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09/17/2009 04:27 #49792
happy birthday carey!Category: birthday
!HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
I hope it's full of surprises! Wish I could be there to help celebrate.
09/08/2009 08:01 #49723
party poopersCategory: potpourri
I'm curious for a little input. If you were planning a party...and at this party you wanted certain things..and those certain things cost money...and you're willing to pay that money because you want to be happy...and you invite people to your party because you want them to join you in your happiness...
1. Would you get a little upset if someone said, "I'm not coming to the pre-party event but I'll pop by the party for a little bit as long as I can also bring my kid" (who was not invited).
2. How would you respond to such a statement?
1. Would you get a little upset if someone said, "I'm not coming to the pre-party event but I'll pop by the party for a little bit as long as I can also bring my kid" (who was not invited).
2. How would you respond to such a statement?
jason - 09/08/09 18:47
I would let them come to their own conclusion about coming to the event, and I would hold firm about the no kids rule. If they can't make it, it isn't the end of the world. Very few things are.
I would let them come to their own conclusion about coming to the event, and I would hold firm about the no kids rule. If they can't make it, it isn't the end of the world. Very few things are.
jenks - 09/08/09 17:59
yeah, I wouldn't necessarily assume the worst- the flip side would be "well crap i really want to come celebrate with you, but I can't unless it's at X time and with Y contingencies".
But at the same time- I agree that it's rude. I don't like when people think they can 'sneak' their kids in just b/c they're cute or whatever.
yeah, I wouldn't necessarily assume the worst- the flip side would be "well crap i really want to come celebrate with you, but I can't unless it's at X time and with Y contingencies".
But at the same time- I agree that it's rude. I don't like when people think they can 'sneak' their kids in just b/c they're cute or whatever.
drew - 09/08/09 17:19
If people blow off one, but not the other, I think you have to roll with it. As Paul pointed out, there are lots of reasons they might not go. I had a friend who had an anxiety attack whenever she went into a church building--so I would be cool with that one, but to the other I'd say: "sorry, no kids." and let them make their own choice.
If people blow off one, but not the other, I think you have to roll with it. As Paul pointed out, there are lots of reasons they might not go. I had a friend who had an anxiety attack whenever she went into a church building--so I would be cool with that one, but to the other I'd say: "sorry, no kids." and let them make their own choice.
joshua - 09/08/09 14:18
I need more context than this.
I need more context than this.
theecarey - 09/08/09 13:36
"No children. Sorry you will miss the party"
If he or she said that they would like to attend the whole party festivity, and were only able to do so if they brought their child, then it would simply be a matter of you reiterating that it is an adult only function. The party hosts have the right to determine if children (at any age)can attend. Since the child was not invited, it should be assumed that it isn't appropriate to try to bring one. This person may have many circumstances leading to their ability to attend only with their kid, but it would be better for them to fully decline (or be declined) than to try to impose on the hosts. It is not ok to pick and chose which parts of the party they will be at AND modify the invitation. Essentially they are not committing. If they wanted to come badly enough, they could find a sitter.
If they found a sitter and said, "I found a sitter for these two hours which is only during the party, not the pre party", then I'd go with it.
In short, it is what (e:james) said.
"No children. Sorry you will miss the party"
If he or she said that they would like to attend the whole party festivity, and were only able to do so if they brought their child, then it would simply be a matter of you reiterating that it is an adult only function. The party hosts have the right to determine if children (at any age)can attend. Since the child was not invited, it should be assumed that it isn't appropriate to try to bring one. This person may have many circumstances leading to their ability to attend only with their kid, but it would be better for them to fully decline (or be declined) than to try to impose on the hosts. It is not ok to pick and chose which parts of the party they will be at AND modify the invitation. Essentially they are not committing. If they wanted to come badly enough, they could find a sitter.
If they found a sitter and said, "I found a sitter for these two hours which is only during the party, not the pre party", then I'd go with it.
In short, it is what (e:james) said.
paul - 09/08/09 11:27
Some people just don't like wedding ceremonies despite who is getting married. (e:hodown) and (e:Terry), ematthew and I skipped out on my friend kristina's ceremony in part because were both jaded that we haven't been married. She hasn't found the right man and in our case, we are not allowed to be married. Well that and in part because I feel very uncomfortable at religious events. I would really only attend a family religious event.
So perhaps she has a prior engadgement/issue/phobia that is preventing her from going and she is using the kid as an excuse, hoping you say no because the kid was not invited or you aren't having kids at the wedding, etc.
Or she really is too poor to get a baby sitter - and in that case its kind of sad. I mean if you consider the $100 babysitting plus gift combo, it might be too much for her budget.
Or she could just be a jerk, it is hard to tell without background info.
Some people just don't like wedding ceremonies despite who is getting married. (e:hodown) and (e:Terry), ematthew and I skipped out on my friend kristina's ceremony in part because were both jaded that we haven't been married. She hasn't found the right man and in our case, we are not allowed to be married. Well that and in part because I feel very uncomfortable at religious events. I would really only attend a family religious event.
So perhaps she has a prior engadgement/issue/phobia that is preventing her from going and she is using the kid as an excuse, hoping you say no because the kid was not invited or you aren't having kids at the wedding, etc.
Or she really is too poor to get a baby sitter - and in that case its kind of sad. I mean if you consider the $100 babysitting plus gift combo, it might be too much for her budget.
Or she could just be a jerk, it is hard to tell without background info.
james - 09/08/09 08:09
"I like you, but I don't like you enough to get a babysitter"
"I like you, but I don't like you enough to get a babysitter"
09/04/2009 06:58 #49695
worlds sexiest camelCategory: potpourri
Miss Qatar 2009
leetee - 09/05/09 00:14
yep, exactly what i think of when i think of sexy...
yep, exactly what i think of when i think of sexy...
metalpeter - 09/04/09 17:38
My First Thought is that is insane and where would one sit?
But my second thought is, hold on at county and state fairs all over the country they have beauty competitions for animals. The USA Network shows that big dog show every year and Wrestling switches channels so it isn't really weird at all.
My First Thought is that is insane and where would one sit?
But my second thought is, hold on at county and state fairs all over the country they have beauty competitions for animals. The USA Network shows that big dog show every year and Wrestling switches channels so it isn't really weird at all.
09/03/2009 06:53 #49684
wedding planning updateCategory: wedding plans
The biggest lesson Rory and I are learning about planning a wedding...if you make a great team, you won't have any stress - it's the family that adds unnecessary stress to just about everything.
It would help if people stopped saying things like, "that's so far", "i don't like that colour", and "that's not my style" and started saying things like, "i'm so happy for you", "can i do anything to help", and "i can't wait to celebrate with you".
Otherwise, I can't wait for October 31st to be here!
It would help if people stopped saying things like, "that's so far", "i don't like that colour", and "that's not my style" and started saying things like, "i'm so happy for you", "can i do anything to help", and "i can't wait to celebrate with you".
Otherwise, I can't wait for October 31st to be here!
leetee - 09/05/09 00:13
no wedding pleases everyone involved. unfortunately, people can be very self centered about their experiences with the day that is supposed to be about someone else. sad.
on the good side, glad to hear that the plans are easier going with all the help...
it's the marriage that's important, not the wedding. :o)
no wedding pleases everyone involved. unfortunately, people can be very self centered about their experiences with the day that is supposed to be about someone else. sad.
on the good side, glad to hear that the plans are easier going with all the help...
it's the marriage that's important, not the wedding. :o)
metalpeter - 09/04/09 17:49
I'm going to shoot straight with you. First of all it is your and Rory's weeding and not theirs (well I guess if in the wedding party that muddles it since they want to look pretty and Nice). That being said there is a way to say things and a way not to say things and they are saying them the wrong way. If they don't like the colour what they should say is "Are You sure, I don't think that is a good choice" then follow that up with "It is your wedding so what ever you want just let me Know" You can disagree with someone's choices and still be supportive at the same time and it sounds like they aren't doing that. I can't wait to see how things come out, it will be a great time. Well unless I'm like in the back row and there is a row of like Basketball player in front of me so I can't see anything, HA. But even so that would be ok because it is about you 2 and not me. I think that often people often forget that and also that they know what is better for you then you do. I'm not saying you shouldn't be upset. I'm saying that I'm hoping that what they are saying is said with good intentions but I don't know if they are or not.
I'm going to shoot straight with you. First of all it is your and Rory's weeding and not theirs (well I guess if in the wedding party that muddles it since they want to look pretty and Nice). That being said there is a way to say things and a way not to say things and they are saying them the wrong way. If they don't like the colour what they should say is "Are You sure, I don't think that is a good choice" then follow that up with "It is your wedding so what ever you want just let me Know" You can disagree with someone's choices and still be supportive at the same time and it sounds like they aren't doing that. I can't wait to see how things come out, it will be a great time. Well unless I'm like in the back row and there is a row of like Basketball player in front of me so I can't see anything, HA. But even so that would be ok because it is about you 2 and not me. I think that often people often forget that and also that they know what is better for you then you do. I'm not saying you shouldn't be upset. I'm saying that I'm hoping that what they are saying is said with good intentions but I don't know if they are or not.
jenks - 09/03/09 20:17
woohoo! I'm looking forward to it... Haven't RSVP'd yet b/c I wasn't sure if I was bringing a guest or not- but then yesterday my new boy told me he was putting in for the days off, so it looks like I'm coming, and so is he. :) yay!! I'm excited for you.
Oh yeah- is there any sort of halloweeny theme?
woohoo! I'm looking forward to it... Haven't RSVP'd yet b/c I wasn't sure if I was bringing a guest or not- but then yesterday my new boy told me he was putting in for the days off, so it looks like I'm coming, and so is he. :) yay!! I'm excited for you.
Oh yeah- is there any sort of halloweeny theme?
mrmike - 09/03/09 18:31
Gonna be fun. Looking forward to celebrating your big day (How's that?)
Gonna be fun. Looking forward to celebrating your big day (How's that?)
janelle - 09/03/09 18:03
It is a bummer when family and friends have an opinion about everything. In our experience, we had a lot of naysayers, but most of them ended up being pleasantly surprised at the end results. So hold out and plan the wedding of your dreams.
It is a bummer when family and friends have an opinion about everything. In our experience, we had a lot of naysayers, but most of them ended up being pleasantly surprised at the end results. So hold out and plan the wedding of your dreams.
tinypliny - 09/03/09 10:22
Good luck with it all!! Planning is a huge pain if people are being interfering. :/
Good luck with it all!! Planning is a huge pain if people are being interfering. :/
That Picture is Great. I hope (e:theeCarey) has a great Birthday.
hahahahahaha this picture is hilarious. Thank you!
Happy Birfday
Wish you an awesome year ahead Carey (with hopefully no major intrusions from you-know-who) :D
Happy Day Carey, Hope it is a great one!
Happy Birthday Carey! Have a great one!