I commented in
e:joshua 's journal

that I was disappointed in something
e:drew wrote.
Here's what he wrote:
but I am pretty sure those women knew he was married and knew better. They shouldn't be surprised that he cheated on them. After all, they knew, based on the fact of their relationships, that he was willing to cheat.
Let me take y'all back 5 years. My (then) wife had been making my life miserable for years, and finally I moved out and filed for divorce. As the divorce started its tortuous process through the glacial NYS courts, I met this wonderful woman online. She lived in Pittsburgh, and we shared a lot in common. After a few weeks of banter, she decided to visit me. The first day I met her, I told her that I was officially not single, but "separated". Laid out my situation in front of her, and let her make the choice if she wanted to be involved with me or not.
She made a decision, based on everything I said, that it was OK and she wanted to still be with me. We were together for a few months, and those months were like heaven for me. I had been feeling extremely depressed, but that angel lifted me out of the depression and gave me a new lease on life. For that, I am always grateful to you R., and you'll always be close to my heart.
Now, I could have been lying to her and not really going through a divorce. It could be that my wife was in another town with 2 kids, while I was in Buffalo romping in the bed with my GF.
But she took me at my word, and her faith in me was justified.
My point is: just because a guy is technically married, it does not mean that he can't be in a relationship with another woman. In my humble opinion, almost no woman will go along with a guy who says "gee sweetie! I'm happily married, but I'd still like to tap your ass."
I have known friends who dated married men. In all cases that I remember, the guys gave some serious sob stories about being in the final stages of divorce. In all cases it turned out to be wrong; but my friends got suckered into it somehow. It was probably a result of the powerful emotional pitches; who knows.
So,
e:drew, it is not entirely fair to lay too much blame on the women involved.
And
e:james , can you provide a more authoritative link? Here's what I've seen:
Sure, it's the Post. But they'd get sued bigtime if they were making this stuff up.