To go into work in the morning at 6am? Because I have an over inflated sense of responsibility, that's why.
My boss recently got promoted, and is having to manage our house plus do her new job. Yesterday she pulled me from night shift to afternoons, telling me I was wasted on nights and she needed my presence on afternoons while she wasn't there. She also gave me tons of new tasks and responsibilities (such as being in charge of money and maintenance). Unfortunately this does not equal a raise for me.
However, she did recommend that I put in for the promotion that I already bid on, so that's another vote of confidence.
Pleased but annoyed, cuz nights are really laid back, and afternoons are more work:) I find out on the 9th if I got the promotion, and that will mean day shift and a LOT more work:)
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03/01/2012 19:32 #56154
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02/26/2012 20:00 #56140
party rantThe following is a rant about a BDSM party. If you're easily offended or find the material objectionable, please don't read.
I've been involved in the local BDSM community for six years or so, and there are social norms and rules that are particular to "the lifestyle". I won't go into all of them here, I figure if you're interested you'll figure them out. However, last night I attended a party, and while I was playing with my friend, what I consider to be one of the major rules was broken by someone who should have known better.
Do not interfere with others' scenes
Simply because this person and I had played earlier in the night, they felt they could come up to my play partner and I, while we were in the middle of a scene, and talk to me. Admittedly, permission was asked, but I was too out of it to give permission. Cthulhu could have shown up and I'd have been happy as a clam to talk. This interrupted our flow, and while we were able to get back into the right head space , it was really socially unacceptable for this person to do that.
Now, the next time I see them, I have to be the bitch and say something. I hate doing that. I'm too much of a people pleaser and "go along to get along" type of person. However, if no one calls this person on their behavior, they think they can get away with it, which is what's been going on, in my opinion. I don't like being the bad guy, and that's just what's going to happen. Grrr...
I've been involved in the local BDSM community for six years or so, and there are social norms and rules that are particular to "the lifestyle". I won't go into all of them here, I figure if you're interested you'll figure them out. However, last night I attended a party, and while I was playing with my friend, what I consider to be one of the major rules was broken by someone who should have known better.
Do not interfere with others' scenes
Simply because this person and I had played earlier in the night, they felt they could come up to my play partner and I, while we were in the middle of a scene, and talk to me. Admittedly, permission was asked, but I was too out of it to give permission. Cthulhu could have shown up and I'd have been happy as a clam to talk. This interrupted our flow, and while we were able to get back into the right head space , it was really socially unacceptable for this person to do that.
Now, the next time I see them, I have to be the bitch and say something. I hate doing that. I'm too much of a people pleaser and "go along to get along" type of person. However, if no one calls this person on their behavior, they think they can get away with it, which is what's been going on, in my opinion. I don't like being the bad guy, and that's just what's going to happen. Grrr...
metalpeter - 02/27/12 17:35
So First of all I will admit that you are in a scene that I kinda wish I was in..... To be honest Don't think I could really be in that scene because I'm to much Of a realist to trust people.... Anyone who has ever gone to school knows there are good students and bad students or anyone who has worked knows there are good employees and people who do the job poorly.... As some non real examples ok funny examples I don't want to be cuffed to the bed as the person goes to have a smoke they lose the key.... Or they something attached to well you know and they trip....
Now that being said I know nothing of how it really works and if Parties have different rules than clubs ..... From my little bit I do know is that others can join but must ask... I would assume that this would be at the beginning and not the end........
In any event have fun and remember it is supposed to be fun.... Not here to judge but maybe what ever put you in that state if it makes you say yes when you don't mean to is something to stay away from.... If for no other reason then to stop this same thing from Happening again.....
So First of all I will admit that you are in a scene that I kinda wish I was in..... To be honest Don't think I could really be in that scene because I'm to much Of a realist to trust people.... Anyone who has ever gone to school knows there are good students and bad students or anyone who has worked knows there are good employees and people who do the job poorly.... As some non real examples ok funny examples I don't want to be cuffed to the bed as the person goes to have a smoke they lose the key.... Or they something attached to well you know and they trip....
Now that being said I know nothing of how it really works and if Parties have different rules than clubs ..... From my little bit I do know is that others can join but must ask... I would assume that this would be at the beginning and not the end........
In any event have fun and remember it is supposed to be fun.... Not here to judge but maybe what ever put you in that state if it makes you say yes when you don't mean to is something to stay away from.... If for no other reason then to stop this same thing from Happening again.....
paul - 02/27/12 09:34
I hate having to confront people about their behavior. I tend to avoid it but then it just ends up in a blowout a couple months later when I let fester. I think its always better to deal with it up front. Now if I could only follow my own advice.
I hate having to confront people about their behavior. I tend to avoid it but then it just ends up in a blowout a couple months later when I let fester. I think its always better to deal with it up front. Now if I could only follow my own advice.
02/25/2012 14:17 #56130
::Snore::So, you know the beginning of a relationship, when you lie there listening to them snore and think...oh how cute.
Or you watch them sleep because the longer you stay awake, the more time you have with them?
Yeah, that's where I'm at....
Remember the ending of a relationship, when the sound of their snores makes you want to scream, and you nudge them to roll over (or better yet, kick them) to stop the racket?
Isn't there a middle ground?
Or you watch them sleep because the longer you stay awake, the more time you have with them?
Yeah, that's where I'm at....
Remember the ending of a relationship, when the sound of their snores makes you want to scream, and you nudge them to roll over (or better yet, kick them) to stop the racket?
Isn't there a middle ground?
metalpeter - 02/26/12 11:21
1. Cool looking Avatar
2. How about Surprise wake them up Sex ..........HA
--->At least the snoring will stop
3. Sorry I have no answers....
1. Cool looking Avatar
2. How about Surprise wake them up Sex ..........HA
--->At least the snoring will stop
3. Sorry I have no answers....
paul - 02/25/12 20:56
Welcome to the site! For years (e:flacidness) had a similar colore avatar. I totally though this was his blog and was so confused as he hadn't mentioned anything about a new partner.
Welcome to the site! For years (e:flacidness) had a similar colore avatar. I totally though this was his blog and was so confused as he hadn't mentioned anything about a new partner.
tinypliny - 02/25/12 14:59
Well at least you are not at the end. Middle ground is no fun.
Well at least you are not at the end. Middle ground is no fun.
I've heard good things about Haussauer. A former co-worker of mine used to do some ot there and liked it. I hope whatever happens it's the right thing for you. I know the process of bidding, moving and deciding to go for that promotion can be stressful. Thanks for the congrats on the full time bid. Some days, i am happy about it... others, like today, "my Monday", i wish i stayed @ 50%.
@ (e:leetee): Congrats on the full time bid:) My house has six, and that's the cut off for DA2(6 individuals) vs DA 1(5 individuals) : I bid on DA1 at Haussauer. If I get the bid there will be a F/T afternoons at my house, and I love it here (but then I think we have different taste in houses). And I flip my entire circadian rhythm, so I'm awake at night and sleep during the day, even on my days off (as evidenced by this post, and my need to be at work at 6 am).
i have no idea how night shift people do it. everyone says, for the most part, it is a laid back shift... but the lack of sleep would kill me... or someone else.
i just got a full time bid (began 01-26-12) and need to wait 3 bid cycles to bid out, so i haven't been watching them (i regretfully looked the first bid cycle and wished i waited so i could have gotten something i had been waiting for but thought would never come. *sigh* ok, i am rambling in parentheses)...
Good luck with the promotion. a da1 in your house or elsewhere?
everyone is so into work these days. what is going on?!?