I don't necessarily agree or disagree with the theory. Like you said it's not easy to determine. I guess the easiest thing to say is that "getting" encompasses everything you mentioned. I only have heard of this theory in very general terms.

When I think about this theory, I think of a guy I know who works at an unnamed shop on Elmwood. Allegedly, according to an unnamed twin brother on Elmwood, this guy has gotten laid by 300+ women. Now I'm not passing judgment on the guy, but instead saying "Holy shit! 300? Really?" He must be one helluva good conversationalist. I see this guy with all kinds of girls ranging from the freaky to the princessy. I admit he's a pretty good looking guy with lots of charisma. He knows what to do and what to say to get in their panties.

Some guys you see with more girls than they can handle, and others will never ever be with a single one. Those are simple observations I've made, but not enough to say whether or not a theory like this is true. When I hear about something like this, the wheels always churn.

You know, you're right that I need to get out more. Lately, the more I date the more I don't want a serious girlfriend. The last girl I dated had an agenda set for me, lied, cheated, and tried to manipulate me into doing something I thought wasn't right. It didn't matter what I thought - what was important was how she felt about things and how quickly she could get her way. So of c ourse being the reformed nice guy I am, I had to do what was in my own interests and say goodbye. After that I said to myself "fuck this" and haven't dated in a couple of months. I'm gonna wait until spring I think, when all I have to do is step outside if I want to meet people.

Jason

You were one of the only people ever to talk to me in person from this site. You were one of the only people who gave me a chance. The fact that I see the world differently than other people was okay with you. You were my favorite journal writer. You were my birthday buddy. Now who will write my favorite journal?

You have to do what is best for you. I understand. I just wish it never had to come to this. You know my take on it so I won't repeat it. It's an unfortunate situation.

Jason

What? You're 25 and not married with babies yet? WTF? (Only kidding)

One of the great things about being a guy is that when you turn 25 your dating life really is only beginning. Nobody looks at you weird if you don't have a serious girlfriend or a wedding band. Finally you have some dollars in your pocket and are somewhat stable, so your dating pool becomes larger. I don't know too many guys who care about marriage at this point. Why would they when they haven't even reached their peak yet?

I don't think that anything is "wrong" with marriage itself, but most people give themselves a hell of a lot more credit than they deserve when it comes to keeping a commitment. They don't fully understand what they are getting into. They don't have what it takes to stay faithful or to be compassionate. We aren't raised to be able to get through the hard times. People think they should never have to go through hard times. I can't believe how many stupid, selfish young kids get themselves into a situation where it is so painful and expensive to get out of it after they realize they weren't made for each other after all (we expect and demand perfection, nothing less).

You've said yourself that you aren't a very commitment minded person, so who cares what other people think? You're doing what's best for you, not what's best for someone else. Forget about the pressure. I'm glad you march to the beat of your own drum when it comes to this. I have a friend who is 26 and is dying to meet her husband and pop out kids before she's 30. She has an agenda and wants the perfect man to fit the agenda. I feel sorry for her. You know yourself better than anyone and I'm glad to read about someone being realistic and doing what they like. Good for you.

Jason

Anybody ever heard of this? 20% of men get 80% of the women, through their looks or money or power. Women are willing to share a "winner" rather than being with someone who isn't the creme de la creme (after all, we all deserve the best don't we?), leaving many men unable to find a partner. This may explain why you see girls trying to go after married guys. I don't particularly think it's true or false. I want to know what you think.

Jason

See, this is the extent of my artistic ability. Good for you who can do this stuff!

Jason