So a little while back (e:Lauren) wrote a pretty interesting post about this rent a negro site ans some how in the comments there was talk about how guys ask or say stupid things to bisexual women and lesbians. I will admit I wanted to write this post at the time but didn't really have the time and the correct words to use I think I might now. I'm not defending sterotypes and not saying they are good I'm just trying to show a view point from a mans perspective.

First of all I'm not a women so I can't imagine what it is like to be one, let alone to be bisexual or a lesbian. I think that the little bit of knowledge I do have is like most men's is flawed most likely.

I do think that the watching of porn does effect how men think of bisexual women. For example last night I caught part of this great movie there was this really sexy naked Asian girl with amazing breasts making out with this pretty tiny breasted white girl. So this guy is watching and he is getting turned on and then he goes and joins in. In this movie they don't show any dick. See that is a lot of guys fantasy two hot girls making out and them either watching it or taking part in it. See that makes sense for a lot of guys not only do they get to see one girl they get to see two and they don't have to see any cock (some guys don't want to see any so all they watch is girl on girl). It also gives the perspective on TV that you are watching it. I know it is only TV but I think stuff like that can enforce the male fantasy weather it is soft core or hardcore. In porn there are some girls who really do like other girls and then there are girls who are "gay for pay" meaning they don't like girls but do the scenes to get paid better or for the money. When watching a scene us guys don't think about this and I do think it does affect how we think of girls who are bisexual or lesbians (not the same but often viewed as the same incorrectly).

The Jerry Springer aspect. Yes it used to be a guilty pleasure of mine I will admit. I'm not only blaming him I'm sure there are other shows that only show the crazy side of people. But on even though at the end of the show he would have final thoughts and they were pretty good, I still think that what you saw over powered his thoughts at the end. The show was often about cheating and so when ever someone cheated on their partner with someone of the same sex as them it made everyone who is bisexual look like a slut. Some one would all ways say that just because you like both sexes doesn't mean that you should be with one person of each sex at the same time. I think shows like that can effect how people think about other people.

I'm not blaming TV and entertainment really even though it sounds like it, I'm more saying that I think it might help reinforce other ideas people may all ready have.

I don't know where I have heard my sterotypes but I know I have heard some. Like that lesbians hate men and are mean. Hey maybe some of them do but I doubt they all do. Yes I have heard that Bisexual girls are sluts. I don't believe that and the 1st lady that I knew was bisexual wasn't she had boy friends and girl friends but not at the same time from what she told me. Not that I would call someone a slut but some people are sluts and some are men some are women and some are stright, bi and gay that doesn't mean being bi makes you a slut.

Again I don't know where I have heard this stuff I really don't. I have heard that there are butch lesbians and fem lesbians and that only fems and butch lesbians will be with each other. Again I wouldn't know but that doesn't seem right. Why couldn't two pretty girls be together.


I'm sure lesbians and Bi sexual girls get a lot of stupid questions but I think most of them is because guys have this fantasy view of women's sexuality or just don't get it.

I think the thing with steroypes is they often don't make sense for anyone and you hear different ones that don't make sense. For example the typical one for blacks is that they love Watermelon and fried chicken. That makes no sense everyone likes friend chicken and besides that is more of a southern thing. I have heard people not use the right short hand for Asians. Like they order chinesse food and call it gook food, that would be koreans and the steroype of them is that they all have nail salons not that they sell you cat for dinner.

I think the reason sterotypes work is that there is a small amount of truth in them but just because they are true sometimes for some people doesn't mean they are completely true. But when you don't know anyone who fits those sterotypes then you don't have anything to disprove any of them. I think that leads to when you meet someone you might ask or say some stupid things, Ok that is the end my rant time to go watch the pregame then the Bills and later the Steelers. This was more of way of venting for myself really but if I said anything stupid let me know.

So I came to (e:strip) today and saw that on the front page there is a Picture from Halloween and one of the people is the Lovely (e:imk2). I just wanted to add that she isn't the only Lovely e;peepette and I'll leave it at that. I'm not saying that the lovely (e:peepettes) that is the only good thing about them, in fact it is not the only good thing about all of them. But that got me thinking about a couple of things like that last night was another example of how multiple things I like overlap. I taped Heroes and Boston Legal as I watched Prison Break then watched the end of WWE Monday Night Raw. Yes I did have a good night I guess. But there is this other part of me that thinks it would be cool if I had some little cutie pie who was hot or cute (as much so a few of the (e:peepettes) or some other people who have been to them in the past like I don't know her name but Perfect Boob Girl we will call her from last years party) of course the looks are not at all the most important part of a chic. But to be honest in most cases looks are often what start the conversation. It could just be that lover multi colored hair or a shirt that says go fuck your self or some aspect that causes the people to talk to each other. My point is as much as I do like stories (house and fringe tonight, then Bones, 90210 and Sons of Anarchy on Wends) There is also the side of me that thinks it would be so nice be so busy with someone that what was on TV wouldn't even be known. I don't know why I put this under the category of sex. Well maybe because if you where with someone that much sex and great sex would hopefully become a part of it. By the way I'm not going to list all the (bad wording) cute (e:peepettes) by name, that would be kinda creepy or at least it would be to me, I will say this though I'm sure it would be a tough list to do with not knowing what some people look like and the fact that some people are members but don't really post. On a side note I'm still trying to figure out if my Halloween costume will work, if it does and I go through with it, it will be a different side of me that I don't think anyone on this site has seen, so if I do it I hope you all take lots of pictures and post them.

First of all I decided or maybe I'm just to lazy to put them up not to put up pictures from the Canisius weekend. Second I changed my user picture for two reasons. One is as much as I like the one with Timika and Carey. I thought this was a good one for valentines day. I will get to my Valentines day question in the next paragraph. For those that don't know this picture is from a 30 seconds to mars poster. Yeah this is kinda a smoshed version of it but that is ok. By the way they have a new Video and New website attached to it I myself really like the video and I think they are really trying to make things better and not just using there fame to make it look like they are trying to do the right thing. As I have said in the past I'm not really a fan of Valentines day but I'm trying to not hate it so much and maybe will have a good time on it this year. This assumes I don't lame out, that is all ways a good chance of that with it being so late into the work week.

Sometimes there are things that I think about and go "I wonder". It isn't that I'm looking for deep meaning it is that they just come to me. I thought that most Escorts are paid for my married men or guys/gals in relationships(I assume this is the case with call girls, hookers, or even street walkers). Yes single men also use that. But I assume that for single men the bar is an easier way. I also assume this cause lets say I liked being raped that is something I can't tell the women she might leave me, or say to never mention it again. But now say there is this thing that really gets me off but the women won't do it so I have to find someone to pay to do it. I know that some hotels have these romance packages for couples. I think that is a nice idea and they even have specials. But what I'm wondering is that since business is brisk on Valentines day do Hookers or anyone is the sex trade run Valentines day specials as a way to draw more people in and make up for all there lost business? Or is it just the other way that they figure that single guys won't want to be alone so they can charge them more? Hey if anyone knows I would love to know the answer to this. I'm not saying I'm going to go get one, I just think it is kinda interesting. I will admit it does sound kinda fun, except for the STD Dangers and the fact that if you do an artvoice ad what if she shows up and you aren't into her. I also wonder what would happen if you offered the person a box of chocolate? Or maybe even came up with some interesting thing to do with them?
Like I said I don't try to think of stuff like this it just kinda comes to me out of nowhere.

For those of you who like those Love shows like Flavor of love, or Bret Michaels there is a new one starting on MTV that really looks interesting. I think it starts October 9th. Tila Tequila (don't know what her real last name is) is bisexual and claims the show is kinda her coming out. She invited 16 strate guys and 16 lesbians. But the kicker is that neither the guys nor girls knew about each other. I think that there should be a way to watch the stuff that is to hot for TV but that is just me.

There is this new show on HBO about couples called "Tell me you love Me". Yes it is really about relationships. The first week there was a lot of sex lets see tits, ass, balls, a hand job from a distance. I watched the 2nd episode and there wasn't as much sex in it. I think that with HBO in demand you can watch episodes a week early cause it listed another episode I haven't seen yet. Hopefully this next one will have heavy sex in it again. Even the one that wasn't that graphic had a nice heavy warning before it, and it should cause the show is still about sex and relationships. So far all the couples seem like there own story lines I don't know if their stories will overlap or if any of the people will be connected. I don't remember when but I did see an add for HBO Real sex , those are all ways very interesting.

This post is really more about sex then TV so that is why I went with the sex topic instead of TV. That reminds me Californication is really a great show to and is good because I like it I guess. Yeah it does have some great sex in it, but it is more then that, there is a story about love and family. Oh Yeah and Hank is great to he "Blogs" and in one episode bashed LOL and BRB and how it dumbs us down. Plus there is a hot Suicide Girl the episodes.

I guess what the point I'm saying is that these are all shows that look like they are hot and have to do with sex but that on like a porn or a late night max movie (or stars) you don't watch it to get off and getting off is the goal and maybe if you are still horny you go back and try to get off again. You watch the show and enjoy the sexual aspects of it and if you or you and your partner do decide to get it on when that is over you go back and get back into the story. Well this is where I shut up.

So I guess Disney is going to keep her even after the nude pictures on line. I found a few pictures of her. I admit I don't even really now what that movie high school musical is but here are the pictures.







So at the site I went to I only found one nude one but I'm guessing there are more. The reason I put it under sex instead of pictures is that it really is about sex. I say if you want to take nude pictures that is fine and can be fun and if they are sex pictures even better. But if you are an actor you should at least know that only you should have them and have them locked up so only you can see them. Posting them online though can be fun if you are part of an adult site or if you are in an amature sex contest for a magazine or something. I think that people should look at this how it is as a boyfriend and girlfriend having fun, and there is nothing wrong with that. If some kid asks about the pictures all a parent has to say is that, the actor is really an adult playing a kid and that is an adult thing some adults do.

Not sure if the above link works I can never remember how to link to other articles I mean previous journals. But that being said for those who read my journal you may remember I wrote this long post about what I wanted. That post was really for me I guess. As I was at the sqaure last night the mind starts to wander. Sometimes that happens at out door shows. It can often be hard to concentrate on the show when there is all that "eye candy" there. You try to watch the show but all those hot/sexy/Pretty/gorgeous women of all shades and types catch your eye with out even trying to look. Then the groups of girls and the groups that know other groups. Ok so this thought comes in my head that maybe all I really want is a cute lady with a great ass and boobs (never seen a bad pair before) who gives great head. But maybe just seeing all these PYTs (to "" Micheal Jackson) at once changes how one thinks. It was like if we had anything in common it wouldn't matter just the cuteness would. I know that isn't the way to be. But there is that "superfical Atraction" when you see someone you don't know. Once you know someone that doesn't matter at all. That is one thing that is kinda cool about the internet is that you can form that connection with out knowing what anyone looks like to predjuice you. I guess the best example of that is chating somewhare. I havn't done that in a long time. I did meet some pretty cool people that way. But with it being Yahoo and not local they where from no whare even close to Buffalo. So there are those two sides of me. The one that just wants a hottie and the one that wants someone really cool. I guess that is all I have to say so hope everyone has a great weekend.

Before I get into my post just wanted to Mention the Bandits play friday night and I'm looking forward to seeing The Sabres on TV in the playoffs hope they win the cup. The Bandits will be in the playoffs starting next weekend and they have a game Saturday in Rochester.

So as some of you may have read (e:imk2) wrote a post about what she wants called what I want. So I thought hey maybe I could write one two. But there are a couple things to get out of the way. In a way this post is bullshit. The reason being is that you can have this entire laundry list of things but what really matters is how the two people get along and how the relationship is. The thing is that all that takes over the preferences. So maybe I want someone who likes hockey but then i meet someone who isn't really into Hockey she just thinks the guys are hot gets turned on then blow me and go to bed that would be perfect, so I admit the post kinda makes no sense. Yeah I have a weakness for blonds but some girls look better with brown hair but I just had to give full disclosure On what I was saying. Oh yeah I may use some (e:peeps) as examples hopefully only good ones not sure how this will come out.

First of all a good sense of humor is very important. People who are wound tight or easily offended are really no fun. You have to watch what you say so what is the point. I don't mean that you have to laugh till you piss yourself watching a comedy, but at least be a little lose.

In terms of going out the lady has to like going out to movies, concerts or even sports. That doesn't mean that we have to go to everything togather she should be able to go out and do stuff on her own to. But she also can't be one of those people who has to go out every night. I guess if she can go by herself or with friends that is ok but not if she expects me there. If she is willing to go on a trip somewhere that is a nice added bonus.

In terms of sports I would prefer that she likes them. At the very least she must understand that I'm Into them and that is an important time for me. Preferably she is into them also and hopefully we are into the same ones.

If we like the same music it doesn't really matter. But when we go out it will wind up mattering. Cause if she is a club dance girl and I'm into Rock and there is no in between then we will never see each other. I like rock, metal, Pop, but for me it is more about the band and there sound then the Genre they are in. It would be cool to find a chick who likes Coldplay, Metallica, Rammstein, Billy Joel, Hatebreed, Evenesssance, Rob Zombie, Sum 41, Blink 182 and other bands.

In terms of chick flicks most of them are god awful and most of them I can't stand but a few are funny. I would just be happy if the girl just went to see them with the girl friends and leave me out of. But she has to be able to get into a good stupid Naked Gun, American Pie, or even Not another teen movie kind of movie. The exception to that is if she is into anime or action movies then we are good. If she is into both then we are golden and if she hates chick flicks and wants to see an action movie then go to a Bandits game, it is time to go buy an awesome looking ring with her name inscribed in Klingon.

I like good talkers who can hold a conversation with out being bitchy. It is nice to be around someone who is happy and cheery. But the key is they really have to be this way and not putting on an act. They also have to be able to let me know when something is wrong or they disagree. Sometimes those types of people won't do that and they should.

I know I shouldn't talk about looks but i will a little bit. Looks wise all you need is someone who you find hot or at least not repugnant. But often looks is what gets you to notice people. So here I will use a few peeps as examples. Eyes at first you don't notice and a lot of times you don't notice them and looking at them to long can drive you crazy. That being said alluring eyes and eyes that look mystyrious like (e:theecarey) are very nice. I wish I knew how to say that better. Sorry to stereo type here but those long and thing looking Asian and egyption (i believe) eyes are also amazing. Hair color and Body type really depends on the person and how they look. As long as they aren't so big that is a turn off or so thing that you can see ribs from 20 feet away. I prefer someone in the middle, height I could care less. Boobs I have never seen a pair I didn't like. I know this sounds strange but sometime shape is more important then size. Butt as long as it looks nice in pants that is fine. Skin Color isn't much of a factor really. Some pale white girls are very hot and some dark girls are hot. That being said recently I have been liking the dark whites or latin skin tone. For example the skin tone of say (e:lilho) , (e:ingrid) (if memory serve me right) (e:beast). That light brown kinda dark white color.

In terms of sex (if any one is still reading) I want a lady who knows what she is doing but doesn't come off as sluty, what ever that means. Where the sex is about fun and not an obligation, where we can try new things and old things and be free and not worry if we mention something the other isn't into it doesn't get all weird. Hey if she wants to bring in a cute friend we can try it and see. Not that Um no, I don't think so attitude. That is kinda the same type of person I would like to be with the person who is open minded but may not agree about something but we are still able to get along.

Oh yeah I knew I forgot to mention another thing there are a few (e:peeps) like (e:ladycroft) and (e:Imk2) (and others who I can't think of right now). I think tats and piercings are a nice added bonus and can be very hot. It also says that they are willing to go through pain and sacrafice for something and that is a good quality.

Now that I have vented I feel a little better. If you have read this far I really don't want that much, do I ? Yeah I know I want way to much. In case I wasn't clear: I just want someone who I click with or have that spark with that I can Watch 24 with and go out with to a movie, concert or a sports event and we will have a great time. And if we can have great sex to and get along then that would be perfect.

I may be going to see Clerks II soon so that should be fun. When I went to Yahoo today to read mail I saw this story. I had to read it. I will post a couple comments about it after wards.

At swinging convention, sex is on everyone's mind By Adam Tanner
1 hour, 21 minutes ago



LAS VEGAS (Reuters) - Vera Rhodes has come a long way from her conservative upbringing in Pennsylvania's Amish community.

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There she was a virgin until she married at age 30. Now, she is an enthusiastic 54-year-old member of the millions-strong "swinging" community who speaks openly of her encounters with multiple sexual partners.

"Last night it was really special," said Rhodes, who is divorced and makes a living giving massages in the Midwestern state of Iowa. "There was a couple from Mexico, a couple from Virginia and a couple from Ireland, from Australia."

"I like to participate in life as much as possible," she said with a broad smile.

Rhodes was among some 3,000 people gathered on Saturday at the Stardust Hotel in Las Vegas for the annual Lifestyles conference, a five-day, $700-per-couple event (377-pounds-per-couple) that offers a mix of seminars, socializing and sex.

Early on Saturday, Rhodes was back for more, joining the action in a suite where more than a dozen couples were having sex.

The conference organizer, Robert McGinley, 72, president of The Lifestyles Organisation, estimates that there are 3 million swingers in the United States alone. He founded his group in 1969 and began holding the annual conferences in the 1970s.

He said his firm brings in millions of dollars in annual sales from organizing tours to swinger-friendly resorts, Internet sites and from conferences. The Las Vegas event is the largest annual U.S. swinging event, he said.

"The lifestyles community is rapidly expanding," he said. "It's an expanding economic powerhouse."

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The crowd at the Stardust appeared mostly middle-aged and middle-class. And many were nowhere near as active as Rhodes. Organizers estimated that perhaps 40 percent of the couples were attending their first conference.

"I'm still thinking about it; we've been monogamous for 26 years," said one middle-aged newcomer from Palm Springs, California, who said she was raised a Roman Catholic.

At one seminar, several women were overcome as the presenter demonstrated a sexual device -- one passed out in the packed room.

For all their enthusiasm, few of the swingers tell family and friends about their hobby.

"Socially, we're pariahs," said Drew Alexander, 40, who attended with this wife Tina, 38. "We're behaving in a way that's completely against the ingrained Catholic values."

Another couple did not want their names printed but were far from shy. They made love early on Saturday in the hospitality suites where couples wandered from room to room to watch the action at close range. They emerged from their experience beaming, saying seeing others sparked more passion.

One attendee who stayed completely on the sidelines was the man behind the event.

"I've never been a big swinger, that's not the point," McGinley said. "What I would like to do is bring a new understanding of sexuality in our lives and our relationships."

I thought it was a decent article. I think that if I had a cool girl that I would have no reason to swing. However that being said I think I really might like it. I think there is something powerfull in the fact that some else is willing to let you have sex with your girl and vice versa and that both people know that there women are happy enough with them that there is no chance of leaving them. It is also a way to spice things up and have fun and experiment. That being said I don't know if I could really do that. In theory I could. But often what one has the courage to do in therory isn't that easy to really do. Basicly everyone is strangers and you are not only trusting your partner but also the couples and everyone there. It seems that for some people it is really up there allay. It does seem like it is sord of a way of cheating with out really cheating for some people and if that is the case than maybe that couple shouldn't do it. I think a documentary about the swing convention would be preaty cool. I don't mean something that is just all sex like a porn but something that is informative and show sex even if they bar out some faces to give a better understanding of it.

Um Yeah I admit it I have a bunch of friends on Myspace yes I do actually Know a few of them, and then there are a few bands on there and maybe a couple that shouldn't be up there. But ya know what pisses me off is these cam site girls. Yeah if you belong to a web Cam site that is cool. But what most of these girls do is just sell there web cam site. And all of there bulletin postings are for the web cam site. They often have Full profiles.

Adult sex and dating sites I will admit there are some good ones. But what gets to me is when some chick sends me an (e:mail) saying she knows me and that she has my own webpage and it is always part of dating site. Yeah sometimes it is a legit web page that then leads to a pay site that has nude pics. But what pisses me off is the deceit. If I want to go one of those sites then I will do that On my own, just be honest about it.

Wow that rant wasn't as long as I thought it was going to be. Maybe I will talk more about this at a latter time.

First of all the day after my 2 year estrip aniversy is 6-6-06 or 06-06-06. I wonder if the earth will crack open and and demons and devils and evil creatures will kill people and pull them down to hell. Maybe there will be vampire sex on the street and birds will fly backwards. That will just be from the new version of the Omen opening and pissing off the oldschool fans of it who think the new version sucks. Maybe that is why it has been so hot so lately because hell is coming to get us :) .

My original reason for posting was because I thought Of a way to make everyone on (e:strip) a lot happier and feal better, or at least me. Having a maid or even for those with kids a nanny who is a nmmphomanic. She would clean my place and make things neat and tiddy and maybe even do laundry. Then since she is addicted and needs sex all the time, she would be paid in sex. The sex would be fun plus be exercise. For those who arn't single not only would it be exercise but it wouldn't really be cheating because it would be how you where paying the maid. Now the tough part finding one of these ladies.