunk and loses control. It just seems a lot more directed, and vindictive. I understand that they just had a rough time with their emotions because of the changes that is going on in their bodies, and after years of expiring this second hand I like to think I kinda understand, but do I? Is it them who's acting that way, or is it their condition that's making them something that they are not ....exactly?
Ok the next few questions will be more about me than my curiosities about women and their biology, and more about something I posted about before. Jenny.
4. If you had a really close friend that you dated once before end up being probably one of your best friends ever do you think that that's
a. A pathetic excuse for hoping for something more
b. Something that's normal and that happens all the time
c. the plot of a sappy romantic comedy
d. none of the above, please supply an explanation.
5. If you think that beyond knowing that your friend could never be more than a friend to you because of things that happened in the past, in the present, and because there's really no hope for a future would you on a trip where you were stuck with them for at least another week where you might have to rely on their hospitality explain to them that you could never be more than friends, or would you wait until you were safe at home and give them a call?
I'm sitting here deciding on whether this will be a post about my trip that, amazing setting besides, is getting frustrating because of the company I'm in, or to finish wrtting the first chapter of my Star Wars story (yes I write Star Wars stories, I'm a big fat nerd and I love it).
Ok, I guess this posting getting done while the events are still fresh in my mind would help. Really peeps, I just need to let off some steam, and getting some answers wouldn't hurt either. I amost had the vacation of my life and the moon had to go and throw a huge monkey wrench in it.
Really this post will be more of a series of questions. If you feel that you can do so legitimately please answer any one of them.
1. How does one deal with a girl who is in her um...cycle. Since it seems if you're too stand offish they are moody, and if you're too involved they are pushy. Ok, I know that saying that a girl could be either of those during her time to her is tantumount to suicide, and that that both of those statements are generalizations... but if you can answer that question it's a valid one.
2. I have sisters, ok, and as far as I know women know when (generally) this sort of thing is going to happen (ie every 28 days). They also must know that they can be a bit more irritable when it does..., so why the hell would any girl ever book a vacation with just friends, or even some girl friends, or whatever on or around that time? Is being in your cycle ever something that would stop you from oh say going vacation where you'll be kooked up in a room with other people that you are certainly not accustom to dealing with on a day to day basis.
3. Do you think that the way someone behaves during that time is a accurate depiction of their character? Like I said I have sisters, and they can be tough to handle around then, but things typically clear up by the time it is over. It's not to entirely different than when someone gets drunk and loses control. It just seems a lot more directed, and vindictive. I understand that they just had a rough time with their emotions because of the changes that is going on in their bodies, and after years of expiring this second hand I like to think I kinda understand, but do I? Is it them who's acting that way, or is it their condition that's making them something that they are not ....exactly?
Ok the next few questions will be more about me than my curiosities about women and their biology, and more about something I posted about before. Jenny.
4. If you had a really close friend that you dated once before end up being probably one of your best friends ever do you think that that's
a. A pathetic excuse for hoping for something more
b. Something that's normal and that happens all the time
c. the plot of a sappy romantic comedy
d. none of the above, please supply an explanation.
5. If you think that beyond knowing that your friend could never be more than a friend to you because of things that happened in the past, in the present, and because there's really no hope for a future would you on a trip where you were stuck with them for at least another week where you might have to rely on their hospitality explain to them that you could never be more than friends, or would you wait until you were safe at home and give them a call?
jenks - 04/24/06 09:49
Twisted, you're so wise. :)
Twisted, you're so wise. :)
twisted - 04/23/06 13:52
Good lord man! You need more help than I can possibly give you. In a comment, anyway. ;-)
Ok, just one thing. If you're thinking of doing anything that could include her, broach it like this. "Hey, I'm thinking of taking a walk along the beach, you want to come along?" The critical points being: 1) you have provided a ready-made plan, and 2) you're not making her acceptance of the plan responsible for whether or not you go.
Just trust me on this, because even the smallest nuances can be magnified for some women during their "special time." If you instead said "Do you feel like taking a walk on the beach?" then she has to figure out how she feels, which is something she really just needs to be distracted from right now. She may also interpret that as, if she doesn't feel like going, she might be preventing you from going (if you were looking for something to do together). And then she might feel on the hook for figuring out what to do instead, which she may not be capable of doing right now.
So asking her point blank what she wants might seem like the safest thing, but in fact, that's the worst thing. From her point of view, she's on this great vacation but her decision-making faculties are temporarily impaired so she can't get herself to the distractions she so desperately needs. Plus, she may be ruining your vacation in the process. I'm sure she wouldn't do that if she could help it.
Minimally, you have to take complete responsibility for having fun yourself. No looking to her to figure it out or even to help figure it out until she's through this. But once you figure out some fun stuff to do, definitely include her in a super-non-demanding way. Here's one more example: "Hey, I'm getting hungry. Do you feel like anything in particular? We could check out that fish shack by the beach." That extra self-sufficiency for your own needs plus some proactive consideration for her needs makes all the difference in this situation. Think of it as the price you pay in return for the fairer gender's greater burden as procreator of the species. That seems fair.
Whoa, all of that just to barely cover question #1. And it's probably too late for that one now anyway. Still, it would be good to establish your willingness to take some responsibility as "cruise director" now before you have to rely on her hospitality (as mentioned in question #5). That also seems fair, since she will probably have to be cruise director then.
I guess the only other thing to say is, good luck and have fun!
Good lord man! You need more help than I can possibly give you. In a comment, anyway. ;-)
Ok, just one thing. If you're thinking of doing anything that could include her, broach it like this. "Hey, I'm thinking of taking a walk along the beach, you want to come along?" The critical points being: 1) you have provided a ready-made plan, and 2) you're not making her acceptance of the plan responsible for whether or not you go.
Just trust me on this, because even the smallest nuances can be magnified for some women during their "special time." If you instead said "Do you feel like taking a walk on the beach?" then she has to figure out how she feels, which is something she really just needs to be distracted from right now. She may also interpret that as, if she doesn't feel like going, she might be preventing you from going (if you were looking for something to do together). And then she might feel on the hook for figuring out what to do instead, which she may not be capable of doing right now.
So asking her point blank what she wants might seem like the safest thing, but in fact, that's the worst thing. From her point of view, she's on this great vacation but her decision-making faculties are temporarily impaired so she can't get herself to the distractions she so desperately needs. Plus, she may be ruining your vacation in the process. I'm sure she wouldn't do that if she could help it.
Minimally, you have to take complete responsibility for having fun yourself. No looking to her to figure it out or even to help figure it out until she's through this. But once you figure out some fun stuff to do, definitely include her in a super-non-demanding way. Here's one more example: "Hey, I'm getting hungry. Do you feel like anything in particular? We could check out that fish shack by the beach." That extra self-sufficiency for your own needs plus some proactive consideration for her needs makes all the difference in this situation. Think of it as the price you pay in return for the fairer gender's greater burden as procreator of the species. That seems fair.
Whoa, all of that just to barely cover question #1. And it's probably too late for that one now anyway. Still, it would be good to establish your willingness to take some responsibility as "cruise director" now before you have to rely on her hospitality (as mentioned in question #5). That also seems fair, since she will probably have to be cruise director then.
I guess the only other thing to say is, good luck and have fun!
mrdt - 04/23/06 13:45
Questions 1-3. walk on egg shells.
4. d, life is pretty funny, you never know where it will take you. you may want a lover to be a good friend but you may also find that once sex is introduced into the friendship equation other emotions may kick in and take the relationship to higher or lower ground (better or worse).
5. wait to you get home. I say don't rock the boat when your sitting in it.
Questions 1-3. walk on egg shells.
4. d, life is pretty funny, you never know where it will take you. you may want a lover to be a good friend but you may also find that once sex is introduced into the friendship equation other emotions may kick in and take the relationship to higher or lower ground (better or worse).
5. wait to you get home. I say don't rock the boat when your sitting in it.
stfrancisdesal - 04/23/06 10:00
man!! just edited this in word and posted it over to your comment and I see all these posting errors that the Word.doc to php made. Darn!!
man!! just edited this in word and posted it over to your comment and I see all these posting errors that the Word.doc to php made. Darn!!
stfrancisdesal - 04/23/06 09:57
To answer your question(s).
I think want society forgets is that, it is out of the women’s control (the hormone fluctuations that is) and that the response that you see from a women during the cycle is pre-cycle. This because as you may know her body is doing things and feeling ways that it normally does not feel or do the other 23 days of the month. Things like bloating, fatigue, general body discomfort, bowel disruption, etc, etc… Then there’s the actual cycle it self. Most of the time all of this other stuff is gone by then (mood, bloating, fatigue, general body discomfort, bowel disruption. etc, etc). Now you move into the pain aspect. Some women get debilitating pain and some get nothing at all.
There are drugs like pain killers and mood suppressants that help ease the spikes in mood. There is also birth control pills/shot/etc that really regulate hormone levels. Some women swear by them and some don’t. And finally there is the ultimate biological answer to this… get pregnant. After all this is our body’s way of dealing with the fact we are not pregnant. Those mood swings/ body discomfort/ hormone levels that are bouncing all over the place are made as extra for the pregnancy.
Think of it in terms of shifting gears in a car. Most of the time she is running around at 30 MPH and in 3rd. Then every so often (every 28 days give or take) her body wants to do 80 MPH and she is still in 3rd. Well, if you have ever driven a car in 3rd at 80 mph you know what is going on. The engine is all over the place and it is high and loud. Now if she was pregnant (the clutch), she would be able to shift into 4th or even 5th and the engine would smooth out and run more efficiently. Now without that pregnancy she is going to run around in 80 mph in 3rd.
So, to answer your question, how do we deal with the cycle? We just do because we have to.
Now, to even question a women’s character because she is having her cycle is wrong. The cycle shouldn’t mean anything? Does a females character different before her very first one, or her very last later in life? Her cycle may influence SOME small parts of her character, but should not be the basis for the entire character.
I don’t feel that I can answer your questions about Jenny, because I don’t know her.
Hope this helps…
To answer your question(s).
I think want society forgets is that, it is out of the women’s control (the hormone fluctuations that is) and that the response that you see from a women during the cycle is pre-cycle. This because as you may know her body is doing things and feeling ways that it normally does not feel or do the other 23 days of the month. Things like bloating, fatigue, general body discomfort, bowel disruption, etc, etc… Then there’s the actual cycle it self. Most of the time all of this other stuff is gone by then (mood, bloating, fatigue, general body discomfort, bowel disruption. etc, etc). Now you move into the pain aspect. Some women get debilitating pain and some get nothing at all.
There are drugs like pain killers and mood suppressants that help ease the spikes in mood. There is also birth control pills/shot/etc that really regulate hormone levels. Some women swear by them and some don’t. And finally there is the ultimate biological answer to this… get pregnant. After all this is our body’s way of dealing with the fact we are not pregnant. Those mood swings/ body discomfort/ hormone levels that are bouncing all over the place are made as extra for the pregnancy.
Think of it in terms of shifting gears in a car. Most of the time she is running around at 30 MPH and in 3rd. Then every so often (every 28 days give or take) her body wants to do 80 MPH and she is still in 3rd. Well, if you have ever driven a car in 3rd at 80 mph you know what is going on. The engine is all over the place and it is high and loud. Now if she was pregnant (the clutch), she would be able to shift into 4th or even 5th and the engine would smooth out and run more efficiently. Now without that pregnancy she is going to run around in 80 mph in 3rd.
So, to answer your question, how do we deal with the cycle? We just do because we have to.
Now, to even question a women’s character because she is having her cycle is wrong. The cycle shouldn’t mean anything? Does a females character different before her very first one, or her very last later in life? Her cycle may influence SOME small parts of her character, but should not be the basis for the entire character.
I don’t feel that I can answer your questions about Jenny, because I don’t know her.
Hope this helps…
You can increase you photo size, they will auto resize. I think they are 320x240. You get good resolution/size at 640x480. Glad to see someone else doing mobile posts!!!